Change in lifestyle.

[flex123]

I was chatting with Polishhammer today and I was telling him how I think I need a lifestyle change.

Have any of you just totally changed your lifestyle? How and what did you change?

I feel like I was comfortable with my past life and now that things have changed I feel I need to make more changes to make myself happier.

My routine of seeing the same people and doing the same things is just not making me a happy person. I've taken off from the gym for awhile and wanted to get back going with it for another 4 months or so before I hit a cycle. But now I think I'm just going to get back in the gym and hit a cycle starting next week. It's not the wisest choice but I know if I start one I'll feel 10 times better. Thats what I'm thinking as of now but my choice might change when I think about it some more.

My desire for a change is probbly a search somewhere else for happiness while I should be looking for ways to find happiness within myself.

Polishhammer also asked me about my self-esteem and when I thought about it afterwards I realized that I'm really down on myself and have low self-esteem. I often wonder why I don't make friendly connections with people often, and I also think that I won't find another relationship cause I don't consider myself that much of a catch for woman.

I have zero money, I live paycheck to paycheck. I drive a peice of shit car (that made me think of the adam sandler song "peice of shit car"), My personality in a conversation sense sucks, I tend to mumble and not think before I speak. Shit I could go on with crap I disapprove of myself.

So back to the question at hand..lol..anyone have a drastic change in lifestyle in their life.

 

[velvett]

I left NY for Calif with $250 and a one way ticket to LA.

Best two years of my life.



PH has given you a great idea and if you don't have any debts meaning your money goes straight to living expenses then you have a greater ease.

You could change you looks, your surroundings, teach your self something new - hobby or take a class.

I took many photography classes over the years when ever I felt the need to find something and oddly enough it always worked.

 

[flex123]

I left NY for Calif with $250 and a one way ticket to LA.

this sounds really good to me. how did you set up a place to live?

 

[velvett]

this sounds really good to me. how did you set up a place to live?

This was in the 80's so I don't know how it would work now but I took a tram/bus from the airport to a hotel. I slept the night and had planned to go job hunting the very next day - when I asked someone at the hotel what direction they thought I should go I was showered with great information and it happened that someone there knew a photographer that needed someone in the dark room.

I was very very lucky.

I got the job - cash - and the photographer's wife found me a place to live.




Again I was very lucky but if I were to do it again I would plan here then move.




Also, when I left I was in a place where I had nothing to lose even if I had traveled and failed. So that's something to think about as well.


I hope you find your way.

 

[velvett]

If i attempted something like this I would just be putting off school for awhile. I really can't do that since I'm getting old as it is and still haven't completed College.

The idea of just packing up and leaving to go somewhere new sounds so appealing to me though.

Maybe you could lump the two together?

I left school mid way and started over finally graduating at 24.

Can you take a long weekend away somewhere?

That might help.

 

[flex123]

If i attempted something like this I would just be putting off school for awhile. I really can't do that since I'm getting old as it is and still haven't completed College.

The idea of just packing up and leaving to go somewhere new sounds so appealing to me though.

 

[ZKaudio]

that would be crazy, new friends are always fun though. It's all about networking.

 

[biteme]

I don't know if this is the best advice for you. But I'd say focus on your career and everything else will more than likely fall in place. That was probably the biggest mistake that I made. If I had got if out of the way when I was younger, I wouldn't have the difficulties that I do today.

 

[biteme]

I never knew what the hell I wanted to do was part of the problem. Just get your degree. Probably the best move you will ever make.

 

[PoyeBoy]

I love you mang, your freaking cool

 

[MFMan]

Sounds like you are in a slump man. Good advice so far. I guess just do some soul searching and decide what it is you want. Maybe a move or a career change is in order. Thing is though, you can't always run away from your problems.

 

[slickdadd]

Well, depending on how close you are to finishing school, I would say finish it. Or you could see about ways to stay in school but somehow travel somewhere else. Study abroad, or study elsewhere in the states for a semester or two. There are national study abroad like programs as well as international ones. Just throw yourself out there somewhere. I know the feeling. You have to live life, not let it pass. Do something where you dont now the outcome, and just experience it and be happy you can. You only live once.

 

[Drunken_Weasel]

I was chatting with Polishhammer today and I was telling him how I think I need a lifestyle change.

Have any of you just totally changed your lifestyle? How and what did you change?

I feel like I was comfortable with my past life and now that things have changed I feel I need to make more changes to make myself happier.

My routine of seeing the same people and doing the same things is just not making me a happy person. I've taken off from the gym for awhile and wanted to get back going with it for another 4 months or so before I hit a cycle. But now I think I'm just going to get back in the gym and hit a cycle starting next week. It's not the wisest choice but I know if I start one I'll feel 10 times better. Thats what I'm thinking as of now but my choice might change when I think about it some more.

My desire for a change is probbly a search somewhere else for happiness while I should be looking for ways to find happiness within myself.

Polishhammer also asked me about my self-esteem and when I thought about it afterwards I realized that I'm really down on myself and have low self-esteem. I often wonder why I don't make friendly connections with people often, and I also think that I won't find another relationship cause I don't consider myself that much of a catch for woman.

I have zero money, I live paycheck to paycheck. I drive a peice of shit car (that made me think of the adam sandler song "peice of shit car"), My personality in a conversation sense sucks, I tend to mumble and not think before I speak. Shit I could go on with crap I disapprove of myself.

So back to the question at hand..lol..anyone have a drastic change in lifestyle in their life.

Damn man.. what you just described is me aswell... Damn.

 

[Anarchist]

ive been there bro.

my best advice is to accept that your not hot. accpet tat your prolly not gonna hook up with alot, or maybe no, great looking women.

stop fighting that which you cant beat. and youll win

 

[gotmilk]

It's all about networking.

Yep.

You might be surprised about the kind of things people do around here...and the opportunities it opens for you.

What are you in school for Flex? What kind of degree?

You could always take a basic EMT course....then move to Colorado to work at the ski areas in the Winter....do landscaping in the Summers. Find a casino that is hiring....

I did a radical change. I went to school for 6 years to get a double Masters in Physical Therapy and Athletic Training...and I pretty much stopped to start a new development company..


Find something that makes you happy

 

[FreeballinDC]

I had a radical change as well. In '95, I got out of the army and moved to DC. No real job offers, but had a couple of positive responses to my resume that I had faxed in earlier ( it does help to do some prior planning).

I only knew one guy in DC, and he let me stay at his place until I landed a job. I got a call about doing contractor work for the State Department, and I hired on. Got my own place, and the rest is history.

I wouldn't have changed anything, or done anything differently.

I picked DC, because I feel at home here, it has four seasons a year, as opposed to just summer and winter, and I am not that far from the beaches, mountains, Philly or NYC. Location, Location, Location!

 

[Scarlett33]

I had a major lifestyle change at the age of 21. I had a BS degree in History at the time and a rather deadend job with the govenment. All I did was work and smoke dope. I knew that I would end up no where if I didn't make a big change, so I went back to school and got a nursing degree. After graduating I got a great job and all aspects of my life improved. My history degree was almost worthless. My advise is if you go back to school get a degree that will automatically lead in to a career. If you are at all interested in the medical field,radiology techs are in high demand as are nurses. Don't think you are too old, there were people in my class in their 60's who were retired from one job but still wanted to work.

as for the social thing, I told you a few days ago, you have to be aproachable to people. If you walk around with your head down no one is going to give you the time of day.

 

[flexygrl]

Flex,

You are in school right? What is your major? Are you excited about getting a job after school? If not, then you need to change it to something else. Don't worry about how old you are. There are people who are going back to school at 50, so don't worry about that. Try to get involved in the activities at school.

When I am feeling down I like to think of things that I loved to do, or wanted to do as a child. I always wanted to take ballet, so in college I took a ballet class. I always wanted to learn to play the violin, so I bought one off ebay and took lessons.

Find something that you always wanted to do, and do it. Take some fun classes while in school. Most of the time, this is a good way to socialize with people, because you are doing something fun that often involves teamwork, like a volleyball class or even acting.

I took an acting class last semester. It really was a lot of fun and I became friends with a lot of the people in my class. It is way to easy to just stick to the same routine, day in and day out. When you are feeling in a rut, you need to shake things up a bit. Good luck!

 

[PolishHammer1977]

So back to the question at hand..lol..anyone have a drastic change in lifestyle in their life.

When I sit and ponder what happened in the past I realize something. For that moment I pondered I wasted time in the past when I could have made a difference in the present/future. Foreward, foreward, foreward, I tell myself. Get your head out of the past. Today, now, and tomorrow.

Finding confidence and strength in yourself will pave your way.

 

[bds20002002]

Change in lifestyle.


Flex:

We should be changing every day.

Some thread. I hear u pal.

It was lost about 4 months ago. Been married for 13 yrs, two great children. And i was still lost. There was stuff i was holding on too, from my childhood/adolescance/young adulthood. I was not letting it go.

I had no guidance growing up. Was adopted, mom died when i was 4. grew up asking myself questions that had no answers.

These feeling you are having... Listen to them, think of them as signals. Signals that you can use to make positive changes in your life. Very often the most painfull times in our life are right before we are about to breakout and improve.

Do not ask the cyclical questions like "why is this??" Those "why" questions trigger us into our old feelings of doubt, fear, pain. etc.

Ask yourself how am i feeling? instead of why.. then once you hv figured out "how" u are feeling decide if you like it, or dont like how you are feeling. If you dont like: Ask yourself "What can i do, right now, to make myself not feel this way? and than take immidiate action!!!!!! no matter how complicated, easy or hard. Take immidiate action!!!!!

Use the feelings you mentioned earlier(thinking of yourself as not hving value to women, etc). To make changes in your life. Get disturbed enough to make positive changes. imagine how good you will feel when u hv the girl of your dreams!!!!!! or whatever your long/short goals are. And than do what it takes to hv her.

Or think about how bad you feel not hving these things in your life. and imaging how good you will feel when you do what it takes to have them.

Creat leverage on yourself. Pick a goal, something you hv been putting off. Figure out what you will do to accomplise that goal. And than take immidiate action!!!! Tell someone that will hold you to that goal. "example, i will hv my paper done in 4 days" and tell someone to check on you in 4 days!!!!! Will you want to tell them you didnt do it?????

That was an example becouse i do not know your goals.

Maybe we can help each other. It is monday. In one week, i want to open up 2 new accounts. I am telling you. Now next monday, will you pm me or email me asking if i did it?

The reason? When i feel like slacking off, i will think to myself flex is going to ask if i opened up the accounts. I do not want to hv to tell flex. i didnt do it.

 

[gtrcivic]

If you're in school, don't drop out. Your main goal should be to finish school and get a fabulous job in your major. Of course that doesn't work all the time.. I got out of school and couldn't find a job for 6 months. Ended up doing customer relations bullcrap work in a bank.

During the year i worked there, it got robbed at gunpoint 2x, couple good friends got shot execution style the same year(one robbed at gunpoint and executed, the other executed and his car set on fire.), and went to court only then became aware that i was a suspect in a kidnapping. It was time for me to high tail it out of Richmond or i would end up in jail from being on a killing spree for revenge or shot dead myself.

Best thing for me was to move to Wash DC area and hook up with my friends from college...Still go back to Richmond, but more to visit family than friends. Plus getting older, everyone back in Richmond wised up and figure gang life was not the thing to do anymore.

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

During the year i worked there, it got robbed at gunpoint 2x, couple good friends got shot execution style the same year(one robbed at gunpoint and executed, the other executed and his car set on fire.), and went to court only then became aware that i was a suspect in a kidnapping. It was time for me to high tail it out of Richmond or i would end up in jail from being on a killing spree for revenge or shot dead myself.

WTF...

 

[flex123]

WOW. This thread turned out great, lots of good input people chipped in. I appreciate it all.

Flexygirl~ My major is Finance. I'm extremely interested in Investment Banking but it's a long road I have to follow to get into that. I would need to work acouple years somewhere else in the field and try to get into a good
b-school.

bds20002002~ Great input also. My thing is that when I'm down on myself I really don't care about letting others down. It sucks but thats the way I am. If someone asks me if I completed something I'd probbly just say no and then be more upset with myself. But we should try it out. I'll try and remember to ask you if you opened those accounts.

PolishHammer1977~ You're so right about try to look forward and not in the past. Instead of changing stuff I should just work harder at myself and the things I've been doing, such as school.

Anarchist~ My problem has nothing to do with looks. I consider myself to be a somewhat attractive person, but that doesn't get you to far if you don't feel good about everything else about yourself.

PoyeBoy~ thats a nice thing to say..A bit scary cause you might be being a bit to honest though. If only you were a hot sexy bitch with some dark skin long black hair, long legs and some tits...well you have the tits so if everything else I'd be set.

At the end of the month my partner at work is taking off for 3 weeks so I'm going to have to pull his work also. I'm thinking of taking the 7th to the 13th off but I'm questioning it. If I take off it's not like anyone is going to be around to do anything, so I'd probbly just spend the time sitting home. I need to decide if I'm taking off soon.

Thanks for taking the time to hear me out guys/gals. I truely appreciate it greatly.

 

[casavant]

I'm about due for a change myself, bro.