Advices Needed please

[theoak01]

as we know im going away for work,this is the life I choose for now and it will be for a few years.

my girl is real upset about it and I asked her is this will be an issue in our relationship,she says she doesnt know.

what the fuck do I do

 

[gotmojo]

as we know im going away for work,this is the life I choose for now and it will be for a few years.

my girl is real upset about it and I asked her is this will be an issue in our relationship,she says she doesnt know.

what the fuck do I do

Well how do you actually feel about her?

 

[theoak01]

dont wanna be with anyone else man,if it was an easy decision it woulda been made already.

right now im just drunk and emotional,bad combination

 

[gotmojo]

dont wanna be with anyone else man,if it was an easy decision it woulda been made already.

right now im just drunk and emotional,bad combination

Uh, Oh....

Yer right.

I hate to say it but, this seems like one of those "If it's meant to be, it will be." type situations bro.

 

[theoak01]

ya im thinking thats the case,either shes there when i get back or she isnt.

one way or another ill surivive ,i just know what i want.

this job sure was easier when i was single

 

[nugget]

dont wanna be with anyone else man,if it was an easy decision it woulda been made already.

right now im just drunk and emotional,bad combination

Almost better to go hunting with a case of beer in you than try to figure out your emotions on a six pack. Neither is advisable.

 

[gotmojo]

ya im thinking thats the case,either shes there when i get back or she isnt.

one way or another ill surivive ,i just know what i want.

this job sure was easier when i was single

It's always that way my friend.....Just make the most of what time you have left with her and leave on the best note possible.

 

[theoak01]

well ive drank 10 beer and 12 double rye and cokes,seems like sleep is my best option

 

[bignate73]

as we know im going away for work,this is the life I choose for now and it will be for a few years.

are you going to be gone for a few years?

are you going to be able to see her frequently?

here is what you have to ask yourself....

is it fair to put her on hold for a couple years? people can and will change and it might end up being a couple years of you holding out and her holding out and then you get back and its all different. the problem you run into is resentment. you not being there when she needs you. her holding out for a couple years etc.

you've gotta approach this with fairness. you are leaving for years. in that case you almost gotta let them go free to live life. she shouldn't be expected to put life and relationships on hold to pick up when you get back. I have a feeling this could cause some serious drama for you when away. Sure you are going to miss her and want to know you have someone back home waiting for you, and I'm not sure of the social scene where you are going, but her social scene wont be put on hold or stop just because you are gone.

i don't know bro. not trying to be negative but just trying to tell it like it is. I've seen alot of good bros go overseas for just 6 months and come back home to a divorce. people have needs and companionship has to be real, not a letter and a phone call or email. for something like 2-3 years....i'm just not sure I'd even want to try to string that along.

 

[digimon7068]

Time apart is good. . .trust me. Go to work. . .stay in touch with your girl. . .see her as often as you can. If you've been around her everyday for quite a while. . .it's difficult to determine exactly how you feel about her. However, a couple of weeks apart will tell you more than a year together. . .trust me!!

 

[heatherrae]

Can you take her with you? A few years is a long time to ask someone to wait in the wings.

 

[digimon7068]

Can you take her with you? A few years is a long time to ask someone to wait in the wings.

Agreed. But, I had no clue that I was in love with my girlfriend (now my wife of 14 years) until we were apart for about six months. . .During that time I saw her on weekends and once in a while during the week I'd jump in my car and blast the two and a half hours to where she moved just to be in the same room with her and breathe the same air for a few hours. . .then I'd get my butt out of bed at 4AM and blast back to work. About a month into the commuting thing, I realized that I was madly in love with her and didn't care about anyone else. Up to that point, we had been seeing each other everyday for about a year. When someone is in your face all the time, it's hard to step back and evaluate.

Time apart is good.

 

[theoak01]

i wont be gone for a few years straight,I worded that shitty,Ill be travelling on and off for a few years,there will be times Ill be gone for a month,get a week off,then gone again for another month,thats basically how this job will work.

I got a feeling she wont be there when I get back but we will see

 

[heatherrae]

well, that would really would be one of those time will tell sort of situations, then, I think.

 

[theoak01]

ya i figure so,I dont really think there is much else to say about it

 

[fistfullofsteel]

my girl is real upset about it and I asked her is this will be an issue in our relationship,she says she doesnt know.

100% she is sucking another guys cock as soon as she gets the chance!!! sorry brother. honestly i'm not trying to be dick, but i don't know how many women i could have fucked that are supposed to be committed to some other guy.

Me: Aren't you married?

Her: So, I do my thing, just as long as he doesn't find out!!


You ask her, where is the hubby??? Out working his balls off to support the serpent.

 

[heatherrae]

100% she is sucking another guys cock as soon as she gets the chance!!! sorry brother. honestly i'm not trying to be dick, but i don't know how many women i could have fucked that are supposed to be committed to some other guy.

Me: Aren't you married?

Her: So, I do my thing, just as long as he doesn't find out!!


You ask her, where is the hubby??? Out working his balls off to support the serpent.

Ummmm....don't listen to this guy Oak. There are plenty of them who are faithful too.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Ummmm....don't listen to this guy Oak. There are plenty of them who are faithful too.

Huckster, quick, get in here!!!!

 

[Smurfy]

well was she aware that you would be leaving for a long period of time for work when you two started your relationship? if not, then perhaps it has all come as a surprise and rather suddenly, and you two cant make rash decisions about those things overnight. think it through. and dont try to make decisions when youre drunk LOL

 

[bignate73]

and dont try to make decisions when youre drunk LOL

come on! those are when the best ideas come. havent you watched any of the google videos of bottlerockets and lighter fluid.....


sorry...

back on topic.

 

[EnderJE]

Break up it. And go gay...I mean, Canadian.

 

[theoak01]

well was she aware that you would be leaving for a long period of time for work when you two started your relationship? if not, then perhaps it has all come as a surprise and rather suddenly, and you two cant make rash decisions about those things overnight. think it through. and dont try to make decisions when youre drunk LOL

she knew,i told her before we make this serious you gotta know that I go away for a while sometimes for work, even then she wasnt sure she could handle it,but I really dont think she thought id be leaving.

but i gotta get paid so im goin

 

[Wulfgar]

as we know im going away for work,this is the life I choose for now and it will be for a few years.

my girl is real upset about it and I asked her is this will be an issue in our relationship,she says she doesnt know.

what the fuck do I do

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