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Awkward phone conversation with girl

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As some of you may know, I've been using this online thing called facebook, to talk to girls that go to my school. I hit on girls randomly through there in hopes to get some dates.

Anywho.. there was this cute girl named Heidi that I saw on there, and added her to my friends list and then she started IMing me. She was feeling down cuz all her friends were being jerks and she didnt have anyone to hang out with, so I asked if she wanted to hang out with me and she said thatd be really cool.

anyways, we exchanged numbers. The first night we scheduled she had to bail cuz her mom wanted to spend time with her.
Today was another day we tentatively set as a hangout after work day. I called her just now, to let her know that I was feeling worn out from work today (pretty physical and we were outside a lot so i got burned) and well it worked out well cuz she said that she couldnt probably hang out either because she was waiting for a friend to call that she wouldnt get to see for awhile again.

I'm glad it worked out that way. She gave a maybe for this weekend (itd have to be tomorrow night or sometime on saturday maybe). And I told her to call me if she wanted to hang out.

Anywho, that was a mistake, cuz now I realize that I cant just call her (cuz I told her to call me)

I'm kind of thankful we arent hanging out tonight though, because I need to do both lifting and cardio tonight, which is going to take awhile, and I'm going to want to get a lot of sleep tonight.

Shit, its sure hard trying to balance out a social life between multiple friends, working out, and women. Last night I had to skip church so I could hang with friends I hadnt hung with in awhile.



Well anyways that phone conversation was really awkward. I cant explain it. It went somewhat smoothly, but I feel weird talking to her (cuz I dont know her, and she is just some random chick that gave me her number and I'm calling her) We decided tonight wasnt a good night to hang out.
Will calling random girls get any less awkward, once I get more practice?

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Cliff Notes:

Read the very last paragraph.
 
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It happens man.

You'll get better with practice
 
always ask when you can call her.....



lets her know you are interested..lets her think she is in control of the relationship
 
The Shadow said:
always ask when you can call her.....



lets her know you are interested..lets her think she is in control of the relationship
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at his age, many women don't like that.. they like a challenge, some mystery in a guy, they don't like feeling in control.
 
When you don't know someone and want to know them, just ask every question you can think of about them (except anal ones). Do it.
 
gonelifting said:
When you don't know someone and want to know them, just ask every question you can think of about them (except anal ones). Do it.
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just don't ask lame questions, you gotta show interest, without coming off as a tool
 
and heres the punch line...

after I hung up, I realized that everything would have been a hell of a lot less awkward if I had just text messaged her instead of calling her (she uses text messaging, she said something to me through it once before)


gonelifting said:
When you don't know someone and want to know them, just ask every question you can think of about them (except anal ones). Do it.
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except anal ones? do you mean like questions relating to the anus? or do you mean really picky questions?
 
Lestat said:
at his age, many women don't like that.. they like a challenge, some mystery in a guy, they don't like feeling in control.
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exactly, plus he just met her...he doesnt want to scare her away...with young girls you gotta play the game.
 
maybe people could help you with some questions to ask her.. i personally can't i havent been in the dating scene for awhile.. ive had the same girl for almost 4 years so i will save my shitty advise for someone else :)
 
Lestat said:
at his age, many women don't like that.. they like a challenge, some mystery in a guy, they don't like feeling in control.
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agreed

to be honest dude the window of opportunity probably passed on this one

random stuff like this (meet out at a party, out in any random place, or anything where you do not know each other really at all) usually goes off or doesn't right away. not that it is your fault or anything. she might have other things going on behind the sceenes she is not telling you.

I would write it off and if she comes back and calls you so be it.
 
evansteve said:
except anal ones? do you mean like questions relating to the anus? or do you mean really picky questions?
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anal questions = do you take it in the ass?
 
NJjuice22 said:
exactly, plus he just met her...he doesnt want to scare her away...with young girls you gotta play the game.
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it is sad but true.

The Shadow, your game is on point for older mature chicks that have some experience under their belt, but its not gonna work on the college chickies.
 
Let it be will be i agree with Shadow


But sometimes when you dont really show interest, they become interested

Sorta want what they cant have sorta thing
 
evansteve said:
and heres the punch line...

after I hung up, I realized that everything would have been a hell of a lot less awkward if I had just text messaged her instead of calling her (she uses text messaging, she said something to me through it once before)
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you have to talk to her sometime if you want to bang her... same goes for her. :rolleyes:
 
Gguy9 said:
Let it be will be i agree with Shadow


But sometimes when you dont really show interest, they become interested

Sorta want what they cant have sorta thing
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chicks like interested when they are IN A RELATIONSHIP.. but if you get the cart ahead of the horse and smother things before they even get started then it done.. well not even done, its dead cuz it never was alive.. it died on the vine so to speak.
 
evansteve said:
wtf? do you want red karma? because if so, I would be willing to provide.
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now now lets all get along.. take stuff on the internet with a grain of salt!
 
nutsnack said:
now now lets all get along.. take stuff on the internet with a grain of salt!
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that guy was being a dick though dude, Im dropping a bomb.
 
Becoming said:
agreed

to be honest dude the window of opportunity probably passed on this one

random stuff like this (meet out at a party, out in any random place, or anything where you do not know each other really at all) usually goes off or doesn't right away. not that it is your fault or anything. she might have other things going on behind the sceenes she is not telling you.

I would write it off and if she comes back and calls you so be it.
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this is the best advice...and this dude knows rejection, listen to him closely :nerd:
 
I'm proud of you foxygel!!! You mentioned you asked a girl out who was upset with her friends and lonely. You might be developing the eye!!!!

Also, you must have been watching the Discovery Channel as I have told you to. Remember, the lion doesn't go for the fastest/best antelope...It goes for the weakest!!!! (or the one that stays at the watering hole too long)
 
awittyusername said:
Also, you must have been watching the Discovery Channel as I have told you to. Remember, the lion doesn't go for the fastest/best antelope...It goes for the weakest!!!! (or the one that stays at the watering hole too long)
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handicap chicks flexygel, they are easy to seperate from the pack...
 
First conversations, first dates, first time you meet their parents, etc... are almost always awkward unless there is great chemistry. Even though I didn't hear it word for word it sounds like it went fine, don't be so hard on yourself. :)
 
bdog527 said:
First conversations, first dates, first time you meet their parents, etc... are almost always awkward unless there is great chemistry. Even though I didn't hear it word for word it sounds like it went fine, don't be so hard on yourself. :)
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word. sounds like you did everythng right. sometimes it don't come together.

and gambino likes little boys. don't talk to him.
 
Gambino said:
this is the best advice...and this dude knows rejection, listen to him closely :nerd:
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He knows rejection? He started another thread about sticking 5 roast beefs in his mouth at once.
 
Lestat said:
get pwned fuckface
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Internet tough guy I see, I was joking about him asking about the anal question. Obviously he is either joking or retarded, I see youre some internet white knight in shining armor riding to the rescue. Pfft, what I said would have been laughed at on any other board, dont be such a pussy, it doesnt even involve you anyhow so I dont know why you are being such a fucktard about it. It was a comment meant in jest to evansteve, goddam there is an idiot like you on every board it seems. Seriously, get a life!! Im just passing through here retard, checking things out
 
Capt_Jack_Sparrow said:
Internet tough guy I see, I was joking about him asking about the anal question. Obviously he is either joking or retarded, I see youre some internet white knight in shining armor riding to the rescue. Pfft, what I said would have been laughed at on any other board, dont be such a pussy, it doesnt even involve you anyhow so I dont know why you are being such a fucktard about it. It was a comment meant in jest to evansteve, goddam there is an idiot like you on every board it seems. Seriously, get a life!! Im just passing through here retard, checking things out
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it was the calling him retarded.. the guy seriously needs help.
 
Lestat said:
it was the calling him retarded.. the guy seriously needs help.
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Well, look, I dont know you and I dont want to start a beef with you or him. I was only joking about the anal question
 
Capt_Jack_Sparrow said:
Well, look, I dont know you and I dont want to start a beef with you or him. I was only joking about the anal question
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its ok man, we can be friends later if you want
 
Lestat said:
its ok man, we can be friends later if you want
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LOL, well thanks for rolling out the welcome wagon for me, I feel special now. At least I got noticed. Most boards its like youre invisible when you check them out.
 
Lestat said:
just don't ask lame questions, you gotta show interest, without coming off as a tool
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not true. it doesnt matter what you say as long as you can get it to flow. you can talk about the dumbest shit as long as you continue with it and dont let on ur talking out of ur ass out of desperation or something
 
Lestat said:
it is sad but true.

The Shadow, your game is on point for older mature chicks that have some experience under their belt, but its not gonna work on the college chickies.
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Totally disagree, but thats ok
 
The Shadow said:
Totally disagree, but thats ok
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I've seen it happen many times.. my GF's little bro is 17... he meets girls and they are into him.. he is a good looking guy, very cool, into fun stuff, all around fun.. i hang out with him a lot.

So these girls show interest, and he starts sending them flowers, love poems, telling everyone he is in love...

They run for the hills! You can't do that shit man, not until you establish something with them.

You show a little interest yes, I'm not a fan of games, or playing hard to get, but if you throw yourself at them you will get shut down hardcore.


He is finally learning, although he says he has a girlfriend now, he's only met this chick once, never kissed... I tell him over and over what to do (more like, what NOT to do) but he never listens. just the other day he was like "should I drive to her house and put a rose on her doorstep for her?"

Fuck NO!
 
Lestat said:
just the other day he was like "should I drive to her house and put a rose on her doorstep for her?"

Fuck NO!
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holy shit, that kid is in for a rough time
 
Lestat said:
I've seen it happen many times.. my GF's little bro is 17... he meets girls and they are into him.. he is a good looking guy, very cool, into fun stuff, all around fun.. i hang out with him a lot.

So these girls show interest, and he starts sending them flowers, love poems, telling everyone he is in love...

They run for the hills! You can't do that shit man, not until you establish something with them.

You show a little interest yes, I'm not a fan of games, or playing hard to get, but if you throw yourself at them you will get shut down hardcore.


He is finally learning, although he says he has a girlfriend now, he's only met this chick once, never kissed... I tell him over and over what to do (more like, what NOT to do) but he never listens. just the other day he was like "should I drive to her house and put a rose on her doorstep for her?"

Fuck NO!
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I told him to ask:

"When can I call you"


...there was already one call set up that was broken etc. HE HAD called to tell her he wasnt going to make it...so she already knew he was GOING to break the date, ...to a girl that says "Im not interested in you.", regardless of her intentions


How is that in ANY way releveant to the example you just gave?
 
guys arent suppose to play hard to get.. the girls worth fucking will do that for you.. i personally like a challenge .. if i dont get a challenge i dont go for it!
 
Shoulda went tonight, and skipped a day of cardio and lifting.
 
Lestat said:
I've seen it happen many times.. my GF's little bro is 17... he meets girls and they are into him.. he is a good looking guy, very cool, into fun stuff, all around fun.. i hang out with him a lot.

So these girls show interest, and he starts sending them flowers, love poems, telling everyone he is in love...

They run for the hills! You can't do that shit man, not until you establish something with them.

You show a little interest yes, I'm not a fan of games, or playing hard to get, but if you throw yourself at them you will get shut down hardcore.


He is finally learning, although he says he has a girlfriend now, he's only met this chick once, never kissed... I tell him over and over what to do (more like, what NOT to do) but he never listens. just the other day he was like "should I drive to her house and put a rose on her doorstep for her?"

Fuck NO!
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dude, i think his subconcious homosexuality is purposefully doing these things to scare the girls away
 
gonelifting said:
When you don't know someone and want to know them, just ask every question you can think of about them (except anal ones). Do it.
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I agree.

And dont let them answer. Just spout offf question after question with no pause between them.

I guarentee that broads love that shit.
 
I'm going to give a female's point of view. She has come up with at least 2 excuses to not see you. If she was interested, she would have not backed out. No teenage/college girl chooses to do something with her mom in lieu of seeing a guy she is interested in (that sounds odd to me). Sorry to be blunt, but I don't think she is going to call you. I wouldn't bother calling her.

Way to go on the progress with the chicks. Your window of opportunity has passed on this one. Think of this as practice and go out this weekend and find another.
 
Agree with NYCgirl on this one, the opportunity passed, now this is where you can have some fun and really pull it out of your ass, you have to come up with completely ridiculous, retarded fun and bordering on illegal to save this. Come up with some crazy thing to do and include her. Thats the only chance of pulling this out of a nosedive, I would always ask if they wanted to do the craziest off the wall things, then thatd start the conversation again, I dont know even where to begin in trying to explain this to you though
 
slickdadd said:
It won't be long before you are receiving fellatio while reading the paper evansteve.
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LOL!

Steve if you find yourself freezing with nerves or fumbling around on the phone then write yourself a few notes, questions whatever on a piece of paper and have that to fall back on incase you have a block. Just ask her questions about herself...it shows you're interested in her and everyones favouite topic is themselves.

Don't pool all your efforts into one chick, you gotta get the game going with a few, play the percentages.
 
Becoming said:
agreed

to be honest dude the window of opportunity probably passed on this one

random stuff like this (meet out at a party, out in any random place, or anything where you do not know each other really at all) usually goes off or doesn't right away. not that it is your fault or anything. she might have other things going on behind the sceenes she is not telling you.

I would write it off and if she comes back and calls you so be it.
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so just give up on talking to her completely??
 
Capt_Jack_Sparrow said:
Internet tough guy I see, I was joking about him asking about the anal question. Obviously he is either joking or retarded, I see youre some internet white knight in shining armor riding to the rescue. Pfft, what I said would have been laughed at on any other board, dont be such a pussy, it doesnt even involve you anyhow so I dont know why you are being such a fucktard about it. It was a comment meant in jest to evansteve, goddam there is an idiot like you on every board it seems. Seriously, get a life!! Im just passing through here retard, checking things out
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sorry bor, i thought u were calling me retarded for the thread itself. thats why i wanted to know what your deal was. i didnt know that it was just in relation to my 'anal joke' lol!
 
The Shadow said:
I told him to ask:

"When can I call you"


...there was already one call set up that was broken etc. HE HAD called to tell her he wasnt going to make it...so she already knew he was GOING to break the date, ...to a girl that says "Im not interested in you.", regardless of her intentions


How is that in ANY way releveant to the example you just gave?
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okay, um are you talking about my situation? lol.

its not like we had a date lined up for Thursday (today). A week ago I asked her when she wanted to hang out, and she said she 'maybe' wasnt doing anything next Thurs so I could give her a call then. I called her and asked if we could do something on Fri Sat or Sun. I wasnt shooting her down, I was just trying to move the hangout day because i was tired as f*** and really sore from work. completely not in the mood.

and i needed to get both my workouts in tonight.

bdog527 said:
First conversations, first dates, first time you meet their parents, etc... are almost always awkward unless there is great chemistry. Even though I didn't hear it word for word it sounds like it went fine, don't be so hard on yourself. :)
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i think the problem is that i sound like a douche bag over the phone. I stop in mid sentence a lot. say uh.. a lot. my speach gets broken.
 
Ulcasterdropout said:
Shoulda went tonight, and skipped a day of cardio and lifting.
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you are probably right. after all women come first and working out comes second, lol, j/k. but really its hard to balance between the two. especially when your only spare time is in the evenings.

she said that she couldnt have really hung out either though, so i guess it worked out.
 
gonelifting said:
When you don't know someone and want to know them, just ask every question you can think of about them (except anal ones). Do it.
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exactly. And remember everything they tell you. If you can recite their life, everything small and big, they'll feel the 'connection' and will really start showing interest in you.

However, when I'm talking to a girl, I dont just ask the questions to blow smoke up my ass (or theirs). I'm sincere, if I ask the questions, its not routine work to get 'in', I'm asking you questions because I'm actually interested.

evan, you'll have more success if you feel like you actually like the woman. If she is just another opportunity, you wont work magic...you wont work to your full potential unless its real.
 
Ulcasterdropout said:
Shoulda went tonight, and skipped a day of cardio and lifting.
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This is probably right. To the uninitiated workouts are just for self involved pretty boys, so they don't see how a workout could be as important as a date. To her you've already established a priority, & it ain't her
 
evansteve said:
so just give up on talking to her completely??
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Word bro. write her ass off. If she calls you, then give her another chance. But don't do anything else. If she wants to see you she knows how to find you.

NYC also said it well -
"Way to go on the progress with the chicks. Your window of opportunity has passed on this one. Think of this as practice and go out this weekend and find another."

You are making good progress bro. There are lots of fish in the sea.
 
evansteve said:
and heres the punch line...

after I hung up, I realized that everything would have been a hell of a lot less awkward if I had just text messaged her instead of calling her (she uses text messaging, she said something to me through it once before)




except anal ones? do you mean like questions relating to the anus? or do you mean really picky questions?
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txt messaging is for pussies who dont have the balls to interact with a woman like a real man.
 
patsfan1379 said:
txt messaging is for pussies who dont have the balls to interact with a woman like a real man.
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word, and if the girl prefers text messaging over talking with you for real - she probably doesn't have any social skills and you shouldn't waste any time on her either.
 
UPDATE:

I ended up hanging out with her last night for about an hour. (9:00 to 10:00) I was chattin with her on AOL and she said she wasnt feeling so hot, and she was griping about how she was lonely and how all guys are jerks. I told her my offer if she wanted to hang out still stood, and then she said she wanted to hang out. so we met at a spot, and then drove from there to Perkins, and ate, as I listened to her gripe about her life. ghey.

earlier when I was talking to her online and she was complaining about how this one guy was being a dick to her (later figured out that she liked him) and she was all upset because he wouldnt let her come up and see her in North Dakota and stay at his place on a 3 day weekend.

This become the focus of our conversation on the date as well. I tried talking about other things, and that sort of worked for a bit, but the conversation tended to revert back to this central topic. Either that or the conversation was just dead, and I had to keep on picking it up again.

So yeah, she seemed kinda depressed, off on her own, and not really interested in me. then she had to get up early the next day so we drove back to my car, and we called it a night (total elapsed time: 1 hour)
Needless to say she was pretty attractive though.

Anyhoo, I dont see any possibilities with this one. Too much baggage, and she's too into this other guy, and I dont see why she thinks I want to hear about it. I guess she links to be consoled by complete strangers, go figure.

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Cliff Notes:

-Went and had dinner with said girl
-Listened to her talk about this guy she likes who is being a jerk to her, and listened to her whine about other things
-we called it a night after an hour, i dont think ill be spending too much time with her again, unless she promises to interact on a more positive level, and/or make out with me.
 
evansteve said:
UPDATE:

I ended up hanging out with her last night for about an hour. (9:00 to 10:00) I was chattin with her on AOL and she said she wasnt feeling so hot, and she was griping about how she was lonely and how all guys are jerks. I told her my offer if she wanted to hang out still stood, and then she said she wanted to hang out. so we met at a spot, and then drove from there to Perkins, and ate, as I listened to her gripe about her life. ghey.

earlier when I was talking to her online and she was complaining about how this one guy was being a dick to her (later figured out that she liked him) and she was all upset because he wouldnt let her come up and see her in North Dakota and stay at his place on a 3 day weekend.

This become the focus of our conversation on the date as well. I tried talking about other things, and that sort of worked for a bit, but the conversation tended to revert back to this central topic. Either that or the conversation was just dead, and I had to keep on picking it up again.

So yeah, she seemed kinda depressed, off on her own, and not really interested in me. then she had to get up early the next day so we drove back to my car, and we called it a night (total elapsed time: 1 hour)
Needless to say she was pretty attractive though.

Anyhoo, I dont see any possibilities with this one. Too much baggage, and she's too into this other guy, and I dont see why she thinks I want to hear about it. I guess she links to be consoled by complete strangers, go figure.

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-Went and had dinner with said girl
-Listened to her talk about this guy she likes who is being a jerk to her, and listened to her whine about other things
-we called it a night after an hour, i dont think ill be spending too much time with her again, unless she promises to interact on a more positive level, and/or make out with me.
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Hmm, doesn't sound like someone very fun to hang out with. Props to you for getting her to out with you though.
 
evansteve said:
UPDATE:

I ended up hanging out with her last night for about an hour. (9:00 to 10:00) I was chattin with her on AOL and she said she wasnt feeling so hot, and she was griping about how she was lonely and how all guys are jerks. I told her my offer if she wanted to hang out still stood, and then she said she wanted to hang out. so we met at a spot, and then drove from there to Perkins, and ate, as I listened to her gripe about her life. ghey.

earlier when I was talking to her online and she was complaining about how this one guy was being a dick to her (later figured out that she liked him) and she was all upset because he wouldnt let her come up and see her in North Dakota and stay at his place on a 3 day weekend.

This become the focus of our conversation on the date as well. I tried talking about other things, and that sort of worked for a bit, but the conversation tended to revert back to this central topic. Either that or the conversation was just dead, and I had to keep on picking it up again.

So yeah, she seemed kinda depressed, off on her own, and not really interested in me. then she had to get up early the next day so we drove back to my car, and we called it a night (total elapsed time: 1 hour)
Needless to say she was pretty attractive though.

Anyhoo, I dont see any possibilities with this one. Too much baggage, and she's too into this other guy, and I dont see why she thinks I want to hear about it. I guess she links to be consoled by complete strangers, go figure.

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Cliff Notes:

-Went and had dinner with said girl
-Listened to her talk about this guy she likes who is being a jerk to her, and listened to her whine about other things
-we called it a night after an hour, i dont think ill be spending too much time with her again, unless she promises to interact on a more positive level, and/or make out with me.
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practice makes perfect, bro. You're one step closer to success...maybe not with her, but atleast your getting experience.
 
well good for you for giving it a go, just be careful not to come across as "that guy" when you first start talking to these girls. By that don't come across as someone they can complain to all the time and have a shoulder to cry on, that will never get you any lol
 
Austin316 said:
well good for you for giving it a go, just be careful not to come across as "that guy" when you first start talking to these girls. By that don't come across as someone they can complain to all the time and have a shoulder to cry on, that will never get you any lol
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yeah, if she wants to hang out again, im going to tell her that I will but only if she doesnt complain about other men while we are hanging out.
 
evansteve said:
yeah, if she wants to hang out again, im going to tell her that I will but only if she doesnt complain about other men while we are hanging out.
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Please don't go out with her again. I'm begging you. I hate to say this, but she was never interested in you in the "dating" sort of way (see my other post). She is not going to give you the interaction that you are looking for, my dear, she only sees you as - yes, I have to say it - A FRIEND!!!

Leave it alone and go out and meet (or chat w/ online - whatever floats your boat) someone who will be into you.
 
nycgirl said:
Please don't go out with her again. I'm begging you. I hate to say this, but she was never interested in you in the "dating" sort of way (see my other post). She is not going to give you the interaction that you are looking for, my dear, she only sees you as - yes, I have to say it - A FRIEND!!!

Leave it alone and go out and meet (or chat w/ online - whatever floats your boat) someone who will be into you.
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yeah, you are probably right about this. I will probably not hang out with her anymore, unless I feel that the only reason why I am doing it is to be a friend.

I just wish I could confirm with her whether or not she actually isnt attracted to me. I never like to assume.
 
evansteve said:
yeah, you are probably right about this. I will probably not hang out with her anymore, unless I feel that the only reason why I am doing it is to be a friend. I just wish I could confirm with her whether or not she actually isnt attracted to me. I never like to assume.
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:nycgirl banging her head against her desk:

How much more confirmation do you need? She was talking about another dude at dinner!!! Do you want her to tell you that she is not interested in you? Why, Why?

Instead of wondering why she isn't attracted to you, try to think the following: You know what it is her lost, let her chase after someone that doesn't want her. Too bad for her, because I am fucking awesome and I will make the next chick I meet a very happy lady.
 
nycgirl said:
:nycgirl banging her head against her desk:

How much more confirmation do you need? She was talking about another dude at dinner!!! Do you want her to tell you that she is not interested in you? Why, Why?

Instead of wondering why she isn't attracted to you, try to think the following: You know what it is her lost, let her chase after someone that doesn't want her. Too bad for her, because I am fucking awesome and I will make the next chick I meet a very happy lady.
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you have a good point. the odds of her being interested in me are rare. if any girl talks about another guy while I'm having dinner with her, I prolly shouldnt give her a second chance. Or if they hang out with their mom instead of me.
 
evansteve said:
UPDATE:

I ended up hanging out with her last night for about an hour. (9:00 to 10:00) I was chattin with her on AOL and she said she wasnt feeling so hot, and she was griping about how she was lonely and how all guys are jerks. I told her my offer if she wanted to hang out still stood, and then she said she wanted to hang out. so we met at a spot, and then drove from there to Perkins, and ate, as I listened to her gripe about her life. ghey.

earlier when I was talking to her online and she was complaining about how this one guy was being a dick to her (later figured out that she liked him) and she was all upset because he wouldnt let her come up and see her in North Dakota and stay at his place on a 3 day weekend.

This become the focus of our conversation on the date as well. I tried talking about other things, and that sort of worked for a bit, but the conversation tended to revert back to this central topic. Either that or the conversation was just dead, and I had to keep on picking it up again.

So yeah, she seemed kinda depressed, off on her own, and not really interested in me. then she had to get up early the next day so we drove back to my car, and we called it a night (total elapsed time: 1 hour)
Needless to say she was pretty attractive though.

Anyhoo, I dont see any possibilities with this one. Too much baggage, and she's too into this other guy, and I dont see why she thinks I want to hear about it. I guess she links to be consoled by complete strangers, go figure.

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Cliff Notes:

-Went and had dinner with said girl
-Listened to her talk about this guy she likes who is being a jerk to her, and listened to her whine about other things
-we called it a night after an hour, i dont think ill be spending too much time with her again, unless she promises to interact on a more positive level, and/or make out with me.
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nice update Steve....nevermind plenty more fish in the sea, keep the channels open and you can hit this one at a later date
 
evansteve said:
yeah, you are probably right about this. I will probably not hang out with her anymore, unless I feel that the only reason why I am doing it is to be a friend.

I just wish I could confirm with her whether or not she actually isnt attracted to me. I never like to assume.
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you have NOTHING to lose, NO regrets.

call her up and say "yo, my usuall girl is out of town, and if ur going home empty manded, then maybe we could go for a romp in the hay to get our jollys off"


if she says no, who the fuck cares, shes annoying

if she says yes, kick her out right after, cause shes annoying
 
evansteve said:
the odds of her being interested in me are rare.
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^^
This way of thinking, seriously, needs to stop.

Everyone here has made bad choices when it comes to dating. You learn and move on. Stop thinking and analyzing this situation (which is funny to hear me say because I'm the Queen of Analyzation). You are young, don't waste your time on this situation - go out and meet another girl (don't leave your confidence at home when you go out).
 
nycgirl said:
^^
This way of thinking, seriously, needs to stop.

Everyone here has made bad choices when it comes to dating. You learn and move on. Stop thinking and analyzing this situation (which is funny to hear me say because I'm the Queen of Analyzation). You are young, don't waste your time on this situation - go out and meet another girl (don't leave your confidence at home when you go out).
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the point of this statement was to put the woman behind me, LOL.

all I'm doing is acknowledging what you were trying to tell me.
 
evansteve said:
the point of this statement was to put the woman behind me, LOL.

all I'm doing is acknowledging what you were trying to tell me.
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Oh, I'm sorry I misread it. Let us know about the next female you meet. Good Luck. :heart:
 
nycgirl said:
Oh, I'm sorry I misread it. Let us know about the next female you meet. Good Luck. :heart:
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hey if eavensteve were to live bye u would u do him the big favor of taking his vcard so it doesnt dangle in front of him everytime he ever talks to a girl?


what about me, thnks ;)
 
SublimeZM said:
what about me, thnks ;)
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I may be crossing the river to live in your county (I work in your county :qt: ). If I do, I will let you know the deadline for applications to become my boytoy.
 
nycgirl said:
I may be crossing the river to live in your county (I work in your county :qt: ). If I do, I will let you know the deadline for applications to become my boytoy.
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holy crap, sub may get some play after all.

any EF women live in minnesota? besides Raina, who is already taken. :(
 
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