WTF, i simply just dont get women.

[Kangazoo]

No matter how hard I try, I never seem to understand women. Once i think I do, something comes up and smacks me in the face. So i decided to come on here and rant.

So i have been dating this chick for good while now. Our first date was amazing and it got better every day after that. We were beginning to get in a slump and kept talking about things and getting into lil tiffs for the past few weeks. She says she just been having some pessimistic thoughts and doesn't know what to do. It was like we kept picking at a scab, so a few weeks ago i suggested to take a week off and just chill out. She kept saying that's not what she wanted. but we just kept on fighting, so we then decided to just do it.
We didn't talk for a full week and we just went out last friday night for the first time. It was great! had a great dinner, got tipsy, had some great sex. She spent the night, had a great breakfast, and she told me all night that she still loves me and that she missed me all week but still wants more time. WTF!
I just don't understand how she could say i love you, i miss you, and i still need more space all in the same breathe?

I just don't get it.

 

[Smurfy]

There's nothing wrong with wanting more space. You can love someone but still need space dude.

 

[KillahBee]

There's nothing wrong with wanting more space. You can love someone but still need space dude.

precursor to breaking up, however. let's be real

 

[Kangazoo]

There's nothing wrong with wanting more space. You can love someone but still need space dude.

Ok, but do I completely give her total space and not try and talk/see her at all?

 

[Cardinal Slin]

She's cheating on you

 

[Kangazoo]

She's cheating on you

Out of all the scenarios, im certain that's not the case. We practically lived together and spent every waking second with each other. There would have been more signs if that were true ie, random texts/phone calls, her wanting to go out more with "the giels" and her disappearing for a few hours without hearing from her.. etc..

 

[stilleto]

look guy, she loves you, but you're annoying her. that's what she's saying.

 

[Smurfy]

Out of all the scenarios, im certain that's not the case. We practically lived together and spent every waking second with each other. There would have been more signs if that were true ie, random texts/phone calls, her wanting to go out more with "the giels" and her disappearing for a few hours without hearing from her.. etc..

There's your key. Maybe she loves you, wants to stay with you, but feels or has felt smothered. give her a little breathing room. as far as how much, well, you should discuss that with her.

 

[jnevin]

a) You're smothering her.

b) She likes you but is enjoying the space and is going to move on soon. Soon it'll be using you as a booty call and then she'll be seeing someone else.

 

[KillahBee]

i'd actually say that women are extremelt easy to figure out. it's man's stubborness and overall ignorant refusal to see how easy people management is that holds him back. women are very predictable (I'm generalizing a bit here), as are most men.

first off, why the fuck would you ever listen to what she says? that's the inherent problem in most surveys as well. i don't give a fuck what someone tells me they like or want to do. that means nothing. humans are extremely good at convincing themselves of anything and altering their own realities. words don't hold much weight. learn to read patterns. emotional intelligence type shit. women are very emotional creatures. there is absolutely no place for logic in deciphering a woman (I don't mean that as an insult, so back off BM). read her emotions.