You know what's sad?

[fistfullofsteel]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

 

[Ilk]

Yep.... I've seen that happen...

I know a few that hate everything about their so.... Sad...

 

[PICK3]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

25+ years? I've seen it more typically in about 7 years.

 

[heatherrae]

My grandparents were married 60 years when my grandpa died last year, and they still really loved each other.

 

[PICK3]

My grandparents were married 60 years when my grandpa died last year, and they still really loved each other.

What do you think their secret was?

I'm guessing you really have to LIKE someone to LOVE them that long.

 

[nefertiti]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

My mom and dad. Thirty years. They still go on dates once a week. They are still romantic with each other. They rarely fight, and when they do it's almost never about stupid things. They've had tough times in the marriage but they've worked through it and been stronger for it in the end (one of the most profound things my mom ever said to me was, "The easy answer here would be to get a divorce. But I love your father too much for that"). They support each other and laugh together. They cuddle on the couch.

When I get married, I want THAT. Not perfection. Just someone who understands that getting married doesn't just mean commiting to monogamy for the rest of your life. It means committing to doing the work it takes to make a relationship last. I want someone who understands that getting through rough times, as there inevitably will be, is worth it for what you get in the end. A partner, a best friend, someone to share your life with.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

My mom and dad. Thirty years. They still go on dates once a week. They are still romantic with each other. They rarely fight, and when they do it's almost never about stupid things. They've had tough times in the marriage but they've worked through it and been stronger for it in the end (one of the most profound things my mom ever said to me was, "The easy answer here would be to get a divorce. But I love your father too much for that"). They support each other and laugh together. They cuddle on the couch.

When I get married, I want THAT. Not perfection. Just someone who understands that getting married doesn't just mean commiting to monogamy for the rest of your life. It means committing to doing the work it takes to make a relationship last. I want someone who understands that getting through rough times, as there inevitably will be, is worth it for what you get in the end. A partner, a best friend, someone to share your life with.

i'm aroused, tell me where you live

 

[heatherrae]

What do you think their secret was?

I'm guessing you really have to LIKE someone to LOVE them that long.

I think that they were not spoiled and easily disatisfied like people are these days. They had to work really hard. They had a working farm, a lumber operation, and my grandma was a post master. They raised 8 kids. They didn't have time to sit around and contemplate and be all introspective about their needs and wants. They had a good sense of humor and would tease each other lots.

Good people!

 

[nefertiti]

i'm aroused, tell me where you live

Hahaha, I'll be in NY next weekend.

Seriously, though, I got lucky to have them as my example, and lucky that they never hid the tough times from me. Now I see what it takes, and I've seen the benefits. There's no way I'll find myself living in a miserable marriage. If something goes wrong, I'll do everything I can to fix it. Too many people settle for unhappiness.

 

[crazyjoe]

My mom and dad. Thirty years. They still go on dates once a week. They are still romantic with each other. They rarely fight, and when they do it's almost never about stupid things. They've had tough times in the marriage but they've worked through it and been stronger for it in the end (one of the most profound things my mom ever said to me was, "The easy answer here would be to get a divorce. But I love your father too much for that"). They support each other and laugh together. They cuddle on the couch.

When I get married, I want THAT. Not perfection. Just someone who understands that getting married doesn't just mean commiting to monogamy for the rest of your life. It means committing to doing the work it takes to make a relationship last. I want someone who understands that getting through rough times, as there inevitably will be, is worth it for what you get in the end. A partner, a best friend, someone to share your life with.

I think thats what most people are looking for, atleast me anyway. Perfection would be boring.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Hahaha, I'll be in NY next weekend.

how many dudes or women have you banged already from EF?

 

[nefertiti]

how many dudes or women have you banged already from EF?

:snort:

All of the women, none of the dudes. I was saving my e-virginity for you.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

:snort:

All of the women, none of the dudes. I was saving my e-virginity for you.

trust me, you'll still be a e-virgin after i'm done with you, it'll be like you never felt a thing.

 

[Smurfy]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

yep. my parents have been married 37 yrs - happily.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I've seen a coupla few... Why I always say that you don't get married for love. Love is what you find along the way.

When I see these couples who are still KIND to each other after all of those years and after seeing all of life's ups and downs - THEY KNOW WHAT LOVE IS.

Me, I am married to my husband for a few reasons. First two that come to mind is how kind he is to me and how much I genuinely LIKE HIM.

As Ms PregoRae posted a few weeks back, "Men are best measured like trees; when they are fallen." Mine couldn't have fallen any harder than he did and I married him anyway. Ask me again how we doin 30 years from now. Hopefully my sentiments will remain unchanged, if at all they will be deeper.

Marry someone that you genuinely LIKE and hopefully, 30 years down the road you can tell us what love is.

 

[Bikini Mod]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

Damn, imagine what their wives must feel towards them. It is a two way street. Those men are equally responsible for their own happiness/unhappiness. So sad that they don't get that... Sad for everyone involved.

 

[Raptorex]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

it only takes about 5+ bro.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

it only takes about 5+ bro.

fuck it, i'm never getting married. i'm going to use the money to build a big mausoleum to store my body when i die instead.

 

[puddlemonkey]

All the failed relationships I've seen have one of the following problems:

1- Children (I think kids put more stress on a relationship than anything else).

2- Money (or lack of really, the cause of a lot of arguments).

3- The combination of the two.




The only successful relationship I know of is my brothers, and they've been together for roughly 18 years. They both make 6 figures a year and lack kids, go figure.

 

[ceo]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

my parents have been happily married 55 years. There were times when they would argue, get mad, whatever...hell that's just being human and interacting with anyone. Divorce was never an option for them though.
They have fun together, laugh a lot, always have things to talk about, tease each other but not hurtfully or out of spite. I've always seen them as a great team. Always each other's #1 supporter. They raised 4 kids, supported a few foster kids along the way, sponsored a Vietnamese family of 17 refugees in the early 70's (who lived on our property (10 acres), in a seperate dwelling of course.
Genuinely good people. Always doing what they can to help others, very giving. Great examples. I hope I can be even half the example they were/are.

 

[Ilk]

I used to think like that.....

But hey you'll find your lady soon....

My parents have been married for 28 years... My lord...

And still to this day, they can't live without each other....

awwwww.......

 

[Sub-Zero]

My mom and dad. Thirty years. They still go on dates once a week. They are still romantic with each other. They rarely fight, and when they do it's almost never about stupid things. They've had tough times in the marriage but they've worked through it and been stronger for it in the end (one of the most profound things my mom ever said to me was, "The easy answer here would be to get a divorce. But I love your father too much for that"). They support each other and laugh together. They cuddle on the couch.

When I get married, I want THAT. Not perfection. Just someone who understands that getting married doesn't just mean commiting to monogamy for the rest of your life. It means committing to doing the work it takes to make a relationship last. I want someone who understands that getting through rough times, as there inevitably will be, is worth it for what you get in the end. A partner, a best friend, someone to share your life with.

agreed, however most people think this, but they often go in with unreasonable expectations and selfish ideas of what their S/O can do for them, instead of what they can do for their SO

 

[nefertiti]

agreed, however most people think this, but they often go in with unreasonable expectations and selfish ideas of what their S/O can do for them, instead of what they can do for their SO

I've always had the opposite mentality. I am a giver and pleaser by nature and it makes me happy to make someone else happy. You know that from the things I told you about one of my previous relationships. I will go to the moon for someone I care about.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

I've always had the opposite mentality. I am a giver and pleaser by nature and it makes me happy to make someone else happy. You know that from the things I told you about one of my previous relationships. I will go to the moon for someone I care about.

o baby, give me, give me.

 

[TC2]

25+ years? I've seen it more typically in about 7 years.

shit more like 2 years.

 

[blueta2]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

I don't know many happyily married ppl. Even the men I work with talk horrible about their wives.
It's rare ppl are happy after being married so long, but it does happen!
My lovely friend who just lost her hubby to cancer was married to him for 27 yrs and they were very happy together. They also never had kids!

 

[puddlemonkey]

All the failed relationships I've seen have one of the following problems:

1- Children (I think kids put more stress on a relationship than anything else).

2- Money (or lack of really, the cause of a lot of arguments).

3- The combination of the two.




The only successful relationship I know of is my brothers, and they've been together for roughly 18 years. They both make 6 figures a year and lack kids, go figure.

+1

 

[puddlemonkey]

Wait, that was my own post, scratch that. Its still easrly

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

The guys I talk to that have been married a long time, 25+ years, really dislike or hate their wives. NO joke. Does anybody know of a couple that is still happily getting along after 25+ years?

I know some that say they're happy, and usually look happy together. This is mostly in the boring U.P. of MI though, away from the hustle n bustle of real life.