When you get to the point to where you are using gear to look good for the women...then you need to re-evaluate whom you are. I have never lifted to look more attractive to the opposite sex...that's just not a reality. If a woman likes me for my body...then I guess that's ok...but the feeling will not mean much to me. In fact...most women where I live do not like the way that I look...but that's ok...that means that I'm getting closer to where I want to be. When someone tells me..."you're too big", then that's fine...it's just my body...I can live with that kind of put down.
I've learned that no matter how much you train, use gear, or make the most of your genetics...if you do not have a true heart, then you have nothing. If a woman can not take the time and the effort to see my heart over my body...then why waste my time.