Evil Co-Workers

[Sweet_Bitch]

So it seems that some of my evil co-workers are plotting against me. Apparently, a few of them have decided that I'm scary and that I'm not "girlie" enough. They have asked the other two members of the management team to relay to me that I need to be...and I quote..."softer" and "more caring about their personal issues". WTF?

 

[Themachine01]

So it seems that some of my evil co-workers are plotting against me. Apparently, a few of them have decided that I'm scary and that I'm not "girlie" enough. They have asked the other two members of the management team to relay to me that I need to be...and I quote..."softer" and "more caring about their personal issues". WTF?

well, maybe you need to be a little softer and more caring. stop being so mean to everyone.

 

[string_bean00]

If you have lesbian sex with them, it will solve everything.

 

[BileStew]

So it seems that some of my evil co-workers are plotting against me. Apparently, a few of them have decided that I'm scary and that I'm not "girlie" enough. They have asked the other two members of the management team to relay to me that I need to be...and I quote..."softer" and "more caring about their personal issues". WTF?

Where do you work, a Suicide Hotline?

 

[jenscats5]

So it seems that some of my evil co-workers are plotting against me. Apparently, a few of them have decided that I'm scary and that I'm not "girlie" enough. They have asked the other two members of the management team to relay to me that I need to be...and I quote..."softer" and "more caring about their personal issues". WTF?

Whaaaat? Aren't you there to work?? This is at your J-O-B right? Then what does anyone's personal issues have to do with work??

Oh and I had the same problem at work after I really got into lifting. People became "afraid" of me. crazy.....

 

[Kroliczek]

So it seems that some of my evil co-workers are plotting against me. Apparently, a few of them have decided that I'm scary and that I'm not "girlie" enough. They have asked the other two members of the management team to relay to me that I need to be...and I quote..."softer" and "more caring about their personal issues". WTF?

yhgtbfkm.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Whaaaat? Aren't you there to work?? This is at your J-O-B right? Then what does anyone's personal issues have to do with work??

Oh and I had the same problem at work after I really got into lifting. People became "afraid" of me. crazy.....

That was my response. I'm the branch supervisor, which means that I supervise 20 people. In addition to which I have about 1700 other things going on any given day. I do not have the time to track their friggin' personal lives-nor do I want to. I keep my personal life out of my work, as a supervisor that's what I am supposed to do. I do not have time to coddle them and their stupid 19 year old problems. Management's position is that since I am their supervisor I need to be viewed as the "friend" in the branch. Yeah, cuz that's what I'm here for....

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

If you have lesbian sex with them, it will solve everything.

Definetly hadn't thought of that...good idea.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Nope, no joke. I seriously don't know what to do here. I am in no way MEAN to these guys. I'm a very straight forward person and when I'm busy I don't have time for bullshit. I don't tell them to go pound sand but I've told certain people that while I'm sorry for their situation, they still need to get their job done. This one girl was in the back room crying because her mom yelled at her. I let her cry back there for about 15 minutes, I even talked to her and gave her kleenex and shit. But after a certain point I told her that we were busy and that I needed her to pull it together and help the friggin' members. I was even nice about it!!!! She runs and tells the AM that I made her go back to work when she was "in no condition to".

 

[jenscats5]

That was my response. I'm the branch supervisor, which means that I supervise 20 people. In addition to which I have about 1700 other things going on any given day. I do not have the time to track their friggin' personal lives-nor do I want to. I keep my personal life out of my work, as a supervisor that's what I am supposed to do. I do not have time to coddle them and their stupid 19 year old problems. Management's position is that since I am their supervisor I need to be viewed as the "friend" in the branch. Yeah, cuz that's what I'm here for....

You are correct. It is inappropriate for a supervisor such as yourself to ever get involved in an employee's personal life. Problems could arise, possibly serious ones. Stay detached.....

When you are a boss -- you are not there to be a friend.

It's also inappropriate for your boss to suggest you do otherwise.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

You are correct. It is inappropriate for a supervisor such as yourself to ever get involved in an employee's personal life. Problems could arise, possibly serious ones. Stay detached.....

When you are a boss -- you are not there to be a friend.

It's also inappropriate for your boss to suggest you do otherwise.

Manager is a man who is straight up afraid of the girls. Doesn't know how to handle them. AM is a 40 something woman w/ no kids and also no clue as to how to handle these twits. So they figure I can play "mom". Ummm no.

 

[EnderJE]

First off. That's funny. I always love it when people cry at work. It pissed the SHIT out of me especially at meetings. One time, one of the analysts started crying after meeting with a client because the client doesn't understand how hard she works taking care of work and her young son.

I wanted to fire her ass right there.

Second, I thought you worked in banking. Don't you have a guidebook or something to deal with that? Being their friend? <laugh> What ever happend to being a professional?

 

[BileStew]

Second, I thought you worked in banking. Don't you have a guidebook or something to deal with that? Being their friend? <laugh> What ever happend to being a professional?

Fuck the guidebook. These insecure twits probably can't read to begin with.

I say...take the Dr. Phil zombies out back and give them two options:

1. Grow the fuck up
2. Kill yourself

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

First off. That's funny. I always love it when people cry at work. It pissed the SHIT out of me especially at meetings. One time, one of the analysts started crying after meeting with a client because the client doesn't understand how hard she works taking care of work and her young son.

I wanted to fire her ass right there.

Second, I thought you worked in banking. Don't you have a guidebook or something to deal with that? Being their friend? <laugh> What ever happend to being a professional?

I do work in a bank, and the only guide book is the one I wrote that says..

"In the situation of an employee crying over personal issues you are too bitch slap them immediately."

Oddly, this guide book has yet to be widely accepted

 

[EnderJE]

I hate crying in public (especially at work) because I see it as a manipulation tactic. When you recognize this, then it becomes a piss off.

My personal handbook says when you see crying...AXE KICK! It works wonders on my kids.

Anyways, to your problem, I really think you should speak to the manager and point out that their behaviours is not desirable. Point out that the purpose is to be professional, not cuddley. If he doesn't do anything about it, then talk about it during the girl's next performance review.

If that doesn't work, then I'd go with bean's suggestion. And send pics!

So, who's your hubby? [Attempt #2]

 

[powerslave]

Fuck 'em and the horse they rode in on!

 

[powerslave]

"You Can't Bring Me Down" - Suicidal Tendencies

Before you go taking a walk in my world
you better take a look at the real world
Cause this ain't no Mister Roger's Neighborhood
Can you say "feel like shit?"
Yea maybe sometimes I do feel like shit
I ain't happy about it, but I'd rather feel like shit than be full of shit!
And if I offended you, oh I'm sorry
But maybe you need to be offended
But here's my apology and one more thing.....fuck you!
Cause you can't bring me down!

Chorus

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Fuck the guidebook. These insecure twits probably can't read to begin with.

I say...take the Dr. Phil zombies out back and give them two options:

1. Grow the fuck up
2. Kill yourself

LMFAO!!!! I wonder how that would look on my performance review...

 

[EnderJE]

How does crying affect theirs?

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

I hate crying in public (especially at work) because I see it as a manipulation tactic. When you recognize this, then it becomes a piss off.

My personal handbook says when you see crying...AXE KICK! It works wonders on my kids.

Anyways, to your problem, I really think you should speak to the manager and point out that their behaviours is not desirable. Point out that the purpose is to be professional, not cuddley. If he doesn't do anything about it, then talk about it during the girl's next performance review.

If that doesn't work, then I'd go with bean's suggestion. And send pics!

So, who's your hubby? [Attempt #2]

Yeah, need to have talk with them but I couldn't do it today. I was way too pissed off and what I wanted to say would have been taken rather poorly. I don't mind being friendly or even being something of a "mom" but they need to realize that I am here to do a job, as are they. I can't be the best friend and the boss if they can't handle both sides.

And I'm still not telling [Refusal #2]

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

How does crying affect theirs?

They're little girls (18-22) so it doesn't affect them at all. They are expected to be emotionally unstable apparently. I don't get that either, why doesn't it come up? Mmmmm....

 

[EnderJE]

They're little girls (18-22) so it doesn't affect them at all. They are expected to be emotionally unstable apparently. I don't get that either, why doesn't it come up? Mmmmm....

Usually, work places have a progression program to move the junior people up the ladder. If they cry, this could be a strike against them. I realize that they are little girls (and we all love little girls), but work is work and if they want to move, they should realize what's required and do it.

Sooo, I take it the pics are still out...

 

[chewyxrage]

oh wow. people crying at work? I would get sooo fired for staying in the backroom crying for 15 minutes......you should have just sent her ass home. if she don't want to be there she doesn't get paid

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Usually, work places have a progression program to move the junior people up the ladder. If they cry, this could be a strike against them. I realize that they are little girls (and we all love little girls), but work is work and if they want to move, they should realize what's required and do it.

Sooo, I take it the pics are still out...

The biggest problem here is that this is not a career for 95% of these guys. They are tellers, they are also college students who want to do anything but be in banking the rest of their lives. They don't give a shit about this job and the only power we have is to fire them-which they also could give a shit less about. And it's hard to fire someone for being emotional, you know?

Yeah, the pics are still out too

 

[EnderJE]

And it's hard to fire someone for being emotional, you know?

You're not firing them for being emotional. You're firing them for being unprofessional. There's a difference.

If its not a career, then why hire them? Why not do coops for banking students for a way into your bank?

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

You're not firing them for being emotional. You're firing them for being unprofessional. There's a difference.

If its not a career, then why hire them? Why not do coops for banking students for a way into your bank?

True, but sticky situation. As for why we hire them-because we're stupid. THat's my opinon. the truth is we hire them because they will work for what we pay them.

 

[*MissFit*]

Co workers suk.. I wokr with 3 other women.. all of us compeltey different. Im the upbeat, yuonger kinda.. i guess airhead (but I'm not), we got the married girl, the spisnter and the cartoon character. There is always friction. Even though i am 28 i get ride of my animosity toward the one that is meanest to me, the spinster, by terrorizing her,.. but she doesnt know its me.. shes all freaked out and actually think shes got a stalker.. it's kinda amusing

 

[EnderJE]

Wow. It takes "something" to call yourself the airhead.

 

[*MissFit*]

Wow. It takes "something" to call yourself the airhead.

the spinster called me it the first day.. im 8 yrs yuonger.. shes not much to look at, has no personality and iisnt very nice. And then she wonders why shes got no friends and has never had a bf

 

[EnderJE]

the spinster called me it the first day.. im 8 yrs yuonger.. shes not much to look at, has no personality and iisnt very nice. And then she wonders why shes got no friends and has never had a bf

Wow. Someone else called you that to your face? I'd talk to your manager about that. Not really professional. That or slip her some acid when she's about to go out.

Where do you work? Office, retail, etc? Don't need the name, I'm just curious as to the type of environment that would allow that.

 

[*MissFit*]

I wokr in a global technology firm.. If i said the name you would know it. What she said wasn't right.. but there are alot of things ppl say that aren't right, but if you make comments when no one is around.. there's not much you can do..

Plus i know she just said it because she is a sad bitter soul .. so i really just pity her

 

[milo hobgoblin]

LOL..


A managers primary responsibility is supporting the people working for you. Making sure they ahve all the help they need to do their job. the people working for you atre not robots... they have families, lives, etc... and those things have to be taken into consideration to keep morale and production high.

The best managers should walways make it a poitn to know about some of the personal issues .. good and bad of the people they tend to.. it will gain you much more repsect and if they think you care about them as a person... they will move MOUNTAINS for you when you need it.


If you do not understand this basic principle of management.. you have no business managing other people.

 

[EnderJE]

LOL..

A managers primary responsibility is supporting the people working for you. Making sure they ahve all the help they need to do their job. the people working for you atre not robots... they have families, lives, etc... and those things have to be taken into consideration to keep morale and production high.

The best managers should walways make it a poitn to know about some of the personal issues .. good and bad of the people they tend to.. it will gain you much more repsect and if they think you care about them as a person... they will move MOUNTAINS for you when you need it.

If you do not understand this basic principle of management.. you have no business managing other people.

The manager's responsibility is to the area and to the business function. If the people support the business function, then support the people. If the people are a liability, then remove them and get others who will support the business function.

The best managers will inspire the people to support themselves, push themselves and support the business function.

 

[milo hobgoblin]

Without people .. he doesnt have an "area or business function"

and unless he is going to hire a bunch of nerds who spend alltheir free time waiting to come back to work... then he or she better take notice of the HUMAN BEINGS lives under him.

You can argue till your blue in th eface.. but Managers who knwo this are the most effective managers..

Managers who dont are considered assholes or bitches by the people below them..

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

I agree with what you are saying, but that is only true to an extent. Yes, you need to be somewhat aware of people's personal lives and compassionate towards their shit. It does help in some cases. But no way in hell should I need to spend large quantities of my time sorting out their lives or be forced to listen to them cry, bitch, or moan constantly about things that have nothing to do with work. I keep my life to myself for the most part and when I do open up about it I do so to a select few and in very brief detail. Walk into any professional office environment staffed with adults and see how many of them are sitting around in a circle singing Kum-by-yah and sharing their most darka nd intimate secrets while crying on each others shoulder.