do you hold a grudge?

[ceo]

I don't get mad, I get even.

Here is something you can't understand...how I can just kill a man!

I hat you all.

 

[drsketch]

not usually, but for some acts I would.. Mostly I have a short memory for bullshit.

 

[musclemom]

for some reason, I am unable to hold a grudge in life. Now, you may think this is a positive trait but it isn't. It means that people tend to do things repeatedly and I keep forgiving so long as they say they are sorry. I seriously have to quit doing that!

How about you? Do you forgive and forget or do you have the memory of an elephant?

There's a difference between holding a grudge and being a sap. You don't have to hold a grudge to learn not to let people take advantage of you or to not accept repeat bad behavior. Institute a two or three strike rule, if you have to, but laying down the law and standing up for yourself is utterly critical in life, and also a crucial parenting skill. Be warned, Heather, kids will shit on you and take heavy advantage of any situation. That adorable 1 year old will someday be a manipulative 16 year old with gonads and an agenda and he had better learn to respect you early or when he hits those teen years it's gonna be hell.

 

[KG1977]

I walk the fine line of not holding a grudge to be a sap

 

[reno240]

for some reason, I am unable to hold a grudge in life. Now, you may think this is a positive trait but it isn't. It means that people tend to do things repeatedly and I keep forgiving so long as they say they are sorry. I seriously have to quit doing that!

How about you? Do you forgive and forget or do you have the memory of an elephant?

I hold grudges, and for long times too. My wife says it's my least desirable trait. Oh well, what can you do? Oh, and here is part she hates the most - if I meet someone once, and it's a bad meeting - for whatever reason. I don't like them from then on. She HATES that!

 

[NEO1]

depends on the situation. If its something monetary or a pysical posession, nah. Now if you hurt my friends or family. Yes.

 

[heatherrae]

There's a difference between holding a grudge and being a sap. You don't have to hold a grudge to learn not to let people take advantage of you or to not accept repeat bad behavior. Institute a two or three strike rule, if you have to, but laying down the law and standing up for yourself is utterly critical in life, and also a crucial parenting skill. Be warned, Heather, kids will shit on you and take heavy advantage of any situation. That adorable 1 year old will someday be a manipulative 16 year old with gonads and an agenda and he had better learn to respect you early or when he hits those teen years it's gonna be hell.

Yes. I know. I really have a problem with it. I make excuses too much for other people, especially family. I have to grow a back bone in that regard.

 

[Bikini Mod]

for some reason, I am unable to hold a grudge in life. Now, you may think this is a positive trait but it isn't. It means that people tend to do things repeatedly and I keep forgiving so long as they say they are sorry. I seriously have to quit doing that!

How about you? Do you forgive and forget or do you have the memory of an elephant?

Forgiving, dear lady, is NOT THE SAME AS FORGETTING.

I can forgive someone who wronged me which means that I bear no ill will. This is healthy FOR ME because hate is a very strong glue and why would I WANT to be stuck to someone that is negative or otherwise hurtfull to me?

HOWEVER, that does not mean that I want to sit down and share a meal with that person. Matter of fact forgiving does not mean that I ever EVER have to see or speak to that person again.

I am thinkin that once you realize this, your life will become a lot happier.

 

[Bikini Mod]

There was a time when I was younger and I couldn't remember why I chose to stop speaking or seeing someone (male or female, didn't matter) I would hang out with them again. And then BAM! I would *suddenly be reminded* of the cause. After that I didn't need to be reminded. If I *just stopped being friendly* then there must have been a good reason and I left it at that.

As for people who are close or that I choose to allow into my world you shit on me once, shame on you. You shit on me twice, shame on me.

Musclemom is sooooooooo right about our children. Hell, look at all that my oldest daughter has done to our world. Can I forgive her? I will have to. It wasn't her fault. She was being manipulated and used. HOWEVER, if she fucks with all that the Grump and I have worked so hard to build for us and for her and her sisters, then she will get sent packing. All the child need do is say the words and she will be forgiven but if those feelings never arise from the child then I will be satisfied to have *my little girl* live in my memory forever just the way she has these past 2+ years. Now her younger sisters, will THEY ever forgive her? That remains to be seen. I always tell the younger ones that they are in no way to tolerate abuse from her but that they shouldn't harbor resentment for what she has/is doing, that it isn't her fault and someday hopefully she will come to this realization.

 

[AAP]

I hold grudges longer than crack whores hold herpes.

I wake up every morning and look over my LIST OF PITIFUL PEOPLE WHO BEAR MY GRUDGE before my morning bowel movement. Then I pencil the newcomers to the list.