down and out, really feel depressed

[~HOUNDOG~]

Hey, I don't have anyone to really turn to so maybe you guys can help a bro out huh?
I haven't had a job in over a year (tried my best and could not find one, I really have not been slacking in regards to looking for one),doing shitty in school, haven't had a girlfriend in over a year which is lame but maybe a good thing since I have no job. My best bro just moved across the country and I have lost touch with all my other friends. I really feel like absoulte and total garbage. I don't even know what I am doing in life. I live at home, i'm 19, and my parents fight all the time and I can tell they are disappointed in me and I am as well disappointed with myself.What am I to do? Help me out. Anyone been in the same boat? I feel totally worthless and I have no life. This is really shitty. I want to break down I feel so bad but I must keep my head up but it is hard when you know what crap your in for losing touch with reality and letting everything go down the tubes.

 

[The Shadow]

do you workout?

 

[~HOUNDOG~]

I workout. At home I have some equipment, really adequate as I have everything a home gym needs. But I have been working out for at least a year and see barely any results. Another piece of crap to add to the pile of shit my life is.

 

[The Shadow]

dude - you CAN control what you eat and how you lift.....

Focus all your energies on that and the rest will fall into place

 

[~HOUNDOG~]

Corn- You think if I focus all my energies into lifting 6 days a week and jogging say 3-4 times a week I will be somehow better? That is my wkout plan as of tomorrow.

 

[Paulos]

Start taking massive amounts of steroids, that's what I do whenever I feel down.

 

[~HOUNDOG~]

Haven't juiced in 2 years. If I had the cash I would.

 

[velvett]

Don't focus on what seems negative right now.

I think you are being given a message that this is a good time for a big life change, your job is to figure out who, what, where, and how you're going to get there.

You'll get over this - I promise.


But let me tell you now, what you feel right now comes and goes throughout your life and it's ok, it's how you grow as a person and it's how you learn to find out who you are and what you're made of.

Babysteps

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Hey, I don't have anyone to really turn to so maybe you guys can help a bro out huh?
I haven't had a job in over a year (tried my best and could not find one, I really have not been slacking in regards to looking for one),doing shitty in school, haven't had a girlfriend in over a year which is lame but maybe a good thing since I have no job. My best bro just moved across the country and I have lost touch with all my other friends. I really feel like absoulte and total garbage. I don't even know what I am doing in life. I live at home, i'm 19, and my parents fight all the time and I can tell they are disappointed in me and I am as well disappointed with myself.What am I to do? Help me out. Anyone been in the same boat? I feel totally worthless and I have no life. This is really shitty. I want to break down I feel so bad but I must keep my head up but it is hard when you know what crap your in for losing touch with reality and letting everything go down the tubes.

You are only 19. So that makes it that you are 1 or 2 years out of high school. How many have their shit totally together at the age of 19. I'm 26 and as I get older the more responsibilities I have, but you will learn how to deal with them, because experience will help you. At the age of 19, how much experience do you have in dealing with life out of high school or even out of college? I'm not suggesting that you fuck around and say to yourself it's ok because you are young but don't beat yourself up either.


Nobody is worthless. There are people dying of diseases that can not be cured. Ask one of them how precious life is.

Only if you have been in the deepest, darkest valley will you know what it means to be on the highest, brightest peak.

 

[~HOUNDOG~]

Thanks velvett- Your right I do need a life change and I know it. I have no idea what or how. As for being tested I have had my fair share if you knew me you would know albeit I have been through little compared to some. FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hate myself and my life. A couple years ago I vowed never to fall into a trap like this again but here I am. This time I see no fucking rope out of the pit.

 

[PHATchik]

Results don't happen overnight. Failure to see results could depend on a lot of factors. I suggest going over to the training board and posting your workout, diet, etc.

As far as the rest of it, I think everyone has been there at some point. I've been there a lot more recently than I like to admit. Hell, I still get to that point sometimes. I'm getting burned out on school (one year left, thank God), I work way too much, and my love life is an absolute joke and has been for a while. I think in times like this, you need to find something to focus on. Like Corn mentioned, working out. That's an awesome way to relieve stress and put your focus on something. Writing will do that for you too. Get out and meet people. Try taking classes at a community college or something. THe most important thing you can do is not dwell on things. I have learned this the hard way. Things may suck now, but they will get better.

 

[~HOUNDOG~]

I appreciate all your comments. The thing is; not having a job means no money to do anything,No friends means lonely,no GirlFriend,no job,bad at school,useless wkouts,disappointed parents take ther toll. I have to get it together and I will try, but I don't know how to go down that new path because I have no idea where it is.

 

[Paulos]

Bro you're thinking too far ahead. Just focus on one thing at a time, first being landing a job.

I just got fired and had all my friends leave for college about 2 months ago so I know what it's like...the one thing that really helped was the gym because you can go and dish out physical punishment and it's just a release.

Don't worry about girls, most are worthless anyways. Friends for me at least always seem to just come on their own, it just may take some time to meet new people - but you're sure as hell not gonna meet any at home.

Don't sweat your parents, the only persons opinion of you that matters is you.

 

[~HOUNDOG~]

thanks paulos- I like your advice. All this shit basically peaked today when my best friend whom was always there as a real bro left to go across the country. I woke up and it just hit me what a state my life had become.

 

[Paulos]

I know what you mean Broly, one of my best friends just left after spring break again and I won't see him for about 4 months.