Is it SEXIST to say women are weaker than men?

[Alpha-Male]

It's amusing how some here are responding as if the whole incident was premeditated. There we were casually talking, I admit I was horny as hell, she was looking smoking hot, but then the sambuca really kicked in and it just happened in the heat of the moment. It has nothing to do with any supposed 'issues' I have. She's actually one of the few I genuinely got on with.
And I was really enjoying the party (up till what I can remember).

 

[cindylou]

You should not be upset with her but upset with yourself. What changes do you think you should make to be sure this never happens again?

 

[musclemom]

It's amusing how some here are responding as if the whole incident was premeditated. There were we were casually talking, I admit I was horny as hell, she was looking smoking hot, but then the sambuca really kicked in and it just happened in the heat of the moment. It has nothing to do with any supposed 'issues' I have. She's actually one of the few I genuinely got on with.
And I was really enjoying the party (up till what I can remember).

I have been around very, very drunk men in my life, and I have been a very, very drunk person in my life.

NO means NO.

If the incident were as trivial as you'd like to imagine it to have been, the girl would have accepted your apology with a shrug and said something to the effect of "shit happens, we were both a little out of control but no harm done."

The fact she will not accept your apology is extremely telling. Drunk guys get fresh with women, shit happens. However, something you did either frightened her and/or deeply offended her. Whatever it is, she does not feel it is something that can be brushed off, taken lightly and forgiven.

 

[Alpha-Male]

You should not be upset with her but upset with yourself. What changes do you think you should make to be sure this never happens again?

Well excess alcohol consumption was the only problem here. I've never been that wasted before in my life, and probably never will be again after realising how obnoxious I can become after one too many

 

[Alpha-Male]

I have been around very, very drunk men in my life, and I have been a very, very drunk person in my life.

NO means NO.

If the incident were as trivial as you'd like to imagine it to have been, the girl would have accepted your apology with a shrug and said something to the effect of "shit happens, we were both a little out of control but no harm done."

The fact she will not accept your apology is extremely telling. Drunk guys get fresh with women, shit happens. However, something you did either frightened her and/or deeply offended her. Whatever it is, she does not feel it is something that can be brushed off, taken lightly and forgiven.

Honestly, what's the worst that could've happened in that situation (taking into account what she told me)?
I guess some individuals are just overly dramatic.
Or perhaps she is liking this extra attention I am trying to give her and is playing a sharard of sorts.

I just don't know. But i've decided to use reverse psychology and just give her the silent treatment back.

 

[timtim]

Honestly, what's the worst that could've happened in that situation (taking into account what she told me)?
I guess some individuals are just overly dramatic.
Or perhaps she is liking this extra attention I am trying to give her and is playing a sharard of sorts.

I just don't know. But i've decided to use reverse psychology and just give her the silent treatment back.

im sure a girl you attmepted to sexually assualt will really be hurt by your silent treatment. this is too dumb to be real.

reverse psychology, does that require pig latin as the main form of communication?

 

[nefertiti]

Something not being premeditated doesn't mean it's not assault. Just like murdering someone in the heat of the moment doesn't keep it from being murder.

Women are weaker, physically, then men. But using this as something to blame her so you don't have to take responsibility is possibly the stupidest thing I've ever heard of. It's not her responsibility to be a man killing machine to protect herself from people like you. This is 100% on you, not her.

 

[musclemom]

Honestly, what's the worst that could've happened in that situation (taking into account what she told me)?
I guess some individuals are just overly dramatic.

Surely you jest. Well, let's see, what are the potential worst case scenarios:

1. You could have gotten pissed at her when she resisted you and you beat the shit out of her, since you've admitted in a previous thread frightening/intimidating women gives you a thrill.

2. You could have gotten pissed at her when she resisted you and you could have raped her.

3. She could have gone home and cried to her father older brother, told them you fondled her against her will and tried to rape her and they could hunt you down and beat you up one side your head and down the other.

4. She could have told the police you attempted to rape her.

If you really are 17, and none of this is made up to get yourself internet attention, I'm telling you, emotionally/socially, you're treading on extremely thin ice. Stop being defensive, your actions and behavior are NOT defensible. I've raised two sons. Your behavior was out of line.

Stay the hell away from girls and talk to a professional about your fucked up thinking and childhood traumas.

 

[Alpha-Male]

I've never actually hit a girl in my life. So 1 and 2 are out fo the question.

I'm not going to 'stay the hell away from girls'. Why should I?
If i'm treading on thin ice socially, how is staying away from girls going to help? That will just increase ineptitude. If anything, more exposure is what is going to help give me the experience I need. Which is why i've decided to get myself out there. I even missed a gym session to go to that party.

Emotionally i'm balanced, i have a short temper but that's about it. I don't why you're making me out to be some kind of psycho lol.
I'm just your average 17 year old student, I study, like to party, play rugby etc etc etc.

 

[trex74]

Honestly, what's the worst that could've happened in that situation (taking into account what she told me)?
I guess some individuals are just overly dramatic.
Or perhaps she is liking this extra attention I am trying to give her and is playing a sharard of sorts.

I just don't know. But i've decided to use reverse psychology and just give her the silent treatment back.

I've been reading all this, and I get that you say this isn't your typical behaviour. That's good. Seeing as you are still pretty young, still in school, this is a good chance to figure out what kind of man you want to be. Respected? Liked?
Let me put it too you this way. It's not all about you. Maturity involves considering other people's feelings and the right to behave any way they want, regardless of what YOU want. The respectable thing to do would be to man up and realize that she may never forgive you, but you can still change your future behaviour.
BTW, I suspect she does not like this attention, or she would not be hurriedly avoiding you.
Move on.