Children and Discipline....so hard.

[beastboy]

Children and Discipline

My daugher asked if she could have a popsicle....I told her no (I hate telling her this).....She went and got one anyways....so I asked, "I thought I told you no."...she said, "too late now"....I almost lost it.....I wanted to laugh and ring her neck at the same time.

Not only did I have to tell her no, but I also had to punish her. never understood the statement my parents used till now, "It hurts us more than you to discipline"

 

[NoDaddyNo]

You should have forced her to eat a poopsicle.

That would learn her.

 

[beastboy]

My wife tries to cook...that is cruel enough.

 

[gonelifting]

....so I asked, "I thought I told you no."...she said, "too late now"....I almost lost it.....


Wow, That would really anger me. I would not accept that talk from my kid. I`m not saying you did, Just adding that I would also get upset.

I would have done the same as you.
I may be going toward the path of the discipliner and my wife the "go to" person for comfort. I`m not liking that.

 

[NoDaddyNo]

I read the subject line of this thread and thought it was going to be about getting erections when yelling at kids.

 

[beastboy]

I read the subject line of this thread and thought it was going to be about getting erections when yelling at kids.

Dickhead...I knew you were going to make that comment......


GL....i was pissed....but laughed to myself. I'm usually the one that gives in...but didn't this time. It was just funny that a 4 y/o thinks that way. And she had it planned out......"I'll just get it and then he can't say no"

 

[onerepmaximum]

I don't enjoy disciplining my kids either. I would rather hurt their feelings for a little while than to allow them to act like some of the spoiled little heathens that I have seen.

 

[Smurfy]

if you usually give in.....then thats probably what gave her the idea to just get the popsicle anyhow. maybe she is basing it on her past experiences with you i dont know.
i would have taken the popsicle, grabbed one arm and smacked dat butt. just to get the point across.

 

[from zero]

By "popsicle," you really meant "crackpipe," right?

Ah, kids are so wacky at that age.

 

[Ffactor]

Why can't she have a popsicle you douchebag cruel human being?

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

Its all in the wrist.

Moreover, the obvious thing we are trying to teach is ...

How to make good decisions, no offense, but it was a POPSICLE... why not say, "sure but you will have to brush your teeth again..." Its not like she wanted a Vodka & Tonic

anyway, it may have been first thing in the morning for all I know, but sometimes saying yes isn't so bad...we want them to make good decisions later in life like saying NO to drugs, doing homework before talking on the phone etc...

Good Luck

BTW, It doesn't hurt me to discipline my kids...not as bad as they will hurt me if they are undisciplined later in life.

 

[beastboy]

She had eaten nothing but junk all day.....I will not allow my daughter join the rest of the fat ass kinds in America. There has to be a point where you say no.

 

[Ffactor]

Since when does a posicle make you fat? Give her the damn popsicle!

 

[beastboy]

Since when does a posicle make you fat? Give her the damn popsicle!

Around the same time my fist gives you a fat lip.

 

[Ffactor]

Around the same time my fist gives you a fat lip.

Double douchebag with vaginal fluid on top!

 

[FitFossil]

Sounds like you handled the situation well.

Your daughter disobeyed, so you punished her. That reinforces the message that you mean what you say, whether you're saying "no popsicle" or telling her you love her. This is a very important lesson for her, and you'll have to teach it many times and in many ways over the next 14 or so years, but it'll all add up to her being able to trust and count on you as a parent to do what's best.

 

[beefybull]

You did the right actions after she disobeyed, but denying a 4 year old kid who knows nothing about being fat a popsicle is goin kinda far if the kid isnt fat. Remember, a kids body is developing in a different way than ours and that carbs are necessary for a growing child. Unless the kid is a porker, you could have hooked her up.

 

[vixenbabe]

Why is it men have such problems saying " No" to their kids?

Why?I do not get it! Do you fear they will hate you or what? I ask, because my old man is a mega pushover when it comes to saying no to our lil girl too. Come to think of it, my dad was the same way with me when I was young!

I have no problems saying " No" or spanking our lil girl for back talking me- None !

 

[beastboy]

You did the right actions after she disobeyed, but denying a 4 year old kid who knows nothing about being fat a popsicle is goin kinda far if the kid isnt fat. Remember, a kids body is developing in a different way than ours and that carbs are necessary for a growing child. Unless the kid is a porker, you could have hooked her up.

LOL...things have to be instilled now.....I told her no...that means no...it doesn't matter what the reason was. She had just finished a bag of Halloween candy.

 

[Gymgurl]

LOL...things have to be instilled now.....I told her no...that means no...it doesn't matter what the reason was. She had just finished a bag of Halloween candy.

Good going! This is were parents start losing control of their kids if they don't start putting the foot down somewhere.....

 

[beefybull]

She had just finished a bag of Halloween candy.

I wish I could finish a whole bag of Halloween candy, but I'd blow up

 

[spongebob]

Re: Children and Discipline

My daugher asked if she could have a popsicle....I told her no (I hate telling her this).....She went and got one anyways....so I asked, "I thought I told you no."...she said, "too late now"....I almost lost it.....I wanted to laugh and ring her neck at the same time.

Not only did I have to tell her no, but I also had to punish her. never understood the statement my parents used till now, "It hurts us more than you to discipline"

how long did you lock her in the closet for? popsicle theft around my house gets you 6 hours minimum in the closet.

 

[Sub-Zero]

lol spongebob.



yeah, my parents were evil untill i was 12, and i thought their rules were crap...now that they have "good morals" and behavior instilled in me, and know i can make my own good decisions, they dont tell me yes or no, and only act like a parent if i do something mega wrong, which i havnt in a while...


good job, no sucks, but it pays off later, and youll enjoy your kids more when their older, if they arnt growing up to be spoiled douchetards

 

[Ffactor]

Why is it men have such problems saying " No" to their kids?

Why?I do not get it! Do you fear they will hate you or what? I ask, because my old man is a mega pushover when it comes to saying no to our lil girl too. Come to think of it, my dad was the same way with me when I was young!

I have no problems saying " No" or spanking our lil girl for back talking me- None !

No spanking, I forbid it!

 

[TheProject]

I read the subject line of this thread and thought it was going to be about getting erections when yelling at kids.

I'd have been disappointed had I clicked on this thread, and not found a tasteless joke.

 

[NoDaddyNo]

I'd have been disappointed had I clicked on this thread, and not found a tasteless joke.

You can always count on me to say something tasteless.

 

[timrock]

if it was my boy.........
i personally would have taken it away and spanked him. and it would be a while before he got another popsicle.
they need to listen to there parents and respnd immediately.

whats going to happen when you tell him/her not to stick that screwdriver in the socket or don't run acrss the street without looking or don't play with matches they are not a toy. especially after a respnse like "its too late now."

you may say no big deal its only a popsicle but everything is done for a reason. and teaching your kid early that daddy doesn't play when he has his serious face/voice on may save your son/daughters life one day.

i'd rather have my kid hate me and be alive than love me and have died for something supid.

while kids are young our job is to be parents and make them understand that their are laws in society and they can't go around doing what they please.

 

[TheProject]

You can always count on me to say something tasteless.

If you hadn't, I would have.....that was too easy to pass up.