A fair, thoughtful, objective conclusion about Stained's fiance

[Steroid_Virgin]

THEY WOULD GROW TO HATE ME.

A lot of us here have grown to hate you, yet you make us all suffer with your bullcrap almost constantly??

Whats the fucking difference lady?

You care about us more, you're going to come visit EF, but not your kids..

 

[dballer]

I can't do that.

You don't know how much this hurts me. I feel like every day a little piece of me dies because I was the one who cut their finger nails, I was the one who made their halloween costumes, I was the one who taught them right from wrong, I was the one who was sleep deprived for 10 years nursing, potty-training, teething.... IT WAS ME.

He will never let me go. Don't you see. I can't let my girls suffer like this anymore.

I will NEVER take them from their father. Regardless of how hard he is making things on me, he loves them and does care for them. And if I take them from their father THEY WOULD GROW TO HATE ME.

No, one day it is my sincere hope that they will want to live with me again... If that day comes, then I will be the happiest woman alive.... And if it does not, then I will STILL BE HAPPY because I know that my children will not be caught in hell.

I can see your dilemma.. but I really do not think you should have to go that far from them. Like someone else said, what if...

God help you if somthing happened and they needed you. I am not sure how many kids you have or how old they are.. (I never claimed to) but I do know this, kids need a mother and a father. When they are young, they need a mother, when they get older.. they need a father.

I hate the world sometimes knowing that kids are suffering like this. People get married fuck, have babies.. then get selfish and decide they hate eachother.. where it is easy enough to leave someone you hate... what about the kids that were made? I am not reffering to you in particular, but in general. I have morals and family values. I cannot believe that someone can go in front of all their family, friends and make a promise in front of them... to them and most importantly.. to God. Then betray that promise... if someone cannot keep a promise to everyone they know.. their family,, to God!!! how can we imagine them doing anything involving trust.

this might offend someone.. but I am not pointing the finger. But what I am bitching about is what is causiing this problem for her kids in the first place.

 

[Fonz]

I normally don't really cut in into this types of family discussions, but I grew up w/ a lot of diplomatic/government kids and a LOT of them had divorced/separated parents.
In almost every single case, the parent that lived apart was almost always ostricized.
They won't hate you Bikinimom. They will be INDIFFERENT to you.
At least until they're past University. Then, thay will most likely want to see you(Age does wonderful things). But until they hit 22,23...forget it. They will not contact/talk to you.

Fonz

 

[Bikini Mod]

I can see your dilemma.. but I really do not think you should have to go that far from them. Like someone else said, what if...

God help you if somthing happened and they needed you. I am not sure how many kids you have or how old they are.. (I never claimed to) but I do know this, kids need a mother and a father. When they are young, they need a mother, when they get older.. they need a father.

I hate the world sometimes knowing that kids are suffering like this. People get married fuck, have babies.. then get selfish and decide they hate eachother.. where it is easy enough to leave someone you hate... what about the kids that were made? I am not reffering to you in particular, but in general. I have morals and family values. I cannot believe that someone can go in front of all their family, friends and make a promise in front of them... to them and most importantly.. to God. Then betray that promise... if someone cannot keep a promise to everyone they know.. their family,, to God!!! how can we imagine them doing anything involving trust.

this might offend someone.. but I am not pointing the finger. But what I am bitching about is what is causiing this problem for her kids in the first place.

You are correct about many things Dballer. I took my marriage vows very seriously, but after things got irresversibly FUBARed (I won't go into it now because it is a mute point) I asked for a divorce.

That was OVER 2 YEARS AGO!.... I have given him every consession with exception of signing a document whereby I would relinquish ALL RIGHTS TO MY CHILDREN... AND I AM STILL NOT DIVORCED!! I never fought with him over stupid shit and NEVER EVER KEPT THE CHILDREN FROM HIM!

My husband isn't a bad man. He has a sound character, honestly he does. He is just choosing to surround himself with negativity and I believe that he honestly does NOT REALIZE how fucked up he is making things for us all.... because he doesn't want to let me go.

I just want a life for my children - THAT IS ALL. I am not asking for jack shit - just peace for them.

They mean everything to me - EVERYTHING. So I will not allow them to be dragged through shit anymore. Do you have any idea what it is like to have your children caught in a tugofwar between the two people who THEY LOVE MOST?!

IT FUCKS THEM UP!

And the MOTHERFUCKING SCUM-SUCKING ATTORNEYS who fill peoples' heads with lies in order to jack up their legal fees!!!

My girls are the kindest, most beautiful, good-hearted, amazing children on the planet. Everyone who comes in contact with them loves them. Yes, I am biased because they are mine, but you don't get an entire camp full of counselors giving you their numbers BEGGING to babysit your kids if they weren't truly great kids.

I have to trust that all the good that I have done with them will grow even though I won't be able to smell their hair or hear them laugh for I don't know how long....

My girls are nearly 11, 9, 8 in two weeks and 6. Every one of them gifted and amazing in every way.

They deserve better than to see their mother dragged to court ever several weeks over some nonsense BULLSHIT so that an attorney can line her pockets.

I will never EVER leave them.... But I can't live here either.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I normally don't really cut in into this types of family discussions, but I grew up w/ a lot of diplomatic/government kids and a LOT of them had divorced/separated parents.
In almost every single case, the parent that lived apart was almost always ostricized.
They won't hate you Bikinimom. They will be INDIFFERENT to you.
At least until they're past University. Then, thay will most likely want to see you(Age does wonderful things). But until they hit 22,23...forget it. They will not contact/talk to you.

Fonz

They don't have to contact me.... They don't owe me anything. I owe it all to them.

I WILL CALL THEM. I WILL EMAIL THEM. I WILL NM WITH THEM. I WILL VISIT AS OFTEN AS I CAN. I WILL HAVE THEM COME SEE ME AS OFTEN AS THEY CAN.

The relationship between my children and I has not deteriorated AT ALL since their father and I split. As a matter of fact, it got stronger... I have no fears that I will remain as close to my girls as humanly possible... I have no delusions or rose colored glasses. I know what you say may very well happen. But I also know of cases where this did NOT.

 

[Steroid_Virgin]

"I will never EVER leave them.... But I can't live here either. " BOO HOO

Look here Lady, I got the solution...

Cut yourself in half... half of you can stay here, the other half in france...

 

[DcupSheepNipples]

I normally don't really cut in into this types of family discussions, but I grew up w/ a lot of diplomatic/government kids and a LOT of them had divorced/separated parents.
In almost every single case, the parent that lived apart was almost always ostricized.
They won't hate you Bikinimom. They will be INDIFFERENT to you.
At least until they're past University. Then, thay will most likely want to see you(Age does wonderful things). But until they hit 22,23...forget it. They will not contact/talk to you.

Fonz

Enough Said! If you know the formula of mankind, then you know the solution to the PROBLEM comes in the future!

 

[JohnyJuice]

If i could rip my own head off, i would.

Maybe some black dude will make me his bitch.

Masculinization is a bitch. Damn dbol.

Blowjobs from young school girl type, 5 dollars. Anyone?

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Damn KJ, that shit was awesome.

 

[dballer]

I do know what it is like. My mothers sister is going through the same thing. Except her husband turned fag!!! She had one child with him. Then she re-married and had 3 more kids. Now the fag dad wants the first child back and to change his last name!! He has 3 little brothers.. he is 9 years old!

I do know.. I care alot about little kids. They are the last hope for salvaging family values. But it is us who need to teach them. We need to show them tolerance.. we do not need to show them that mommy and daddy hate eachother.. or when they act up give them drugs to make them easier to handle.

Fuck your lawers.. go over to your husband and tell him how you feel and just reason with him. If it means you have to be nice to him just to make those gilrs happy.. so be it. You are a big girl.. you can handle that!!! If he is a good guy.. well you DID once love him so it is not like he is a rapist. If you guys were all together for their birthdays.. or better yet.. Christmas.. shit, imagine how happy those kids would be to have mom and dad watching them open Christmas presents.

Ask this guy what he really wants.. and give it to him. Tell him what you want and get it. You do not need lawyers. This is your family.. like it or not.

 

[JohnyJuice]

I'll try to remember this whole silly scenario when things get HAIRY for me!

Dont you think you have reached that point yet? Your ass is a full blown beard by now.