Fackin' mindfook

[jnevin]

Divorce was final a month ago. I loved her more than anything in the world, I would have done anything for her. Fucking anything. She brought the whole thing on and stuck with it. Prior to this I bailed her out of debt, $40K worth, helped her out of a few things that really aren't that important but were a bother. I was making way more money that someone my age should be making having not grown up with shit, so I didn't save as much as I should have. She says she wants a divorce because I was working too much. I said I'll change jobs, but the money may not be as good. Then she really wanted a divorce. Takes half my shit, done and done.

I've moved on but I still think about her every day. I think it was the people she was working with putting the money shit in her head, because she was never like that in the eight years we were together. So now she's calling me saying she made a mistake, I'm her soulmate, she loves me, everything I wanted to hear months ago. Since then my work situation has changed drastically. I got fucked out of half my pay for four months, which is being fixed now and should be good in the future. I had a huge tax bill I had to pay and had to use my 401K to do so, losing my ass on it, and I'm treading water with an anvil in my hands until I can get things straight.

Question is, have you known anyone who has pulled a 180 like this for the worse, and been able to change again? I so badly want to be able to trust her, but I don't know if I could again.

 

[strangebrew]

It's a trap.

 

[ohashi]

Women pull 180's all the time, because they are stupid, emotional creatures that need to be kept on a leash at all times. Most of them don't take it as far as a divorce, however.

If she is willing to stick with you despite your current monetary situation, and you really do love her and are not bothered by the amount of men she fucked in the meanwhile (it doesn't matter what she says, she fucked around, or at least one other guy), then go for it.

 

[jnevin]

It's a trap.

My thoughts...

 

[hamstershaver]

if you never listen to anything i ever say, listen to this
never trust a woman

 

[strangebrew]

I don't give second chances anymore. I got screwed once and learned my lesson. To a much less degree than you, but a similar situation.

 

[jnevin]

Women pull 180's all the time, because they are stupid, emotional creatures that need to be kept on a leash at all times. Most of them don't take it as far as a divorce, however.

If she is willing to stick with you despite your current monetary situation, and you really do love her and are not bothered by the amount of men she fucked in the meanwhile (it doesn't matter what she says, she fucked around, or at least one other guy), then go for it.

I was thinking this as well. I've been seeing someone, but she hasn't seriously. I know she's been on dates, but I wouldn't want to know about shit. She keeps asking about the girl I've been seeing, so that will be an issue. To be honest, shit is tight right now and I doubt she'll be able to hang in there while I fix things. Plus, she's used to having her entire pay to herself.

 

[jnevin]

if you never listen to anything i ever say, listen to this
never trust a woman

I just saw Klu's stfu Hammy bat signal in the clouds...

 

[awittyusername]

Forget about her. The only reason she is sniffing around now is bc things aren't as great as she planned. If you take her back and something better comes along...She will be gone.

Bro, concentrate on getting your career back on track. You are a smart guy who did it before, so just do it again.

 

[jnevin]

Forget about her. The only reason she is sniffing around now is bc things aren't as great as she planned. If you take her back and something better comes along...She will be gone.

Bro, concentrate on getting your career back on track. You are a smart guy who did it before, so just do it again.

Thanks man. Very kind words, and a good point. She's in a decent but small apartment now, and I know she can't do the things or go the places she did with me. I didn't tell her how bad it was for a while or now, just that it got rough. That's so fucked that she'd think like that if in fact she is. She probably thinks I had a slow month or two instead of financial ruin.

 

[awittyusername]

Thanks man. Very kind words, and a good point. She's in a decent but small apartment now, and I know she can't do the things or go the places she did with me. I didn't tell her how bad it was for a while or now, just that it got rough. That's so fucked that she'd think like that if in fact she is. She probably thinks I had a slow month or two instead of financial ruin.

Most of my divorced friends ahve went through the phase were the ex wants them back. (Usually its money or the guy they wanted didn't work out) Whatever the case was, it never worked out.

Even if she knows your finacial situation she knows something you need remember....You are not a guy that used to make alot of money, you are the type of guy that can make alot of money weather it be in the past, present, or future.

It wasn't your job, the situation, etc (although these do play a factor in it) It was you!

A few yrs after I got out of college I was making more money than I ever dreamed of. Unfortunately, I woke up one day and found that my company was ripped off and I was almost 1 mil in debt. (of course my girl left)

It took a few yrs, but I recovered. Now, I'm not worried. Whatever happens in my life, I will be able to do it again.

 

[Sub-Zero]

My thoughts...

prenup her this time around if u decide to go with it

 

[Growth&Courage]

Represent everything that she's not - logic, determination, decisiveness, strength..
Do NOT get seduced by her force, she's going to drag you down like she did before.