Girls don't understand.

[hanselthecaretaker]

I'm sure some of you guys have been perturbed by the behavior of a girl of your fancy who is with some dude who you just seem to know isn't as good for her as you know you could be. Some of you might have missed your chance, or even simply blew your chance with said female to begin with. I am thinking of a couple of instances where I have done just this. Of course, you can't explain to this girl why you are great for her for obvious reasons, you have to show her, but you have a heart and know it's like signing a death sentence to show it.
It would be nice to be able to explain yourself to a girl and skipping the mind game bullshit that seems to be increasingly popular these days, which is perfect ego boosting fodder for mutual deception and broken hearts.
Hell, I'm probably guilty of it myself, as it seems to be the way of the world, but it is sad that people have feelings kept to themselves hidden behind apprehensions, and realizing that this could keep you from getting them hurt. Billy Joel said it best: "Honesty, is such a lonely word."
I'm just venting on a drunken verbal tirade. It's probably nothing, but it seems there are way too many strings attached to relationships in this day and age.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

makes sense to me. been there, done that.

 

[anthrax]

With feminism and the politically correct BS men/women relationships have become really tough

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

I'm at amidst this problem right now actually.

 

[biggest_man_in_the_world]

Know how you feel bro.

 

[Raina]

I think it's true of either gender-- if someone's in love with someone they often overlook how muhc BS they're putting up with. And you can't really tell someone you care about that they're being a complete idiot by wasting time with a loser. That just pisses them off and strains the friendship. It's not a fun situation. I've been on both sides of it.

 

[javaguru]

This is a little off topic but there is one mistake I see men making over and over with women when they start dating. If it's someone they're genuinely interested in they end up trying too hard and the woman ends up not liking them. They kiss their ass and go out of their way to be the man they think the woman is looking for instead of relaxing, being genuine and taking a laid back attitude of "if it works great, if not there are other women." If it's going to work there is no need to force it and would you really want to be with someone if you have to constantly pretend to be someone you're not? Also, never fall into teh friendhip zone if you're genuinely interested in dating a woman, I've never seen this "angle" work for a man. The moment you feel chemistry go ahead and make your move. If teh woman is already dating someone then bide your time and keep your friendship "distant", the better a friend she considers you the more likely you'll end up stuck in "the friend zone."

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

This is a little off topic but there is one mistake I see men making over and over with women when they start dating. If it's someone they're genuinely interested in they end up trying too hard and the woman ends up not liking them. They kiss their ass and go out of their way to be the man they think the woman is looking for instead of relaxing, being genuine and taking a laid back attitude of "if it works great, if not there are other women." If it's going to work there is no need to force it and would you really want to be with someone if you have to constantly pretend to be someone you're not? Also, never fall into teh friendhip zone if you're genuinely interested in dating a woman, I've never seen this "angle" work for a man. The moment you feel chemistry go ahead and make your move. If teh woman is already dating someone then bide your time and keep your friendship "distant", the better a friend she considers you the more likely you'll end up stuck in "the friend zone."

Yeah bro, I understand this. My problem is I don't try hard enough with a girl I'm particularily interested in, for reasons I described above. If it's meant to be then it will work out. If not, then at least you have the pleasure of knowing.

 

[PHATchik]

Sometimes it doesn't matter how much time you devote to it or how open you are with the other person. It can be a losing battle regardless. But I agree with Hanselthecaretaker on this one. If it's meant to be, then it'll work out. You can't force someone to think something or feel something or be willing to devote their all to the relationship. They have to to that on their own.

 

[javaguru]

Yeah bro, I understand this. My problem is I don't try hard enough with a girl I'm particularily interested in, for reasons I described above. If it's meant to be then it will work out. If not, then at least you have the pleasure of knowing.

I guess my point is that a happy medium is best. Kicking back without much effort is just as likely to come out badly as the guy who over pursues. Maybe you just need to overcome that fear of rejection?

 

[150shot]

I always thought the one youre meant or should be with, you should be able to act just like you would by yourself, or with a bunch of friends or whoever. No change at all.

It may be your normal persona, crazy, childish, or whatever you are the other person shouldnt force you to hide it..

 

[PHATchik]

I always thought the one youre meant or should be with, you should be able to act just like you would by yourself, or with a bunch of friends or whoever. No change at all.

It may be your normal persona, crazy, childish, or whatever you are the other person shouldnt force you to hide it..

And they will accept them. All your little quirks and everything that makes you special. That's how it is meant to be.

 

[Lift Chief]

Yup- that's pretty much how it goes.

 

[sconoscuito]

I've had several occasions where I am a step bit slow, and have blown my chance with way to many girls in the past to do that again...

Dont wait too long cause she will slip out of your palm and someone else will have her leaving you with another 0

if she you think she might like you and you like her make the first step quick, than after that play it safe and calm

 

[casualbb]

With respect to boyfriends, one of my buddies once said, "Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score."

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Thanks, this is all good advice.