Guys i could use some input

[theoak01]

ive been having some real job problems here

I get plenty of job offers and I always find something wrong with the job and end up not taking it

the two most recent were burger king which i came to the conclusion that i didnt want fast foods long hours and shit money so i turned that job down

and I just scored a sweet position in a Nextell call center,now this would have got my college looked after and i would have had some decent spending money,but i had to work christmas and boxing day and my grandparents are getting old and on top of that family is very important to me so i said well now is not a good time to start and maybe in the new year if there is a orientation id start then

and here I am happy but jobless and dont have a clue why i turned these jobs down,maybe its a mental thing as ive been out of work so long but I cant put my finger on it

anybody else ever get like this?

no smart ass comment im serious here

 

[PolishHammer1977]

Oak,

When your young and your going for a "job", you have to accept certain things. Having to work holidays happens to be one of them. I had all kinds of jobs before and through college. You do what you have to do and be proud of yourself for the effort. Sooner or later it will work out for you.

Stay on the straight and narrow path. Rough is the road to the heights of greatness.

 

[theoak01]

I realize all of that and still dont know why i turn this shit down

i honestly think i have some mental block

would anyone else turn down a job to spend holidays with their family?

 

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[Drunken_Weasel]

If it was possible.. You should have taken the BK job, then when the holiday's are over. Try to move over to the better job.

 

[2Thick]

Unless you are starving, forget the job until after the holidays.

Working is overrarted.

 

[danielson]

if it puts food on the table do it.....if you can truly afford to wait then do so by all means but it might be better to take the job and earn and wait at the same time

 

[fallenangel]

just got a full time job myself i start in two weeks and its a pain i'm really anxious about it and not sleeping, think its just the change in routine

 

[notoriousQQ]

Polish H was right, with part time employment working some of the shit hours, holidays and shifts is the nature of the beast. They are trying to help supplement their human resources available to give employees who work there or are higher on the totam pole the premium days off and shifts they desire.

Fuck it, hold out for the management position like Cousin Eddie in National Lampoon's Vacation.

 

[cure]

I'm sorry but it's not a mental block or anything else of that sort. I would just call it making excuses and lazyness. I've been working since 14 years old and have never been picky with a job. Whatever was there which put food on my table i took, shut my mouth and stuck it out until something better came along.

I never depended on my family, the government or hand me downs and i'm proud i ran my life like that. Grandparents might be getting old but what the hell is christmas? I visit my GP like 3 times a week and spend about 4-5 hours with them each time. To me christmas is just another excuse to see family but what about the other 364 days?

In conclusion...do something with your life.

 

[fallenangel]

I'm sorry but it's not a mental block or anything else of that sort. I would just call it making excuses and lazyness. I've been working since 14 years old and have never been picky with a job. Whatever was there which put food on my table i took, shut my mouth and stuck it out until something better came along.

I never depended on my family, the government or hand me downs and i'm proud i ran my life like that. Grandparents might be getting old but what the hell is christmas? I visit my GP like 3 times a week and spend about 4-5 hours with them each time. To me christmas is just another excuse to see family but what about the other 364 days?

In conclusion...do something with your life.

totally understand your point mate but i believe 99% of people wanna work but anxiety and insomnia and shit makes it hard

 

[AAP]

I don't think it required a brain surgeon to turn down a Burger King job.

 

[cure]

totally understand your point mate but i believe 99% of people wanna work but anxiety and insomnia and shit makes it hard

god i feel bad for someone who gets anxiety attacks from flipping burgers...imagine when they're dealing with a multi-million dollar contract...

 

[theoak01]

I'm sorry but it's not a mental block or anything else of that sort. I would just call it making excuses and lazyness. I've been working since 14 years old and have never been picky with a job. Whatever was there which put food on my table i took, shut my mouth and stuck it out until something better came along.

I never depended on my family, the government or hand me downs and i'm proud i ran my life like that. Grandparents might be getting old but what the hell is christmas? I visit my GP like 3 times a week and spend about 4-5 hours with them each time. To me christmas is just another excuse to see family but what about the other 364 days?

In conclusion...do something with your life.

im honestly not making excuses and anxiety doesnt really bother me,im very confident lately where i never use to be,I am also very self dependany,my parents only pay for my food and i never go out because i have no money so dependancy is not the issue

insomnia may be im lucky to get 5 hours a night unless on sleeping pills but i dont want to get hooked

i never use to have this problem i would work anywhere that gave me spending money but now i find anything wrong

i mean i really want to do good in school this year so i can goto college but then i only have from feb till sept to save all i need for the next year

what i think would be best for me is waiting till im done high school in febuary and then work and not have to worry about this stupid shit like i am now

 

[TEXgrl]

no flame here, but if you are looking for reasons NOT to work, you just might be lazy.

just like PolishHammer said, when you are young, you have to work the shit hours until you put some time in. It is very possible that you might not have to work on that particular day anyway, lots of employers tell you that you have to work and you sometimes end up not working. what's one day, even a holiday. jobs for some people aren't easy to come by. someday you might not be so lucky to have offers to turn down.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Oak, I am going to give it to you straight.

I think that on the one hand you are feeling anxious because you AREN'T lazy and can't just sit and "enjoy doing nothing while you still can" BUT on the other hand you know that this it pretty much the end of childhood... graduating high school, then college and on the to adult world with adult responsibilities.

You know what I tell my girls if they ever SEEM to be in a hurry to grow up? ADULTHOOD IS OVERRATED! LOL

It's ok to want to spend a little time with your family during holidays, etc and pass up a few jobs here and there, BUT deep down you know you are not lazy like that.

So, might I suggest you either:

RELAX A LITTLE and enjoy this fleeting time in your life. It is true that you have a place to live and you don't have to support a family. That will be over soon enough!

OR

Get a job and work if that will make you feel less anxious.

You know what the answer is, you just are having a little trouble coming to grips.


PS - If you were truly lazy then you would have ZERO ANXIETY about not having a job.

Oh yea, and I agree with AA about the BKing thing.

 

[manny78]

bro at your age (you're 19 right ?) I was working at 2 jobs and going to college. One was a day job (auctions) and the other one (DJ) a night/weekend job. Holidays ? So what ? I work on holidays. Big deal. It part of the game. Make money, get experience, don't be lazy.

 

[theoak01]

i think Bmom is right i was worried about losing grips on that freedom i have had for the last 18 years and it made me nervous as hell

as for the holiday thing we have to drive a hour or so away and my grandparents etc are getting older and im the only grandson so i dont think its acceptable to just not go because of a job


but im definatly gonna relax for now and enjoy life as it is before college comes and life gets real hectic.

I have always thought I would do great in adult life but apparently its going to be harder then expected


thanks guys

p.s texgrl its not that I dont want to work but ill find something wrong that will turn me right off,for this it was holidays and the set in stone shedule where it was like pulling teeth to book anything off

maybe im setting my standards to high when i need to smarten my ass up and take what i can get or ill be doing this my entire life as i wont be able to afford college

 

[Bikini Mod]

maybe im setting my standards to high when i need to smarten my ass up and take what i can get or ill be doing this my entire life as i wont be able to afford college

See, I knew that YOU KNEW the answer!

It's called maturity Oak... you'll be just fine.

Yea, Adulthood is over-rated FOR SURE, but it also isn't impossible.

You're a smart kid and maybe you won't understand this, but I have enjoyed watching you "grow up".

Manhood is hard, true. But it ain't impossible.

YOU'LL BE FINE. I have faith in you.... but that isn't what is important.

YOU HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

That means everything.

 

[theoak01]

See, I knew that YOU KNEW the answer!

It's called maturity Oak... you'll be just fine.

Yea, Adulthood is over-rated FOR SURE, but it also isn't impossible.

You're a smart kid and maybe you won't understand this, but I have enjoyed watching you "grow up".

Manhood is hard, true. But it ain't impossible.

YOU'LL BE FINE. I have faith in you.... but that isn't what is important.

YOU HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

That means everything.

all I can say is thank you,thank you for believing in me

it may seem weird but you have helped me more with certian problems then my own family and for that I am grateful


that job is already passed but there will be more and I will take anything I can get

Thanks again

 

[Bikini Mod]

I wish that you could see my ear to ear smile!

Now go out and have some fun you silly kid! When you forget how to have fun, it isn't that you've reached adulthood, you've just basically died on the inside.

Remember this when you are stressed about how to pay the mortgage, the baby won't stop crying, your wife and you have grown distant because of the difficulties that are associated with the pressures of married life.... When the arguement is the most heated - smile at her and say, "Do you have any idea how much I love you?"

This is what I tell my girls when they have gotten on my one last nerve.... works wonders. Trust me on this one.

 

[theoak01]

Your knowledge is priceless

you have restored hope in humnaity and proven that their are great parents out there who show their kids what they are worth every sec of everyday

I hope to grow up and be the male version of everything you stand for

 

[Bikini Mod]

Thanks Oak... thank you very much.

I gotta go get some sleep now. Inevitably any number of rugrats will end up in the bed with me LOL.

Darlin' just remember that ALL PARENTS want what is best for their children. It's just that sometimes we, as fallible human beings let our own "stuff" get in the way of seeing and doing what really is the right thing.

Nobody's parents are perfect. And none of us will be perfect parents.

This is when it is most helpful to say that you are sorry. Always remember to tell your kids that you are sorry when you have just OBVIOUSLY fucked up. At first this is VERY DIFFICULT. But it gets easier every time....

Mine never did that and it hurts me to this day....

Ah well, I am sure that in about 10 years my girls will be on Dr Phil talking about how I fucked them up too!

 

[theoak01]

lol have a good night Bmom sleep well

 

[Night Fly]

If I turned down my job because I had to work holidays...I would never be able to work in the area I wanted to work in. Sometimes you've gotta do what you've gotta do even if it means missing a holiday with your family. It's all about what your priorities are right now. If you need to work because you need the money to put food on the table (like someone else said), then you might just have to make that sacrifice...if you dont'...then hunt for another job.

I'm a big family person, but they understand that I have to work some holidays.