Being a user

[Bobber]

Is it bad to use people to get what you need? I have been wondering this for a while now. What if they offer their assistance? Is it ok to use some one or their abilities in order to get what you want or further your status in a certain field?

Do yall believe in having to sell out to get to the top?

 

[nycgirl]

I don't think there is anything wrong with strategically using someone or their abilities in order to get what you want. I think we need more info. Provide a scenario. There are so many ways. This can be a positive thing or it can be twisted to look negtive.

 

[jerseyart]

Full of shit ingrates are the worst.

People need help fine.

But the lesson you learn in life is unfortunately the people you help the most turn out to be the biggest sacks of shit around.

Some people simply need to stew in their self created misery. If they're in that situation to begin with, there is generally a good reason

 

[Bobber]

Full of shit ingrates are the worst.

People need help fine.

But the lesson you learn in life is unfortunately the people you help the most turn out to be the biggest sacks of shit around.

Some people simply need to stew in their self created misery. If they're in that situation to begin with, there is generally a good reason

That's fucking harsh.

NYC - I mean in every aspect of life...school, work, dating.

 

[chewyxrage]

I don't know. As long as your aren't fucking with their emotions I would say it's okay.

 

[dee_wire]

some people like to be used. make them happy.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I'm a drug user...

 

[habitualhealth]

As long as your aren't fucking with their emotions I would say it's okay.

I think this is the most common form of "using" people. Mind f'king them. People who do that should....grrrrrrr.....have hot pokers stuck in their eyes or

But, a question to add....if you are the one that is lending the help whether emotional, financial, physical....how do you know if you are being used? Seems like a game of roulette if you ask me.

I agree with nyc....and also, feel like people who possess a strong heart and sound mind (aka: morals) are less likely to use people for the wrong reasons.


In my mind, if you're doubting yourself or someone else.....there's reason to doubt. (but that's just me)

 

[samoth]

Is it ok to use some one or their abilities in order to get what you want or further your status in a certain field?

Ah, you must have started grad school.

Sink or swim... and if you're too close to people that can't swim, make sure they don't grab on to you in a fleeting attempt to stay afloat. You'll likely both drown.

Just remember that your advisor is God, and to treat him appropriately. This includes daily worship and an occasional sacrifice. Better get used to fasting, too.