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cranny
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Okay here's the dealio. My wife had cervical cancer back in 99' and had to have a hysterectomy. She has 2 kids from a previous marriage. I always wanted kids of my own but wasn't ready before we knew she had cancer. Now that I can't I really do now. But here's the kicker. I love my 2 step boys. I've helped raise them since they were in training pants. But I cannot deny that I don't have the love for them as if they were my own. No matter how hard I try, it's just not there. It's not something you can turn on like a light switch. They already have a dad. We've considered adoption but I'm scared I would feel the same about the adopted child. It may seem selfish but I'm not ready to raise another kid that's not technically mine and not have the unconditional love like you would w/ your own flesh and blood. Am I being foolish about this? I would hate to jump into this and then realize it isn't what I had hoped for. If any of you have experience in this please give me your take on the matter.
