Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below I've got myself into a perplexing situation. I'll keep this story short so people actually read it. Couple years ago I met a girl...We became best friends. About a year into the friendship I started falling for her. She told me she was starting to see someone...It crushed me...We both went our separate ways. She calls me a year later(this winter) and starts talking to me again. I'm over her at this point. She liked my calming and positive influence on her life so she wants to be friends again. We talked frequently. She informed me of her current relationship. Over the next couple months her relationship started going bad. Eventually it got to a point where it was on again off again with this guy. So we decide to get together and start hanging out again about two months ago. All is well. I missed her and she missed me. Unfortunately I realized how much I truly missed and liked this girl. I've fallen for her again. Because we're friends she tells me everything. She always talks about her asshole boyfreind who makes her feel miserable and worthless. She's always bitching about him, but for some reason won't let it go. She wants to make it work. I would give my life for this girl and it pains me to hear her tell me about them and how he treats her. I want what this looser has. Then she tells me she hooked up with some guy the other day...To test the waters if you will. It didn't go anywhere but it hit me pretty hard none the less. I keep thinking why not me, and I can't get over that thought. I would do anything to make this girls life full. I know exactly what she's looking for and I can give it to her. I can make this girl happier than she can imagine but she persits on sticking with Mr. ignorant or meeting other guys. Mean while I'm the second closest person in her life besides her selfish, immature, disrespectful boyfriend. We can talk about anything except my feelings for her. I want to make this girl happy. I want to see her smile every day. I want her to want me there with her. I want her. I don't want to loose our friendship though. If I make a move it could be over. Obviously she hasn't looked at me as an option if she's meeting other guys while still trying to make a defunct relationship work. I don't know what to do. I'm sick of hearing her complaints when I know I'm the one for her...The one her can make her happy. It truly hurts me to hear her tell me what she does when I know damn well I can give her everything she wants. I'm a very self confident guy...I know I've got a lot going for me and I know I'm better than 90% of what's out there. I have no problem being me if you will. I just don't want to make the wrong move and end the best friendship I've ever had...But at the same time I want to take it further. I know I'm better in all aspects of life than the shit she dates, has dated, and is dating. I blow these puds out of the water...Intellectually and physically. I know I can fill the empty void in her life. I don't know how to go about getting there though...Your thoughts please.
Your words of wisdom are needed.
- Thread starter Beezers
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When someone allows you to get this close they want more than friendship. Start by doing a saying small things to keep her mind on you. A stuffed animal or a flower. Nothing big just small sweet things. This will keep her mind on you and make you seem understanding and caring. From there my experience says she will fall.
It's all trapped in my head at the mercy of a good friendship. I haven't told her because I can't accurately gauge the ramifications of telling her my feelings for her. That is the root of my dilemma. If I tell her it very well could end the best friendship I've had. If I don't tell her I may never get this incredible girl. That's my sticking point.
Freak Show
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I thought you said it would be short?
Just foolin.
Listen, have you ever told her any of these things? Sounds like NO. Sure it could end as a result, but why go through life wondering "what if?" You've got some great thoughts in there. Turn em into words.
Just foolin.Listen, have you ever told her any of these things? Sounds like NO. Sure it could end as a result, but why go through life wondering "what if?" You've got some great thoughts in there. Turn em into words.
Freak Show and for everyone else just to clarify, yes I've told her, but not this time around. This happened about a year and a half ago. It's in my story but I'll reiterate. We were friends, I fell for her, told her my feelings, she told me she just started seeing someone else and we were just friends. We stopped talking and went our own ways...Good bit of time goes by...She wants to be friends again... start talking again, but this time things "feel" different, but because of the first time I'm very hesitant this time around.
TxCollegeguy
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I say throw your balls in the wind with this....Whats life without taking a few chances. If she doesn't respect you for saying your feelings then your better off going on with your life
