Foxygel how has your quest gone?

[Deleted member 33117]

I have been on and off of here due to dealing with that funeral and such. Have you gotten a date yet? If not, why not??? I expect an update with details as soon as you get on here.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

fxygel2 kind of reminds me of a dude i know. guy lost his virginity at the age of 19 in Tia Juana for $36. he then got laid next by calling one of those "escort services" in Vegas. he'd do the same in Palm Springs. the guy would save up money just to blow it on these places. he once spent over $2700 in the course of 2 months on hookers.

he'd also go to strip clubs and "fall in love" with any stripper that was nice to him. we told him repeatedly that they were just being nice so he'd tip them better.

last time i chatted with him, he was living in north cali and knew pretty much all of the local hookers. he even gave his phone number to one, and she called him up one morning to see if he wanted to pay her for sex (he did).

pretty pathetic guy if you ask me.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Stop hijacking my thread... but yeah I have to agree...any man who pays for sex is pretty pathetic.

 

[awittyusername]

Stop hijacking my thread... but yeah I have to agree...any man who pays for sex is pretty pathetic.

We all pay for sex. It could be a drink, dinner, or a house. Or, the worst is mental anguish. Now, that I'm older. All the girls want to settle down (And, I would be a good catch). Begining at age 25 Girls began using sex to get what the want. (to move their ass into my house) They now what to do, when to do it, and when not to do it

I would rather pay 300 a pop and not have ot put up w/the bullshit anymore.

 

[fyxgel2]

crack600, I will never turn into that fool,

awittyusername, lol

BBF, one of these days I will ask out a woman. I'm thinking this wednesday when I go back to church again I am going to ask Andrea for her number. (lets hope I actually get the balls to go through with it)
I'm not going to go salsa dancing with Emily though, since I had to pester her for awhile about it, and I could tell that she obviously didnt want to do it.

Wednesday is the only day when i meet chicks (at church) but now that classes are starting, maybe I'll meet some more on the other days of the week.

If I had the balls and the motivation to talk to chicks in public, I might do that too, although every time I mention this notion to my friends they all look at me like I'm some kind of weirdo and say "who does that?"

 

[Dial_tone]

Stop hijacking my thread... but yeah I have to agree...any man who pays for sex is pretty pathetic.

We can't all get it 6 days a week like you, hero man.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

crack600, I will never turn into that fool,

awittyusername, lol

BBF, one of these days I will ask out a woman. I'm thinking this wednesday when I go back to church again I am going to ask Andrea for her number. (lets hope I actually get the balls to go through with it)
I'm not going to go salsa dancing with Emily though, since I had to pester her for awhile about it, and I could tell that she obviously didnt want to do it.

Wednesday is the only day when i meet chicks (at church) but now that classes are starting, maybe I'll meet some more on the other days of the week.

If I had the balls and the motivation to talk to chicks in public, I might do that too, although every time I mention this notion to my friends they all look at me like I'm some kind of weirdo and say "who does that?"

well i'm glad that you won't turn out like my buddy.

and yes, Awitty, we all pay for it one way or another.

dude, listen, i'm gonna pipe in on some actual good advice here.

when you're out somewhere, anywhere, store or something, do you talk to people? like the person at the register maybe? crack a joke or something? this is stuff i do all the time if the person is in any way approachable. i don't do it to try to get a date (my gf would kill me) or a phone number or anything else....i do this stuff just for the hell of it. it's fun, and it's great social interaction.

this could be something as simple as being in a music store and asking the chick behind the counter if the CD you're buying is any good...could involve a follow up like "oh, not your type of music? what is?" just for the hell of it. friendly chit chat. and who cares if you make an ass out of yourself in the process? seriously. laugh it off with the person. but you know what that accomplishes? you've gotten a bit further into social interaction. the more you do this, you'll end up finding yourself someday just chatting with a girl aimlessly only to have her turn around and say "damn, this guy is pretty nice/smart/funny/witty and i should try to make him interested." no joke dude.

being outgoing to anyone is a big plus. i don't give a flying whazoo if you're in walmart and the chick at the register is 220lbs and something you wouldn't sleep with drunk...make her laugh, make her smile, brighten her day a little, whatever. it doesn't matter, because you've just boosted your confidence a notch by knowing that you made that 2 minutes while she was ringing you up enjoyable and she's going to have a bit better day because of your brief conversation.

i havn't been on the dating scene in almost 5 years. the girl i'm with, her ex-husband introduced us while they were still married. i was respectful of their marrige, and me and her were friends for a year and a half. their marrige had been falling apart before they even made it legal. he had been running around on her, drunk all the time, and 100% worthless. they split, the next thing i know, we've been together 5 years. we were just friends. i was myself around her...friendly, funny, and someone good to just hang around with. my conversations and interactions with her were in no way an attempt to be with her. we developed a strong friendship, one thing led to another, and here we are.

don't be looking for it, let it come to you. sure, throw a line out there by being a great person to be around. the rest will come naturally.

 

[Moderate_THIS]

well i'm glad that you won't turn out like my buddy.

and yes, Awitty, we all pay for it one way or another.

dude, listen, i'm gonna pipe in on some actual good advice here.

when you're out somewhere, anywhere, store or something, do you talk to people? like the person at the register maybe? crack a joke or something? this is stuff i do all the time if the person is in any way approachable. i don't do it to try to get a date (my gf would kill me) or a phone number or anything else....i do this stuff just for the hell of it. it's fun, and it's great social interaction.

this could be something as simple as being in a music store and asking the chick behind the counter if the CD you're buying is any good...could involve a follow up like "oh, not your type of music? what is?" just for the hell of it. friendly chit chat. and who cares if you make an ass out of yourself in the process? seriously. laugh it off with the person. but you know what that accomplishes? you've gotten a bit further into social interaction. the more you do this, you'll end up finding yourself someday just chatting with a girl aimlessly only to have her turn around and say "damn, this guy is pretty nice/smart/funny/witty and i should try to make him interested." no joke dude.

being outgoing to anyone is a big plus. i don't give a flying whazoo if you're in walmart and the chick at the register is 220lbs and something you wouldn't sleep with drunk...make her laugh, make her smile, brighten her day a little, whatever. it doesn't matter, because you've just boosted your confidence a notch by knowing that you made that 2 minutes while she was ringing you up enjoyable and she's going to have a bit better day because of your brief conversation.

i havn't been on the dating scene in almost 5 years. the girl i'm with, her ex-husband introduced us while they were still married. i was respectful of their marrige, and me and her were friends for a year and a half. their marrige had been falling apart before they even made it legal. he had been running around on her, drunk all the time, and 100% worthless. they split, the next thing i know, we've been together 5 years. we were just friends. i was myself around her...friendly, funny, and someone good to just hang around with. my conversations and interactions with her were in no way an attempt to be with her. we developed a strong friendship, one thing led to another, and here we are.

don't be looking for it, let it come to you. sure, throw a line out there by being a great person to be around. the rest will come naturally.

I hope you realize you wasted 5-10 minutes of your life on that reply.

 

[RADAR]

well i'm glad that you won't turn out like my buddy.

and yes, Awitty, we all pay for it one way or another.

dude, listen, i'm gonna pipe in on some actual good advice here.

when you're out somewhere, anywhere, store or something, do you talk to people? like the person at the register maybe? crack a joke or something? this is stuff i do all the time if the person is in any way approachable. i don't do it to try to get a date (my gf would kill me) or a phone number or anything else....i do this stuff just for the hell of it. it's fun, and it's great social interaction.

this could be something as simple as being in a music store and asking the chick behind the counter if the CD you're buying is any good...could involve a follow up like "oh, not your type of music? what is?" just for the hell of it. friendly chit chat. and who cares if you make an ass out of yourself in the process? seriously. laugh it off with the person. but you know what that accomplishes? you've gotten a bit further into social interaction. the more you do this, you'll end up finding yourself someday just chatting with a girl aimlessly only to have her turn around and say "damn, this guy is pretty nice/smart/funny/witty and i should try to make him interested." no joke dude.

being outgoing to anyone is a big plus. i don't give a flying whazoo if you're in walmart and the chick at the register is 220lbs and something you wouldn't sleep with drunk...make her laugh, make her smile, brighten her day a little, whatever. it doesn't matter, because you've just boosted your confidence a notch by knowing that you made that 2 minutes while she was ringing you up enjoyable and she's going to have a bit better day because of your brief conversation.

i havn't been on the dating scene in almost 5 years. the girl i'm with, her ex-husband introduced us while they were still married. i was respectful of their marrige, and me and her were friends for a year and a half. their marrige had been falling apart before they even made it legal. he had been running around on her, drunk all the time, and 100% worthless. they split, the next thing i know, we've been together 5 years. we were just friends. i was myself around her...friendly, funny, and someone good to just hang around with. my conversations and interactions with her were in no way an attempt to be with her. we developed a strong friendship, one thing led to another, and here we are.

don't be looking for it, let it come to you. sure, throw a line out there by being a great person to be around. the rest will come naturally.

Excellent advice, I do that also, Its good practice, and loosens you up for the chick you pick to ask out.

RADAR

 

[Buddy_Christ]

I hope you realize you wasted 5-10 minutes of your life on that reply.

3:45. i type fast.

 

[Moderate_THIS]

3:45. i type fast.

I do commend your patience with that troubled young man. I guess that's why you're a parent, and I elbow brats out of the way at amusement parks.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

I do commend your patience with that troubled young man. I guess that's why you're a parent, and I elbow brats out of the way at amusement parks.

actually, the last thread of his i posted on i told him to become a homosexual instead of chasing women. told him he'd get laid a hell of a lot more.

and speaking of amusement parks...Hershey Park tomorrow.

and the only reason i'm a parent is because i wasn't using a condom and the pill failed.

 

[fyxgel2]

well i'm glad that you won't turn out like my buddy.

and yes, Awitty, we all pay for it one way or another.

dude, listen, i'm gonna pipe in on some actual good advice here.

when you're out somewhere, anywhere, store or something, do you talk to people? like the person at the register maybe? crack a joke or something? this is stuff i do all the time if the person is in any way approachable. i don't do it to try to get a date (my gf would kill me) or a phone number or anything else....i do this stuff just for the hell of it. it's fun, and it's great social interaction.

this could be something as simple as being in a music store and asking the chick behind the counter if the CD you're buying is any good...could involve a follow up like "oh, not your type of music? what is?" just for the hell of it. friendly chit chat. and who cares if you make an ass out of yourself in the process? seriously. laugh it off with the person. but you know what that accomplishes? you've gotten a bit further into social interaction. the more you do this, you'll end up finding yourself someday just chatting with a girl aimlessly only to have her turn around and say "damn, this guy is pretty nice/smart/funny/witty and i should try to make him interested." no joke dude.

being outgoing to anyone is a big plus. i don't give a flying whazoo if you're in walmart and the chick at the register is 220lbs and something you wouldn't sleep with drunk...make her laugh, make her smile, brighten her day a little, whatever. it doesn't matter, because you've just boosted your confidence a notch by knowing that you made that 2 minutes while she was ringing you up enjoyable and she's going to have a bit better day because of your brief conversation.

i havn't been on the dating scene in almost 5 years. the girl i'm with, her ex-husband introduced us while they were still married. i was respectful of their marrige, and me and her were friends for a year and a half. their marrige had been falling apart before they even made it legal. he had been running around on her, drunk all the time, and 100% worthless. they split, the next thing i know, we've been together 5 years. we were just friends. i was myself around her...friendly, funny, and someone good to just hang around with. my conversations and interactions with her were in no way an attempt to be with her. we developed a strong friendship, one thing led to another, and here we are.

don't be looking for it, let it come to you. sure, throw a line out there by being a great person to be around. the rest will come naturally.

talking to chicks in public is a good idea. I try to do stuff like that but a lot of times I'm not successful because it takes a lot of balls. I need to work my way up I think. Start with saying little stuff, and eventually getting my nerve up to say more.

About that business with being a friend with a chick, not expecting anything, and later dating her, I think that's only possible really either if you arent attracted to her, or as in your case, if she was already in a relationship.

Honestly I always count every girl I'm attracted to as a potential prospect for dating in the future. They are a friend, but there is also that small possibility that I might date them. I dont pretend that there is no way I possibly could date them. Nor do I pretend like I'm not even thinking about what it'd be like to date them.

I dont become friends with a girl just because I'm out looking for someone to date (or at least thats not how my thought process works)
I become friends with a girl because I am attracted to them. Then if I decided that I really am attracted to them, then I may consider asking them out.

So I guess maybe I should just make it my goal to become friends with some more girls, even random girls that I meet out at the mall or something.

 

[awittyusername]

talking to chicks in public is a good idea. I try to do stuff like that but a lot of times I'm not successful because it takes a lot of balls. I need to work my way up I think. Start with saying little stuff, and eventually getting my nerve up to say more.

About that business with being a friend with a chick, not expecting anything, and later dating her, I think that's only possible really either if you arent attracted to her, or as in your case, if she was already in a relationship.

Honestly I always count every girl I'm attracted to as a potential prospect for dating in the future. They are a friend, but there is also that small possibility that I might date them. I dont pretend that there is no way I possibly could date them. Nor do I pretend like I'm not even thinking about what it'd be like to date them.

I dont become friends with a girl just because I'm out looking for someone to date (or at least thats not how my thought process works)
I become friends with a girl because I am attracted to them. Then if I decided that I really am attracted to them, then I may consider asking them out.

So I guess maybe I should just make it my goal to become friends with some more girls, even random girls that I meet out at the mall or something.

Crac gave you great advice. But, he was talking about being outgoing and "friendly". Not become "friends" w/girls you want. (we all have talked about this.) You are too nice a guy! They will always think of you as friends.

And, when your at church. Set it up like the guys ahve told you. Confidently and casualy. Don't just walk up to that chick and ask for her #. Casually talk to her and see whats up. Maybe she will say shes hungry. Then, you quickly say "I am to. Lets grab something to eat." Don't ask. Assume she wants to go. (this is important enough for us all to type it over and over.)

Good luck on wed.

 

[fyxgel2]

Crac gave you great advice. But, he was talking about being outgoing and "friendly". Not become "friends" w/girls you want. (we all have talked about this.) You are too nice a guy! They will always think of you as friends.

And, when your at church. Set it up like the guys ahve told you. Confidently and casualy. Don't just walk up to that chick and ask for her #. Casually talk to her and see whats up. Maybe she will say shes hungry. Then, you quickly say "I am to. Lets grab something to eat." Don't ask. Assume she wants to go. (this is important enough for us all to type it over and over.)

Good luck on wed.

wow, i get different advice from different folks. Some say that I should act like I am her friend at first, and some say I shouldnt act like that (because then I will fall into the friends category)

what do I do?

I honestly think that the friends approach works best. If you are enough of a loser for her to classify you in the friends category, obviously u werent good enough for her anyway.

 

[-SD-]

There is no way that we can possibly be as effective giving you advice on the internet as we would hanging out with you in person. Always remember that.

 

[fyxgel2]

There is no way that we can possibly be as effective giving you advice on the internet as we would hanging out with you in person. Always remember that.

the friends who hang out with me give me horrible advice.

They tell me not to bother trying to pick up chicks at the mall and such, but rather to just 'wait for the right chick to come around' even if it happens when I'm 30. :/

 

[-SD-]

the friends who hang out with me give me horrible advice.

They tell me not to bother trying to pick up chicks at the mall and such, but rather to just 'wait for the right chick to come around' even if it happens when I'm 30. :/

You need to get friends with a more positive attitude. If you want to be a guy that gets girls then hang around other guys that get girls.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

You need to get friends with a more positive attitude. If you want to be a guy that gets girls then hang around other guys that get girls.

Yep. Damn... you need to move to Texas, and let me take you in search of women. You'll have clyemida and herpes in no time.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

...which brings us to the next topic...safe sex....

 

[RADAR]

the friends who hang out with me give me horrible advice.

They tell me not to bother trying to pick up chicks at the mall and such, but rather to just 'wait for the right chick to come around' even if it happens when I'm 30. :/

That advice stinks!
Just be your friendly self. The next time you two meet you will get a more friendly hello and score.


RADAR

 

[fyxgel2]

You need to get friends with a more positive attitude. If you want to be a guy that gets girls then hang around other guys that get girls.

I need to find some friends like this. Unfortunately its a lot harder to find people who do this, than one may think.

I know guys with girlfriends, but they all claim to have found them by accident.

 

[Deleted member 33117]

I need to find some friends like this. Unfortunately its a lot harder to find people who do this, than one may think.

I know guys with girlfriends, but they all claim to have found them by accident.

See your friends are a bunch of losers who only have girlfriends because they hooked up with the first girl who would fuck them.

Ditch them and get new friends.

 

[fyxgel2]

See your friends are a bunch of losers who only have girlfriends because they hooked up with the first girl who would fuck them.

Ditch them and get new friends.

i wont ditch them, they are still valuable as friends, but yea, I should find some folks to hang around with on the side, folks who are successful with women.