Ariel.....Analyze this!

[broonzy]

Why am I never happy when I'm in a relationship? My gf moved in with me about 1 1/2 years ago, and now I can't stop thinking about how awesome it was when I lived alone. I mean she's great. I should be happy. She's pretty, she cooks for me, she cleans, does my laundry, etc. Even when I try to help out she tells me to go sit down. And yet I feel like I'm in prison. All the stuff she does for me now I used to do myself, and I didn't mind it then, and now I miss it. I think it's because I feel like I'm becoming dependant on her and losing my independance, and I HATE that. I like being independant and doing things for myself. Before I met her I was single for almost 2 years, and I LOVED it. I loved having my house to myself. It seems I'm happier when I'm single and free to do what I want.

Heres a quick background on my childhood and how I grew up. I lived with my father from the age of 6 or 7. Didn't see or speak to my mother very much from my teens on. Saw my dad go through lots of rocky relationships.

Sometimes I worry that I just can't be happy in a long term relationship, but at the same time the thought of being in a long term relationship makes me cringe. To me it means the end of my freedom.

So what about it? Am I seriously messed up or what?

 

[KillahBee]

I'm pretty sure every single person in the fucking universe feels or has felt like this. You're normal. Just keep on living and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

 

[Strongbow]

Why am I never happy when I'm in a relationship? My gf moved in with me about 1 1/2 years ago, and now I can't stop thinking about how awesome it was when I lived alone. I mean she's great. I should be happy. She's pretty, she cooks for me, she cleans, does my laundry, etc. Even when I try to help out she tells me to go sit down. And yet I feel like I'm in prison. All the stuff she does for me now I used to do myself, and I didn't mind it then, and now I miss it. I think it's because I feel like I'm becoming dependant on her and losing my independance, and I HATE that. I like being independant and doing things for myself. Before I met her I was single for almost 2 years, and I LOVED it. I loved having my house to myself. It seems I'm happier when I'm single and free to do what I want.

Heres a quick background on my childhood and how I grew up. I lived with my father from the age of 6 or 7. Didn't see or speak to my mother very much from my teens on. Saw my dad go through lots of rocky relationships.

Sometimes I worry that I just can't be happy in a long term relationship, but at the same time the thought of being in a long term relationship makes me cringe. To me it means the end of my freedom.

So what about it? Am I seriously messed up or what?

You are really fucked up. You should have some therapy. Or let some dude move in for awhile to just test and make sure your not geigh




I'm fugging wit you dude. I feel trapped everyday cause in reality I am. Its totally natural to feel like you do. But don't let your father's experience ruin what maybe a very special women in your life. Most gals today don't give a damn bout doing household things, so if you have one that does and doesn't constantly bitch, you shoulod maybe consider keeping her. Or in the case you still want to send her packing would you at least give her my address. or phone number and I will come pick her up.

 

[rnch]

...So what about it? Am I seriously messed up or what?

nahhhh...just like bino and the other guy posting on this thread, you are deep in the closet of self-denial.





























ya KNOW ah beeez foiking wid both of ya'll!

 

[broonzy]

I'm fugging wit you dude. I feel trapped everyday cause in reality I am. Its totally natural to feel like you do. But don't let your father's experience ruin what maybe a very special women in your life. Most gals today don't give a damn bout doing household things, so if you have one that does and doesn't constantly bitch, you shoulod maybe consider keeping her. Or in the case you still want to send her packing would you at least give her my address. or phone number and I will come pick her up.

That's good advice. I am definately torn between the 2 options right now.

 

[rnch]

broonzy, i have tried twice with live ins...just doesn't work out for me. some of us are just cannot do 24/7 relationships. i enjoy my privacy and do not take offense to others enjoying theirs.

 

[broonzy]

broonzy, i have tried twice with live ins...just doesn't work out for me. some of us are just cannot do 24/7 relationships. i enjoy my privacy and do not take offense to others enjoying theirs.

This is my second live in as well. I'm also starting to think I'm just not cut out for it. As good as she is to me, I just need my space and freedom.

 

[rnch]

This is my second live in as well. I'm also starting to think I'm just not cut out for it. As good as she is to me, I just need my space and freedom.

i hear ya! i've finally hooked up with someone who is like us (at least in the privacy area). we get together every 3 or 4 days and it's effin' fantastic. then we go back to our own houses, lives and personal space until next time.

 

[-Ariel-]

Why am I never happy when I'm in a relationship? My gf moved in with me about 1 1/2 years ago, and now I can't stop thinking about how awesome it was when I lived alone. I mean she's great. I should be happy. She's pretty, she cooks for me, she cleans, does my laundry, etc. Even when I try to help out she tells me to go sit down. And yet I feel like I'm in prison. All the stuff she does for me now I used to do myself, and I didn't mind it then, and now I miss it. I think it's because I feel like I'm becoming dependant on her and losing my independance, and I HATE that. I like being independant and doing things for myself. Before I met her I was single for almost 2 years, and I LOVED it. I loved having my house to myself. It seems I'm happier when I'm single and free to do what I want.

Heres a quick background on my childhood and how I grew up. I lived with my father from the age of 6 or 7. Didn't see or speak to my mother very much from my teens on. Saw my dad go through lots of rocky relationships.

I just woke up gimme a minute.
Sometimes I worry that I just can't be happy in a long term relationship, but at the same time the thought of being in a long term relationship makes me cringe. To me it means the end of my freedom.

So what about it? Am I seriously messed up or what?

gimme a minute, I just woke up.

 

[Strongbow]

gimme a minute, i just woke up.

lazy!!!!!!!

 

[-Ariel-]

lazy!!!!!!!

LOL I didn't even do cardio this morning...
I'm gonna be laughing my ass off this november when you are 5 10 256... and looking like Dan Kendra, and have to shop at big and tall with a 34 waist but that's everything else needing a tent size.


Broonzy... yeah you may have inherited some familial influence, however... i don't have the time...
howeever, killahbee hit it on the head... you have to abide, if that is all your problem... same thing will happen over and over, next thing you know due to habit and conditioning.. you have lost your ability to emotionally feel, and that is what 'settling down' really means to me, not planting roots and comitting to some one else, and growing yourself, but being 'timed out', basically wasting the better part of your years... chasing the ideas that something better will come along. You gotta know yourself and not let someone else be the feeling of contentment... when you go inward you expand outward. It sounds like you are someone looking for someone else to bring you joy... doesn't work that way... that's why you are never happy. Relationships aren't about joy... until one self sacrifices... one can't self sacrfiice, unless they are whole... you aint' there pal... neither am I.
We are wasting time though, cause time moves on and we don't.
Do something more introspective, however it will hit u when it hits u. However, I hope it ain't too late. Too many men die inside cause of this.

 

[Strongbow]

LOL I didn't even do cardio this morning...
I'm gonna be laughing my ass off this november when you are 5 10 256... and looking like Dan Kendra, and have to shop at big and tall with a 34 waist but that's everything else needing a tent size.


Broonzy... yeah you may have inherited some familial influence, however... i don't have the time...
howeever, killahbee hit it on the head... you have to abide, if that is all your problem... same thing will happen over and over, next thing you know due to habit and conditioning.. you have lost your ability to emotionally feel, and that is what 'settling down' really means to me, not planting roots and comitting to some one else, and growing yourself, but being 'timed out', basically wasting the better part of your years... chasing the ideas that something better will come along. You gotta know yourself and not let someone else be the feeling of contentment... when you go inward you expand outward. It sounds like you are someone looking for someone else to bring you joy... doesn't work that way... that's why you are never happy. Relationships aren't about joy... until one self sacrifices... one can't self sacrfiice, unless they are whole... you aint' there pal... neither am I.
We are wasting time though, cause time moves on and we don't.
Do something more introspective, however it will hit u when it hits u. However, I hope it ain't too late. Too many men die inside cause of this.

Fuck This. Fat Jokes HUh. Im going on a diet with lots of cardio. I was actually told in the gym yesterday that the only reason that I bench pressed so much was because I had tyranasaurous rex arms. I tried to grab a hold of that mutha fucka but my damn arms wasn't long enuff to reach him . FUGGG You told Bronnzy rite thou thats exactly what I was thinking. See when I say your a Bitch, i actually mean what Ariel said, you have geigh, I meant commitment issues.

 

[broonzy]

LOL I didn't even do cardio this morning...
I'm gonna be laughing my ass off this november when you are 5 10 256... and looking like Dan Kendra, and have to shop at big and tall with a 34 waist but that's everything else needing a tent size.


Broonzy... yeah you may have inherited some familial influence, however... i don't have the time...
howeever, killahbee hit it on the head... you have to abide, if that is all your problem... same thing will happen over and over, next thing you know due to habit and conditioning.. you have lost your ability to emotionally feel, and that is what 'settling down' really means to me, not planting roots and comitting to some one else, and growing yourself, but being 'timed out', basically wasting the better part of your years... chasing the ideas that something better will come along. You gotta know yourself and not let someone else be the feeling of contentment... when you go inward you expand outward. It sounds like you are someone looking for someone else to bring you joy... doesn't work that way... that's why you are never happy. Relationships aren't about joy... until one self sacrifices... one can't self sacrfiice, unless they are whole... you aint' there pal... neither am I.
We are wasting time though, cause time moves on and we don't.
Do something more introspective, however it will hit u when it hits u. However, I hope it ain't too late. Too many men die inside cause of this.

Ok. So then it's ok for me to want to be single again and continue my womanizing ways?

 

[Strongbow]

Ok. So then it's ok for me to want to be single again and continue my womanizing ways?

Your taking what you wanna hear out of what the man told you pecker head. You will be old and alone and kicking your own ass and still jerking off to internet porn when you are 80 is what he said nimrod.

 

[-Ariel-]

Ok. So then it's ok for me to want to be single again and continue my womanizing ways?

Yeah.... Short term I be happy, long term, not looking like the right thong 2 do. Doesn't sound like u really connect.. Though... Do ya?

 

[rnch]

Your taking what you wanna hear out of what the man told you pecker head. You will be old and alone and kicking your own ass and still jerking off to internet porn when you are 80 is what he said nimrod.

at age 80 we should ALL be so lucky!

ck ur K, sb

 

[Strongbow]

at age 80 we should ALL be so lucky!

ck ur K, sb

You know what I meant, broskie. But yea the desire to choke the chicken at 80, hope I have that and I hope I gott grandmas old ass to run up in too.

 

[-Ariel-]

lol if its any solace broonzy... my last 2 OF 3 GIGS relationships have been long distance, its so I can breathe... Also I don't get the benefits... Of up close like growing internally and emotional maturity..

 

[Strongbow]

lol if its any solace broonzy... My last 2 of 3 gigs relationships have been long distance, its so i can breathe... Also i don't get the benefits... Of up close like growing internally and emotional maturity..

cybersex

 

[broonzy]

Yeah.... Short term I be happy, long term, not looking like the right thong 2 do. Doesn't sound like u really connect.. Though... Do ya?

What do you mean, connect?

 

[broonzy]

Your taking what you wanna hear out of what the man told you pecker head. You will be old and alone and kicking your own ass and still jerking off to internet porn when you are 80 is what he said nimrod.

I actually do fear that happening. But is it right for me to get into a relationship, not because it makes me happy, but because I fear being old and alone?

 

[-Ariel-]

I actually do fear that happening. But is it right for me to get into a relationship, not because it makes me happy, but because I fear being old and alone?

Nothing wrong with being old and alone if you are self content.
Why is being alone such a big fear for...
Cause peeps depend on someone else for happyness.

That said, it's a long road...

 

[Strongbow]

Nothing wrong with being old and alone if you are self content.
Why is being alone such a big fear for...
Cause peeps depend on someone else for happyness.

That said, it's a long road...

Damn your right. I wanna fugging Divorce. Thanks Ariel

 

[-Ariel-]

Damn your right. I wanna fugging Divorce. Thanks Ariel

U cn stay home and look at you r quads all day.
LOL
I would...
Fuck, dude I need a girlie, or I'll go nuts...
I ain't there...
I went a year without dating..
Now I'm back in the loop.

However, it's my own Nature to need alota space...
Depends on one's nature.

U need a girly brah...
So do I, for now... anyway.

 

[broonzy]

Nothing wrong with being old and alone if you are self content.
Why is being alone such a big fear for...
Cause peeps depend on someone else for happyness.

That said, it's a long road...

You're right. I've proven to myself that I can be very happy being single, but like most things, that would probably get boring after a while.

 

[Strongbow]

U cn stay home and look at you r quads all day.
LOL
I would...
Fuck, dude I need a girlie, or I'll go nuts...
I ain't there...
I went a year without dating..
Now I'm back in the loop.

However, it's my own Nature to need alota space...
Depends on one's nature.

U need a girly brah...
So do I, for now... anyway.

LOL, yea I need one all the time brah....words of wisdome to you my brutha......and I quote, "injectable test makes all women more beautiful, and you more will to put up with their shit for your fix." That is a SB original my friend. Truer words have never been spoken.

 

[broonzy]

LOL, yea I need one all the time brah....words of wisdome to you my brutha......and I quote, "injectable test makes all women more beautiful, and you more will to put up with their shit for your fix." That is a SB original my friend. Truer words have never been spoken.

Funny, the test I'm on makes me wanna bang everything else other than my gf.

Well not EVERYTHING else, just chicks.

 

[-Ariel-]

LOL, yea I need one all the time brah....words of wisdome to you my brutha......and I quote, "injectable test makes all women more beautiful, and you more will to put up with their shit for your fix." That is a SB original my friend. Truer words have never been spoken.

LOL I never have taken test prop...I've got 2 more cycles on my agenda...
maybe 3 before I call it quits and before 40. I"m 31 right now.

I was an idiot, who listened to a bigger idiot and ran tren twice for my only 2 cycles.
Both at 25 and 26.

I went from 147 to 180 though in basically 1.5 years. However, I did it all wrong... took nolva for my pct... and only for a month.
The dosages for a newb were hoorible, like 75 EOD first time... 100 EOD... 2nd time
6 and 8 weeks respectively. U wanna talk about stupid.
That said... I got lucky and other than insomnia and a lil crankyness... i did not get too adverse.

 

[-Ariel-]

LOL at my last post...
Hey Broonzy... you also got some soprano in the voice no?
lol
J/K Brah.

 

[rnch]

Funny, the test I'm on makes me wanna bang everything else other than my gf.

Well not EVERYTHING else, just chicks.

(sb is sighing with relief after reading the 6 words here)

 

[broonzy]

(sb is sighing with relief after reading the 6 words here)

Actually I think he's dissapointed.

 

[rnch]

Actually I think he's dissapointed.

"don't ask.....don't tell"

 

[Strongbow]

Actually I think he's dissapointed.

LOL yea you guys wish I was disappointed.

 

[rnch]

u 2 would make porno quality "adult" movies 2gether.

 

[broonzy]

u 2 would make porno quality "adult" movies 2gether.

I'd tag team a chick with strongbow.

 

[broonzy]

I'd tag team a chick with strongbow.

Shit I forgot to add:

no homo

 

[rnch]

I'd tag team strongbow.

hardly a secret to anyone here.

 

[-Ariel-]

I'd tag team a chick with strongbow.

You guys have decapitated this thread.
It's back in the truck stop bathroom.

I like to keep my name as far away from that condom dispenser right above the trash..

Rename this thread Rnch suckers 2 bro's with Geigh Jedi Mind Trick.

Rnch Trix are 4 kids.

 

[broonzy]

You guys have decapitated this thread.
It's back in the truck stop bathroom.

I like to keep my name as far away from that condom dispenser right above the trash..

Rename this thread Rnch suckers 2 bro's with Geigh Jedi Mind Trick.

Rnch Trix are 4 kids.

Dammit Ariel, it's not my fault they always geigh up my threads!

 

[rnch]

...Rnch Trix are 4 kids.

I do NOT do kids! anything less than age 21 i throwm them back into the mix.

 

[rnch]

Dammit Ariel, it's not my fault I always geigh up my threads!

u leave yourself wide open for this....

 

[-Ariel-]

Rnch is the Wicked Witch of the Geigh.

Stay on the yellow brick road gents.

Or not... Either way.
I'm outta here, back to work.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I can only express what I have seen about my Old Grump (as I am female and recognize that the sexes are wired differently).

He has spent his ENTIRE LIFE traveling and in what I would consider semi-committed relationships. With the exception of his first wife (who he married in his early 20's just after he got back from Vietnam) I am the only other non-blonde, non-swinger. He lived his life like a rockstar with no less than 2/3 hos in the bed on any given night. He claims to never have cheated (why would he when his *favorite chick* would be the one to bring home the other chicks?) but he certainly spent his fair share of time alone. What possessed him to want to be with me freaking 24/7 at the age of 55 is TOTALLY BEYOND ME.

Me, I am wired to be a one-woman man, faithfull and a homebody, which is how I was for most of my life until my ex shattered *our life* by being a total douche of epic proportions. I've never cheated either. But until I gave a spoken commitment to another grown man, what I did, where I went and who I did *it* with when I got there was nobody's business but my own and neither did I crawl up into any man's business.

I must admit that though I am thankfull for my husband's desire to be with me (and not other women or even other men trying to avoid their women) I feel suffocated sometimes. Once I learned to live alone, I must say that I became quite used to it. I am even like that with my friends. They know that if they call me 99% of the time I won't answer the phone and won't even retrieve my messages for days at a clip. Sometimes I won't chat back even though I might be sitting right there or even open emails for days. There are many times I prefer to be all alone, not talking/interacting with a single soul and feel resentfull if that space is *violated*. Then there are other times where I prefer the company of people OUTSIDE of my home where I can be totally anonymous and *just leave* whenever I feel it, making no apologiez about why I have to leave.

My husband complains that I can be VERY disconnected from him.

He is right.

I wasn't always this way and neither was he always the way he is now.

I suppose what I am trying to say is that the only thing that is ever constant is that everything is ALWAYS changing.

If you are feeling the urge to sex other women and NOT your gf then there is an underlying issue with the relationship. If she is a good girl whose company you truly enjoy and yet you are considering *throwing it all away* for strange or just to be alone then you really should do a bit of carefull introspection.

I know exactly why my husband is the way he is, especially at this point in his life and I also know exactly what made me the way I am. Recognizing what motivates and drives your behavior is key to modifying those behaviors if you should so desire.

 

[rnch]

Rnch is the Wicked Witch of the Geigh.

Stay on the yellow brick road gents.

Or not... Either way.
I'm outta here, back to work.

that's it....stir up shit and leave....so typical of you....i dunno why u r this way....

 

[Strongbow]

Shit I forgot to add:

no homo

We would leave her rode hard and put her up wet for sho. LOL. NO FUGGING

 

[-Ariel-]

Sorry Rnch U are the Good Witch of the Geigh.
Or just allright str8, Geigh, or Cat&Dawg lova..
Makes no difference to me...
Just think its funny....

 

[tha joker]

Yes, it's absolutely okay to want to be single. Being in a committed relationship isn't for everyone, unfortunately, our society has come to look down upon persons who choose not to get married or not to live with someone. Somehow they get labeled, as cold, unloving, family issues, etc. I enjoy being married but it is very difficult and can be very trying at times. Ultimately, it is in line with what I want in life. Just because it is good for me, doesn't mean it is good for someone else. When you are ready to commit, you will know it. However, in the middle of a relationship where your living with someone is not the time to try to figure that out. Not good for you, not good for her.

 

[tha joker]

Remember, grass always looks greener on the other side. You show me the hottest girl in the world and I'll show you a guy that is tired of fuckin' her.

 

[binö]

I'm pretty sure every single person in the fucking universe feels or has felt like this. You're normal. Just keep on living and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

yeah bro don't die or nothing, that's not a way out

 

[nangiggles]

Remember, grass always looks greener on the other side. You show me the hottest girl in the world and I'll show you a guy that is tired of fuckin' her.

That reminds me of this....

 

[-Ariel-]

Relationships have to be seen as not a matter of making one happy so much... or as completing you...
You gotta be solid already. I mean, like you can't be fucking going in there looking as for the peson to be source of nourishment, entertainment, or vehicle for change.
If you are... well, degrees of course, it probably ain't gonna work.

I dunno. Like BikiniMom would know infinitely more than I would about this... I'm kindofanidiot when it comes to intimacy.
However, it appears to me she was solid before she met Grumpy Old Man...
Wow, whenever I use their screen names it kinda kills my train of thought. The whole seriousness of my statement.
Anyway, its good that you recognize this... other than what she does in the house... I mean, what like personal qualities endear her to you.
Do you connect with her at all?
It sounds like you may have jumped the gun on living together.
Like you did it cause she suggested it, or you just thought it was the thing to do based on the past relationships...
I dunno. Again, BikiniMom really is the source one should seek on this matter.

 

[seaking420]

I think BM hit it on the head....
Marriage or cohabitating is not for everyone....not sure how old you are but it sounds like you are young(30's maybe) so you still have plenty of time to worry about being alone when you're old. Dont look at what your girl does around the house...shes not a maid...when you are with her are you happy....do you get along with her...do you like the same things...its about her not what she does....what she does around the house helps and is a plus but if you dont have that connection with her it dosent matter if she gives you head daily, it just wont work for you then.
Do what makes you happy...you cant be true to someone if youre not true to yourself