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just when life seems to get better...another major roadblock happens.
hey guys, i posted a couple of weeks back about my situation and how i was struggling in alot of different aspects in my life worse than i ever have because i did everything i could to help my struggling girlfriend.
thankfully, things have gotten brighter in alot of ways. at least emotionally and the ability to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I've been able to slowly start to reestablish my life after nearly destroying it and my girlfriend has been able to do the same for hers and things are great between us but when things seem to look up it seems like another roadblock comes. It's not neccessarily my problem but it's involving her health and it's very very serious, so i'm not one to stand by and do nothing, especially for the closest person to me in my life.
Here's the problem........ She got breast implants about 2 years ago and everything was fine up until about 6-7 months ago. She started noticing rippling in the implants, which means there was *possibly* a leak. At the time it was nothing major but they're silicone which means she could contract silicone poisonining. We both knew it had to be taken care at some point when she had enough money. Of course in that time her and myself both had alot of financial problems so that was put on backburner.
The rippling got worse with time and we both had a bad feeling about it. But just this past week, one of the implants recently altered in shape. She didn't tell me till the other day and i couldnt tell because she's so embarrassed she doesn't even take her bra off in front of me anymore.
She e-mailed a doctor, since she couldn't afford to see one, and the doctor told her that there was most definetely a leak.
Now the situation is dire and she needs to do something about it. Problem is she has very little credit and my credit has only been established for a couple of years. we both tried getting a loan for the procedure but to no avail. She has almost no family in her life right now...and the family members she does have cant get approved either. Her close friends who would cosign have the same credit problem we have.
If it was any other time in my life, i would have been able to lend her money to get it done but things have been horrible for me financially like i said. I may be able to get about 2 grand by selling a high end watch i held on to when i was successful, but that's a long shot because i never had a chance to invest money to fix it.
She was thinking about selling her car but then she wouldn't even be able to work and she's also awaiting a court date for some idiot that hit her car while she was parked. The damage is still there so she wouldnt even get enough even if she did sell it.
I have absolutely no idea what to do and i know she feels helpless. I was thinking of maybe asking my parents or sister to cosign a loan but they already view my girlfriend in a negative way because they blame all the problems i have in my life on her, unjustly. It's hard for me to stomach because i know if i had asked my dad to lend me the money a few months ago before my life turned upside down, he would have...but he knows of my problems and definetely woudlnt entrust 3-4 thousand dollars to me just like that.
I bet alot of you guys who know my situation are probably thinking she's nothing but problems(as some of my friends and family assume from a distance), but that's the furthest thing from the truth. She's most caring and genuine person i have ever met in my life and we've both been dealt a bad hand the past few months. It just sucks because we've overcome so much adversity up until this point, and just when we thought the storm was weathered..this happens. I could probably write a best selling book on all the shit that has happened in our lives in the past few months.
Any suggestions or ideas would be greatly appreciated...i know there's always a way to resolve a problem, even serious ones but this one is very difficult and my brain is stuck.
hey guys, i posted a couple of weeks back about my situation and how i was struggling in alot of different aspects in my life worse than i ever have because i did everything i could to help my struggling girlfriend.
thankfully, things have gotten brighter in alot of ways. at least emotionally and the ability to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I've been able to slowly start to reestablish my life after nearly destroying it and my girlfriend has been able to do the same for hers and things are great between us but when things seem to look up it seems like another roadblock comes. It's not neccessarily my problem but it's involving her health and it's very very serious, so i'm not one to stand by and do nothing, especially for the closest person to me in my life.
Here's the problem........ She got breast implants about 2 years ago and everything was fine up until about 6-7 months ago. She started noticing rippling in the implants, which means there was *possibly* a leak. At the time it was nothing major but they're silicone which means she could contract silicone poisonining. We both knew it had to be taken care at some point when she had enough money. Of course in that time her and myself both had alot of financial problems so that was put on backburner.
The rippling got worse with time and we both had a bad feeling about it. But just this past week, one of the implants recently altered in shape. She didn't tell me till the other day and i couldnt tell because she's so embarrassed she doesn't even take her bra off in front of me anymore.
She e-mailed a doctor, since she couldn't afford to see one, and the doctor told her that there was most definetely a leak.
Now the situation is dire and she needs to do something about it. Problem is she has very little credit and my credit has only been established for a couple of years. we both tried getting a loan for the procedure but to no avail. She has almost no family in her life right now...and the family members she does have cant get approved either. Her close friends who would cosign have the same credit problem we have.
If it was any other time in my life, i would have been able to lend her money to get it done but things have been horrible for me financially like i said. I may be able to get about 2 grand by selling a high end watch i held on to when i was successful, but that's a long shot because i never had a chance to invest money to fix it.
She was thinking about selling her car but then she wouldn't even be able to work and she's also awaiting a court date for some idiot that hit her car while she was parked. The damage is still there so she wouldnt even get enough even if she did sell it.
I have absolutely no idea what to do and i know she feels helpless. I was thinking of maybe asking my parents or sister to cosign a loan but they already view my girlfriend in a negative way because they blame all the problems i have in my life on her, unjustly. It's hard for me to stomach because i know if i had asked my dad to lend me the money a few months ago before my life turned upside down, he would have...but he knows of my problems and definetely woudlnt entrust 3-4 thousand dollars to me just like that.
I bet alot of you guys who know my situation are probably thinking she's nothing but problems(as some of my friends and family assume from a distance), but that's the furthest thing from the truth. She's most caring and genuine person i have ever met in my life and we've both been dealt a bad hand the past few months. It just sucks because we've overcome so much adversity up until this point, and just when we thought the storm was weathered..this happens. I could probably write a best selling book on all the shit that has happened in our lives in the past few months.
Any suggestions or ideas would be greatly appreciated...i know there's always a way to resolve a problem, even serious ones but this one is very difficult and my brain is stuck.
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