Am I a LOSER or what ?

[Grantie54strong]

I was friends with this girl who I fell in love with. She has a boyfriend og about 2 months. Anyway she told me she loves me as well. So i asked her what she thinks of her boyfriend ans she said she just likes him but loves me. Now I want to be with her and all and she says she cant right now because she has commited herself to him and all that shit. She says that she will feel to bad and that there relationship has gone too far for her just to stop it now. What must I do. I really love her but am I stupid. I think I am such a loser. The thing is I really believe her when she tells me she loves me.. I used to laugh at people like me, now i just do not know what to do .. PLEASE HELP......

 

[Taps]

DOT hit it on the head, bro.

Take a stand and if she chooses the other guy, deal with it and move on. The only way you'll ever be a loser is if you wait around for her.

 

[decem]

how the hell do you commit yourself to someone after only 2 months? why would you want to? why would you place limitations on the people you might possibly meet simply because some guy has taken you out a few times and hasn't shit on you yet? why would you hold yourself back from being with who might quite possibly be "the one" because you feel obligated to be with someone who obviously is not "the one"?

ask her that...




out of curiosity.. how long have you known this girl?

 

[Grantie54strong]

I have know her for about a year. I hear what u r all saying and thanks, but I really love her, I love her so much that I am willing to just walk away if she doesnt choose me. U know all I want is for her to be happy....

 

[havoc]

Talk about shallow, I've stepped in deeper puddles. Like my honky DOT said, if this numskull of a girl actually loved you and knew the true definition of that word, then she would be with you in a second, without hesitation whatsoever. She is playing around, like a little girl. Keep her honest, if you can get some ass every now and again from her that would be solid, but go find someone else if the opportunity arises. You are quite naive if you think she loves you in an honest fashion, no matter how sincere she sounds. peace

 

[decem]

I have know her for about a year. I hear what u r all saying and thanks, but I really love her, I love her so much that I am willing to just walk away if she doesnt choose me. U know all I want is for her to be happy....

one more thing.. are you sure she isn't saying "i love you" in that "i love you because you're my friend.. you'll always be my friend.. i like hanging out with you.. i can tell you anything.. but don't go thinking there's gonna be any more than just good friendship between us because i don't love you like that" kinda way??

 

[Grantie54strong]

Well I saw her by accident on Sat night and she could not keep her hands off me. I tried to avoid it but she kept on trying then we sort of kissed but only for like a second then when she left she told me that she loves me but cant be with me cause the time is wrong because she is with this other guy and if it was a differnt time then everything would have been perfect. FUCK I dont stop thinking about her......

 

[Pimp C2]

Dude, she is just trying to keep you around as a Plan B, probably due to insecurities on her part.

 

[decem]

Well I saw her by accident on Sat night and she could not keep her hands off me. I tried to avoid it but she kept on trying then we sort of kissed but only for like a second then when she left she told me that she loves me but cant be with me cause the time is wrong because she is with this other guy and if it was a differnt time then everything would have been perfect. FUCK I dont stop thinking about her......

ok.. i think i caught the problem.. were you at a club? was she rolling? cuz x has a tendency to tell people the love people even though they really don't....

before you go getting all wound up.. i think you betta ask a sista what she was on that night...

 

[FreakMonster]

She seems like she's just playing with you. If she really wanted to be with you this guy would have been history along time ago.

What makes her think this relationship with this guy is gonna work if she doesn't even love the guy?

Tell her to dump the chump and get with the hunk!
Or you can tell her to get rid of the zero and get with the hero!

 

[strider364]

DOT hit it on the head, bro.

Take a stand and if she chooses the other guy, deal with it and move on. The only way you'll ever be a loser is if you wait around for her.

100% agree. Their are other fish in the sea, Bro.

 

[JLo]

I am female - and MY opinion is that if she loves you, then if you give her an ultimatium - she'll choose YOU.

If I was in love with a guy and he said, "Look JLo - if you love me then you need to be with me or else I'm moving on and not looking back..." I'd be like, "Nooooooooo !!!!!!!!! I DO love you and I want to be with you.....I'll end it with the other TODAY!"

So, if she won't do that it's one of 2 things - she either knows you will be there in the end....or she's playing you BOTH.

 

[casavant]

I remember your other threads about this girl. I hate to say it, but "I told you so".

 

[Drizzt]

She seems like she's just playing with you. If she really wanted to be with you this guy would have been history along time ago.

What makes her think this relationship with this guy is gonna work if she doesn't even love the guy?

Tell her to dump the chump and get with the hunk!
Or you can tell her to get rid of the zero and get with the hero!

Ya or drop the dog come bob my hog. Plenty of lame lines you can use bro =). Otherwise it sounds like you are gettin played like a piano here friend a girl doesn't kiss you then just say "the time isn't right we can't be together". I say ditch the bitch and find someone else.

Drizz

 

[Jimsbbc]

Dude, she is just trying to keep you around as a Plan B, probably due to insecurities on her part.

I think she is playing you like a bitch. Don't let that pussy whip you!!!!! WHIP THAT PUSSY!!!!

 

[casavant]

Grantie-

C'mon man- how old are you? You can't be over 17.

 

[Grantie54strong]

I am 23 and she is 19 and hell amn I love her so much. I told her this morning that I am not going to call her or anything and that if she wants to see me then she has to make a plan. This shit really gets me down.......

 

[decem]

I am 23 and she is 19 and hell amn I love her so much. I told her this morning that I am not going to call her or anything and that if she wants to see me then she has to make a plan. This shit really gets me down.......

what'd she say to that?

 

[Grantie54strong]

Nothing as of yet , I guess ill have to wait and see.........

 

[Mr. Destiny]

sounds to me like infatuation

 

[Lord_Suston]

if she really loves you...

Then she's thinking about you when that guy is sticking her.... C'mon snap out of it she's playing you. Two Months is nothing, if she really liked you then she would have broken up with the guy cause shit doesn't work out when you like someone else. Do you and her hangout ever or was this just a random meeting and you don't see her often???

 

[supersizeme]

Ok check it out. This girl is 19...girls at 19 are about as stable as frorider's torso is when he's walking and there's a slight breeze.
A crystal clear example of how this girl is going to be treating you when/if she's your girlfriend, is being shown to you right now. It's like a movie you're watching entitled "Here's How I Treat People I Commit To", munching popcorn, but not quite realizing that you should be paying attention instead of staring at the cleavage on the movie screen. Like havoc said, get yours every now and then but don't commit to her. This girl will remove your heart, drop it into some liquid nitrogen, pick it up with a pair of tongs, and then drop it from a minimum 5 story building.