Do you get pissed....

[jd_uk]

at the thought of your gf finding another guy hot?

I'm talking anyone...another guy on the street, a friend, a celebrity etc.

Personally this really gets to me. Even if its some big celebrity that she'll supposedly never meet, it's the thought that she might find that guy more physcially attractive than me that drives me crazy.

If i caught her checking out another guy in a purely physcial way it would hurt me enough to want to not be with her anymore. I know this probably isn't normal behaviour but i find it difficult to be any other way.....I want my girlfriends eyes to be on me, not some other tool.

your own thoughts...

 

[hamstershaver]

at least you arent possesive

 

[theoak01]

my thoughts are you have some pretty big insecurities that will hinder any relationship you are in,so you may want to work on this before getting in a relationship as finding others attractive is human nature, it doesnt mean they are gonna run off and fuck everyone

another thought is your probably a really young guy with little to no experience in a relationship

 

[jenscats5]

Uhhhhhhhhhh, ok....

But it's perfectly ok for you to look at other women?? Or no??

 

[SoKlueles]

Uhhhhhhhhhh, ok....

But it's perfectly ok for you to look at other women?? Or no??

no shit

double standards

 

[habitualhealth]

Curious/serious question....do you insecurities about yourself?? Trust issues maybe?

Do you ever find other women hot? Step further, more attractive than your girlfriend? Even if it is merely physical??

I wouldn't think that's a healthy "thought pattern" to have in a relationship. But that's just me.

 

[jenscats5]

Curious/serious question....do you insecurities about yourself?? Trust issues maybe?

Do you ever find other women hot? Step further, more attractive than your girlfriend? Even if it is merely physical??

I wouldn't think that's a healthy "thought pattern" to have in a relationship. But that's just me.

Get out of my head woman!!

 

[habitualhealth]

Get out of my head woman!!

Hahaha...word on the street....that's the place to be!

 

[perkele]

Never had that problem. Not a problem if my girl would say "Brad Pitt is hot". I'd say "you're damn right, he is hot".

If she said Ron Jeremy is hot, I'd kick her teeth in. No. lol

 

[strangebrew]

You have some issues bro. Sorry to say.

 

[jd_uk]

my thoughts are you have some pretty big insecurities that will hinder any relationship you are in,so you may want to work on this before getting in a relationship as finding others attractive is human nature, it doesnt mean they are gonna run off and fuck everyone

Trust me i'm trying. If you saw your girl checking out another guy, in your presence for example does that not make you uncomfortable?

Yes, I'm fairly unexperienced with relationships, but I disagree about the insecurities bit, I'm simply the kind of guy who wants to be seen as the best by my girlfriend, both physically and mentally. I can't stand the thought of being second best to anyone else, I'm extremely competitive.

I'm not however posessive, if she finds another guy more physcially attractive than me or has a better connection with another guy than me then i don't want to carry on the relationship.

 

[jenscats5]

Answer the question: Do you look at or find other women attractive??

 

[theoak01]

Trust me i'm trying. If you saw your girl checking out another guy, in your presence for example does that not make you uncomfortable?

Yes, I'm fairly unexperienced with relationships, but I disagree about the insecurities bit, I'm simply the kind of guy who wants to be seen as the best by my girlfriend, both physically and mentally. I can't stand the thought of being second best to anyone else, I'm extremely competitive.

I'm not however posessive, if she finds another guy more physcially attractive than me or has a better connection with another guy than me then i don't want to carry on the relationship.

bro,its a simple fact in life that someone will be more attractive than you physically,but for most people in relationships thats not enough to leave,if your relationship has a strong bond and you connect on a level deeper than looks this should not be a issue.

and no I never had a problem with any past girlfriends looking at other men,I knew they were coming home to me at the end of the day. so good luck finding someone who can tolerate these insecurities,which they are.

 

[PBR]

yeah, your in for a very long and difficult road...however, if a woman is "obsessed" with every good looking guy that crosses her path or thats in the media, thats a problem that she has...but its quite normal to find others of the opposite sex attractive...its when the attraction becomes a reality and the behavior goes beyond looking or a once in awhile- making a comment, thats a problem that will later lead to issues in the relationship turning it into a nightmare.

 

[jd_uk]

Uhhhhhhhhhh, ok....

But it's perfectly ok for you to look at other women?? Or no??

By nature i understand that i'm going to be attracted to women and she's going to be attracted to men. ok...

Unlike the vast majority of people as i believe, I never look at someone and think 'wow they're lush'. I could never drool over a celebrity or another girl on the street especially in the presence of my girlfriend. I can find them good looking yes, but the thought of my girlfriend finding another guy really hot as opposed to just a good looking guy whether he's a celebrity or just a random guy on the street really gets to me.


It would make my life a lot easier if it didn't get to me but it does.

IMO as my mentality stands, if you find another guy that physically hot then go and fuck him. I'm struggling to see it any other way.

That answer your question? Read it carefully before you reply.

 

[jd_uk]

bro,its a simple fact in life that someone will be more attractive than you physically,but for most people in relationships thats not enough to leave,if your relationship has a strong bond and you connect on a level deeper than looks this should not be a issue.

and no I never had a problem with any past girlfriends looking at other men,I knew they were coming home to me at the end of the day. so good luck finding someone who can tolerate these insecurities,which they are.

Hypothetically...

Your girlfriend spends 30 minutes in total of her day checking out and even flirting with other guys where she works, she then spends 10 minutes drooling over a picture of some male model with her girlfriends talking with them about how hot he is and how in her fantasy world she'd love to fuck him. She later comes home to you

You'd still be happy with this because she's 'coming home to you'?

That attitude to me seems like such a losing one....i just really can't grasp it at all.

 

[jenscats5]

By nature i understand that i'm going to be attracted to women and she's going to be attracted to men. ok...

Unlike the vast majority of people as i believe, I never look at someone and think 'wow they're lush'. I could never drool over a celebrity or another girl on the street especially in the presence of my girlfriend. I can find them good looking yes, but the thought of my girlfriend finding another guy really hot as opposed to just a good looking guy whether he's a celebrity or just a random guy on the street really gets to me.


It would make my life a lot easier if it didn't get to me but it does.

IMO as my mentality stands, if you find another guy that physically hot then go and fuck him. I'm struggling to see it any other way.

That answer your question? Read it carefully before you reply.

I think it's possible for one to find another attractive without the desire or need to have sex with them....

I think the mentality of "Me & me alone, no exceptions" seems extreme...

 

[strangebrew]

My wife knows that if she so much as "glances" at another guy, she will get the beating of her life.

 

[SoKlueles]

Well, as ive been graciously told before, men look to spread their sperm. I dont look simply because it shows disrespect to my SO.
and i expect the pecker head to do the same

 

[KA-BAR]

lol a good buddy of mine is the same way. He is much worse though. He wants to beat the hell out of all his girlfriends x boyfriend. lol He does not tell her this but I have never seen anything like it. Issues I tell ya. Hell I don’t even care if a friend of mine hits my girl. It wont hurt her any. LoL. Actually I don’t like to share but I would do it for a good friend of mine if he would return the favor with his woman. LoL.

 

[jd_uk]

I think it's possible for one to find another attractive without the desire or need to have sex with them....

I think the mentality of "Me & me alone, no exceptions" seems extreme...

I disagree. Our brains tell us to find a mate to reproduce with, to have sex with. That is why we find people attractive.

If you don't mind me asking... does the thought of your husband drooling over another girl make you uncomfortable? How about the thought of him just checking out another woman while your back's turned.

A lot of women jumped at this...how do you women feel about your guy looking at women in porn when you're not there? Be honest. Are you too possessive?, have you got issues?

 

[DIVISION]

at the thought of your gf finding another guy hot?

I'm talking anyone...another guy on the street, a friend, a celebrity etc.

Personally this really gets to me. Even if its some big celebrity that she'll supposedly never meet, it's the thought that she might find that guy more physcially attractive than me that drives me crazy.

If i caught her checking out another guy in a purely physcial way it would hurt me enough to want to not be with her anymore. I know this probably isn't normal behaviour but i find it difficult to be any other way.....I want my girlfriends eyes to be on me, not some other tool.

your own thoughts...

I'm not worried at all.

If you're that insecure in your relationship then there are more issues at work here, other problems in the relationship.

Once a girl is gone, she's gone......I don't worry about who she's with or what she's doing. Do you realize how many women are out there?



DIV

 

[jd_uk]

Just searched the girl talk forum for a thread on women hating their guys watching porn. Didn't find taht but found threads by you Jen like this...

Perosnally if i were your husband and i saw that i'd be devastated, it would truly upset me. I'm not saying it's wrong cos it's your choice, but to me if my girlfriend talked about guys like that i'd simply wouldn't want to be with her. She could go fuck the guy she found so hot and that would be that.

I just wouldn't be like that about another girl. I could find another girl good looking but nothing like that.

 

[DIVISION]

Just searched the girl talk forum for a thread on women hating their guys watching porn. Didn't find taht but found threads by you Jen like this...

Perosnally if i were your husband and i saw that i'd be devastated, it would truly upset me. I'm not saying it's wrong cos it's your choice, but to me if my girlfriend talked about guys like that i'd simply wouldn't want to be with her. She could go fuck the guy she found so hot and that would be that.

I just wouldn't be like that about another girl. I could find another girl good looking but nothing like that.

jd, you're really getting worked up over this.........calm down, bro.

It doesn't matter if your girl finds other guys attractive, as long as you're the one who is taking her home and boning her every night it doesn't matter.

You're sounding way possessive here.......




DIV

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

It's only natural, and it won't look good if she sees it bothers you.

 

[jenscats5]

Just searched the girl talk forum for a thread on women hating their guys watching porn. Didn't find taht but found threads by you Jen like this...

Perosnally if i were your husband and i saw that i'd be devastated, it would truly upset me. I'm not saying it's wrong cos it's your choice, but to me if my girlfriend talked about guys like that i'd simply wouldn't want to be with her. She could go fuck the guy she found so hot and that would be that.

I just wouldn't be like that about another girl. I could find another girl good looking but nothing like that.

You are on warning as of right now that you are to NOT search the Girl Talk forum & copy/paste links to the threads there. Should you continue to do this, you may be banned....


And I'm sorry that you are so insecure in yourself, in your woman and in your relationship that you would find looking at another man devastating.

Again, there can be a separation between attraction & wanting to do "it" with someone....

 

[jd_uk]

You are on warning as of right now that you are to NOT search the Girl Talk forum & copy/paste links to the threads there. Should you continue to do this, you may be banned....


And I'm sorry that you are so insecure in yourself, in your woman and in your relationship that you would find looking at another man devastating.

Again, there can be a separation between attraction & wanting to do "it" with someone....

I appear to have really touched a nerve. I see you're not capable of a rational discussion. Thank you anyway.

 

[jenscats5]

I appear to have really touched a nerve. I see you're not capable of a rational discussion. Thank you anyway.

No, I'm explaining to you a violation of the board, young man.... So you can't say that you didn't know....what you did is not allowed...

 

[EnderJE]

Me, I don't get the issue. My wife may find other men attractive and I may find other woman attractive. What's the problem?

 

[jd_uk]

jd, you're really getting worked up over this.........calm down, bro.

It doesn't matter if your girl finds other guys attractive, as long as you're the one who is taking her home and boning her every night it doesn't matter.

You're sounding way possessive here.......




DIV

I can see how it comes off as extremely posessive, but honestly i don't think i am more posessive than the average guy.

Unlike a lot of guys i couldn't care less if a guy blatantly checks out my gf, it happens all the time. If they want to look then they can, as long as it doesn't make her overly uncomfortable.

What i can't stand the thought of is her checking out other guys and finding them really hot. In this case, I'd just think 'if you find him that hot then go and fuck him, but i don't want to be with you'. You understand that at all?

 

[jd_uk]

No, I'm explaining to you a violation of the board, young man.... So you can't say that you didn't know....what you did is not allowed...

If you say so, old woman.

 

[DIVISION]

What i can't stand the thought of is her checking out other guys and finding them really hot. In this case, I'd just think 'if you find him that hot then go and fuck him, but i don't want to be with you'. You understand that at all?

Women aren't like guys, bro.

They don't blantantly stare like that...(usually).

They'll stare when you're not looking though.......you sound possessive to me.

I think you're making a big deal out of this....


DIV

 

[jd_uk]

Women aren't like guys, bro.

They don't blantantly stare like that...(usually).

They'll stare when you're not looking though.......you sound possessive to me.

I think you're making a big deal out of this....


DIV

In my experience women stare very blatantly (i'm not talking about my gf here).

It is a big deal to me, i admit it does trouble me and i'm trying to change the way i think about it because i know it doesn't serve me well....but at the end of the day i simply don't want a girlfriend that will check out a guy for 5 seconds on the street when my backs turned and think 'he's hot'.

Would it honestly not make you in the slightest uncomfortable to catch your gf checking out another guy? I know this would piss off a hell of a lot of guys.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I'd have to choke her out...

 

[MikeMartial]

In my experience women stare very blatantly (i'm not talking about my gf here).

It is a big deal to me, i admit it does trouble me and i'm trying to change the way i think about it because i know it doesn't serve me well....but at the end of the day i simply don't want a girlfriend that will check out a guy for 5 seconds on the street when my backs turned and think 'he's hot'.

Would it honestly not make you in the slightest uncomfortable to catch your gf checking out another guy? I know this would piss off a hell of a lot of guys.

Put yourself in her shoes. What would she think if she busted you?

I check out women all the time when I'm with my wife. I don't hang my tongue out, mind you, and I'm discreet. And I'd damn well expect her to be discreet, too, while checking out a hot guy

Besides, we are human. It's natural to find more than ONE person attractive.

And like someone else already said, you have issues, and need to deal with them. Or be happy being alone.