awkward turtle moment at work

[stilleto]

There was a meeting yesterday that I wasn't in (yay!). The sales manager, "tammy", got back to her desk after the meeting, and the IT guy that she's having an affair with was 2 steps behind her. He was at her desk for a minute, then walked about 6 feet away from her desk to a corner and started rubbing his back against the corner to scratch it.

I didn't know they were still talking, so i said, "OH, B, i have a question."
He answered and then came to my office to help more, when suddenly Tammy starts SCREAMING. she has a very shrill voice anyway, but she was totally screaming about how rude that was that she was talking to B and i just barged into their conversation. I thought she was joking, so i was laughing. Someone told her to keep it down and she started getting louder and saying my name and cursing.

I said, "i'm sorry tammy. i thought you and B were done."

and she yells, "WELL I WASN'T. NO WONDER I CAN'T GET ANYTHING DONE... (then she looks right at me) ... AND THAT WAS FUCKING RUDE!"

i just turned away at that point. she was being outrageous and screaming and cursing in an office. Later, when it was only her and I in the office, she started talking out loud like she always does. she acted like nothing happened and I barely spoke.

today, I didn't say a word to her, until she came to my office at 12:15 and said, "did you even go to lunch yet?"
I said, "it's only 12:15". She said, "oh. i thought it was later." and turned and left.

should I just continue to ignore this crazy bitch?

 

[chris302001]

I thought this was gonna be a poop thread

 

[SpyWizard]

indeed, has she apologized??

has she gone to human resources or been written up for unacceptable language in the workplace?? anger management classes?? has she been reprimanded for breaking company policy regarding inner office affairs.. ??

If i were you I'd file a complaint with HR regarding the incident "I just dont' feel comfortable being alone with someone with such a volatile temper, what's she going to do if she thinks someone is sleeping with XXXX ?? shot me?? " end quote.

 

[stilleto]

indeed, has she apologized??

has she gone to human resources or been written up for unacceptable language in the workplace?? anger management classes?? has she been reprimanded for breaking company policy regarding inner office affairs.. ??

If i were you I'd file a complaint with HR regarding the incident "I just dont' feel comfortable being alone with someone with such a volatile temper, what's she going to do if she thinks someone is sleeping with XXXX ?? shot me?? " end quote.

she has not apologized. I would feel so terrible if i raised my voice to someone at work but she screams at people all the time. if you heard her voice, you'd want to shoot yourself too.
anyway. we outsource our Human Resources. I don't even know who they are.

 

[-SD-]

where the fuck do you work, on the set of Mad Men or something? how the hell does no one get fired pulling this kind of shit?

 

[Smurfy]

Stilleto works in Bizzaroworld

 

[stilleto]

where the fuck do you work, on the set of Mad Men or something? how the hell does no one get fired pulling this kind of shit?

it's the most retarded office i've ever worked in.
the owner is a young (40, now) entrepreneur who has never worked for anyone but himself, so he has no idea that he's not supposed to tell people they are "fucking morons" and curse. "tammy" worked for him for 6 years, then left, and now she's back again... she obviously feels it's okay to yell too.

i'm thinking of telling her "Tammy, i want you to know something. If you feel it's appropriate to yell at other people, that's your business. But it's not alright for you to yell at me. I don't want to have bad feelings between us, but i don't expect you to act like that again. If you have a problem with me, just talk to me."

and leave it at that.

 

[chris302001]

Stilleto works in Bizzaroworld

 

[stilleto]

Stilleto works in Bizzaroworld

i just sent the bitch an email and told her it's not appropriate for her to yell and curse and if she has a problem with something i've done, to talk to me.

it is a very fucked up office. my marketing partner and I are hoping we find something else to move to together.

 

[-SD-]

Oh Im sorry, did my pin get in the way of your ass!! lol

 

[jackangel]

is there a fucking cunt in your office that isn't a fucking cunt.

 

[stilleto]

is there a fucking cunt in your office that isn't a fucking cunt.

me!
seriously, i'm the fun one.
i mean, i'm the only person left who isn't sales or production (my partner is a consultant for the company, not an employee), so i know i do a good job. I don't yell, carry on, complain, etc.

i don't have time for that crap.

 

[chris302001]

me!
seriously, i'm the fun one.
i mean, i'm the only person left who isn't sales or production (my partner is a consultant for the company, not an employee), so i know i do a good job. I don't yell, carry on, complain, etc.

i don't have time for that crap.

I think you'd be fun to work with

 

[stilleto]

I think you'd be fun to work with

i am.
actually, even though the owner is a huge asshole, he's asked me to help bring up morale, because he knows he brings it down.

when our CFO's favorite calculator died, i had everyone sign a sympathy card for him. It was so cute. I also made signs for everyone's door- they love them. Mine just says "Marketing. I have an idea." The purchaser's says, "Purchasing. I'll take it."
The sales Dept.'s says, "Sales. We don't see walls."

The CEO wanted me to make one for his door and surprise him. So i made one that said, "rock, paper, scissors... SHOOT." When he asked what it meant, i said that what he doesn't know is that most people play rock paper scissors to determine who is going to be the one to knock on his door.
He liked that.

plus, i never yell.

 

[nangiggles]

Did she reply to ur email yet?

 

[Strongbow]

Stilleto works in Bizzaroworld

I thought she worked for the FBI.

 

[stilleto]

Did she reply to ur email yet?

she did.
"I didn't say you were fucking rude. I never mentioned your name when I was yelling. The whole situation was rude.
I apologize if you feel that was directed at you. It was the situation."
So i said, "Ok. I heard my name a few times when you said that if I were talking to Ed and got interrupted, I would be mad. We are interrupted all the time and I would never raise my voice in the office.
Since you were looking right at me and yelling that i was being fucking rude, I assumed it was directed only at me even after I apologized.

Let's forget it. Yelling at work is never productive and I don't want the negativity between us or otherwise.

Next time, just talk please."

Then, at 1am, she sent this:
"I am truly sorry. I was only using you and Ed as an analogy. I am not made or upset . I don't hold grudges or anything like that. You remember the frustrations of working with Mike. I have that with everyone at work. I get the heat for everyone. I always have.
Again I am sorry. We can talk tomorrow. Hopefully you are sleeping now."

so that's it. It's over. I haven't spoken to her yet today (she sits at a cubicle outside my office), but i will at some point.

 

[binö]

compromising pics of this dutchess need to be posted

 

[Bikini Mod]

"I am truly sorry. I was only using you and Ed as an analogy. I am not made or upset . I don't hold grudges or anything like that. You remember the frustrations of working with Mike. I have that with everyone at work. I get the heat for everyone. I always have.
Again I am sorry. We can talk tomorrow. Hopefully you are sleeping now."

^^ Abusive beligerent POS.

Passing the blame, minimizing, trying to shift things around so that you think YOUR PERCEPTION is off.

My direct superior at our last contract was a TOTAL BULLY, yelling, screaming at people in front of the entire office. That is, with the exception of me. If my husband was not also there I do believe though, that he might have treated me that way as well.

Anyway, the guy is about to go to prison any day now. There's more yummy about it but I can't divulge it on the net. Very hush hush. LOL

But I may get the opportunity to comment to his face about how pretty his mouth is and how much of a help that may be to him in prison.... He'll NEVER be lonely.

There is no reason WHATSOEVER that ANYONE should act that way towards another person, not personally or professionally. Stuff like that makes my blood boil.

 

[stilleto]

^^ Abusive beligerent POS.

Passing the blame, minimizing, trying to shift things around so that you think YOUR PERCEPTION is off.

My direct superior at our last contract was a TOTAL BULLY, yelling, screaming at people in front of the entire office. That is, with the exception of me. If my husband was not also there I do believe though, that he might have treated me that way as well.

Anyway, the guy is about to go to prison any day now. There's more yummy about it but I can't divulge it on the net. Very hush hush. LOL

But I may get the opportunity to comment to his face about how pretty his mouth is and how much of a help that may be to him in prison.... He'll NEVER be lonely.

There is no reason WHATSOEVER that ANYONE should act that way towards another person, not personally or professionally. Stuff like that makes my blood boil.

yeah, i know.
she just came to my office and apologized again. I said to just forget it and told her that NOBODY should be yelling in the office, even if we all have to put up with it from the CEO.
She explained that she was really just fed up with being blamed for so much and didn't mean to make it sound like she was singling me out and that she was really yelling at the IT guy (who she's fucking behind his wife's back). Since he was in my office, it seemed like she was yelling at me only.

She agreed to just talk to me next time there's a problem.
btw, she's not my superior at all- she's the sales manager, i'm the marketing manager. I know i make more than her though- around $10k a year more.

 

[Sub-Zero]

There was a meeting yesterday that I wasn't in (yay!). The sales manager, "tammy", got back to her desk after the meeting, and the IT guy that she's having an affair with was 2 steps behind her. He was at her desk for a minute, then walked about 6 feet away from her desk to a corner and started rubbing his back against the corner to scratch it.

I didn't know they were still talking, so i said, "OH, B, i have a question."
He answered and then came to my office to help more, when suddenly Tammy starts SCREAMING. she has a very shrill voice anyway, but she was totally screaming about how rude that was that she was talking to B and i just barged into their conversation. I thought she was joking, so i was laughing. Someone told her to keep it down and she started getting louder and saying my name and cursing.

I said, "i'm sorry tammy. i thought you and B were done."

and she yells, "WELL I WASN'T. NO WONDER I CAN'T GET ANYTHING DONE... (then she looks right at me) ... AND THAT WAS FUCKING RUDE!"

i just turned away at that point. she was being outrageous and screaming and cursing in an office. Later, when it was only her and I in the office, she started talking out loud like she always does. she acted like nothing happened and I barely spoke.

today, I didn't say a word to her, until she came to my office at 12:15 and said, "did you even go to lunch yet?"
I said, "it's only 12:15". She said, "oh. i thought it was later." and turned and left.

should I just continue to ignore this crazy bitch?

you probably did something stupid/wrong in the situation that u just arnt realizing.

she was just reacting to the situation you created by interrupting her when B was jerkin her around, got it all out of her system, expressed her anger, and prob doesnt care anymore. you are the one who is still holding the grudge and thinking shes crazy. maybe ur at fault here

 

[stilleto]

you probably did something stupid/wrong in the situation that u just arnt realizing.

she was just reacting to the situation you created by interrupting her when B was jerkin her around, got it all out of her system, expressed her anger, and prob doesnt care anymore. you are the one who is still holding the grudge and thinking shes crazy. maybe ur at fault here

well, first of all
1. she apologized for yelling.
2. I didn't know i had interrupted her and B, since he walked away from her desk and she wasn't talking when i asked him a question. Still, i apologized for interrupting.
3. it is NEVER okay to yell at anyone at work, especially a peer. and certainly not to call them "fucking rude". Especially when it was an easy oversight.

so no. i didn't really do anything wrong.

 

[Sub-Zero]

well, first of all
1. she apologized for yelling.
2. I didn't know i had interrupted her and B, since he walked away from her desk and she wasn't talking when i asked him a question. Still, i apologized for interrupting.
3. it is NEVER okay to yell at anyone at work, especially a peer. and certainly not to call them "fucking rude". Especially when it was an easy oversight.

so no. i didn't really do anything wrong.

you seem very confident.

id say your the winner in this situation

 

[shrimp poboy]

Stilleto works in Bizzaroworld

I LIVE in Bizzaroworld

 

[stilleto]

you seem very confident.

id say your the winner in this situation

lol... i think so.
the whole office heard her yelling on monday. when she apologized in person today, even that was super loud.

 

[SpyWizard]

she has not apologized. I would feel so terrible if i raised my voice to someone at work but she screams at people all the time. if you heard her voice, you'd want to shoot yourself too.
anyway. we outsource our Human Resources. I don't even know who they are.

public and private companies are very adverse to the idea of an employee that causes through their actions or inactions a hostile work environment..

The court system almost always favors the victim, by allowing this person to be and act this way, the owners/managers condone and approve this type of behavior.. thus it is presumed that someone will be injured, physically or mentally.. thus = $$$$

I bet if you let one of the owners know that you have discovered this, and that they need to check with council to determine how to best protect against this "risk"..

They would be very appreciative..

 

[nangiggles]

is that the same "chatty" coworker that got moved close to you?

 

[stilleto]

is that the same "chatty" coworker that got moved close to you?

lol... no, that was a guy, and he got fired this past friday before he had a chance to move near me.

EVERYONE GETS FIRED.

 

[nangiggles]

lol... no, that was a guy, and he got fired this past friday before he had a chance to move near me.

EVERYONE GETS FIRED.

Damn... a chick here got fired because when the supervisor fiasco blew up and the manager's niece got the job she approached her and told her she would never consider her part of the chain of command.... and BAM got fired....

 

[stilleto]

Damn... a chick here got fired because when the supervisor fiasco blew up and the manager's niece got the job she approached her and told her she would never consider her part of the chain of command.... and BAM got fired....

not a good idea to be rude to the manager's relative...

it just shows a lack of team player-ism, at the very least.