Am I wrong to be PO'd about this wedding?

[ponyfitness]

Went to a wedding for a co-worker on the weekend. The couple is Asian, and I know that it means lots of Asian food at the wedding. I'm allergic to fish, shellfish and nuts so normally Asian food is impossible for me.

So I told the bride the situation before the wedding and told her I wasn't going to come because of the allergy problem so no big deal (I always give a gift anyway). She checked with the caterers and they told her they would have a special meal put aside for me and my g/f so no worries - so I said great, I'll go.

Beautiful wedding, everything was cool - until the meal. Ten course meal laid out. Two courses went by and no sign of any food I could eat - and I confirmed with the people signing us in on the guest list that the caterers knew about everything. So I get up and tell the person they tell me is in charge (Asian hall, nobody speaks good English) what's going on. They bring us a plate of beef and broccoli. Fine.

FIVE MORE COURSES go by with no sign of any other food. By now I'm pissed but of couse I'm not going to bother the bride - we had been sitting there for over an hour and a half at this point with one plate of food. So I complain again. They bring out a chopped up chicken that looked like crap and a plate of plain noodles for us. My girlfriend was really pissed too and basically we sat there for over three hours not eating and getting embarassed because everyone else at the table was eating and having a great meal.

Needless to say I'm never going to an Asian anything ever again. The stupid thing is I gave them a gift that should have paid for both meals - that we didn't get. We had to go out for dinner after this stupid reception because we were both starving. How hard is it to put together a damn salad or give me some freaking chicken balls?

Just venting.

 

[stilleto]

its not the brides fault.
You should let the catering manager know though, but its too late now anyway.

btw, chickens have balls?

 

[The Shadow]

too late now....

 

[alien amp pharm]

That's what you get for going to a wedding. Weddings are stupid.

 

[stilleto]

^^^
oh, it just occured to me.. chickens DO have balls!

 

[KillahBee]

its not the brides fault.
You should let the catering manager know though, but its too late now anyway.

btw, chickens have balls?

Well, it is the bride's fault (or whomever was managing that process). They should have ensured all F&B was exactly how they planned it.

HOWEVER, the real issue here is that a bride and groom have about 7 million things going on when planning a wedding, logistically speaking. Not to mention the fact that they are about to go thru the biggest moment in their lives together.

SO, your meal falling through the cracks isn't and shouldn't be very high on their priority list. Sometimes things don't work out like that. Such is life.

 

[DannoMight]

I woulda vented out on the open bar.

 

[stilleto]

Well, it is the bride's fault (or whomever was managing that process). They should have ensured all F&B was exactly how they planned it.

HOWEVER, the real issue here is that a bride and groom have about 7 million things going on when planning a wedding, logistically speaking. Not to mention the fact that they are about to go thru the biggest moment in their lives together.

SO, your meal falling through the cracks isn't and shouldn't be very high on their priority list. Sometimes things don't work out like that. Such is life.

thats what I mean- she let the caterers know, they said they'd handle it... after that, i'm sure the couple had a lot of other things on their minds.
Ponyfitness should have grabbed a waiter or hostess and said, "bring me xxx please".

 

[mrplunkey]

They had other things going on. Now if you are in a restaurant with just you and your GF... and it's your choice and your $$$... you have more of a reason to be upset.

But this really is someone else's day -- let them have that day.

 

[ponyfitness]

Well, it is the bride's fault (or whomever was managing that process). They should have ensured all F&B was exactly how they planned it.

HOWEVER, the real issue here is that a bride and groom have about 7 million things going on when planning a wedding, logistically speaking. Not to mention the fact that they are about to go thru the biggest moment in their lives together.

SO, your meal falling through the cracks isn't and shouldn't be very high on their priority list. Sometimes things don't work out like that. Such is life.

I agree. I did talk to the people "in charge" twice and apparently they didn't give a shit - either that or they couldn't understand me. That's what pissed me off so much. I should have eaten one of the dishes and had a reaction so they had to call the ambulance. Then I could have sued them. But that would have ruined the day. I didn't want to bother the bride with my petty problems. Just wish I had a cheeseburger to eat through the goddamned 3.5 hour reception.

Lesson learned.