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You win EF, I'm a moron, and its time to lay back

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fyxgel2

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You win EF. As to all of my threads regarding girls, there have been a few messages which struck out strongly to me.

Those such as "It's hopeless", or "just give it up, you'll never get a girl" or "no girl is going to want you" etc. Let's face it, my attitude sucks, I'm an introvert, I make women out to be objects, I'm desperate, I'm a loser, and I should feel lucky if I get any woman at all, at any point in my lifetime, no matter how ugly she is.

Am I being pessimistic right now? no. Am I being honest right now? Yes.

Some people just were not born lucky. Face it, I'm born with a disease called, "being not very good with women". Its one of the more worse things you can be afflicted by. It's much better to be poor, or to be missing an arm, or to be born in a rough neighborhood, etc. you get the idea.


Anyways, its not that I give up, I'm just going to lay off this whole girl crap, or at least try to. Because nothing I am doing is doing me any good.
I hope to not make many posts on this forum ever again, about girls, until I have a specific girl in mind. Then I will take my risks, and get shot down. But these constant "in general, girl threads" are doing me nothing.

And folks, believe me, I want to take all of your advice, but there is just so much that you guys are throwing at me. I can understand the general themes of advice you guys give me, like "find a girl that u have things in common with", "stop looking" etc. But besides general common sense answers I'm absolutely lost as to what to do.

Lets just say, I'm lost and confused, and well at least you guys can be happy that I've finally woken up and realized that I'm not a ladies man, nor will I ever be one.
 
Woo Hoo!

What did we win?
 
fyxgel2 said:
You win EF. As to all of my threads regarding girls, there have been a few messages which struck out strongly to me.

Those such as "It's hopeless", or "just give it up, you'll never get a girl" or "no girl is going to want you" etc. Let's face it, my attitude sucks, I'm an introvert, I make women out to be objects, I'm desperate, I'm a loser, and I should feel lucky if I get any woman at all, at any point in my lifetime, no matter how ugly she is.

Am I being pessimistic right now? no. Am I being honest right now? Yes.

Some people just were not born lucky. Face it, I'm born with a disease called, "being not very good with women". Its one of the more worse things you can be afflicted by. It's much better to be poor, or to be missing an arm, or to be born in a rough neighborhood, etc. you get the idea.


Anyways, its not that I give up, I'm just going to lay off this whole girl crap, or at least try to. Because nothing I am doing is doing me any good.
I hope to not make many posts on this forum ever again, about girls, until I have a specific girl in mind. Then I will take my risks, and get shot down. But these constant "in general, girl threads" are doing me nothing.

And folks, believe me, I want to take all of your advice, but there is just so much that you guys are throwing at me. I can understand the general themes of advice you guys give me, like "find a girl that u have things in common with", "stop looking" etc. But besides general common sense answers I'm absolutely lost as to what to do.

Lets just say, I'm lost and confused, and well at least you guys can be happy that I've finally woken up and realized that I'm not a ladies man, nor will I ever be one.
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That's bullshit.

The only problem you have is that you are determined to see reality as a negative thing. Do something else, and don't worry about women. Direct interpersonal relationships between men and women are just one cyclical part of life. There are other more progressive and complete goals which can supersede relationships completely, and allow you to have more meaningful relationships if you wish. If you accomplish something for yourself, you won't be so entranced by the abyss of "love".

That's your major malfunction numbnuts. :rainbow:
 
that isn't the answer, but it doesn't surprise me this happened.

I have to say, I really sympathize with you. I felt that way throughout all of high school and wasn't able to change my situation until college was almost half over.

I keep trying to figure out how to help you, it's just so hard over the Internet. if I found out you were an alter just pretending to get reactions and not a real person, I would give your primary account red karma until I got banned myself or I stopped coming here.
 
Dougly said:
You won't find a girl until you quit looking.
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terrible dougly. terrible. I did this for 3 years and sat around being depressed following this advice. only until I decided to change things and actively socialize did things change for me, and change in huge ways.
 
your problem is that you want a woman just for the sake of "having a woman." There is nothing about "having a woman" that inherently brings happiness, or that makes you a better person. Eventually you will meet a girl that you like and will want to be with, and then what you need to do will become a lot more clear. Until then relax and focus on other things.
 
Dougly said:
You won't find a girl until you quit looking.
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I say we give fuxygel the misogynistic itch. Train him like a bulldog to attract, flirt, strategize, seduce, pillage, exit, systematize.

He's admitting his ignorance now, its time to make him an Elite project.

Give him his own forum.
 
there is one alternative, and that is to find what you are truly passionate about in life or business, and pursue that 100% with all your energy.

women find that insanely attractive. when you come into contact with girls and they see that unique passion in you, they'll do everything they can to try to get some of re-directed towards them. most are very tired of being in boring relationships.
 
Dougly said:
You won't find a girl until you quit looking.
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exactly, which is exactly what I plan on doing.

JerseyArt said:
Woo Hoo!

What did we win?
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a respit from my onslaught of girl posts.

Bran987 said:
I keep trying to figure out how to help you, it's just so hard over the Internet. if I found out you were an alter just pretending to get reactions and not a real person, I would give your primary account red karma until I got banned myself or I stopped coming here.
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I swear I'm not an alter, if you can think of any way for me to prove it to you, I will. Face it, I am this fucked up. yes, I am kind of looking for reactions, I'll admit that, but I also will admit that I am this crazy.

But true, real life help is a lot better.
 
Go gay, AAP is always looking for another cabin boy on his pirate adventures!
 
Ok so this thread is about a guy frustrated with women and now considering drilling boy's buttholes ?
 
you know what, to add to all of this... better yet,

I am just going to figure out this shit on my own... yes, your opinions will help me piece together an answer,

but that answer will be my own. And it will be made with good reason and instinct.
 
Bran987 said:
terrible dougly. terrible. I did this for 3 years and sat around being depressed following this advice. only until I decided to change things and actively socialize did things change for me, and change in huge ways.
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I'm not saying he should become a hermit. He does need to get out socialize etc. Just quit putting so much emphasis on finding a girlfriend. Sooner or later you'll be asking us how to get rid of one.
 
fyxgel2 said:
you know what, to add to all of this... better yet,

I am just going to figure out this shit on my own... yes, your opinions will help me piece together an answer,

but that answer will be my own. And it will be made with good reason and instinct.
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Have you ever considered the idea that you are searching for an answer that does not exist? Its like you're a slightly fat chick obsessed with dieting, and because of your obsession you stay at home thinking about it while eating powdered donuts.
 
fyxgel2 said:
you know what, to add to all of this... better yet,

I am just going to figure out this shit on my own... yes, your opinions will help me piece together an answer,

but that answer will be my own. And it will be made with good reason and instinct.
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Yes, 'cause you've demonstrated you have those attributes in SPADES!
 
fyxgel2 said:
you know what, to add to all of this... better yet,

I am just going to figure out this shit on my own... yes, your opinions will help me piece together an answer,

but that answer will be my own. And it will be made with good reason and instinct.
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bro, This what you have been doing and it isn't working. At first people were giving you great advice. Now most are just telling you to forget it bc you don't listen!!!!!

1. Just Relax.... you don't need a girl to be happy. (plus they are smelling your desparation a mile a way.

2. If you want to get girls than be confident and act like you are a guy who can get girls. (Fake it before you make it)

3. lower your standards. Your not going to marry the first girl you go out. with You need practice dealing w/the opposite sex. For example a baseball player doesnt start out in the Pros. He starts in the minors. You need to start at T-ball. Find a girl thats maybe alittle heavy, has a speech impediment, or is missing a limb etc. Then, work your way up!
 
awittyusername said:
bro, This what you have been doing and it isn't working. At first people were giving you great advice. Now most are just telling you to forget it bc you don't listen!!!!!

1. Just Relax.... you don't need a girl to be happy. (plus they are smelling your desparation a mile a way.

2. If you want to get girls than be confident and act like you are a guy who can get girls. (Fake it before you make it)

3. lower your standards. Your not going to marry the first girl you go out. with You need practice dealing w/the opposite sex. For example a baseball player doesnt start out in the Pros. He starts in the minors. You need to start at T-ball. Find a girl thats maybe alittle heavy, has a speech impediment, or is missing a limb etc. Then, work your way up!
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This is the best advice by far and I've said it in not so many words...


1) be cool and casual and try not to try so hard
2) play the numbers, ask as many girls out as you can, you are bound to fine one to take the bait. Don't get discouraged by the rejections, learn from them and embrace them.
3) go for the low hanging fruit.. bang some fatties, whatever it takes... like I've said before, girls can smell the pussy on you, and its a good thing.
4) fuck these guys that say you won't find a girl if you are looking... when I am not looking, girls come around, but when I put out the effort, I get 10 times more.. you gotta put out SOME effort, but you can't be desperate or try to hard. I know its a fine line, a delicate balance.. bust mastering it is part of having what people call "game."
 
Naw, ya'll got it ALL wrong, here's what he needs to do:

1.) Stay up all night, every night, thinking through every possible scenario. Semper Paratus!

2.) Ask girls out based on shoe size. Don't play the numbers game, ask out only chicks who wear 15 EE shoes. Chicks like that are a shoo-in.

3.) Stay in your "league", I can tell by the tone of your posts that you would rock in the Little Leagues, literally.

4.) Bang a few gays. Hey, when you look like you do, sex is sex. Take what you can get.
 
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fxy i never ever posted any advice on any of your woman threads, partly cause i didn't care about yet another person with women problems who never takes advice anyway, and secondly because I figured everyone else would be giving the same advice I would in general anyway. I still think, however, it's more of a "ya gotta learn for yourself" type of thing. But I'm bored right now and I'll say some things.

I was like you when i was younger, i would boo hoo all the time cause no girls were into me. luckily i turned out to be a decent looking guy soon after into my late teens, and i didin't have to struggle so bad. Right now though, i could sooooooooo totally care less about meeting and getting it on with chicks it's not even funny and that may be partly because i might have low test levels or something, but it's also largely due to the fact that i simply have no need whatsoever to have any kind of tight relationship with any girl. I am content doing my own thing, playing games, working out, doing what I went when I want, and not having to be a half of a whole and not only worry about my own problems, but someone else's also. Plus I have goals for my future that do not entail me being anchored down. I don't have the time. I have the whole world ahead of me. I want to accomplish my goals and THEN see what I can catch.What is the point of getting into something serious so young? I'm taking it you're young anyway. That's what a lot of people around my area do, but it's because this area is kinda depressive and I guess people figure that's the end game..You get married and have 50 kids by the time you're 21. Then get divorced in 5 years cause you realize what a toolsack you were. Screw that.

That's just me though, but to get where I'm at, you have to become tired and unenchanted by women in the first place. My advice is do what works for a lot of guys, and that is stop acting so interested, and so "overly" nice if that's what you're doing, but more importantly, be like a salesman and stick with one act.

One thing I learned from sales is that you cannot please everyone, BUT if you stick to the same act with every lead you meet, your sales % will be higher than someone who tries changing it around with each new lead trying to "read" the customer too much. Whatever your personality is, just STICK with it and be yourself. Different types of women are atracted by different kinds of personalities, but your best bet man is to seriously, honestly, be yourself, and eventually SOME GIRL will be interested, trust me. It's the oldest and best advice. Changing your personality to fit a certain woman's appeal is bullshit that no red blooded male should have time for. It's like leading a double life. It's not worth it.
 
You can get used to being alone if you want......
but every once in a while, you'll get a stinging,
20CC shot of loneliness..I get it bad around the holidays.
 
Dougly said:
You won't find a girl until you quit looking.
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Yeah I found the perfect girl when I was least expecting it. I had dated 5 girls, or more less at once, and concluded none of them were right for me and decided to just kick back when a few days later I bumped into her... things are going well... and I got some inside info on what seems to have her reluctant from some girl talk with a friend of mine.

I set up a fem freind with my friend (lurker on here bbfsneighbor), and she has been wanting to double date for now, so we all watched a movie together at her place yesterday and her and Amber have each other's phone numbers and yahoo id's and chat now (we are all going out again friday night). The issue it turns out can definately be worked out, and she definately is into me (Ihave actually turned down 4 different girls who wanted to fuck me in the last 2 weeks yay for me... that is a good sign on my part). Anywho she is amazing... if this works out I will be very lucky to have caught her.

The point is, I had just a few days ago said to myself, "Well maybe its just not time yet... the right girl is out there, but guess I'm just going to have to wait awhile to find her." and accepted the fact that unless i was willing to settle for a girl I really didn't want, I would probably be single for awhile... then BAM!

Just relax... melow out and let her come to you. You have alot of time bro.. you are young in school still... enjoy yourself have fun, focus on your eduaction. You'll find the right girl when you least expect it.
 
nimbus said:
your problem is that you want a woman just for the sake of "having a woman." There is nothing about "having a woman" that inherently brings happiness, or that makes you a better person. Eventually you will meet a girl that you like and will want to be with, and then what you need to do will become a lot more clear. Until then relax and focus on other things.
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whats wrong with wanting a woman just for the sake of having a woman anyway?
Everyone is like that, whether they care to admit it or not. The question, is as to how 'specific we are' about that woman.

People want girlfriends, people want wives. Women want boyfriends/husbands. We need to embrace this fact of humanity. Women and men who don't embrace this are idiots.

It's good not to objectify women, but that still doesnt mean that they don't fufill a need within us. I believe that we can control how 'specific' we are when choosing are woman, and that we may be more or less satisfied depending on how specific we are about the woman we want in a relationship. Also, society classifies the 'people who are less specific about mates' as being desperate, which makes it harder for them to succeed.

But the fact is... women still fufill a need for men, and men decide how specific that need is. and of course the same goes for women as well.

The question is, how specific should we be? What should our standards be like, with the women that we meet?
Society already kind of holds a view in that direction: as quoted from Seinfeld: "95% of people are undatable" or something like that.

I guess in general, I agree with this view, and I think that for long term happiness, its good to be pretty specific about the woman you want to marry, and to be specific about the ones you get in relationships with, or hang out with.

But this doesnt mean that I think there's only "1 in the world" for everybody, soulmates, or that bullshit. I dont think we should hold our standards "that" high. We are compatible with way more people than 1 out of 6 billion.

But to sum it all up:
I think its good to hold high enough standards to give yourself the most satisfaction out of life as a whole.
 
plornive said:
Have you ever considered the idea that you are searching for an answer that does not exist? Its like you're a slightly fat chick obsessed with dieting, and because of your obsession you stay at home thinking about it while eating powdered donuts.
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lol, the sad thing is that i couldnt have found a better analogy.

Believe me though, I dont want to be like this, I am obsessive by nature though, I cant help it.
 
nimbus said:
your problem is that you want a woman just for the sake of "having a woman." There is nothing about "having a woman" that inherently brings happiness, or that makes you a better person. Eventually you will meet a girl that you like and will want to be with, and then what you need to do will become a lot more clear. Until then relax and focus on other things.
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Right-on. Best post in this thread and valuable words for you to live your life by Fyxgel.
 
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