All these threads about "picking up chicks"; how 'bout equal time?

[buksoon]

Okay. What does a woman do if she notices a charming, funny guy? What's the one thing a woman can do to catch your attention?

Maybe I'll get some serious answers amid all the "Show him your tits" or "tell him you swallow" or "do deadlifts right in front of him" or "Babe, stop me following me around!"'s.

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Try putting out, guys like that.

 

[Natymike]

talk to him

 

[buksoon]

Goatboy: Like, right there in the gym? Would we exchange names first or just go to it like the Discovery Channel?

 

[danielson]

smile at him. nice warm smile

he smiles back (it will be involuntary, he may even be embarrased he was so pleased that a hot chick smiled at him - i was last time )

now he may be a little to shy to come up to u sooo......

ask him a lame question, something like 'can i change the radio, can u spot me on deadlifts/squats just to get the convo started. introduce yourself, get a rappor going and then if alls going well just say do u wanna get a post work out carbn dose at the juice bar

its so fucking easy for women to ask out men as we are more receptive/ less woman-y about these things. just fricking smile. thats all. make sure u didnt eat spinach as well.


or you could get a pencil and deapthroat it 1cm away from him. breath out o the way down it stops gagging

 

[HumorMe]

[email protected] are too fucking funny!

 

[buksoon]

Smile? Are you kidding me; I smile like I just sucked on nitrous oxide!

I always smile at the guys, and they always smile back reflexively and I think happily.

But I never talk to them! I get all ... yeah, your word: "womany." Nervous, shy.

So silly!

 

[Austin316]

smile at him. nice warm smile

he smiles back (it will be involuntary, he may even be embarrased he was so pleased that a hot chick smiled at him - i was last time )

now he may be a little to shy to come up to u sooo......

ask him a lame question, something like 'can i change the radio, can u spot me on deadlifts/squats just to get the convo started. introduce yourself, get a rappor going and then if alls going well just say do u wanna get a post work out carbn dose at the juice bar

its so fucking easy for women to ask out men as we are more receptive/ less woman-y about these things. just fricking smile. thats all. make sure u didnt eat spinach as well.


or you could get a pencil and deapthroat it 1cm away from him. breath out o the way down it stops gagging

I agree totally, Im much better at talking when approached by someone, I get too nervous if Im the one that has to do it. Im sick of getting the looks, batting of eyes, playing with hair and smiling, and then just standing there waiting for me to do something. Im not good at initiating conversation, the only time I am is when Im good and drunk

 

[Honeynut]

well buks, if you want to meet the boys I suggest you get over it Guys are so used to being the ones to make the first move I'm sure they'll all tell you how flattering it is to be approached for a change. Odds are in your favor they'll be very receptive

 

[danielson]

i get nervous and shy to. thats both sexes it seems.

i meant woman-y as sometimes its all fucking mind games etc. i.e. she wants to ask u out but would rather u ask her but then she wnts to refuse at which point u sever contact with her then she gets pissed......

trust me

smile at him. he smiles back. the you SAY SOMETHING...anything will do

hi....2 fricking letters ....come on a iknow you can do it. u will get a hi back. then introduce yourself, and ask 1 question....something like 'i havent seen u here before' or 'so are u a full time memebr here'

if hes not a complete fucking inbred retard he WILL make efforts to try and continue the convo. they may be lame ones. ghive him a break. and if hes bothered becuase he wants to lift then thats fine too....leave him or say u'll speak to him later, and then actually do...chances are hess chat to u anyhow


yeah austin316 inm the same too....alcohol makes me inhibited ....if girls actually started up convo it makes matter easier, as u dont know whether shes gonna do a snapping turtle and try and bite urdick off just because u thought she was coming on to u

 

[buksoon]

But the looks, the batting the eyes, playing with hair and smiling are probably because she thinks you're so cute and vibrant and there are so many gorgeous 34D blondes at the gym that she'd be a fool to go talk to you!

So you're letting your mutual terror prolong your (gasp!) celibacy! Ugh, foolish pride!!!

I've been lusting after the juice bar guy for a while. He just smiles and has a way about him. But I've been staring at him for so long that to go up and get a protein shake now would be too nerve-wracking.

So what else is a girl to do? C'mon, ideas! Pep talks! C'mon, boys!

 

[buksoon]

Smart boys you are. I will go be good grasshopper and apply this wisdom!

But if my ego gets terribly bruised with his rejection, YOU are buying me my pint of Ben & Jerry's!

 

[danielson]

But I've been staring at him for so long that to go up and get a protein shake boys!

heh heh heh

them be simple sugars in there to ya know

ask him if he ever gets bored sitting back there/hungry. he will say yes unless hes got somthing in his mouth and hes chewing.

then say do u wann go get something to eat at this 'great' snackbar you know somewhere where the foods so great etc.

basically get hi out of the gym/away from his peers

unless theres a huge age difference your sorted if u do this. once ur out of the gym its plain sailing.


there is one sure fire way he will know yu want him. lick ur lips and rub ur crotch legs akimbo. if hat isnt putting a huge sign over ur head saying 'i want u' nothing else will

if he rejects u hes a chump as he just passed on a great time

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Approach #2

Render him unconscious with a slab of concrete. From there, grind up some viagra and shove it down his gullet. Take him home and have fun.

 

[kunta]

try sniffin their ass like a dog and if he farts, he likes you...... but i like SG's better

 

[bstone]

Honestly, in my opinion, the best way for you to show interest is to SHOW INTEREST! Most women are so damn secretive they will take their crushes and interests to their grave.
Where I am from the women are so fucking snotty that it makes you not even want to talk to them. Even the disgusting ones think they are the shit!
Men don't want to wade through a sea of shitty looks and hard-to-get games just to introduce ourselves.

 

[buksoon]

So ... smile and show interest?

But aren't you Y-chromosomes all about the hunt? You think you like the girl with the big smile for you, but you like aloof. You like the girl who carries herself so she it appears she is out of your league.

Isn't that at least somewhat true?

 

[b fold the truth]

buksoon: Just be yourself. Yes, even the little shy person that you are...even though you are hot-headed...just be yourself. The right guy will like even that about you. Remember...you are looking for the "right" guy...not just the cute guy.

B True

 

[bgdaddysmooth]

If you just see them from across the bar, just go up and talk to them. Once the conversation has started, instinc should take over. Most girl give out clues and they don't even know it. Here are the main things I look for.

1. Eye contact. This is HUGE
2. Physical contact. It doesn't have to be some serious stuff like making out or even dancing. Just as long as there is some for of physical contact.
3. lots of smiling
4. playing with your hair

These are just a few

 

[bgdaddysmooth]

If you just see them from across the bar, just go up and talk to them. Once the conversation has started, instinc should take over. Most girl give out clues and they don't even know it. Here are the main things I look for.

1. Eye contact. This is HUGE
2. Physical contact. It doesn't have to be some serious stuff like making out or even dancing. Just as long as there is some for of physical contact.
3. lots of smiling
4. playing with your hair

These are just a few

 

[TheSalami]

lick his ass hole

 

[Honeynut]

Hm, there was another thread a few days ago, a guy asking girls how they showed interest - you might find some good points on there... I'll dig up the link for you.

as for: "But aren't you Y-chromosomes all about the hunt?" , well in my experience with men I'd say SOMEWHAT ... meaning once you've got him, don't latch on to him like a denver boot. Just remember that the world doesn't revolve around him, and you should keep in mind you're an independent woman who's able to do her own thing, and doesn't need to be on the phone with him every hour asking him what he's doing or when you're going to see him next.

But this isn't your issue. You just need to get his attention in the first place. And from what you've described, you don't sound like the type to go smother a total stranger with attention, you're a little too shy for that. I think any guy would think you were cute about shyly asking him to go for a bite somewhere.

Try it! The worst that can happen? He says no! When YOU turn a guy down, do you point him out giggling to your friends, "hey look at that guy, what a loser!" NO, I doubt you do this (and if you do.... well, if it happens to you you deserve it ) J/K
It's highly unlikely being turned down would end up being embarassing for you. I don't think you're risking much by giving it a shot. Even if he says no, you've definitely caught his attention, and the least you can expect from now on is a little smile of acknowledgement when your eyes meet over the blenders.

 

[Honeynut]

here's that link

http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=48205

 

[furious]

Nice girls always get me. For some reason, it seems to be popular for the ladies to say "I'm a bitch" or something to that effect. Sweetness kills me, but then again, I'm a romantic in Los Angeles. How many are there left?

 

[Weapon X]

Nice girls always get me. For some reason, it seems to be popular for the ladies to say "I'm a bitch" or something to that effect. Sweetness kills me, but then again, I'm a romantic in Los Angeles. How many are there left?

I agree, bro!

 

[Honeynut]

where, oh where are you hiding?? lol
So many women are pining for you!!!
I looked for years for a guy who'd let me be sweet to him without punishing me for it

 

[plifter]

Well, I'm extremely shy and most of the women I've been with came after me. Try talking to the guy for a few minutes every time you see him. Be sure to put on a flirtatious smile. He'll get the hint. If that doesn't work then hit him over the head with a club and drag him back to your cave. (A woman did that to me once, it's a very effective technique)

 

[badazzwhitedude]

I see it coming. Be really nice to him, show interest, completely fall for him, etc. Then, he shows interest in you. He treats you very well. Poof..........you're gone.

 

[buksoon]

Badazz, you're right

That happens a lot. But not for the reason you think it does.

Sometimes I'll be crazy for some guy and as soon as we interact ... he's as attractive as tuna fish-flavored ice cream.

It's NOT because I (I think I'm speaking for a lot of women here, so I'll change the 'I' to 'we") don't like when a man responds to us and is nice.

We DO like nice guys who appreciate us!!! You guys will never believe that, but it's true! Nice = sexy! Appreciative and respectful = fuck me now! Aloof jerk = buh-bye! (At least for non-masochistic women.)

The reason we pull back is that ... we can be broomheads who fall for a guy based on a beautiful smile. Women are notorious for "picking out wedding china patterns" after nothing more substantial than a frienly "hello."

This guy who I mentioned--I don't even know him. So it's VERY likely that if we actually interacted, I'd lose interest when I saw that he wasn't my fantasy after all. Just a nice smile.

So it has nothing to do with not wanting a nice guy or only wanting the "challenge" of a disinterested guy (screw the challenge! the challenge can't keep you warm at night!). Instead, it's about becoming infatuated with no real basis.

Which is probably equally foolish, but we do it.....

 

[badazzwhitedude]

Re: Badazz, you're right

We DO like nice guys who appreciate us!!! You guys will never believe that, but it's true! Nice = sexy! Appreciative and respectful = fuck me now! Aloof jerk = buh-bye! (At least for non-masochistic women.)

This guy who I mentioned--I don't even know him. So it's VERY likely that if we actually interacted, I'd lose interest when I saw that he wasn't my fantasy after all. Just a nice smile.

A fantasy is just that. A fantasy. There is a huge difference between fantasy and reality. I shake my head when I hear a girl say she is looking for her "knight." A knight in shining armor. It is fantasy, not reality.

I have been somewhat both ways. I have been a really nice guy the last couple of years. It got me absolutely NOWHERE.

Before that, I was just playing and using girls. I wasn't a "jerk," per say. I was still fairly nice. But I made myself so inaccessable to them, they couldn't stand it. I would give them just enough "play" to stick around, then kind of ignore them. I had so much pussy, I could puke. Girls were lining up to go out with me. Now that I have been a "nice guy" and so much more of a genuine person, I don't have fucking shit. What does that tell you? It's back to my old ways, I assure you.

Many of you girls are the reason why many of us guys act the way we do. Inside, many of us would like to be "nice," but then you show absolutely no appreciation for it.

I posted this a while back. A longtime friend of mine said something a while back, and it will stick with me forever. He said, "Treat a girl like a queen, and she will never respect you. Treat her like a piece of shit, and she will love you for life." I have experience this firsthand.

I think you meant it like this:

Nice = jerking yourself off every night
Appreciative and respectful = alone
Aloof Jerk = can't keep 'em off with a stick!

 

[Frackal]

Buksoon:

I will not even deal with bitchy chicks at all...no chick has the right to walk around with their noses in the air, that shit irriates me and turns me off immediately. All that will get you is grudge fucked and dumped.

Nice, sweet, pretty girls with a good sense of humor is what gets me...my current girl is all of these.

 

[nitlyan]

if hes not a complete fucking inbred retard he WILL make efforts to try and continue the convo. --Danielson

LMAO!!!