Anyone go through a divorce?

[Pac12footballl]

Was she cheating on you?

No she wasn't cheating. We just can't get along anymore. About anything EVER

 

[Pac12footballl]

divorce is like death there are stages you go through...

and

you have to get bitter before you can get better..

and

the best revenge is to go out and make obscene amounts of money..

7 Stages of Grief...

1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.

2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.

You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.

3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.

You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")

4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.

During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.

7 Stages of Grief...

5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.

6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.

7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.

Yeah that sounds about right. Thanks for the advice

 

[Pac12footballl]

Just some asshole who never comes back and checks on his own thread.

Hey woody my bad. My mind is so scatter fucked i abandoned my thread. Thanks for the advice on divorcing and checking my own damn thread lol

 

[tryin2tone]

The number one cause of divorce is marriage.

And she probably is cheating on you. If she aint getting along with you, guarantee she's getting along with someone

 

[Pac12footballl]

The number one cause of divorce is marriage.

And she probably is cheating on you. If she aint getting along with you, guarantee she's getting along with someone

She's not cheating on me. I know for a fact. Its just were both always fuckin arguing and yelling. And she's always mad she stays at home all day. Meanwhile I work all day , then school, then gym . Finally see her and my son at like 10

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[WoodyO]

Hey woody my bad. My mind is so scatter fucked i abandoned my thread. Thanks for the advice on divorcing and checking my own damn thread lol

I didn't offer any divorce advice. I recommended murdering her.

 

[Pac12footballl]

I didn't offer any divorce advice. I recommended murdering her.

Yeah. And that sir is damn good advice. Maybe this winter with an icicle?

 

[WoodyO]

Yeah. And that sir is damn good advice. Maybe this winter with an icicle?

In the study, with a candlestick.

 

[Typo]

I broke up with my wife 7 days ago. I prayed to god to help me and he sent me a hot little blond chick I have already been on a date with.

I don't believe in the stages of grief, considering how each so called "professional" ALWAYS puts them in different orders.

I went through disbelief, anger, resentment, and the healing process in about 3 days!

With god with us, who can be against us?

 

[WoodyO]

I broke up with my wife 7 days ago. I prayed to god to help me and he sent me a hot little blond chick I have already been on a date with.

I don't believe in the stages of grief, considering how each so called "professional" ALWAYS puts them in different orders.

I went through disbelief, anger, resentment, and the healing process in about 3 days!

With god with us, who can be against us?

Such a liar.