Advice needed re: miscarriage

[vinylgroover]

My brother's wife had her second miscarriage this weekend in the space of 10 months.

They are both quite distraught. The first one was 10 weeks in, the second was only 1 week in. She feels as though there is something wrong with her, which i know is not the case.

I'd really love to help them both and any advice on any way's of improving the chances of a successful birth would be appreciated. Is there anything my sister-in-law can do whether it's a change in diet, activity levels, medication etc that will help......or is it just a random occurrance that can't be improved.

She is quite active, a high school teacher by occupation. She also dances and teaches dancing outside of school. She is quite fit, eats clean......although she could eat more meat, non-smoker, non-drinker. She is about to turn 30.

Any advice through personal experience or even references to respected websites, clinics, etc would be very much appreciated.

Oh, if you'd prefer to keep your personal experience off the boards, i'd be happy to hear via PM. Thank you.

 

[Ceebs]

I'm so sorry.

You might get more and better responses if you posted this on the women's forum - a lot of really knowledgeable gals there don't read the chat board.

 

[WarriorPL]

Sorry to hear man. But as Ceebs said, the Woman's board is where you'll find answers. I hope the second will be the last one.

 

[vinylgroover]

Thanks guys....I'll post it on the woman's board as well.

 

[thebabydoc]

Actually, it's not that unusual.

The chances of a miscarriage prior to 12 weeks is between 1 in 3 and 1 in 5

The chances of back-to-back miscarriages is therefore from 1 in 10 to 1 in 25. If they suffer a third, then further testing is indicated.

98+ percent of early miscarriages are cause by genetic malformations, where the fetus simply does not have enough (or the correct) genetic information to become a normal baby. As such, when you think about it this way, it is usually for the best- it is nature's way of making sure that they are able to have a normal pregnancy sooner. In this case, the pregnancy was probably what is called a "blighted ovum"- a fetus never formed.

If you consider the stages of embryo formation and how reproduction occurs vis-a-vis the division of chromosomes, etc, etc... it's a wonder that pregnancies manage to get to term at all.

If they never saw a heartbeat (ultrasound) on either pregnancy (and they could not have on this one), that's a slightly better indicator but either way, they shouldn't begin to worry yet.

Only thing she should be doing is taking prenatal vitamins with folic acid to help prevent spinal tube defects.

Their Ob/Gyn should be providing all the reassurance and information they need; if he/she is not, they need to find a better doc.

PM me if I can answer any specific questions.

tbd

 

[vinylgroover]

Thanks babydoc.

She actually changed her ob/gyn from her first pregnancy and apparently this one isn't much better.

I will tell her about the prenatal vitamins and once i have spoken with her in greater depth today or tomorrow, i may come back with some specific questions for you.

Thanks again.

 

[jwill3:16]

you said she has been checked to make sure she has no probles... did she ever have any problems that could impact te problem. I'm sorry to hear bro good luck

 

[vinylgroover]

My gf had a miscarriage with her previous husband. Blessing in disguise because he turned out to be a pathological liar, thief, loser, idiot, asshole, self-centered, egotistical dipshit of a human being. After sticking her with $50K in car leases he bought another that his mom cosigned for. They came after her because he wasn't paying so she called the police on it.
Doesn't help your brother's wife but I feel better. On a serious note my sister is an OB-GYN so I'll get some scoop from her.

Thanks DT