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Divorce

my parents just went through it 3 weeks ago, for them it was only a couple hundred bucks, nothing really argued about who's taking what and such.
 
Emotionally I'm so fucked up right now. Stomach is upside down. Feel like throwing up everytime I eat. I'm sure I'll get better, I hope!! :(
 
Sorry to hear about your problems Formula. My parents divorced when I was 7. Divorces are rarely clean and often messy. Its even worse to be in the child's shoes b/c they're just being pulled back and forth, feel guilty, feel bad when they have to choose one parent over the other, and its not even their fault.
 
I had a custody battle for my little boy, It took me almost three years to get it over, but each issue was decided in my favor and I have full custody of my son. Because of all the delays the lawyer who normally charges 90.00 an hour wrote it off, which was great because at that time( 6 years ago) I was having some cash flow problems. Bitch cleaned out my bank account. These times are real tuff hang in there good luck.
 
People need to get to know each other better before they get married.
 
I have heard it said, "People give up too easily these days......divorce is too easy."

Anyone who sez that does not know WHAT THE FUCK they are talking about 'cause Ummmmmm, NO IT AIN'T.
 
Dude I'll always remember what my Torts teacher told us back at law school few years ago....

Funerals are expensive but when you think about it... its far less than a divorce.. now you know what to do lol
 
My divorce was final in October of last year. It was not that painful, I had good reason to leave.

You have to do what is right for you. For a straight up divorce/no kids it shoudn't be too expensive. Kids complicate matters a bit. I was lucky I didn't have any.

Sometimes people get married to people they know are not good for them but they marry this person anyway because they think maybe they can help. :(
 
A divorce is one of the messiest things for both involved and especially the children.One day the kids are deciding if they want to ride their bikes or go swimming and the next they have to decide whether they want to stay with mommy or daddy?? That is a lot for an adult let alone a 7 year old kid. The more toys the worse it gets and I saw where one crazy guy was pissed about having to sell their home and split the $$$ so he got a wrecker and knocked down half of the house!! SICK! Divorce is becoming like bankruptcy and it is too easy to get. Some states are making couples go through counseling for several weeks before they get married so they can really see what they are getting into.They can still go to VEGAS or the islands and get married if they do not want to wait that long, but communication is something that is lacking and needs to be addressed in many cases.:(
 
Sorry to hear about this Formula, it'll get better. If you ever need somone to talk to you can e-mail me anytime.

M18
 

Sometimes people get married to people they know are not good for them but they marry this person anyway because they think maybe they can help. :( [/B]
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Couldn't have said it better myself. No victims, only volunteers......actually, when children are involved - yes, there are victims....but as long as one parent does NOT have thier head of thier ass, the children do far better than to have two parents that are so absorbed by the turmoil and hurt of thier own problems that they end up virtually ingoring the most important things in their lives - THE INNOCENT CHILDREN who did not ask to be born, but deserve to be loved and treated as pretty much the center of the universe (most of the time anyway) regardless of how BRAINDEAD and SELF-ABSORBED their parents may be.
 
My ex - fiance and me broke up anout 2 years ago after I caught the whore fucking one of my college professors. According to her he was more stable and more mature than me.. ( He was rich )

First few months are pretty hard but dont let it get you down. Find something you love and let it keep you occupied. For me it was the gym and riding my motorcycle.

My ex talked alot of trash, and it was really messy until I sat back and thought to myself one day, how can I let someone that I fucked in the ass bother me. hehe :D

Good luck bro, and I truly wish you the best of luck..
And always remind youreself thaT it will definately get better.
 
bikinimom said:
Couldn't have said it better myself. No victims, only volunteers......actually, when children are involved - yes, there are victims....but as long as one parent does NOT have thier head of thier ass, the children do far better than to have two parents that are so absorbed by the turmoil and hurt of thier own problems that they end up virtually ingoring the most important things in their lives - THE INNOCENT CHILDREN who did not ask to be born, but deserve to be loved and treated as pretty much the center of the universe (most of the time anyway) regardless of how BRAINDEAD and SELF-ABSORBED their parents may be.
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My mom was at fault for the divorce. My dad had the chance to run her into the fucking ground, take the house, get full custody of me and my brother, but instead of taking out his anger and making my childhood a hell of a lot worse than it was already he did what was in our best interest. He stepped back and let her have the house, have joint custody, had me and my brother live there so our lives weren't fucked up some more. It took balls for him to do what he did, and I admire him for it. It's odd how it all worked out for him too, because when I started highschool, he just bought a house in another neighborhood and the highschool out here was better than the one in my old neighborhood.
 
Rexie - it does my heart good to know that YOU KNEW who was doing the right thing for the you (the child) and HOW HARD it was for him to do it.

Beleive me when I tell you, no matter how hard you think it was for your dad, multiply that by a thousand and then you STILL could not imagine....and little brotha, I hope that you will NEVER know.
 
bikinimom said:
Rexie - it does my heart good to know that YOU KNEW who was doing the right thing for the you (the child) and HOW HARD it was for him to do it.

Beleive me when I tell you, no matter how hard you think it was for your dad, multiply that by a thousand and then you STILL could not imagine....and little brotha, I hope that you will NEVER know.
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I agree, as a child of divorce it is a hard row to hoe. :(
 
Luckly there was no kids. I think that was an omen. We've been trying for about a year to twork it out but came up empty. I take reponsibility for my part but she still doesn't. I know I've learned a lot for this experience. We had been dating for 7 yrs married 3. Living together for 8 1/2. Too much too soon. That's a lot for a 19 yrs old to handle. We just grew apart. I never cheated neither did she as far as I know. But somewhere the love went away. I blame myself for not being stronger and telling 3 yrs ago that I didn't want to go through with it but I felt reponsible. I'm having a tough time forgiving my mistakes.:( I pray to god he gives her someone who truly could make her happy. I couldn't and I'm soo sorry for that. I never ever wanted to hurt anyone. My cross to bear for a while and it just gets harder everyday.
 
Formula we all get into bad situations DESPITE the best intentions......talk to someone about it. You will see that you are aloud to make mistakes and you are ALSO ENTITLED TO FORGIVE YOURSELF!

It is tough, but that which does not destroy us, makes us stronger. Hang in there.
 
BM - Thank you. All my father ever wanted was to raise a family, and he even tried to make it work (my mom filed for the divorce). It breaks my heart to know my family was destroyed b/c my mom found some guy who she thought was the best thing since fucking sliced bread and that she actually thought the prick was better than my father. (I got along w/ the guy b/c I was so damn naive and didn't know that the cock was the primary reason for my family's fall.) The asshole wasn't even a tenth the man my father is. Heres the real kicker, the dick dumped my mother for some new woman after he was through w/ her. Shows what goes around comes around. As much as I love my mother, she did get what she deserved when he dumped her.

My father's pain, at that time, is something I never wish to have to endure. Hes now w/ my stepmom. Her and her daughters moved w/ us and hes got the "family feeling" back again. I have that "family feeling" back again. And it feels pretty damn good. When I look back and realize what it took for him to do what he did w/o hesitation and the pain he felt that he kept bottled in around people, its touching. From it all I learned that I could never do, what my mother did, to the family I'll have one day, and God forbid I'm put in his place, that I would make the same decision he did.
 
Formula we all get into bad situations DESPITE the best intentions......talk to someone about it. You will see that you are aloud to make mistakes and you are ALSO ENTITLED TO FORGIVE YOURSELF!
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Thanks BM, I have actually gain a great friend through this tough times. I've realized my mistakes and I've also become a better person. I still have a long way to go but I'm making progress. The cool thing about my friend is that she doesn't judge she just listens which is what I need more than anything right now.

She said almost the same thing, there were 2 people in this relationship not 1. I try to keep my head up everyday and stay positive.:)
 
Rexie - I can not imagine what it was like for you.

My own parents divorced after over 30 years of marriage...but it was A GOOD THING - they should NEVER have been married. I will not take sides, suffice it to say all my mother wanted was OUT and my dad was a REAL PRICK. We were all grown (my siblings and I ...I was just about pregnant w/my last when my mom filed while my younger was on her honeymoon, and my older brother though not married was out of the house with a kid of his own....but that is another story). My mother did what she THOUGHT was right: stayed until her children were grown. Well can I say that SHE DID THE WRONG THING...EVEN THOUGH SHE HAD THE BEST INTENTIONS - she should have divorced my dad LOOOOONG before she did. Thier marriage was volatile and abusive.

Anyways.....things are not always as they seem, my little brotha. I know your dad must be an amazing man, but life is rarely as cut and dry as they appear to be on the surface. Perhaps if I come see you this weekend I can give you a little insight.
 
BeardedClam said:
women love throwing in their own sad life stories in these things. they also always side with the women. its not difficult. you just live your life and things always work out. women dont have insight in anything they are dumb as rocks.
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*takes a huge rock and crushes the little clam, then gets a stick and cooks the little clam over an open flame. Feeds little cooked clam to the next door neighbor's great dane*

There! :p
 
BeardedClam said:
suck the clams dick before you feed it to the dog.
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What clam dick, it is cooked and smooshed? :worried:


Oh, no you mean clown dick, no I didn't do that either. :p
 
I take full responsibilities for my actions but at the same time I can't help how I feel. The hardest shit is I could high as could be 1 min and be below ground the next.

Last week I was on a businees trip. As soon as that plane left the airport I poped in a Trance CD and got the biggest hight I've ever gotten. Like that plane could've hit a mountain and I would've die with a smile on my face. I guess for that week I left my troubles behind. They even lost my baggage but I was still on a high and didn't care. As soon as I was coming back my stomach start acting up again.
 
See, I can see that Bearded Clown posted something, but I can NOT see it when I click on this thread!

*Fingers in ears* LA-LA-LA-LA-LA-LA...I CAN'T HEAR YOU!

:spin: :spin: :FRlol: :FRlol: :spin: :spin: :FRlol: :FRlol:
 
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