Breasts: A Rant

[Saddlebags]

I wouldn't want breast surgery even though I would be a darn good candidate for a lift at least....

But I am considering lyposuction. I hate surgery, it hurts and I've never felt as good afterwards as the doctors claimed, so I'm trying to get my stubborn thighs and butt to get with the picture through diet and exercise. I'm giving it 'till I'm 30, If they are still so ugly that I could clear a beach then I will probably go for it. I don't even see it as unhealthy necessarily, It depends on the person and what it would do for them. Some small amounts of lyposuction would do so much for me mentally that the risks and cost are well worth it to me.

 

[boscoe wilson]

FYI Wend - I came VERY close to deleting the 'balloons' thread. It was so offensive to me too. But since nobody complained at the time, I left it alone.

For the future, everyone, if something or someone offends you, annoys you or generally makes you feel uncomfortable - PLEASE let me know. I might not always be able to do something about it, but by God, I'll do what I can.

I know there are many different views for this topic, but like daisy said, it is all up to the individual. No one has convinced me I needed to do it, I've made the choice on my own and my husband approves. I don't think there is anything wrong with natural breasts. I'm just tired of mine! I've been a large C since junior high, and now they're not so high! I hate having to wear a damn strapless bra with everything in the summertime! Implants have been around since the late 60's. They were originally designed for women who've nursed children, but just like anything there are risks. Alot of women on this board use AS, as do I. I've wieghed out the pro's and con's and decided to take my chances. Life's too short!

 

[Ceebs]

Most fitness professionals and bodybuilders are VERY unhealthy. They train too hard, diet too much, tan too much and often take too many drugs. It is, by nature, a self-obsessed unhealthy life.

What a funny dichotomy - doing unhealthy things to create an image of health and fitness.

Good rant, wend.

 

[Blaithin]

Wend, I get what you are saying. It's crossed my mind more than a few times. I struggle quite often with what the media and society now perceives as a hot body. On one hand who doesn't want to look good but on the other I try very hard to accept my body as is. I want to have muscle and it happens to result in a look that is appealing to me, but I mainly want it because it will maintain a great quality of life for much longer than if I didn't work out. I want to be able to enjoy the physical activities and travel later that I can't enjoy now because of having children to raise.

I did seriously consider getting implants recently. I just wanted to fill up the skin enough to make up for the sag that pregnancy has rendered. But then husband started getting all excited about me getting huge breasts and that just ruined it for me. That's not my personality or the image I want to portray. I've decided to live with my saggy breasts and accept that this is natural for someone who has had 4 children. Why fight it? Why try to be something I'm not?

And yes, I understand this is an individual choice. I don't fault anyone who chooses differently than I do. But wouldn't we eliminate so much stress from our lives as women if we didn't worry so much about such things? I bet we wouldn't if we lived in a matriarchal society.

I've even thought about how working out really isn't natural either. But unfortunately we don't live in the same society of old that provided for the physical labor that once kept people thin and in shape. So we try to re create was once natural in the gym. I figure there isn't much of an alternative unless I want to be a frail old crone in the future. I choose to be a strong old crone. No one better mess with me! LOL!

I struggle with the tanning issue because I know it's bad for my skin. But I like how it looks. I guess I've been brain washed. I've only done it for a short while but have recently decided to stop it. Once again , I feel I'm buying into someone elses notion of what I should look like. Well forget that! I'm not of mediterranean decent or other tan or darker ethnicity. I'm just plain old vanilla and I better learn to love it! LOL!

Well those are all my ramblings and opinions on such matters right now. No bashing here. Just wanted to express my thoughts!

Blaithin

 

[wend]

So good to hear, Blaithin! It IS hard to learn to love ourselves, "imperfections" and all. But it sure is worth the effort and compassion that it takes.

Again, I really didn't want to squish anyone's toes, but I felt I needed to say what I did. I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings or imply that I think less of anyone who chooses plastic surgery (about which, in fact, I know plenty). I'm 36 and have been around the block a few times, been in more than a few hospitals, and know more than a few folks in the medical professions (some of whom are family members). And I'm fairly well informed, particularly about breast reconstruction and enlargement, since I was considering a reconstruction and possibly implants for myself. My own decision is to continue to fill out my loose breast skin with muscle. I don't want scars (I don't think Frankenboobies is a good look for me), I don't want to risk losing sensation in my nipples (which have already lost too much after six years of nursing), and I don't want to risk, when lean, clearly having a foreign object under my skin (as I said, there's no way I'd elect to have them cut my muscle...I love using it too much).

I want to be able to stretch in the gym without attracting more attention than I already do. I also decided that I don't want the hassle that comes from having large breasts. Let's be honest. Faced with a large-breasted woman, most men become idiots. I remember saying to a "gentleman" in a bar once, "They won't ANSWER you..." as I tried to bring his gaze up to my face.

I've also decided that to beautify my naked breasts (after all, I DO want my HUSBAND's attention), I'm going to have my nipples pierced, instead (a look MY husband finds sexy, and since I do too, why not?). Some would say that this is crazy, I know. Not quite as risky as plastic surgery, but certainly painful and unnecessary. (He actually already seems to like my deflated balloons plenty.)

Ms. Bevery Hills, you're right, that a car crash can end your life in the gym (well, it can end your life, period). That's why we wear seatbelts and try to drive sober and sanely, and keep an eye out for those who don't. All I'm saying about plastic surgery is that we ought to use the same caution. The current obsession with the breast (which a Houma man once told me he was sure was because most American men weren't breast fed...which he said also explained their desire to suck on beer bottles) IS like the earlier obsession with wasp-waitsted women (which, btw, led some women to have ribs removed). And it's a damned shame.

Saddlebags, I hope that you research your doctor well if you do decide to go through with the lyposuction. Some of those folk get a little carried away and end up doing nerve or blood-vessel damage. (I'd also research Yohimburn, which I've heard works for some people, or Xenadrine EFX, which I'm currently using in conjunction with intense HST training and a reasonable diet...I actually discovered this morning that the cellulite on the back of my thighs that has plagued me since I was 16, even when, at 24, I was my smallest...121 pounds and a size six!...is gone! I'm now 170 and a twelve, but with tight thighs...incredible what hard work and a little discipline can achieve, given time.)

Anyway, again, I'm sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings. I certainly don't mean to be judgmental. I just gotta speak up now and then. I'm a writer and it's what I do.

 

[wend]

And BTW, Daisygirl, I hope you start taking a calcium supplement. My mother had to care for her mother-in-law during the last year of her life, as she slowly died from osteoporosis. Her spine was at a right angle, with seven broken vertebrae. Her son told me that her bones looked like lace on x-ray. She ended up more or less insane due to the pain-meds that were necessary to keep her in a state approaching comfort.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

Have always taken a calcium supplement, since about age 16, along with many other vit/min supplements. I'm not that naive about my health.

 

[boscoe wilson]

"I want to be able to stretch in the gym without attracting more attention than I already do. I also decided that I don't want the hassle that comes from having large breasts. Let's be honest. Faced with a large-breasted woman, most men become idiots. I remember saying to a "gentleman" in a bar once, "They won't ANSWER you..." as I tried to bring his gaze up to my face. "

I think its great that you are so open with your opinions, but just because you've decided implants aren't right for you, why the negativity towards others who feel differently? I personally want the biggest boobs on the block and I don't care who wants to look, and no I'm not single...happily married.

 

[wend]

(Very glad to hear it, Daisy Girl.)

Boscoe, I'm not being negative towards anyone who feels differently. That's only your perception. I'm just stating my opinion as another option for those people who may be wondering if they're allowed to feel okay about their less-than-large-and-round breasts. There seem to be plenty of people who feel that bigger is better. I'm not sure why you're so defensive about MY feeling differently.

 

[boscoe wilson]

I'm not trying to be defensive. I'm just very excited about my new friends. I feel the same way about men who like to stare too long. I'm the biggest bitch to men when I go out. I've been called a bitch more times than I can count. I think the implants may help me get over that a little. Does that make sense? I mean, thats not why I'm getting them, but they will help me get over the "what the fuck are you looking at" syndrome. At first I'm probably gonna hate that shit, but with some time you never know.