Control freaks

[PHATchik]

I was told tonight that I am a control freak. And that I am turning into my mother. That last one is the worst. I'll admit that I like having things under control. But I don't control people, and God knows I can't control situations. If I did, there are some that definitely would have gone differently. A control freak! HA!

 

[alien amp pharm]

Admins, I think Phatchik should be named "Control Freak" for her title.

 

[PHATchik]

I've actually been trying to think of a new title for myself. I just haven't had any luck, and I'm not sure I am a huge fan of that one. lol.

 

[FoxyDiva]

A lot of people think I'm picky, when its just that I know what I want and exactly what i want

maybe you just like things a certain way, not necessarily your way, and it just comes across like that

I would have slapped the person that said your turning into your mother, ugh if someone would have said that to me I would have flew right off the handle

 

[RADAR]

Admins, I think Phatchik should be named "Control Freak" for her title.

Good idea..i'll post it on the mod board!!! Hee Hee!!

RADAR

 

[PHATchik]

A lot of people think I'm picky, when its just that I know what I want and exactly what i want

maybe you just like things a certain way, not necessarily your way, and it just comes across like that

I would have slapped the person that said your turning into your mother, ugh if someone would have said that to me I would have flew right off the handle

What's sad is he might be right.

And RADAR, you're supposed to think of a better one for me!

 

[alien amp pharm]

I've actually been trying to think of a new title for myself. I just haven't had any luck, and I'm not sure I am a huge fan of that one. lol.

You don't pick the title, BRR & others do it for you.
So technically you are not in control of it. <----uh-oh, we may have a problem.

What happened to your avatar? You need one up there.

 

[PHATchik]

You don't pick the title, BRR & others do it for you.
So technically you are not in control of it. <----uh-oh, we may have a problem.

What happened to your avatar? You need one up there.

Lol, well, we know I have to have my control. And I know I need an avatar. I've just not been very inspired as to what to put up there as of late.

 

[RADAR]

You don't pick the title, BRR & others do it for you.
So technically you are not in control of it. <----uh-oh, we may have a problem.
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BWAHAAHAHAHHAA I Like that!!!!!

RADAR

 

[PHATchik]

You don't pick the title, BRR & others do it for you.
So technically you are not in control of it. <----uh-oh, we may have a problem.
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BWAHAAHAHAHHAA I Like that!!!!!

RADAR

Now who's the control freak?

 

[alien amp pharm]

Good idea..i'll post it on the mod board!!! Hee Hee!!

RADAR

lol
well hopefully it'll be there when I wake up tommorrow afternoon.
I'm out.

 

[PHATchik]

lol
well hopefully it'll be there when I wake up tommorrow afternoon.
I'm out.

I'm about to head the way of the bed myself, so we'll see what has happened with this thread and my new title tomorrow. Lord only knows what people will come up with.

 

[RADAR]

Now who's the control freak?

Ok! Sweetie, just give me some ideas to work with...and i might consider them...i said might!!!

RADAR

 

[Dial_tone]

Don't even get me started.

 

[PHATchik]

Ok! Sweetie, just give me some ideas to work with...and i might consider them...i said might!!!

RADAR

Lol, I never said I had ideas. I'm not a very creative person. So actually, I'm giving you creative control. See, this all proves that I am not a control freak, so it can't fit. So there.

 

[jackangel]

how about "Heart of Gold" for your title?

 

[PHATchik]

how about "Heart of Gold" for your title?

Awww, that's the sweetest thing I have heard all day. Thanks. I needed a smile.

 

[RADAR]

phooey!!! He's just rubbin for brownie points!



RADAR

 

[PHATchik]

phooey!!! He's just rubbin for brownie points!



RADAR

Hey, the mood I'm in...it's welcome.

 

[PHATchik]

Hey, the mood I'm in...it's welcome.

and appreciated too.

 

[RADAR]

It has been posted!!!!!!

 

[big4life]

I kinda like the title "southern belle" or "mountain woman" for phatchik.

 

[FreeballinDC]

PHATchick, do you have kids?

 

[PHATchik]

PHATchick, do you have kids?

No, I don't have any kids. I'm not even involved with anyone anymore. Why do you ask?

 

[FreeballinDC]

No, I don't have any kids. I'm not even involved with anyone anymore. Why do you ask?

The easiest way to tell if you are a control freak is how you interact with others, especially children.

Do you demand stuff from others? (attention, cooperation)

Do you make decisions for them?

If so, you're a Class A Control Freak

 

[from zero]

A control freak! HA!

Well, there must have been a reason that it was said to you.

 

[PHATchik]

It has been posted!!!!!!

LOL! Now I'm a studio gangsta? I didn't see that one coming.

 

[Taps]

I don't think you're a controll freak, you just like things to be a certain way.

 

[big4life]

LOL! Now I'm a studio gangsta? I didn't see that one coming.

Can you rap?

I wonder how it would sound with your voice?

 

[PHATchik]

The easiest way to tell if you are a control freak is how you interact with others, especially children.

Do you demand stuff from others? (attention, cooperation)

Do you make decisions for them?

If so, you're a Class A Control Freak

Ummm. Well, I used to work with kids. I was an employee of Girls Inc. for 2 years, actually until this past December when I had to quit because of time constraints. I always thought I was pretty flexible.

As for the other stuff, I don't make decisions for people. It's up to them what they want to do. I think that part of being an adult means you are capable of accepting responsibilities for your actions and choices. I will admit that I have been called bossy before. As for my demands, I can also say that I have had high expectations in the past. It was my downfall too. Maybe I am just a smidge of a control freak. Not a total one, but a smidge. It's something I am working on though. I think your post has been more of a wake up call than I'd like it to be.

 

[FreeballinDC]

The reason that I bring those traits up is that my mom was a control freak.

She refused to let me join the army because she didn't think it would offer me alot of opportunities.

She wouldn't let me date certain girls because she thought they were "fast"

She wanted me to go to a certain college because "it was good enough for her"

She has since seen the light, and has completely calmed down and did a 180.

Much more pleasant to be around now.

 

[PHATchik]

I don't think you're a controll freak, you just like things to be a certain way.

I like your version better.

And Freeballin, my mom sounds a lot like yours. I guess that's why I don't want to turn into her. I love her dearly, but she wants me to live my life to suit her. I can't do it, and I won't. I have up until now, but it has to stop somewhere. And one day, when I have kids, I want them to feel like they can choose their own paths. Right now, I have no clue what will happen to me when I graduate in May or where I will go. I used to know, but things change. I just know that it has to be something that suits me. If she can be happy about it too, that's great. But I'm choosing for me.

 

[FreeballinDC]

I am definately not a control freak. I have my particulars, but I am an easy going guy. If there was a lifetime acheivement award for those who made good out of adversity, it would have to go to my sister.

She had to deal with mom growing up too, but she recognized how mom raised us. My sis raised her two kids completely different. Those two are very well adjusted young adults, just because my sister refused to be a control freak.

 

[PHATchik]

I am definately not a control freak. I have my particulars, but I am an easy going guy. If there was a lifetime acheivement award for those who made good out of adversity, it would have to go to my sister.

She had to deal with mom growing up too, but she recognized how mom raised us. My sis raised her two kids completely different. Those two are very well adjusted young adults, just because my sister refused to be a control freak.

Mom had it rough though. My parents divorced when I was 3, and my dad hit the road. Mom went to college to get a teaching degree, while trying to raise two little kids. She's really protective of me since I am the baby. I can't say that I blame her. She did a hell of a job raising us. She doesn't want me to make any mistakes, whether it is letting myself get hurt by some guy or trying something and failing miserably. What she doesn't get though is that I have to discover these things on my own. I have to make my own mistakes.

 

[FreeballinDC]

Mom went to college to get a teaching degree, while trying to raise two little kids.

This part is amazingly similar to my moms situation. My parents are still married, but I have no idea how Dad put up with her BS sometimes. He's gotta be canonized too. Mom was bound and determined to have things her way, and that was it. We couldn't make mistakes because she was in control of everything. I mean, how does a control freak make mistakes and admit to them? They don't. (OK, I am generalizing here).

What she did had/has a profound effect on me. I'm still working on repairing the damage, but its like raising the Titanic from the ocean floor.

 

[PHATchik]

This part is amazingly similar to my moms situation. My parents are still married, but I have no idea how Dad put up with her BS sometimes. He's gotta be canonized too. Mom was bound and determined to have things her way, and that was it. We couldn't make mistakes because she was in control of everything. I mean, how does a control freak make mistakes and admit to them? They don't. (OK, I am generalizing here).

What she did had/has a profound effect on me. I'm still working on repairing the damage, but its like raising the Titanic from the ocean floor.

I don't think Mom damaged me though. I'll admit I've picked up a lot of her characteristics such as her habit of being a smart ass and the fact that she can be pretty damn sarcastic sometimes, but I don't mind those. As long as I don't overuse them or use them in inopportune moments. To be perfectly honest, Mom actually inspired me quite a bit. She was determined to make it, and she did. I'm going to do the same. No matter what someone manages to do to me or what setbacks I have, I'm going to make it.

 

[FreeballinDC]

Excellent attitude!

My parents inspired me too. They inspired me to get the hell away as soon as I could.

At least I am not living at home with my parents, delivering pizza for weekend party money.

Really, the only "damage" that was done was to my self confidence. It was as if I wasn't good enough to make my own decisions, so therefore I was always questioning my decisions. That is, until I moved away. I figured out real quick that I was capable of doing things on my own, and living with what I did.

I still have flashbacks though.

 

[PHATchik]

Excellent attitude!

My parents inspired me too. They inspired me to get the hell away as soon as I could.

At least I am not living at home with my parents, delivering pizza for weekend party money.

Really, the only "damage" that was done was to my self confidence. It was as if I wasn't good enough to make my own decisions, so therefore I was always questioning my decisions. That is, until I moved away. I figured out real quick that I was capable of doing things on my own, and living with what I did.

I still have flashbacks though.

I'll admit that I have worries about being able to do it on my own. Mom raised me to be pretty dependent on her. At least, until I hit college and started really thinking on my own. Like I said, I love her dearly. But I decide who I love, what I do, and where I go. She might not agree with it, but that's how it has to go.

 

[FreeballinDC]

I'll admit that I have worries about being able to do it on my own.

Just make like Mary Tyler Moore. Go to Minneapolis, walk around downtown, then throw your hat into the air.

You can have the town, why don't you take it?

You're gonna make it after all!

 

[PHATchik]

Just make like Mary Tyler Moore. Go to Minneapolis, walk around downtown, then throw your hat into the air.

You can have the town, why don't you take it?

You're gonna make it after all!

Lol. I'm glad one of us is optimistic.

 

[PHATchik]

I think you might be right. Actually, he might have been right. I run people off. Alcohol will help you see how you truly are. This would explain a lot.

 

[Dial_tone]

Just make like Mary Tyler Moore. Go to Minneapolis, walk around downtown, then throw your hat into the air.

You can have the town, why don't you take it?

You're gonna make it after all!

Dude, I loved all those corny 70's shows. Maybe I'm in the closet.

 

[PHATchik]

Just make like Mary Tyler Moore. Go to Minneapolis, walk around downtown, then throw your hat into the air.

You can have the town, why don't you take it?

You're gonna make it after all!

Actually, I always wanted to do that. Well, minus the Minneapolis part. And I will do it, even if I have to buy a hat to throw.

 

[Dial_tone]

Who can turn the world on with her smile
Who can take a nothing day
and suddenly make it all seem worthwhile

Well it's you girl and you should know it
with each glance and every little movement you show it

Love is all around no need to waste it
You can have the town why don't you take it
You're gonna make it after all

 

[PHATchik]

Who can turn the world on with her smile
Who can take a nothing day
and suddenly make it all seem worthwhile

Well it's you girl and you should know it
with each glance and every little movement you show it

Love is all around no need to waste it
You can have the town why don't you take it
You're gonna make it after all

Hey, it's a nice idea.