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Didn't take her long.
I have no idea what to think.
I have no idea what to think.
Wow! My ex is engaged already.
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mountain muscle said:
how long since you split?
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PWTurbofan said:
Long story. But apparently she has been seeing him since Sept. I just found out a few weeks ago.
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mountain muscle said:
don't know you bro, or what your situation with her was...but if i were in your shoes, to stay sane i'd be thinking that i was pretty lucky to be rid of her right 'bout now. 4 months seeing someone after a split and already engaged? ain't worth it bor.
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yupPWTurbofan said:
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Sounds like the bitch has mental problems, and is trying to cover them up by marrying this guy. Will it last? Fuck no. Will you win in the end? fuck yes. He on the other hand is stuck with a psycho bitch, and he's in for one hell of a divorce in the next year.
My ex is thre same thing., 1 week after we split, she found a new guy and moved into his house. I'm glad I'm not with her. Trailor trash to a fucking T!
My ex is thre same thing., 1 week after we split, she found a new guy and moved into his house. I'm glad I'm not with her. Trailor trash to a fucking T!
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mountain muscle said:
Keep your head up man. Think of it this way... "it didnt take her long... to find ANOTHER guys life to fuckup". Be thankful that you got yours outta the way, lol.
That being said, focus on what makes you happy and continue on with your life. I know its easier said than done, but the sooner you can force yourself into it the better off youre going to be.
Fucking some scandalous sluts always seems to take my mind off of things...
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Well dayum...that really did not take her long at all! If you ever meet him, shake his hand and tell him thank you!
You'll be ok
You'll be ok
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Probably just a rebound. Take it as a compliment that you had that much of an effect on her.
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mountain muscle said:
How does this affect you?
Answer? IT DONT.
Wish her well in your mind and heart and go about the business of YOUR life.
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My exfiance married a guy she hung around with a lot at college shortly after she broke up with me, thus increasing the chance I was correct about her cheating during that time.
It has been a few years since then and now when I see her at the softball field during an annual tournament (her man plays for another team) she always comes up to me and talks while he is playing. I think she regrets her decision because I detect some flirting and remourse on her behalf by the way she speaks.
It makes me smile because at the time I was really tore up over it. We dated for 3 years and were engaged when she dumped me.
It has been a few years since then and now when I see her at the softball field during an annual tournament (her man plays for another team) she always comes up to me and talks while he is playing. I think she regrets her decision because I detect some flirting and remourse on her behalf by the way she speaks.
It makes me smile because at the time I was really tore up over it. We dated for 3 years and were engaged when she dumped me.
i've got a big hug with your name on it.mountain muscle said:
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Gymgurl said:
Exactly.
She is either really stupid, or was cheating.
oh suuurree...hugs for all.Arabian said:
ps-who are you?
Wrong it does emotionaly effect him obviously or he wouldn’t say something would he?BIKINIMOM said:
Last piece of advise is sure easy to say but unless he is over the relationship ending next to impossible to do.
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superqt4u2nv said:
You are quoting someone giving advice whom still complains about her exes in nearly every post. She doesn't know the first thing about moving on.
I don't think qt was giving advice on moving on gomer. Just said that it's easier said than done if you're still emotionally attached.alien amp pharm said:
Stop trying to attack everyone buttholio.
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Post comp rebound making you a fatty too? 
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habitualhealth said:
I was referring to BM, Captain Nosey
...damn youre funny. come to think of it, most likely deadly- 
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It is a blessing my friend. You will find closure earlier this way.
There is a world full of beautiful, amazing women out there who are looking for a guy just like yourself.
It just takes time. During that time get your diet strait and hammer away at the gym.
Make sure you are a sex machine when your time comes!
There is a world full of beautiful, amazing women out there who are looking for a guy just like yourself.
It just takes time. During that time get your diet strait and hammer away at the gym.
Make sure you are a sex machine when your time comes!
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MM was with this girl for a while and she had kids that he was raising. I think this is the hardest part for him.
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My ex-wife was enagaged TWO days after the divorce was finalized.
It happens
It happens
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The Shadow said:
I got one better...
My ex-husband was remarried 2 days after our divorce was finalized
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biteme said:
Remins me of Big Daddy when Adam Sandler's ex tells hin that her new(much older guy) had a "5 year plan".
"What is it?? NOT TO DIE?!??!"
LOL
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The Shadow said:
My ex tried getting married to another guy BEFORE our divorce was final...
Yeah, it happens.
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HumanTarget said:
Just one?
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She is a whore, be happy you got out alive.
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HumanTarget said:
Good point.
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JH1 said:
Like 7 or 8 months.
They met in March and got married in June of 2005. May of 2006 they had a baby girl. Talk about moving fast. lol
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immortalis said:Keep your head up man. Think of it this way... "it didnt take her long... to find ANOTHER guys life to fuckup". Be thankful that you got yours outta the way, lol.
That being said, focus on what makes you happy and continue on with your life. I know its easier said than done, but the sooner you can force yourself into it the better off youre going to be.
Fucking some scandalous sluts always seems to take my mind off of things...
I could not have said it better. hang in there. stay in the gym not in the bars.
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blueta2 said:
shut it grandma
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blueta2 said:
She holds her air quite well thankyou
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blueta2 said:
Oh, WTF?? Men will leave if the shit gets too thick... unless the guy is a total pussy... where women will usually stick around until given a reason to leave (with the exception of abuse, etc.), but usually that reason comes in the form of another man's attention, so they don't have to endure the emotional rollercoaster of being single again. There are always exceptions, of course.
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beefcake28 said:
they are pussy's in both sexes. Men have a tougherr time being alone (who will wash my skid marked undies and dirty socks), than women do.
But like you said, exceptions to both. I think the behavior of having "back-up" is an act of insecurity...plain and simple!
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blueta2 said:
I have yet to meet a man who would rather continuously put up with a woman's incessant bitching, whining, emotional instability, (insert any other intolerable behavior here), etc... than to actually have to do his own laundry.
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On the other hand, I have known many, many women who will put up with an OBSCENE amount of bullshit from a guy... until something better (i.e. another guy) came along.
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blueta2 said:
oooooooo, i will have to disagree here with ya. which i dont do often. WOMEN more times than not have a Plan B way ahead of men...when a women is done with a man- they are DONE. they can grieve silently and more times than not- go undetected.... men are big babies and go thru the anger stage longer than women do...they will go thru the entire range of emotions, and come back to anger many times...we develope trust issues along the way too...it takes "most of us" awhile before returning to a monogamus relationship...there are of course exceptions to anything.
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You guys crack me up thanks for that.
I am going to miss the kids, I got pretty close to them, especially the youngest. I probably won't get to see them again now.
But yeah, this is better for me. Just staying busy now.
I sent her text saying "I hear congratulations are in order. Best of luck. I just want you and the kids to be happy."
Now, I can leave as a better man for the experience.
I am going to miss the kids, I got pretty close to them, especially the youngest. I probably won't get to see them again now.
But yeah, this is better for me. Just staying busy now.
I sent her text saying "I hear congratulations are in order. Best of luck. I just want you and the kids to be happy."
Now, I can leave as a better man for the experience.
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JH1 said:
No worries. It was a bit of a shock, well a few of them in short order.
Do you know how many fit hotties there are in Denver?
I am going to take a break for a bit though and hit the gym and work hard.
Besides, I just found out one of my best friends is getting hitched. I have a bachelor party to plan now. Not to mention I have a nephew to spoil as well. Taking him to the ice rink for the first time ever, this week.
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JH1 said:
Hell yeah. I might only get a one way ticket though.
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mountain muscle said:
Denver, Boulder, etc... Take your pick. They're freakin' everywhere. I love this state.
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JH1 said:
Hey my brother, can I borrow a copy of your "Hey Soul Classics"?
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PBR said:oooooooo, i will have to disagree here with ya. which i dont do often. WOMEN more times than not have a Plan B way ahead of men...when a women is done with a man- they are DONE. they can grieve silently and more times than not- go undetected.... men are big babies and go thru the anger stage longer than women do...they will go thru the entire range of emotions, and come back to anger many times...we develope trust issues along the way too...it takes "most of us" awhile before returning to a monogamus relationship...there are of course exceptions to anything.
you disagree? That's it, I'm dumping you.....well not yet, I need to find your replacement first ;-)
Well in all seriousness, the poeple I know and it the situations familiar to me, it's the men that cannot be alone. I guess Canadian men are just weaker than you strong American men
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blueta2 said:you disagree? That's it, I'm dumping you.....well not yet, I need to find your replacement first ;-)
Well in all seriousness, the poeple I know and it the situations familiar to me, it's the men that cannot be alone. I guess Canadian men are just weaker than you strong American men
That's no lie. Look at Woots.
Now that I said that watch me run into some amazing woman and have to keep it quiet so Woots doesn't give me shit forever.
Bleh, he will anyway. I wouldn't respect him if he didn't.
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superqt4u2nv said:
You are missing the point QT.
How does HER LIFE affect him? He has no financial obligations to her (or vice versa). They had no children. They didnt share real estate, did they? She isnt calling/texting/emailing him... is she? If I am mistaken about this then I apologize but I am under the impression that they are no longer communicating directly in any way, shape, or form.
I am still confused as to why he cares that this woman is marrying another man or is dead quite frankly as her life has NO BEARING on his.
She is only "affecting him" BECAUSE HE ALLOWS HER TO RENT SPACE IN HIS HEAD. All he need do is not allow this.
superqt4u2nv said:
That is where you are incorrect.
The only thing that is hurting him about this is that she is obviously over him (or not - does it matter? He already decided that she was not good enough for him when the engagement was broken... did he not?) and he still has feelings for her.
There is ONE PERSON in control here. Mr Sexy-thang MM. Once he realizes that, the happier he will be.
No your missing the point we are human we can't just turn of emotions unless of course your a psychopath there is no switch inside me to just shut it off. He is merely venting his emotions on this something you have done a billion times. Yes off course there comes at time to move passed it but obviously he is not at the point. I am not saying your wrong just saying that obviously he is not at that stage yet. It takes time to get there.BIKINIMOM said:You are missing the point QT.
She is only "affecting him" BECAUSE HE ALLOWS HER TO RENT SPACE IN HIS HEAD. All he need do is not allow this.
That is where you are incorrect.
The only thing that is hurting him about this is that she is obviously over him (or not - does it matter? He already decided that she was not good enough for him when the engagement was broken... did he not?) and he still has feelings for her.
There is ONE PERSON in control here. Mr Sexy-thang MM. Once he realizes that, the happier he will be.
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superqt4u2nv said:
I do humbly disagree about emotions. We are ALWAYS in control of our own emotions.
I suppose you are correct to a great extent. I just dont understand why he would care that a woman who is not good enough (not that she is bad, just not for him is all) for him is no longer in his life.
I understand the hurt feelings over a relationship that didnt work out regardless of why it didnt work. I just dont understand the need to keep mulling it over when she aint worth the time and effort.
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velvett said:
Velvett took the words right outta my mouth.
I don't understand it either if I could stop doing this myself right now I would be a lot happier person. I have tried to put it out of my head but the shit creeps back in it is not easy guess I am not ready to let it go yet.BIKINIMOM said:
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superqt4u2nv said:
So you are going to let someone that is not good enough to BE in your life actually AFFECT it?
It seems that wayBIKINIMOM said:
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superqt4u2nv said:It seems that way
THEN JUST STOP!
Here... I will pass on a bit of advice a shrink gave me years ago - really really helped.
You ever have those days when you wake up in a good mood and you feel sort of invincible and nothing, no matter how crappy the circumstance, NOTHING brings you down?
Ask yourself.... Why is that?
Conversely think of those times when you are down and nothing, and no one, no matter how sweet or cute or nice they are, regardless of what the surprise or good news is - NOTHING pulls you out of that funk.
Now ask yourself again... Why is that?
It is for one reason and one reason alone: YOU ARE ALWAYS 100% IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN EMOTIONS.
So when you are done beating yourself up and are truly ready to let go and be happy - YOU WILL.
It is THAT simple.
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velvett said:Next time you type - coz I can't type right.
OK I will take dictation.
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Taking life advice from BM is like taking financial advice from a welfare recipient
Trust me I tried that last week and the week end with me crying uncontrollably on Friday night. Emotions are there for a reason you need to honor how you are feeling I repressed enough shit in my life time and it feels like I am letting a flood gate open right now but enough about me.BIKINIMOM said:THEN JUST STOP!
Here... I will pass on a bit of advice a shrink gave me years ago - really really helped.
You ever have those days when you wake up in a good mood and you feel sort of invincible and nothing, no matter how crappy the circumstance, NOTHING brings you down?
Ask yourself.... Why is that?
Conversely think of those times when you are down and nothing, and no one, no matter how sweet or cute or nice they are, regardless of what the surprise or good news is - NOTHING pulls you out of that funk.
Now ask yourself again... Why is that?
It is for one reason and one reason alone: YOU ARE ALWAYS 100% IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN EMOTIONS.
So when you are done beating yourself up and are truly ready to let go and be happy - YOU WILL.
It is THAT simple.
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superqt4u2nv said:
Tis true... you need to acknowledge your feelings. No one said repress anything.
Just think about what I said and let it run around in your brain until it makes sense.
I didnt say repress your feelings. I merely said that no one decides how you feel. Not your mother or co-worker or ex. The only one that decides how you feel at any given moment is you. Please stop saying that it is IMPOSSIBLE to be in control of your own emotions. That just isnt true. YOU are in total control.... always.
I have to make a conscious decision every single day to wake up. So you can make a conscious decision to find happiness in other aspects of your life (aside from that which is causing you the greatest distress)..... or not. It is totally up to you.
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superqt4u2nv said:
I have to agree with QT and disagree with BM. Most people respond to a broken heart the way you do QT.
After my ex (of 11 yrs and 2 yrs) left I was devastated and not for 5 mins but for months and months. I think mourning a relationship instead of just saying "move on, who cares or whatever" is the healthier way to heal.
Divorce or the end of any relationship needs to be mourned. It's not about losing the other person, it's about adjusting to change. Change is never easy, unless you're like AAP and can just blow up another g/f if the other deflates (love you AAP) ;-)
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BIKINIMOM said:Tis true... you need to acknowledge your feelings. No one said repress anything.
Just think about what I said and let it run around in your brain until it makes sense.
I didnt say repress your feelings. I merely said that no one decides how you feel. Not your mother or co-worker or ex. The only one that decides how you feel at any given moment is you. Please stop saying that it is IMPOSSIBLE to be in control of your own emotions. That just isnt true. YOU are in total control.... always.
I have to make a conscious decision every single day to wake up. So you can make a conscious decision to find happiness in other aspects of your life (aside from that which is causing you the greatest distress)..... or not. It is totally up to you.
It's VERY possible to be in control of your emotions ONLY once you have mourned and healed!
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alien amp pharm said:
LOL I thought you were ignoring me.
Odd, I dont feel the need to talk about your posts even though their singular purpose is to malign me.
(Here is a hint. Your posts are of no consequence to me ie - you dont exist. Why dont you try doing the same since my posts, that are designed to HELP people seem to upset you so. Still trying to understand that though as you are "ignoring me".
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Agreed you can also control what you do with these emotions. For example not breaking down and crying at work but you can’t control the fact that you want to cry and or feel like crying.blueta2 said:
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blueta2 said:
Very true, but who is to decide FOR YOU how long that process should take?
I once met a woman who met her husband of 20 years at her first husband's funeral. She was every bit the grieving widow. But her first love was dead and NOTHING was going to ever bring him back. Everyone was aghast that she would be "so shameless" as to "be in the arms of another man so quickly." They were married in one year's time.
She was a lovely woman and her husband was equally nice.
Having met that woman impacted me to this day. I was in my early 20's. Matter of fact, I dont think that I was even married yet myself at the time.
What I am trying to say is, who are WE to decide when someone has or has not "moved on" with their lives? WE are the only ones that can decide this for ourselves.
Mourning the loss of a relationship does NOT = being miserable. It just means that you arent out there getting involved with another person. It doesnt mean that your life stops and you spew forth hatred from every pore of your being. THAT IS SELF-DESTRUCTION NOT MOURNING.
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blueta2 said:
I never said that anyone mourning the loss of a relationship should go out and be with another. I was merely talking about their state of mind.
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BIKINIMOM said:
sorry, that is just not right! That is what's called rebound and terrified to be alone.
I think it's healthy, very healthy, to mourn the loss of anyone you love. That is like having your dog you've had for 17 yrs put down and walking next door to the pet store to buy another one. What is that? I'll tell ya what that is. Fear of having to face the pain of loss. Loss is prevalent in every aspect of our lives, the quicker we learn how to accept loss and feel it and move on, the more "whole" we'll be!
Everyone does have their own way to mourn, but to take 5 mins to mourn says a lot about someone's character.
If you are still mourning a break up after 1 or 2 years, then yeah it's time to pull up the boot straps and look to the future
