Your ex and second chances?

[big4life]

When one of your ex girlfriends becomes availabe, why does everyone seem to forget why she is your ex?


All they remember are the good times, and none of the bad times. They don't remember all the emotional bs that you put up with for the entire relationship. They just point out the good times you had together. No matter how great the physical part of the relationship was, the emotional aspect sucked big time.

People don't understand when you try to explain it in a nice way. It's like you have to tear the other person down to explain yourself, and that's not my style.

 

[havoc]

Bottom line: True love is rare, its a miracle, when 2 people can honestly live together for the rest of there lives, well thats an accomplishment in my eyes. There is negativity in every relationship, some type of negativity belongs, some does not, 99% of the time that one gives an ex a second chance, it will not work, you two split up for reasons, these "reasons" are still going to be there, and they will come up soon enough. Don't settle and accept what is not there. peace

 

[The Shadow]

You aren't over her are you?

 

[big4life]

You aren't over her are you?

I'm over her, it just seems like my friends aren't.

I see her almost once a week, around town or where ever, and I have no desire to get back together with her. Then last night when I got home I had three messages on my machine telling me that she got a divorce. I wish her well, but it is not going to be with me.

 

[WODIN]

LOL!!! Your friends haven't gotten over her... he he...good one!

 

[toga22]

When one of your ex girlfriends becomes availabe, why does everyone seem to forget why she is your ex?

Big4life, I think you must have read my mind this morning, because I have been thinking about the same kind of situation. And if I hear another "Remember when we all used to...." story or the question "You will never guess what..."I think I will scream.... Seriously though, I totally understand what you are saying about explaining your reasons...and it seems senseless to drudge up past stories and belittle someone years later to explain to others why "things aren't meant to be". Best of luck to you Sweetie!!

~toga

 

[the nature boy]

this is pretty much why I rarely mix my girlfriends with my friends. severing ties is much easier if necessary.

 

[bigschweeler]

Fuck Buddies?