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I think I am going somewhere that I shouldn't. Here is the deal.
I have two friends, I'll call her 'E', him 'M'. They have been together for 5 years, but it is all starting to come undone, and I am getting caught in the middle of it. It goes like this:
'E' and I have been friends, very, very good friends for about 10 years, although I've known her for more like 14. We helped each other through relationship break ups that happened at about the same time, and she was also there for me when overcoming a drug addiction. We both have a love for each other that is shared with no one else. We shine around each other and whenever we used to go out people thought we were together. She would stay over, sleep in my room and she used to love getting on the back of my bike. I can remember a few occasions when things could have gotten serious, like the time we were both looking into each others eyes and every impulse in my body, but one, was telling me to kiss her (I didn’t). I could see she felt the same. We had and still have a lot of fun.
'M' and I have been friends for almost the same time. As a matter of fact we all used to hang out together a lot. Live in each other’s pocket so to speak, smoke pot and take drugs, party and so on. I get along great with 'M' and we are always a lot of trouble when we get on the piss together. Befor 'M' and 'E' got together, 'M' and I were getting home some wee hour of the morning, pissed, and we were talking about 'E' and I told him that I really liked her. 'M' said, "well, so do I" and it was at that point I decided I was not going to put 'E' in the middle of two of her friends that liked her. I let it be. Well, as it turned out 'M' and 'E' got together. I took this fine, no problem at all. 'E' is very special to me and I can love her as a friend, as a sister, a sister in law or my buddy's girl friend, or as my partner. After that I got more into drugs than 'M' and 'E' and almost lost it. Over four years ago I decided that drugs no longer had a place in my life, not even pot. And like I said, 'M' and especially ‘E' helped me through this. So I hold them both very close. Anyway, 'M' is a pot smoker and will be for life. 'E' is sick of his unmotivated life and wants him to stop, for a while at least. 'E' is very outgoing, energetic, loves socializing, going to dinner, and doing things. 'M' is very much the opposite and everything has to involve pot. When 'E' asked 'M' to give up pot, for her, even for only a few months, he said no. Basically making her feel that pot is more important then she is, and she has no place asking him to cut down or stop. Their are other factors as well. But I believe that this relationship has been wrong for a long time.
Now I have given you a run down, here is the current situation.
The last six months all they do is fight and talk about breaking up
I stay out of it but it is hard as they are both friends and I don't want to see either of them hurt. 'E' has asked if it came down to it if she could move in with me, as I live alone (she asked me again last night). I would never say no to 'E' for anything. I've told her that the key is out the back!
I know 'M' would not like this as I suspect he has always been a little jealous of the relationship between ‘E’ and myself.
I think I may be tempting myself too much if she moves in. I know we will work out all too well and she would love the difference in lifestyle I now have, drug free and healthy, compared with that of my past, and that currently of 'M'. I think my feelings for 'E' would grow out of control. I already think I should not have backed off 5 years ago and that I would truly treat her fine, like she always deserved. 'M' would be a fool to ever let her go. But this would go against my rule, never date or have feelings for a friends ex, no matter what. But I just may really love her. This could ruin everything as I could loose two very good friends, then again I could lose one. Is it all worth it? Can you see how this has become my problem. WTF to do?
Sorry for the long post. I just had to get if off my chest, really!
Peace
RG
I have two friends, I'll call her 'E', him 'M'. They have been together for 5 years, but it is all starting to come undone, and I am getting caught in the middle of it. It goes like this:
'E' and I have been friends, very, very good friends for about 10 years, although I've known her for more like 14. We helped each other through relationship break ups that happened at about the same time, and she was also there for me when overcoming a drug addiction. We both have a love for each other that is shared with no one else. We shine around each other and whenever we used to go out people thought we were together. She would stay over, sleep in my room and she used to love getting on the back of my bike. I can remember a few occasions when things could have gotten serious, like the time we were both looking into each others eyes and every impulse in my body, but one, was telling me to kiss her (I didn’t). I could see she felt the same. We had and still have a lot of fun.
'M' and I have been friends for almost the same time. As a matter of fact we all used to hang out together a lot. Live in each other’s pocket so to speak, smoke pot and take drugs, party and so on. I get along great with 'M' and we are always a lot of trouble when we get on the piss together. Befor 'M' and 'E' got together, 'M' and I were getting home some wee hour of the morning, pissed, and we were talking about 'E' and I told him that I really liked her. 'M' said, "well, so do I" and it was at that point I decided I was not going to put 'E' in the middle of two of her friends that liked her. I let it be. Well, as it turned out 'M' and 'E' got together. I took this fine, no problem at all. 'E' is very special to me and I can love her as a friend, as a sister, a sister in law or my buddy's girl friend, or as my partner. After that I got more into drugs than 'M' and 'E' and almost lost it. Over four years ago I decided that drugs no longer had a place in my life, not even pot. And like I said, 'M' and especially ‘E' helped me through this. So I hold them both very close. Anyway, 'M' is a pot smoker and will be for life. 'E' is sick of his unmotivated life and wants him to stop, for a while at least. 'E' is very outgoing, energetic, loves socializing, going to dinner, and doing things. 'M' is very much the opposite and everything has to involve pot. When 'E' asked 'M' to give up pot, for her, even for only a few months, he said no. Basically making her feel that pot is more important then she is, and she has no place asking him to cut down or stop. Their are other factors as well. But I believe that this relationship has been wrong for a long time.
Now I have given you a run down, here is the current situation.
The last six months all they do is fight and talk about breaking up
I stay out of it but it is hard as they are both friends and I don't want to see either of them hurt. 'E' has asked if it came down to it if she could move in with me, as I live alone (she asked me again last night). I would never say no to 'E' for anything. I've told her that the key is out the back!
I know 'M' would not like this as I suspect he has always been a little jealous of the relationship between ‘E’ and myself.
I think I may be tempting myself too much if she moves in. I know we will work out all too well and she would love the difference in lifestyle I now have, drug free and healthy, compared with that of my past, and that currently of 'M'. I think my feelings for 'E' would grow out of control. I already think I should not have backed off 5 years ago and that I would truly treat her fine, like she always deserved. 'M' would be a fool to ever let her go. But this would go against my rule, never date or have feelings for a friends ex, no matter what. But I just may really love her. This could ruin everything as I could loose two very good friends, then again I could lose one. Is it all worth it? Can you see how this has become my problem. WTF to do?
Sorry for the long post. I just had to get if off my chest, really!
Peace
RG
