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Is getting a massage with a happy ending cheating?

Which of these are considered cheating?


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Say you are married, or have a girlfriend and you go get a massage, complete with happy ending (rub and a tug).


Is that considered cheating?

Would it violate an infidelity clause in a prenup?

I know some women take issue with it, just like some women take issue with their man going to a strip club, but that isnt cheating.

Is a LAP dance cheating? What if you get a lap dance and climax?

Check all that apply
 
General Rule...if You Would Not Do It In Front Of The So....its Def Cheating
 
The Shadow said:
General Rule...if You Would Not Do It In Front Of The So....its Def Cheating
So a lap dance isn't neccsarily cheating then..
 
Lestat said:
So a lap dance isn't neccsarily cheating then..


in the end, it is all relative to what you have decided with your SO. I know dudes that let other dudes ram their wives and vice versa. I also know dudes that will get reamed for even going to a strip club.
 
sexual touching when ur with someone else is cheating.. well i wouldnt do it
 
mightymouse69 said:
You left not check box option for "None of the Above?"? WTF
good point.. and I can't seem to edit the poll ... bummer
 
Lestat...you think that kissing another is cheating whereas getting jerked off by someone isnt..


LOL


dude
 
The Shadow said:
Lestat...you think that kissing another is cheating whereas getting jerked off by someone isnt..


LOL


dude

Yeah, what's that about...

I don't really consider going to a strip club or getting a lap dance "cheating" per se. It's just something I don't see a point to unless I'm bored or no longer attracted to my wife.
 
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Hmmm now that I think about it - I wouldn't want my girl to see me gettin a lap dance :worried:

but i really don't think it's cheating
 
any of it is cheating dang
 
The Shadow said:
Lestat...you think that kissing another is cheating whereas getting jerked off by someone isnt..


LOL


dude
I just dont get it...


you can get your ass massaged, your back, your face, your head, your feet.. right

But the second she touches your nuts, is THAT cheating?

What if you are getting a masssage and get a hard on.. is that cheating?

What if she un intentionally brushes your cock.. is that cheating? What if she goes for it, but you didn't want it... is that rape?

I just think its lame, you can get a massage and its fun, but the second your genitals are touched its a no no?
 
The Shadow said:
a "touch" is one thing...jerking is another


Gimme a break
if a woman "touched" my mans pecker id tear her head off and beat his ass for even allowing her to do it

None of it is acceptable
but i see what your saying .....this post is mostly for the rodents benefit
 
if you ask and they say yes your are safe...
is they say fuck no... what the Hell .. well then you know :D
 
SoKlueles said:
if a woman "touched" my mans pecker id tear her head off and beat his ass for even allowing her to do it

None of it is acceptable
but i see what your saying .....this post is mostly for the rodents benefit

LOL
 
The Shadow said:
a "touch" is one thing...jerking is another


Gimme a break
ok.. what about jerking off in front of another woman?

what if its over the internet?

What if you just type to someone and jerk off as they type back... and it ends up being a dude?
 
Lestat said:
ok.. what about jerking off in front of another woman?

what if its over the internet?

What if you just type to someone and jerk off as they type back... and it ends up being a dude?


Dude, man, what's wrong with you?
 
samoth said:
Dude, man, what's wrong with you?
Its a fucking INTERNET DISCUSSION BOARD what is WRONG WITH YOU that you don't want people to discuss shit???
 
Lestat said:
ok.. what about jerking off in front of another woman?

what if its over the internet?

What if you just type to someone and jerk off as they type back... and it ends up being a dude?

if your doing anything sexual or with a sexual thought and ur with someone else its cheating. even daydreaming about someone else is a form of cheating in my opinion, even tho that definately wouldnt stop me. i see lapdances and stripclubs like looking at porn, ur doing it cause u find it erotic but with no real bond with the people

one could say u dont have a bond during the massage or if ur with a hooker, but if someone else causes u to bust then ur cheating
 
Yeah dude. If you do anything sexual with someone else behind your s.o.'s back, that is cheating. There are some forms of cheating that are worse than others of course (kissing a girl at a bar verses banging your gf's sister on your anniversary) but it's all cheating. That is something intimate you should only share with your partner unless you have already mutually agreed to allow such things. It's not that complicated.
 
Ask yourself if you would want your chick doing what you may be thinking about doing, and if the answer is no I would not, then you better put willie the one eyed wonder back in his cage and head for the door.
 
lmao, a guy from the gym i'm at went to one, he said they were all off the boat 40+ asian women. and as for the "happy ending" the chick who did him asked "you wan juk?" and did the universal sign for handjob.
 
Not in my eyes.

My girl would much rather I take any of those options than start messing around with another chick behind her back. She accepts it as long as I'm not building a relationship with another woman and I'm not rubbing it in her face.
 
SublimeZM said:
if your doing anything sexual or with a sexual thought and ur with someone else its cheating. even daydreaming about someone else is a form of cheating in my opinion, even tho that definately wouldnt stop me. i see lapdances and stripclubs like looking at porn, ur doing it cause u find it erotic but with no real bond with the people

one could say u dont have a bond during the massage or if ur with a hooker, but if someone else causes u to bust then ur cheating
I'm sorry, but FANTASY is NOT cheating.. no fucking way no how.. if so, then masturbating and not thinking about your wife or girlfriend would be cheating.. that is just wrong dude.

I think Phaded has it right
 
It's only cheating if you're stupid enough to tell her about it, or if she finds out anyway.
 
Just imagine what you'd think if the SO did the same or equivalent. Would you feel cheated on if you knew about it?
 
Lestat said:
I just dont get it...


you can get your ass massaged, your back, your face, your head, your feet.. right

But the second she touches your nuts, is THAT cheating?

What if you are getting a masssage and get a hard on.. is that cheating?

What if she un intentionally brushes your cock.. is that cheating? What if she goes for it, but you didn't want it... is that rape?

I just think its lame, you can get a massage and its fun, but the second your genitals are touched its a no no?


Say you get married and your wife goes to get a massage by a man, and he uses his fingers to masterbate her by rubbing her clit and inserting fingers into your wife's vagina until she cums. Is she cheating on you? Or is she just getting her clit massaged? Say he uses his tongue to massage her clit, is it still OK? What if his fingers aren't enough to adequately "massage" her vagina and he needs to use his penis to do it, has she crossed the line yet?

You can't have it both ways B, if it's OK for you then it's OK for your SO too. Would you be fine with that? I know I wouldn't, thus I would consider it cheating and off limits.

In the end it's all just opinions. I believe that anything you wouldn't do in front of your SO is cheating. You seem to believe that anything short of actual fucking is acceptable behavior. We just have different definitions of cheating, as do many people.

That's why it's important for couples to discuss shit like this so they know where the boundaries are. I'm guessing you would be hesitant to tell your GF that you consider handjobs at massage parlors not cheating, and if your not comfortable telling her that then you should question if it's really OK or not in the first place...
 
Forge said:
Say you get married and your wife goes to get a massage by a man, and he uses his fingers to masterbate her by rubbing her clit and inserting fingers into your wife's vagina until she cums. Is she cheating on you? Or is she just getting her clit massaged? Say he uses his tongue to massage her clit, is it still OK? What if his fingers aren't enough to adequately "massage" her vagina and he needs to use his penis to do it, has she crossed the line yet?

I was convinced a rub & tug was not cheating until I read this shit. Good post brovah!
 
Forge said:
Say you get married and your wife goes to get a massage by a man, and he uses his fingers to masterbate her by rubbing her clit and inserting fingers into your wife's vagina until she cums. Is she cheating on you? Or is she just getting her clit massaged? Say he uses his tongue to massage her clit, is it still OK? What if his fingers aren't enough to adequately "massage" her vagina and he needs to use his penis to do it, has she crossed the line yet?

You can't have it both ways B, if it's OK for you then it's OK for your SO too. Would you be fine with that? I know I wouldn't, thus I would consider it cheating and off limits.

In the end it's all just opinions. I believe that anything you wouldn't do in front of your SO is cheating. You seem to believe that anything short of actual fucking is acceptable behavior. We just have different definitions of cheating, as do many people.

That's why it's important for couples to discuss shit like this so they know where the boundaries are. I'm guessing you would be hesitant to tell your GF that you consider handjobs at massage parlors not cheating, and if your not comfortable telling her that then you should question if it's really OK or not in the first place...

booyah
 
NONE OF THE ABOVE!

Good post, there is no way a happy ending is cheating, its as non personal as the massage to begin with. I concider it theraputic, and meaningless!, picking up a chick in a bar, and taking her to the parking lot where she jerks u off, is however cheating. The difference, one is for medicinal purposes!
 
AlphamaleStS said:
NONE OF THE ABOVE!

Good post, there is no way a happy ending is cheating, its as non personal as the massage to begin with. I concider it theraputic, and meaningless!, picking up a chick in a bar, and taking her to the parking lot where she jerks u off, is however cheating. The difference, one is for medicinal purposes!

So you would be fine with your wife having a man massage her clit or finger her to orgasm? I think not. You're lying to yourself if you say yes.
 
dayum...........most of ya'll wouldn't like living in nawlinz!!!
 
Gymgurl said:
So if there is no happy ending...then it does not count?

LOL


Now lestat... honestly do you actually think its not cheating? COME ON :rolleyes:

LOL

Anything to do with my feel good spots... LOL.. and it not being my man would be cheating. Same goes for him. Ask your self if you'd want her to do <to another guy> what it is that girl is doing to you ... if your answer is NO then you shouldn't do it either.
 
Lestat said:
Say you are married, or have a girlfriend and you go get a massage, complete with happy ending (rub and a tug).


Is that considered cheating?

Would it violate an infidelity clause in a prenup?

I know some women take issue with it, just like some women take issue with their man going to a strip club, but that isnt cheating.

Is a LAP dance cheating? What if you get a lap dance and climax?

Check all that apply

letme think, nah!!!! its part of the message! lol jk its def cheating,.....so where is this happy ending place loacted? i had one in the city but it got shut down =[
 
The Shadow said:
General Rule...if You Would Not Do It In Front Of The So....its Def Cheating

Not to say you can't do it or its wrong for everyone..

Just be aware of the possible consequences if she finds out
and your own guilt..
 
Milo Hobgoblin said:
What uptight backward ass mother fucker said going to a strip club is cheating..?

holy fuck pull the bible out of your ass.
samoth, sorerotators, and strangebrew did....
 
Personally, if my girl went to get a massage and the dude flicked the bean, I DON'T CARE!

If she was at a bachelorette and there was a male stripper and she touched his cock, I DON'T CARE.

If she has sex with some dude, I'll care, because that is more of a health issue.

To me cheating is deception, if I asked her abuot the stripper or massage and she lied, I'd be pissed, but as long as it was upfront, who gives a shit. A relationship is built on the emotional connection and trust, what you do physically is just that, PHYSICAL.

If she went to a massage therapist, and during the session, became EMOTIONALLY attached to the dude.. I'd be pissed... physically... nah not really. We've messed around with other girls, and its just because it feels good, nothing more, it stops there.

What's the difference between me eating out another chick with her in the room or with her not in the room? As long as she knows about it, its fine right?
 
Lestat said:
Personally, if my girl went to get a massage and the dude flicked the bean, I DON'T CARE!

If she was at a bachelorette and there was a male stripper and she touched his cock, I DON'T CARE.

If she has sex with some dude, I'll care, because that is more of a health issue.

To me cheating is deception, if I asked her abuot the stripper or massage and she lied, I'd be pissed, but as long as it was upfront, who gives a shit. A relationship is built on the emotional connection and trust, what you do physically is just that, PHYSICAL.

If she went to a massage therapist, and during the session, became EMOTIONALLY attached to the dude.. I'd be pissed... physically... nah not really. We've messed around with other girls, and its just because it feels good, nothing more, it stops there.

What's the difference between me eating out another chick with her in the room or with her not in the room? As long as she knows about it, its fine right?

Everybody has their own thang!


Personally .. I wouldn't have it.
 
Lestat said:
Personally, if my girl went to get a massage and the dude flicked the bean, I DON'T CARE!

If she was at a bachelorette and there was a male stripper and she touched his cock, I DON'T CARE.

If she has sex with some dude, I'll care, because that is more of a health issue.

To me cheating is deception, if I asked her abuot the stripper or massage and she lied, I'd be pissed, but as long as it was upfront, who gives a shit. A relationship is built on the emotional connection and trust, what you do physically is just that, PHYSICAL.

If she went to a massage therapist, and during the session, became EMOTIONALLY attached to the dude.. I'd be pissed... physically... nah not really. We've messed around with other girls, and its just because it feels good, nothing more, it stops there.

What's the difference between me eating out another chick with her in the room or with her not in the room? As long as she knows about it, its fine right?

If both of you know about and approve, of course it's not cheating. However, that's one in a million. For the vast majority, those options are all cheating with the exception of just going to a strip club. IMO
 
Lestat said:
Personally, if my girl went to get a massage and the dude flicked the bean, I DON'T CARE!

If she was at a bachelorette and there was a male stripper and she touched his cock, I DON'T CARE.

If she has sex with some dude, I'll care, because that is more of a health issue.

To me cheating is deception, if I asked her abuot the stripper or massage and she lied, I'd be pissed, but as long as it was upfront, who gives a shit. A relationship is built on the emotional connection and trust, what you do physically is just that, PHYSICAL.

If she went to a massage therapist, and during the session, became EMOTIONALLY attached to the dude.. I'd be pissed... physically... nah not really. We've messed around with other girls, and its just because it feels good, nothing more, it stops there.

What's the difference between me eating out another chick with her in the room or with her not in the room? As long as she knows about it, its fine right?

As long as the two of you agree it is fine, then yes it is fine. I personally would not be OK with it. It doesn't mean you are wrong or I am right, it just means that you and I define relationships in different terms.

For me, a serious relationship is a monogamous one, both emotionally AND physically. They are intertwined for me, obviously you are able to disconnect the two. That also probably explains why I've only been with 5 women my whole life and you've been with over 5 dozen. But then, I've never had a relationship that lasted less than a year, either.

When I give myself to someone, I give all of myself to them, but ONLY to them, and I expect the same in return. IMHO relationships require constant attention and commitment to be successful, and if you need (or want) to go outside the relationship to have sexual or emotional needs taken care of then there is something wrong with the relationship. It's just the way I am and what I believe in.
 
Forge said:
As long as the two of you agree it is fine, then yes it is fine. I personally would not be OK with it. It doesn't mean you are wrong or I am right, it just means that you and I define relationships in different terms.

For me, a serious relationship is a monogamous one, both emotionally AND physically. They are intertwined for me, obviously you are able to disconnect the two. That also probably explains why I've only been with 5 women my whole life and you've been with over 5 dozen. But then, I've never had a relationship that lasted less than a year, either.

When I give myself to someone, I give all of myself to them, but ONLY to them, and I expect the same in return. IMHO relationships require constant attention and commitment to be successful, and if you need (or want) to go outside the relationship to have sexual or emotional needs taken care of then there is something wrong with the relationship. It's just the way I am and what I believe in.
Yeah, everything is different for everyone I suppose.

I've only had TWO serious girlfriends.... but they are both amazing girls.

The rest were all fun, but I just couldn't get close.
 
i think there is a difference between a man going to a strip club and a woman going..im not saying that i wouldnt let my SO go to one..but if it became sort of a weekly habit then i would think something is up..women are allowed to get a lot more friendlier than the guys..guy tries to touch a female on stage you can bet hes gonna be out on his ass

happy endings are cheating, come on lol how would you feel if youre girl went around giving blowjobs technically no one is touching her lol
 
Is it cheating if you boink your training partner? I mean they see you all sweaty and flustered anyway....maybe I should just starting working out with babes I want to boink first.....wait, I don't even have a gf............carry on!
 
Lestat said:
I'm sorry, but FANTASY is NOT cheating.. no fucking way no how.. if so, then masturbating and not thinking about your wife or girlfriend would be cheating.. that is just wrong dude.

I think Phaded has it right
its still a form of cheating im my opinion...not saying i wouldnt do it,- shit id fuck anything any oportunity i had even if i was with someone (if they were keeping me happy tho i wouldnt have a reason)

but i still think if ur with someone, and daydreaming about fucking someone else or wishing u were with them, its still kinda cheating the person- even if its not sexual cheating
 
Lestat said:
Personally, if my girl went to get a massage and the dude flicked the bean, I DON'T CARE!

If she was at a bachelorette and there was a male stripper and she touched his cock, I DON'T CARE.

If she has sex with some dude, I'll care, because that is more of a health issue.

To me cheating is deception, if I asked her abuot the stripper or massage and she lied, I'd be pissed, but as long as it was upfront, who gives a shit. A relationship is built on the emotional connection and trust, what you do physically is just that, PHYSICAL.

If she went to a massage therapist, and during the session, became EMOTIONALLY attached to the dude.. I'd be pissed... physically... nah not really. We've messed around with other girls, and its just because it feels good, nothing more, it stops there.
thats sort of what i was saying with th ewhole draydreaming about fucking or porn... if its emotional its cheating her, if its just simple physical attraction its fine in my book.

but i also think that even if there is no emotional attatchment such as banging a hooker, that its still cheating, just because i think that( dont feel like going into it its obvious why).
 
Im my opinion anything your not totally comfortable doing with her in the room,and her being ok with is cheating. and Im sorry I dont know any woman who would be ok with that
 
Alpine said:
So if your girl slobs on some other guy's knob....it ain't cheating?

for guys the only cheat is fucking.. for chicks.. anything further than kissing is cheating.. and yes there is a big difference..
 
I wish there was a hand job house around here.
I need some wuvin' wrung time...
 
there are so many asian places out here.. there is a montly newsletter magazne thing that has all the hand job /massage adds...


just get butt ass naked in there
 
needtogrow said:
Ask yourself if you would want your chick doing what you may be thinking about doing, and if the answer is no I would not, then you better put willie the one eyed wonder back in his cage and head for the door.

Frankly, I'd like to see wifey going down on the MILF next door!
 
KillahBee said:
in the end, it is all relative to what you have decided with your SO. I know dudes that let other dudes ram their wives and vice versa. I also know dudes that will get reamed for even going to a strip club.

Right you are, KillahBee. It all depends on your relationship with your SO. But if your woman gets pisssed because you go to a strip club, you should probably go else where for a long term relationship.
 
Massage with a happy ending, kissing, flicking the bean, telling intimate stories, jerking to a chat pal. All cheating if the SO wouldn't like it. Jerking to a movie, going to strippers, jerking to Penthouse are not cheating IMO.
However, if your SO is very uptight, even looking at another girl is cheating.
Like someone else already posted, you gotta set the boundaries.
 
me and my last girl went to the strip club together haha. got a lap dance together and the stripper pulled my girls titty out and started licking it.
 
This echos what was said before but I only go as far as I would be comfortable with my SO going. Karma is real.
 
This is a five year old thread!

me and my last girl went to the strip club together haha. got a lap dance together and the stripper pulled my girls titty out and started licking it.
 
Say you are married, or have a girlfriend and you go get a massage, complete with happy ending (rub and a tug).


Is that considered cheating?

Would it violate an infidelity clause in a prenup?

I know some women take issue with it, just like some women take issue with their man going to a strip club, but that isnt cheating.

Is a LAP dance cheating? What if you get a lap dance and climax?

Check all that apply

In my head as a man, I would say no;) but in all honesty,,YES,, it is cheating.
How wopuld you feel if your wife/GF had the same massage with a happy ending.
 
I'd say I'd be most hurt with the kissing because of the intimacy involved. Anyone can get off after a massage and I wouldn't consider that any emotional connection. I hate hearing men are dogs and poor women get lied to. Women do their share of cheating and lusting after new men too. A total double standard. Like the Arnold/Maria thing in the news now. I don't believe for a second she didn't know, and I don't think he's a dog for doing it. Its so bizarre that if you get "sick of" your partner, you can throw them away and start over, or if they die, you get a redo. Certain situations make it ok to get a new partner without shame, but others are demonized. I personally have an open mind and don't get jealous. If you want to be with me, its going to be. If not, it will fizzle away no matter what i do. People need to keep the focus on their own behavior, their own lives, and their own growth and happiness. ...instead of focusing on what is wrong with someone else and how "bad" they are. ...who gives a shit.
 
If she expects a good tip there damned well better be a happy ending!
 
And people wonder why the divorce rate is so high...Funny.

Infidelity is the primary reason for marriage failures in the U.S. What is infidelity? In its most elemental form, it's deception. My wife and I have an open marriage. We engage in purely physical activities with others--with the full knowledge and consent of our partner. There's no lying, no sneaking around, etc. We are deeply, madly in love with one another and no, nothing is "missing" from our relationship. We are able to separate emotions from purely physical activities.
 
In my head as a man, I would say no;) but in all honesty,,YES,, it is cheating.
How wopuld you feel if your wife/GF had the same massage with a happy ending.

it's different though, i am never too tired or have a headache to give her a happy ending





















jk, i wouldn't ever cheat on my wife
 
Say you are married, or have a girlfriend and you go get a massage, complete with happy ending (rub and a tug).


Is that considered cheating?

Would it violate an infidelity clause in a prenup?

I know some women take issue with it, just like some women take issue with their man going to a strip club, but that isnt cheating.

Is a LAP dance cheating? What if you get a lap dance and climax?

Check all that apply

If you need a happy ending or a Lap dance then what the fuck are you doing with your girl? Scared to be alone? Is this question serious or just for attention no one's that dumb

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I had a tantric massage once just after I split up with a girlfriend and it was so weird it still felt like I was cheating on someone...
 
If your girlfriend or wife goes "tanning" then you going to get a "massage" isnt cheating cuz she's getting the same happy ending I guarantee you

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I tend to think it's cheating, but girls also think what vacation sex shouldn't count as a cheating. Strange excuse, isn't it?
So the point is everyone's cheating to each other. Tired of it, lie is everythere...
 
all of it but strip club and dance, unless you have to hide it, then all of the above... IMO...
 
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