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Cutiebolic

Cutiebolic

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Heartache during contest prep...

How do you use it to your advantage instead of letting it sideline you?

I have worked so hard and don't want to lose my gains but this is just the type of thing that has put me at the bottom of a pint of xyz-thing-I-shouldn't-be-eating.

I wish I could even be mad at him but I'm just sad. It's just a shitty situation all around.

Remind me this feeling passes? I feel like I'm being ripped in half :(
 
Breakups are very hard bro, been there before...it's easier for weightlifting though! The best thing to do is stay busy! So go to the gym! It might be tough on the appetite also, but you need to just stay busy, that is the key man...if you are taking caffeine or ephedrine etc lower the dosage as these can cause anxiety...you this as an advantage.

When I went through a divorce, the only thing that got me through it was music and the gym! Another key thing, MUSIC! Listen to it constantly.
 
Sorry to hear that !! I know it's so much easier to be mad instead of sad , been there too.. It never seems like you'll get over it , like it's gonna last forever .. But then it passes and life goes on .. Stay focused , just constantly keep busy and think of the things that make u happy other then ur ex ... Hope u get better quick !!
 
all good advice. thank you.

i did kill my HIIT this morning. trying to stay on my plan, but i'm just not hungry and all i want to do is be active -- i know that will only get me completely catabolic, though. ugh.

and REALLY good heads up on the stimulants, woot. definitely hadn't thought of that one but it could easily put me over the edge to send a text i shouldn't! gotta stay strong. strapping on the old ovaries ;)
 
Thanks for the support. I haven't felt this lousy since I was 15! ;p

It helped to get to go to work this morning though, and the music thing has been great (that and you might notice I should be paying rent on this site right now -- lol)
 
Cutiebolic said:
Heartache during contest prep...

How do you use it to your advantage instead of letting it sideline you?

I have worked so hard and don't want to lose my gains but this is just the type of thing that has put me at the bottom of a pint of xyz-thing-I-shouldn't-be-eating.

I wish I could even be mad at him but I'm just sad. It's just a shitty situation all around.

Remind me this feeling passes? I feel like I'm being ripped in half :(
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I just wanted to tell you I really feel for you!! I had something similar about 2 months before I started prep. I went back and forth between being angry and being sad and the gym really became my therapy place. I used the anger to fuel the workouts and left the sadness for the steam room after. It became my 15 mins cry session in the steam room, which sounds crazy now. lol I'd reserve any crying for that specific time too.

If you can try to find other ways to cope...distracting yourself is a good one. I used to write out my feelings, listen to music and when all else fails, remind yourself how hard you've worked and that you deserve this and you aren't going to give him the power to make you cheat!!! You are so close!! You can do this!!

I know it doesn't always help in the moment but time is a wonderful cure. It seems like it takes forever, I know, but it will pass and you will be stronger. Hang in there girl!! We are here for you and cheering you on. You motivate me every day!
 
Cutiebolic said:
Thanks for the support. I haven't felt this lousy since I was 15! ;p

It helped to get to go to work this morning though, and the music thing has been great (that and you might notice I should be paying rent on this site right now -- lol)
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Tell me about it, last week I had a huge blowout with my husband in which he said he wanted to leave and I came within seconds of offering to buy him a one way plane ticket... after that we lived the most tense days we've ever had and I couldnt eat or sleep, but thanks to music I was able to work out and run, I NEVER run but it helped me a lot, swimming is also great for cardio, muscle tone and releasing pent up energy, go for a swim if you can!!!
 
Just don't listen to music that makes you think about them. Find new tunes and make a whole new work out mix. Change your routine up and keep your head up, it does take time but it will get better.
 
Thank you all so much for your responses, especially those who shared their personal stories. I can't tell you how much it has helped. This is kind of embarrassing but I haven't even told most of my friends or anyone at work yet... I'm sure that probably means I'm in denial.

Every day I feel a little bit more detached from the situation which is good and also sad. I just totally didn't see this coming, but I should have. Ugh. Enough about that!

Anyway, this week has been crazy busy but I've managed to get my lifts and cardio in and stay on my meal plan, which I'm happy about. Hope you are all well and for those on the east coast I hope you have power/water, etc back.

Lotsa love (sparkle sparkle)
C
 
Cutiebolic said:
Heartache during contest prep...

How do you use it to your advantage instead of letting it sideline you?

I have worked so hard and don't want to lose my gains but this is just the type of thing that has put me at the bottom of a pint of xyz-thing-I-shouldn't-be-eating.

I wish I could even be mad at him but I'm just sad. It's just a shitty situation all around.

Remind me this feeling passes? I feel like I'm being ripped in half :(
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My most recent breakup floored me. I barely got out of bed for a month and I stayed in a pretty bad place for a few more after that. I felt like I would never be ok.

Then, one day, I was. I was ok. I was able to just release the sadness and move on. Oddly he and I have texted in the last month off and on as friends and it's actually helped me realize how far I am from the worst of how I was feeling. It took me like eight months to really truely move on, but I've done it.

I don't tell you that to make you think it's gonna drag on that long - I hope it doesn't!! I tell you that so that if it takes a while you can keep faith that it will, eventually, get better.

I'm sorry you're hurting. It's the worst, isn't it?

(btw, took me a while to tell people in my life too. I couldn't handle sympathy, I couldn't handle "I told you so" I couldn't handle anything. My own thoughts were already too bad to deal with, I couldn't bring myself to vocalize or hear anything on top of it)
 
It's ironic I posted in here earlier this week and have just gone through a break up today. One I suspected might happen and one I felt I had to do but didn't think it would be today. Even when you know deep down it's probably for the best, doesn't always help the feeling. So CB...I'm with ya girl! and I appreciate the other posts even more now too.
 
caligirl85 said:
It's ironic I posted in here earlier this week and have just gone through a break up today. One I suspected might happen and one I felt I had to do but didn't think it would be today. Even when you know deep down it's probably for the best, doesn't always help the feeling. So CB...I'm with ya girl! and I appreciate the other posts even more now too.
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Oh, CG... I'm sorry :(
 
If you ever need to vent...shoot me a pm. I'm in a similar boat and feeling like my head might pop off any day now.

Hang in there! :)
 
My husband and I are (hopefully) nearing the end of a three week fight. It got pretty ugly, and to be honest, I'm still not sure where we stand. He is in Iraq, so I had more than enough time to think (ok obsess) about everything. I didn't want to eat, everything I heard or saw reminded me of him, and I had a hard time just getting through the days... I just had to keep telling myself that I have a lot to offer, and it's his loss if he can't see that. If things end up working out, you will be better off having recently reminded yourself just how great you really are! If they don't work out, just don't let yourself forget it!

It will get better, and will be nothing more than a distant memory before you realize it!
 
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