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Conan is in big trouble

conan69

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Conan's girl says he doesnt respect her cause he flirts with girls on this board

Conan's girl told him to stop of she was leaving

I do love her, but OMG a little flirting is harmless...it is not disrespect at all
i trust her and i dont care what she does (flirting or looking at guys) cause i love and trust her to make the right decisions

What should Conan do?

he has untill 6am to decided (6 hours)

should he
a) do whatever the hell she says
b) apologize with his tail between his legs
c) stand for what he believes

background

Girlfriend of 2 years and 6 months
We do have apt together and 2 dogs
but the apt has a couple bedrooms
Conan has one semester of college
Conan's girl has 2 years

Conan will now stop talking in 3rd person

thanks all
 
combine all three of your choices...

apologize a little and say that you understand how she COULD feel that way, BUT it is meaningless to you since you love her so much... AND say you will cut back on it a bit...

if she wont comprimise then i dunno... send her black roses and kill her???
 
Don't let her treat you like this. Move into one of the other rooms. Don't let her get the upper hand. Show her who's boss!

She'll come crawling back in no time.
 
I say turn it around on her..and make her believe that your pissed at her...i would tell her im pissed that you think that i would ever be serious wiht on of these girls on elite..blah blah blah...you get the idea turn it on her...and play hard ball...i would move into the other room too for a night or two just to show her whats up...good luck bro g...
 
all i can say to this is 'to thine own self be true'

if you don't want to change, i don't think anyone should make you change...

tell her that you're just playing around (kinda like macho/male bonding but with the opposite sex) and it's harmless.... afterall, she has what no other gal on this board or anywhere else has, YOU ...
 
Gbomb said:
I say turn it around on her..and make her believe that your pissed at her...i would tell her im pissed that you think that i would ever be serious wiht on of these girls on elite..blah blah blah...you get the idea turn it on her...and play hard ball...i would move into the other room too for a night or two just to show her whats up...good luck bro g...
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yeah tried that, didnt work
she only hung up on me (phone...i am at work)
damn why do women have to be so complicated
 
Man, 6 months in an apt. with somebody you're not getting along with can seem like 6 years.
Try and see if you both can compromise on this.
Your relationship has lasted over 2 years, I wouldn't breakup over something like this.
 
Good grief, tell her to grow the fuck up. I would just pack my shit, find a nice pad and eat, sleep, train, do cycles, and go get me some snatch when I need it. Damn, remember you're a man! That stick and package means you don't have to put up with that shit. I would have to leave to prevent me from kicking a bone clean out of her ass for boring me with that childish b.s.
 
tell he whatever she wants to hear, and keep doing whatever it is you feel like doing. Some lines you may want to use:

1. Your untrust leads me to believe you have a guilty conscience - is there somthing you want to get off you chest?

2. You low self-esteem will truly be the demise of our relationship!

3. Baby - trust is the single most important characteristic of a succesfull relationship, you want a sucesful relationship dont you?

4. Im fucken with these people, I know for a fact (cuz Im a mod) its an old fat guy, and we are fuckin with the board.

5. Im in love with Ranger DOE! dont say that one..
 
Hhhmmmmmmmmm, are you sure that it is harmless flirting? Or is it that you REALLY aren't committed 100%?

I am sure that this girl is very special and that ANY MAN would be pleased to have her for his one and only, however, that does not negate the fact that you may be taking things a bit too far on purpose.....maybe not.

I do believe that flirting is a lost art form. It should be HARMLESS intercourse (I am saying TALKING PEOPLE) between two people. Just a little fun conversation that doesn't mean diddly do. Both individuals know what the other is about and that is that.

Over the entire course of my 13 year relationship w/my ex YES, I DID FLIRT...but NOTHING HAPPENED - PERIOD. Nor did any guy that I was laughing/smiling/joking with EVER think that anything would. If any guy got the wrong idea, I straightened him out IMMEDIATELY.

I am a very secure individual and it would not bother me ONE BIT to see my honey (not that I have one) flirting w/a female. It is only two people of the opposite sex sharing a bit of pleasantry. If I can not trust the man that I am with....then I need not be with him.

So Conan, I think you need to ask yourself, "Whatup? Why am I behaving in this fashion? Is it because it is part of my nature and nothing is going on...or is it that I am kind of looking for a way out of this relationship because it is NOT what I really want just now?"

Be honest with yourself and do not play games w/her. Yes, your answer may hurt her now, but it is nothing compared to how she will be hurt in the future if you "give in" just to placate her now.

I would rather be told the truth, then to live a lie.
 
Don't take any shit from her but be nice about it.

My take on this is if you go "uh ok, I won't talk to girls anymore, your the boss" then whats next?
Think about it this way. Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with someone who will not let you flirt or look at the opposite sex.

I know I wouldn't.

Fuck it's time for all you guys and girls out there in relationships to stop taking unecessary crap from your other half and stand up and be a man/woman.

This is why I remain single, because I refuse to put up with shit or settle then less then I deserve.
 
let her know that its words on the screen. even more harmless than smiling at the waitress, who you could actually bang (dont tell her this part, otherwise she will go off on a tangent about whether or not you are thinking about cheating) so basically this is internet banter, no more no less.

let her know that she lives with you and thus pretty much knows what the hell you do most of the time. (she may have forgotten)

remind her of who crawls into bed with her each night, who has done so in the past and who will do so in the future.

let her know that moving in with someone is a rather large committment and shouldnt be taken lightly, if you didnt dig her, she'd be living solo.

that should be end of story for worrying about "internet flirting". i cant believe she is actually serious......:confused:
 
Call her bluff.

If she calls you at work, just tell her, 'Sorry babe, but I got this Elite hottie I'm flirting with and I haven't told her about you, plus she sends me naked pictures of herself and tells me about her Conan fantasies, so I can't just spring it on her that my girl is on the phone now. Anyways, I'll call you in about 20 minutes, ok?'

Depending on how she reacts to that, you got it made. :)
 
conan if you really love this girl i say bite the bullet, but if you think you can find another girl then i say stand up for what you believe
 
Actually slopain made great points on trust and self esteem, which are basically salient truths.
 
I like MadB's response....
It's women like her that give other women a bad rap.
Of course, who am I to frickin talk.
lol
 
I'll post as Bunny....you flirt like Hell with her/me...we will go back and forth....then have her call me....she'll feel like an ass....I'll even let her tell me what to post...

If all else fails...MB and Slopain has good ideas...:)

Ranger
 
bikinimom said:
YES, I DID FLIRT...but NOTHING HAPPENED - PERIOD. Nor did any guy that I was laughing/smiling/joking with EVER think that anything would.
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With all due respect, most guys don't believe in platonic relationships. So even though you thought they didn't want a piece of you, I've seen your pic and can assure you that they probably had some impure thoughts :D
 
Damn this sucks, I hope everything is going ok. Personally I would try to find out in what ways she feels you are disrespecting her...Tell her your thoughts about it and examine all issues to this situation

You could always use the classic line "Who cares where I'm getting my appetite, as long as I'm comming home for dinner"


Ranger We all Miss Bunny have you found any recent pics of her...lol...
 
Just throw her off the trail when she comes into the room by starting to flirt with May1010 instead. That will make her feel better.:D
 
I'm wid Naty, BM

Natymike said:


With all due respect, most guys don't believe in platonic relationships. So even though you thought they didn't want a piece of you, I've seen your pic and can assure you that they probably had some impure thoughts :D
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Maybe about 2% of those guys you flirted with were just funning, but if you had to correct any of them.....there's your proof.:p

Conan.....you understand her better than anyone else......she can't handle what you do......R U content to do as she asks? Over a period of time? like Forever? If not, get on your Harley, 1st box up her shit, then turn a few corners until she leaves......if she doesn't.....then you can do what you have been doing. :D :D
 
First off stop talking about yourself in third person-LOL

Second- if she felt secure about your relationship, it wouldn't matter, so it's the stuff between the two of you not here that is the real issue.

Are you sure that it's just innocent flirting, and that you wouldn't like to have a fling or two(rhetorical).

Most guys can't just flirt and leave it at that, especially at 22 & with mildly elevated test levels(LOL). Take a serious introspective look at what you'd really do if a girl really started coming on to you- are you sure you'd politely decline??

But the big thing is reassuring your girlfriend about your relationship. This is an everyday thing!! If she feels insecure, there will always be a problem..
 
This is really a very simple choice. How much do you love your girl? How much do you want to be around her?

If you're flirting is bothering her, and you care about her feelings, don't flirt. If you do anything else, you're sending the clear message that you don't care about her feelings.

Ask yourself what is each of your motivations? Likely, she thinks you are acting innappropriately and senses a threat to the relationship. That is why she wants you to stop. Because she values the relationship.

Now, why don't you want to stop? Because of personal inconvienience?

From the outside looking in, I think if you want to be with this girl and you have a commitment with her, then you should stop. If it's not a serious relationship, then continue to make decisions based on your personal comfort as opposed to the comfort of the relationship and the needs of both people in the relationship.

Basically, think about what you would have done when you first met her. For whatever reason, people tend to stop doing the things that brought them together in the first place.

Good luck.
 
you know what, there are some really great points brought up

After reading these and thinking for a while

i know i love her to death
she is attractive
she has a slamming body
very educated
puts up with all my shit...including non stop steroid use
....and we know what comes with that, (irritability, ect.)
Trust her more than anyone in the world

I guess i will do what ever she wants because i dont want to lose a great girl... :-)

i just wish she would let me take some pics of her so i could put them up on the board...so you could see what is at stake...but it is her personality that is truly great


thanks again everyone
you really cleared my head
 
Good man Conan! Sometimes you need a reality check every now and again. It is ALL GOOD! :)

As for my comments previously. I need to clarify. What I meant to say was that I am FULLY AWARE that 99% of the men that I have and continue to flirt with have impure thoughts (Hell, I have them too - LOL!). BUT I MADE IT ABUNDANTLY CLEAR THAT THEY WOULD REMAIN JUST THAT - IMPURE THOUGHTS AND NOTHING MORE! Flirting for me is not necessarily an obvious sexually charged exchange of conversation. Unless I am on a job interview or talking to a minister I exude sexuality. It is part of who I am. I am very personable and love to laugh and have a good time. I talk easily to total strangers. I have been that way since I was a child and I will be that way until the day I die. I see this in my third daughter. (Not that there is ANYTHING sexual about her - SHE IS A CHILD.) But she is just sooooo social and such a pretty little thing that she just lights up a room when she enters it (as all my daughters do)
you can't help but be drawn in by her beautiful smile and obvious "I'm cute and I know it" air. We could not walk around in a public place without her waving and complimenting EVERYONE that passed by us...and I MEAN EVERYONE!!!! All of my girls are special, but I can see that she is the MOST like me in this respect.

When I am flirting FOR REAL - THERE IS NO DOUBT WHAT I AM INTERESTED IN AND WHAT WILL PURSUE THE CONVERSATION.....PERIOD!

Also, I am an equal opportunity flirter....I flirt with women, children, everyone. I just love to laugh and have a good time; bring a little happiness into the world. :)
 
I'm a total flirt in real life, all my ex girlfriends tell me this. Nothing wrong with it, for some people like myself it comes naturally and we don't even know we are doing it.

Just because you flirt doesn't mean you wanna do em, well at least thats what I told my ex's.
;)
 
If you're going to be in relationship with someone, the two of you
need to start thinking about each others as a partner.
When partners have a problem they sit down and NEGOTIATE a setlement.
Partners do not make non-negotiable mandates.
Spoiled children say "my way or else", not long term partners (if they want to stay together).
If you give in to this there will be a shift in the way you think about your partner that neither of you will like.
You're going to feel more like you're in prison, or have to sneak around behind her back.
Things like this can lead to the end of the relationship.
This one incident in itself is not important, but the way the two of you deal
with it is indicative of how you two deal with all your problems.
 
i havent even came close to reading all the responses to this, and you appear to have reached a personal resolution

but i think there is a good possiblitilty she is already cheating on you, thinking about it, or just wants to end the relationship but for some reason wants it to be YOU to break it off and not her

you say you have complete trust in her, and that may be so, but is this your first relationship or your first "serious" relationship? it's very easy to put complete trust into someone, and you don't understand what that can mean if they actually DO break that trust - total devastation.

if she cannot and will not come to any compromise with you after sitting down and having a very reasonable question/answer period about whats going on, what bothers her, and what you think about it, you both need to decide if you are actually doing anything wrong or if s he is simply being insecure. You need to reassure her of your stance on the relationship i.e. you seem to feel that you would do anything to make her happy etc

not sure if all that makes sense, but there is alot of practical advice in that (in my opinoin). a woman should never have the absolute say in the relationship (neither hsould the man). you should both feel completely sure and confident in having a 50/50 relationship or you are going to run into some major problems.

the simple fact alone that she not only gave you an ultimatum (she would leave) but a very SOON ultimatum blows my mind. she may be a great girl, but for her to do that means there is some serious negative shit floating aruond in her head. you either need to straighten her out, or if she doesnt compromise or realize that SHE may be creating problems as well, the relationship will end. maybe not today, or two years, but you are going to be the one fucked over.
 
conan69 said:
you know what, there are some really great points brought up

After reading these and thinking for a while

i know i love her to death
she is attractive
she has a slamming body
very educated
puts up with all my shit...including non stop steroid use
....and we know what comes with that, (irritability, ect.)
Trust her more than anyone in the world

I guess i will do what ever she wants because i dont want to lose a great girl... :-)

i just wish she would let me take some pics of her so i could put them up on the board...so you could see what is at stake...but it is her personality that is truly great


thanks again everyone
you really cleared my head
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well good for you!!! I wish you luck and maybe she will start working out too.
any another one bites the dust lol
 
If you love her, bleed her with a knife and take pictures.

If you don't love her, tell her to be quiet as you duct tape her to a chair and shave all of her hair off. Then, using a barbeque lighter, singe her eyebrows/lashes off, making sure the flame brushes her eyeballs every now and then. Now, stick toothpicks straight into her retinas, and cut her left hand off with a machete. Things should be going fine now. Strangle her with your bare hands and stomp her skull until it explodes.

Once bitten, twice gutted and thrown into the river.
 
Bignate...did you read ALL of what I said? It is about some pleasant conversation and smiling...it does NOT mean that it is of a SEXUAL NATURE. I also said that my 6 year old flirts relentlessly with everyone!....do you think that I meant she was sticking her tongue down peoples' throats?! NO......It is IMPOSSIBLE for her to be sexual - get it?!

Silly.
 
conan69 said:
Conan's girl says he doesnt respect her cause he flirts with girls on this board

Conan's girl told him to stop of she was leaving

I do love her, but OMG a little flirting is harmless...it is not disrespect at all
i trust her and i dont care what she does (flirting or looking at guys) cause i love and trust her to make the right decisions

What should Conan do?

he has untill 6am to decided (6 hours)

should he
a) do whatever the hell she says
b) apologize with his tail between his legs
c) stand for what he believes

background

Girlfriend of 2 years and 6 months
We do have apt together and 2 dogs
but the apt has a couple bedrooms
Conan has one semester of college
Conan's girl has 2 years

Conan will now stop talking in 3rd person

thanks all
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When I was younger someone told me:"Don't let anyone son you"
I didn't.

i've been a spermcell on my own for a long while now... wish I could find an egg cell.. nah.. she'd try to son me too.

*swims off*
 
Conan,
Take it from me. I have been married for a year and have been with my woman for 4 years. I saw all the warning signs of a jealous neurotic woman, but I ignored them. I have been married for a year and I am already filing for divorce.

If she is going to restrict harmless flirting, then this is only the beginning of the restrictions in you life. If you cave in on this, then you can start to watch your freedoms slip away.

I would sit back and evaluate how you really feel about her, and if you love her enough to give up some freedom then stay with her, otherwise I would can her ass before it gets out of hand.
 
ok -- don't laugh -- I was listening to LOVE LINE on the radio and they talked about what men & women consider "cheating" when it comes to the internet. If the guy is contacting girls on line, the guy doesn't consider it "cheating", the girl does -- because the girl feels like the guy has turned to someone besides her to talk, discuss, get turned on , whatever. This is basically a breach of that trust that the woman places on the relationship. The guy just doesn't -- I guess because at the end of the day,he still goes home to the girl.

I have a guy friend of 12 years who has been married the entire time I've known him. He is a triathelete, I was pursuing BB. So we spent a lot of time talking about our diets, training, latest bodyfat/weight measure ments, etc. - we have a good friendship in that we both have technical backgrounds (used to work together) as well as just "clicK'. But neither of us ever acted on anything. He had moved away and then I emailed him pix from my first comp. After all the talks we had about all the time & energy we both put into our respective training, all he can say is "NIIIIIIIICE ASSSS" -- and proceeded to hint at doing cyber sex. I was like "WTF??" You're married, dickhead. He never saw this as cheating. I wouldn't go near it and I lost a LOT of respect for him as a friend that I really had a great deal of respect for. He just didn't get it. Then I said, "well what ifyou found out she was chatting w/ some guy online?" Did he consider that cheating?? He just didn't get it. I told him that his wife would consider him turning to another female to discuss his sexual fantasies & his insecurities about himself (felt he was getting "old", etc.) a breach of their friendship & relationship -- he just didn't get it. I don't talk to him anymore.

At the end of theday, if she is your "soulmate", make sure you talk to her that way and respect her that way. The way men& women view things is so different, but its a bigger breach of that trust for the female and I guess you need to understand that from her point of view and respect it. If you can explain your point of view to her, even better. But please dont' consider it a move on her part to "control" you or be a bitch.

Good man!
 
Well said Sassy!!!

I'm in complete and total agreement witcha.

She sounds like your dream girl, so unless she's very jealous (i.e. won't let you have any female friends or hang with your guy friends), I think you made the right choice. Good luck with everything.
 
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