A random babble.....

[Lestat]

This will be pretty much an uninteresting and personal rant/vent.. but here goes.

About 2 years go I met a friend through a roommate at the time. This guy was just starting to workout and had similar interests as me so we started hanging. He liked going out, partying, and working out. We both snowboard as well...

Anyway he had just gotten married to the girl hes been dating like 9 years (hes 32 now). She in the 2nd year of her Residency so she works 80+ hours a week usually.

When we went out this friend was pretty much always on his own.. (ie no wife) so he would go out picking up chicks. It was cool in a way because he was just one of the guys.. plus being married he had the "I don't give a fuck" attitude that girls seem to like.. the confident attitude.. because of this he would pull in a lot of women for he and his friends.

I never saw him really cheat on his wife, and I had never met his wife so it didn't bother me...

But over time it did start to bother me.. mainly because of this.. whenever I brought a female friend of mine around and he was hanging out without his wife, he would flirt non-stop and touch them and see how far they would let him go with his flirting.

Also there have been times when we go out and I may be talking to a woman and he basically cock blocks me and makes his move...

On top of that I have since met his wife and become good friends with her as well, I really respect her as a friend. When he is with her they are a very happy couple and he is very respectful to me and my friends, but when he is away from her its like he is a single guy just trying to get laid. I think he does it to make sure he still has "it" or is still desirable to the opposite sex, or to get some level of validation... but now it is to the point where I don't want to bring my friends around him (female friends) and I don't want to even really go out with him if he is not with his wife.

I've never said anything to him, well actually once when I was dating someone and he kept asking for her # so they could hang out I said dude, no. And he says "why are you so insecure?"...

Brian

 

[vixenbabe]

I hope some young doctor steals his wife away from him....

 

[Raina]

Hard to say but if my significant other was doing that, I'd really want to know. That's incredibly disrespectful.

 

[PHATchik]

The guy has issues. Is his wife completely oblivious? It'd serve him right if she just left him for some young doctor. lol

 

[Raina]

The wife isn't necessarily blind. My bf's brother was like that. He tends to date trashy bar sluts last fall he was dating a really wonderful sweet girl. When she was around he would be So nice to her. She felt so special. When she wasn't there, he'd whine that she was coming over and he'd have to put up with her.

One night we spent the night at his house and when we got up in the morning he had some 18 year old girl walking out of his bedroom in a tee shirt. I wanted to smack him. His roommate's gf eventually told her and she was sad/pissed, but at least she knew what he was up to.

 

[PHATchik]

I hope that if the wife doesn't have a clue, she gets one. He needs to be put in his place.

 

[Lestat]

His wife doesn't susepct a thing. She knows he is flirty by nature, but has no clue that when he is out with the guys, sometimes he is out with the guys AND girls.

Its ironic because sometimes when I'm hanging out with both of them together they talk shit about how one of our friends cheats on his girlfriend all the time and my friend's wife can't respect her because of what she knows.

Unfortunately she would never leave him for a young doctor, she is very committed and very in love with him.

Brian

 

[PHATchik]

I just wish he had a wake-up call to realize what he is doing and what he stands to lose.

 

[beastboy]

OT: Vbabe...nive av!

 

[vixenbabe]

BIGGGGG difference between flirting and taking phone number's from single chicks in a bar. I'm sorry, that totalllllly crosses the line.

I know one thing.....I'd know if my man was screwing around on me. I can read him like a fricking book. It's a sixth sense us ladies can attain after many years.

Hey, just because she's committed DOES not mean she would put up with this crap or NEVER leave him.

I'd blow him off as a friend reeeeeal quick too!

 

[Lestat]

I'm not going to blow him off as a friend entirely. He has many great qualities about him. This is just the one thing that frustrates me. And I feel guilty as well because at first I am sure I thought it was "cool".. and it wasn't until it started affecting me that I really realized what is going on.

I would like to talk to him about it.. but I am not sure what I could say.

 

[vixenbabe]

If I were his "pal" and saw him playing his game, I'd simply say,
" Hey, what time does your wife get off work?".

 

[Lestat]

I say that all the time to him.. but not when hes in front of a girl that doens't know... I've inadvertantly done that before and needless to say he gets pissed.

 

[TEXgrl]

i don't see how this guy can have any qualities that are good. cheating is a real sleazeball thing to do. he sounds like a very immature person. if you can't tell his girl person to person, how about an anonymous note?