You know what sucks:

[Stryker1992]

I just have to vent:

My dad is a severe alcoholic and at this point half retarded from all of the drinking. I have been trying to get him to get his shit together for like two years. I have had no help from anyone else in my family. I am sick of dealing with stupid counselors that don’t know shit and understand my dad is a manipulator and then he gets them to do everything for him. I have finally given up on trying to help him. That makes me sad as hell. The thing is no one in my family has been there to support me. I fucking hate all of them!

 

[ortiz34]

It's a disease bro, I'm sorry you're going through this. I've dealt with the same stuff with close family members, sometimes you need to let them hit rock bottom before you can help

best of luck

 

[lander2312]

You cant help someone who doesnt need/think they need it. Sorry for the frustration and pain.

 

[PICK3]

You cant help someone who doesnt need/think they need it. Sorry for the frustration and pain.

^^^
agreed!

you can't "fix" him.

This is something that he's going to have to decide for himself.

 

[Stryker1992]

It's a disease bro, I'm sorry you're going through this. I've dealt with the same stuff with close family members, sometimes you need to let them hit rock bottom before you can help

best of luck

It is just fucked up man. If you saw my old man you would think it would be impossible to go any lower. He weighs like 135, is broke, losing his house and car. Has no friends, no family. Blacks out all day....idk man.

 

[nangiggles]

I know it sucks and when u try so hard and put so much effort and fail its SO damn frustrating, just never lose faith, keep ur distance but enourage him to change everytime u can (no passive agressive sarcasm frases....)

 

[PICK3]

So has he always been this way while you were growing up, or did the disease progress in recent years?

 

[javaguru]

I just have to vent:

My dad is a severe alcoholic and at this point half retarded from all of the drinking. I have been trying to get him to get his shit together for like two years. I have had no help from anyone else in my family. I am sick of dealing with stupid counselors that don’t know shit and understand my dad is a manipulator and then he gets them to do everything for him. I have finally given up on trying to help him. That makes me sad as hell. The thing is no one in my family has been there to support me. I fucking hate all of them!

Have you looked into Al-Anon...some people claim its helpful.

 

[OMEGA]

If it was me and I had the means

Id lock him up "Cleaner" style ( as in the A&E show)

and do a Smart as detox so he does not go in shock, then after 2 weeks of being sober id have him on my schedule and try to get a new pattern for him

I did that to one person who was injecting stuff............to this day he thanks me for even trying

I myself have fallen before and it really matters to have friends and family that care more about you then you do...

Opiates and Alcohol are the worst to "crash" from as it takes the bodies chemistry long too revert back to normal which takes a good while...

 

[OMEGA]

sometimes you need to let them hit rock bottom before you can help

I respectfully disagree

its best to intervene earlier when things have not spun out of control

 

[Stryker1992]

So has he always been this way while you were growing up, or did the disease progress in recent years?

He was this way when I was a kid then was clean for 20 years then relapsed severly.

 

[ortiz34]

He was this way when I was a kid then was clean for 20 years then relapsed severly.

damn, although he "could" have been a closet drinker for some or most of those 20 years

 

[Stryker1992]

damn, although he "could" have been a closet drinker for some or most of those 20 years

I kind of think there were times bro but IDK. He is out of rehab now so we will see.