Do you think kids should be allowed to choose their own friends?

[ceo]

or you know...risk assessment models based on statistical evidence of age groups and accident correlation..

and I just gave you the reason for all that.

 

[shirlene29]

neurobiology major...got it...
but you werent concise
and Im taking issue with bullshit today given that I woke up to be called a hog that I didn't think was amusing..at all

 

[cindylou]

Reality is that you have to make a lot of decisions before 25. IMO making all choices for kids just tells them they can't be trusted to use their own judgment. I give Abby freedom to make choices in any area I can, like what she wears and what and if she eats.

 

[musclemom]

You can no more pick your children's friends than you can pick their girl/boy friends. If you forbid them from hanging with someone they'll seek that person out just to spite you. The best you can do is raise your children with morals/ethics that enable them to make good relationship, friend or otherwise, choices

 

[cindylou]

Completely agree MM. I figure, I have until she is about 7. I did many things to my father just out of spite. It wasn't something that I sat down and thought through, it was like an involuntary response.

I don't care how hard you try, you can't force someone to be a certain religion. My Dad would sit me down and talk to me for HOURS about a God I didn't know and didn't care about. Why the hell should I care about being equally yoked? I didn't. You can't tell someone to care about something, I don't think anyway.

 

[musclemom]

Completely agree MM. I figure, I have until she is about 7. I did many things to my father just out of spite. It wasn't something that I sat down and thought through, it was like an involuntary response.

I don't care how hard you try, you can't force someone to be a certain religion. My Dad would sit me down and talk to me for HOURS about a God I didn't know and didn't care about. Why the hell should I care about being equally yoked? I didn't. You can't tell someone to care about something, I don't think anyway.

Religion/spirituality is going to be about what the kid sees you do not what you say. If the kid sees you active and finding fulfillment in your spirituality (whatever that may be) they're going to ask questions and probably want to participate ... now, when they get to be teenagers that may change but most children actually like the idea of deity and find a great deal of comfort in spiritual concepts (at least I found my son did).

 

[ceo]

Reality is that you have to make a lot of decisions before 25. IMO making all choices for kids just tells them they can't be trusted to use their own judgment. I give Abby freedom to make choices in any area I can, like what she wears and what and if she eats.

I'm not arguing with you btw. Just sayin about the brain thing. For future reference on that, please ask shirlene. She's the expert!!!!111#1

 

[ceo]

neurobiology major...got it...
but you werent concise
and Im taking issue with bullshit today given that I woke up to be called a hog that I didn't think was amusing..at all

I saw that "hog house" thread. This whole time I thought I was reading it wrong. It was "dog house", correct? At least I think it was.

lol if it got changed.

 

[ceo]

so should we start finding some kind of religion for our kids' sakes?

nah, nm.

 

[cindylou]

I wasn't like that as a kid but my sister was. She was all involved. She asked my parents how to get "saved" when she was like, four. I was in the same room and my parents asked if I'd "like to be saved" too? I remember standing there like...sh1t this wasn't my idea... but I can't really say no right now can I?