another crappy love thread

[BrandonXJ]

Ok.. I'm getting concerned that I'm being too picky, or there's something wrong with me..

I dated this girl about a month ago, completely different from me.. she didn't go to school, works as a bartender, makes decisions at the spur of the moment, your regular crazy young girl.. After a while it just got to me, we were too different and I just couldn't deal with it. So I decided to find someone a bit more like me, and I went out with her yesterday.

She's from a decent upper class family, close to her parents, she's a psychologist and she's down to earth.. but there wasn't much there. I mean I *could* like her, she's alright and it would make sense for us to be together but I just don't feel anything special.. Shouldn't I though? I mean it seems to me when you meet that person it should be crazy.. you know, head-over-heels-excited just to see them and be around them..

am I expecting too much? do I need to get to know her better for that to happen? I always thought I wouldn't need to work at that, that it would be right off the bat, just like BAM! totally crazy about that person. I'm not getting any younger (26), some of my friends are starting to get married and I'm starting to worry that I'm going to end up like 35 and single and lonely.. I don't want that to happen but I can't help feeling like I'd be selling myself short if I wasn't totally and completely into a girl.. Whaddya think? Do I wait for that to come along or should I try at this one and see what happens?

 

[The Shadow]

Chemistry is there or it isnt.

A connection is there or it isnt.

 

[starfish]

Don't worry about it so much...


All my friends who did that and settled just to get married in their 20's are either getting divorced or do not seem happy/trapped. I know so many of them comment to me on my free spirit and the "balls" to live on my own terms.


Never settle.....even if that means getting married or not when you are 50.

 

[jestros]

Never settle.....even if that means getting married or not when you are 50.

I second that. I settled once, and ended up divorced at 25. If your just looking for someone to hang out with it's ok to settle a bit, but BEWARE: it could get serious with you meaning for it to.

 

[jnevin]

Dood, don't try to make something happen just because it is with some of your friends. Your gut is definitely something to listen to in these matters. 26 is still pretty young. Plenty of time to come across something you'll be happy with.

 

[BrandonXJ]

Never settle.....even if that means getting married or not when you are 50.

Thanks.. that's what I was thinking.

 

[SoreArms]

Being "picky" does mean that you'll spend more time alone and/or unhappy with the chicks that don't fit the bill, but ultimately you'll be much happier once you do find the right one. Don't settle my man, even when things look dark.

and who the hell says you "have" to get married

 

[patsfan1379]

Being "picky" does mean that you'll spend more time alone and/or unhappy with the chicks that don't fit the bill, but ultimately you'll be much happier once you do find the right one. Don't settle my man, even when things look dark.

and who the hell says you "have" to get married

i have felt this before man... but I agree with everyone else... dont rush into it, chemistry may not be there... but sometimes it grows with time...

NEVER force it though... GOOD LUCK!!!!!!1

 

[Gymgurl]

Sometimes...you have to get to know them first before you get that crazy feeling....it will happen, just take your time.

 

[patsfan1379]

you will find it when you are not looking.

 

[*MissFit*]

It happens when you least expect it..


(If that's not true.. i sincerely hope my dad can sell me off for some horses or a cow)

J/k

 

[ceo]

slow down turbo. nothing wrong with being in your 30's and single. I'm 32. My dad was 34 when he married mom and they've been married 52 years. Don't settle (as others have already told you), and don't be in a fucking hurry or you will settle and regret it later, then divorce.

 

[patsfan1379]

It happens when you least expect it..


(If that's not true.. i sincerely hope my dad can sell me off for some horses or a cow)

J/k

cc fell in love with me after like five minutes