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How do you make new friends? Work? Groups/clubs? nightlife?
I'm close to graduating from college and sometimes wonder how do people go about this issue. I myself have moved plenty of times and always managed to get along with people, staying social and making friends on the way. However the older I get the harder it gets and really at this point I'm simply networking as they say. Well I guess I can call few of them as half ass buddies especially for example this one dude I've been kickin it with decided to call my brother and ask him for a loan. My brother obviously brushes the guy off and tells him to call me. Then he decides to call me and ask whassup, I tell him that he is an idiot and even bigger idiot for actually calling my brother a "friend", you just don't do that if you ask me when you have only seen the guy 3-5 times total. Needless to say I've been ignoring this dudes calls. He wanted to start selling coke with me on top of all that which was icing on a cake comming from a guy who drives nice beemer and supposedly owns real estate and works for one of the biggest companies here in USA yet decides to beg for 500$ with the whole coke thing. By the way when I asked him what his logic was and why not ask a family member instead he replied with "it's better to have 100 friends and ask each for a dollar then go to your family". One word, Bum.
Anyway what I'm trying to say is that I think as you grow older it will be harder to make "real" friends that you can cause havoc with and go berserk every now and then. So I think it's important to keep in touch with your buddies from the past which is something I never really thought about. Come to think of it I used to feel sorry for people who never really grew out of highschool(still do) and never really made any other friends. I mean no matter how bad the thought of having the same friends you grew up with is, it's understandable at the end as reliving those days with someone u met when u are 40 is just not going to cut it.
That said I'm not depressed or overly confused but when I look at where society is going today, especially in USA it makes you wonder how it's going to work out. The way I see it is you have all these people who are living in some fake blurry world wiith some bullshit goals in their lonely little world that they got sucked into. It's weird when I see all these people who strive for this perfect 9-5 job that they will either hate or pretend to like and act all proud of it. I don't know about you but i find it hard being someones bitch on daily basis from 9 in the morning to 5 at night, but hey you get to watch monday night football and maybe play golf once a month while your precious wife can't manage to grow out of sex and the city and despererate housewifes. No offense to anyones life plans here but this whole mentality is retarded and makes me wanna puke at the thought of it. No wonder you got all these depressed people thinking prosac is gonna do the trick for their pathetic life that they placed themselfs in. In fact that's a horrible idea if you ask me and if you really want to take someone outta their misery there's much easier/cheaper ways out. How much can a bullet cost?
On the other person how can you blame these people? let's take a best case scenario of todays modern man/woman as opposed to one mentioned above. Let's say you graduate with a solid degree and instead of 30k you start out with 55k...WOOOOHOOOOO. To do this the modern man/woman that you are you make a decision that career is your #1 goal in life. So your a little more happy and secured and maybe instead of 95 toyota corolla you will drive a brand new civic or maybe even an accord. If you really decide to treat yourself you will pick a bmw 3 series. Life's good, you got ur nice little apartment filled with ikea junk, a nice car and a you go to the gym. Let's not forget that since you're living your dream life of sex and the city type, I mean with this much success you do need to reward yourself with some meaningless sex. What better way to reward your lonely life but share a bed with someone. Years pass and you never really seem to be able to pay off all these loans you must repay but since you got a raise going from 55k to 60k you can't complain. Plus now that your more grown up and you don't have annoying bitches from the past judging you for the number of men you let in daily into your life. But that's what keeps your life all so exiting and spiced up. (by the way this goes for both genders so don't bitch, of course people look at ti differently but all in all your life still sucks a meaningless donkey cock)
Now you finally realize that life consisting of tv, internet, email, work, gym and fuckin random people is boring. You therefor decide to see a shrink who tells you everythings peachy and you are a great additioon to the current generation of our society, which by the way was labled as "worthless/lazy/hippy" in one of my textbooks I've been reading(somehow it souunds believable). So next up, you wake up one morning and decide that you need to make a huge change in your life. So you get married and once again live your fake bullshit life and pretend like u don't care about each others past or current financial status had nothing to do with the decision. You get sick of it, you divorce, complain how you gave your men/woman everything and because of it you can't be in a trusty/sharing relationship(yes, it's tough makin it work when physically your of the age where you throw your tit over ur shoulder to wash underneath it or you're this beast but can't get ur dick up even with the help of viagra) So your back to your old cycle of dating but this time with a kid. Who will at the age of 12 become a pill poppper with some bullshit disease like add or other mental disorders that might have occured while disovering that all the men that were in her mommas bedroom were not just friends or fathers. So you got another nutso growin up who's prolly gonna be way worse then her mother or father.
In either case, fuck it, I was bored and got a little outta hand and instead of writing my paper wrote this. Whatever, just a warm up for the big one commin up.
Anyway, it started out with a simple question but ended huge and prolly no one will read it but at least I'm glad I gave it time to think exactly the things that I will not do in my life or at least do all my best to avoid it. That said no matter how many people get carried away into this bullshit drama filled, fake world of theirs I'm sure there will always be plenty leftover with heads on their shoulders that was not blurred away with the television, internet and other bullshit imposed on everyone today. In either case, I think restricting kids from virtual bullshit sites such as myspace where they will have a billion friends, watching bullshit tv shit like sex and the city and god knows what else not(hate tv, dont know much about it) will help in the future. I know it might sound retarded restricting kids from watchin tv and going on the net but I think it will have a positive effect on their social life, be more open and have much more physically active life.
Finito. I nominate myself for a nobel prize
I'm close to graduating from college and sometimes wonder how do people go about this issue. I myself have moved plenty of times and always managed to get along with people, staying social and making friends on the way. However the older I get the harder it gets and really at this point I'm simply networking as they say. Well I guess I can call few of them as half ass buddies especially for example this one dude I've been kickin it with decided to call my brother and ask him for a loan. My brother obviously brushes the guy off and tells him to call me. Then he decides to call me and ask whassup, I tell him that he is an idiot and even bigger idiot for actually calling my brother a "friend", you just don't do that if you ask me when you have only seen the guy 3-5 times total. Needless to say I've been ignoring this dudes calls. He wanted to start selling coke with me on top of all that which was icing on a cake comming from a guy who drives nice beemer and supposedly owns real estate and works for one of the biggest companies here in USA yet decides to beg for 500$ with the whole coke thing. By the way when I asked him what his logic was and why not ask a family member instead he replied with "it's better to have 100 friends and ask each for a dollar then go to your family". One word, Bum.
Anyway what I'm trying to say is that I think as you grow older it will be harder to make "real" friends that you can cause havoc with and go berserk every now and then. So I think it's important to keep in touch with your buddies from the past which is something I never really thought about. Come to think of it I used to feel sorry for people who never really grew out of highschool(still do) and never really made any other friends. I mean no matter how bad the thought of having the same friends you grew up with is, it's understandable at the end as reliving those days with someone u met when u are 40 is just not going to cut it.
That said I'm not depressed or overly confused but when I look at where society is going today, especially in USA it makes you wonder how it's going to work out. The way I see it is you have all these people who are living in some fake blurry world wiith some bullshit goals in their lonely little world that they got sucked into. It's weird when I see all these people who strive for this perfect 9-5 job that they will either hate or pretend to like and act all proud of it. I don't know about you but i find it hard being someones bitch on daily basis from 9 in the morning to 5 at night, but hey you get to watch monday night football and maybe play golf once a month while your precious wife can't manage to grow out of sex and the city and despererate housewifes. No offense to anyones life plans here but this whole mentality is retarded and makes me wanna puke at the thought of it. No wonder you got all these depressed people thinking prosac is gonna do the trick for their pathetic life that they placed themselfs in. In fact that's a horrible idea if you ask me and if you really want to take someone outta their misery there's much easier/cheaper ways out. How much can a bullet cost?
On the other person how can you blame these people? let's take a best case scenario of todays modern man/woman as opposed to one mentioned above. Let's say you graduate with a solid degree and instead of 30k you start out with 55k...WOOOOHOOOOO. To do this the modern man/woman that you are you make a decision that career is your #1 goal in life. So your a little more happy and secured and maybe instead of 95 toyota corolla you will drive a brand new civic or maybe even an accord. If you really decide to treat yourself you will pick a bmw 3 series. Life's good, you got ur nice little apartment filled with ikea junk, a nice car and a you go to the gym. Let's not forget that since you're living your dream life of sex and the city type, I mean with this much success you do need to reward yourself with some meaningless sex. What better way to reward your lonely life but share a bed with someone. Years pass and you never really seem to be able to pay off all these loans you must repay but since you got a raise going from 55k to 60k you can't complain. Plus now that your more grown up and you don't have annoying bitches from the past judging you for the number of men you let in daily into your life. But that's what keeps your life all so exiting and spiced up. (by the way this goes for both genders so don't bitch, of course people look at ti differently but all in all your life still sucks a meaningless donkey cock)
Now you finally realize that life consisting of tv, internet, email, work, gym and fuckin random people is boring. You therefor decide to see a shrink who tells you everythings peachy and you are a great additioon to the current generation of our society, which by the way was labled as "worthless/lazy/hippy" in one of my textbooks I've been reading(somehow it souunds believable). So next up, you wake up one morning and decide that you need to make a huge change in your life. So you get married and once again live your fake bullshit life and pretend like u don't care about each others past or current financial status had nothing to do with the decision. You get sick of it, you divorce, complain how you gave your men/woman everything and because of it you can't be in a trusty/sharing relationship(yes, it's tough makin it work when physically your of the age where you throw your tit over ur shoulder to wash underneath it or you're this beast but can't get ur dick up even with the help of viagra) So your back to your old cycle of dating but this time with a kid. Who will at the age of 12 become a pill poppper with some bullshit disease like add or other mental disorders that might have occured while disovering that all the men that were in her mommas bedroom were not just friends or fathers. So you got another nutso growin up who's prolly gonna be way worse then her mother or father.
In either case, fuck it, I was bored and got a little outta hand and instead of writing my paper wrote this. Whatever, just a warm up for the big one commin up.
Anyway, it started out with a simple question but ended huge and prolly no one will read it but at least I'm glad I gave it time to think exactly the things that I will not do in my life or at least do all my best to avoid it. That said no matter how many people get carried away into this bullshit drama filled, fake world of theirs I'm sure there will always be plenty leftover with heads on their shoulders that was not blurred away with the television, internet and other bullshit imposed on everyone today. In either case, I think restricting kids from virtual bullshit sites such as myspace where they will have a billion friends, watching bullshit tv shit like sex and the city and god knows what else not(hate tv, dont know much about it) will help in the future. I know it might sound retarded restricting kids from watchin tv and going on the net but I think it will have a positive effect on their social life, be more open and have much more physically active life.
Finito. I nominate myself for a nobel prize
