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Women Are You Weak Or Strong?
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bunnymt
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It depends on many factors, including how much I love the person and the relationship that we have together. It is NEVER as simple as black and white....there is ALWAYS a grey area.
However, this does not condone the act of cheating. It is wrong, no doubt about it.
If I found out that my boyfriend of right now (4 years together and living together for 3) was cheating on me, I would do whatever it took to try and work it out between us, honestly. I would expect the same from him, including ending his affair and letting me have some time to settle things in my mind and be angry.
On the other hand, if I was in a relationship that was not strong to begin with and I did not truly love the person, I would not invest any of my time in further trying to reconcile the adultery/affair and continue the relationship.
I find it very hard to comprehend how people can be so black or white when it comes to this issue. Thinking and making decisions based upon emotions is illogical. There is ration, reason, and a myriad of other things to factor in.
bunny
However, this does not condone the act of cheating. It is wrong, no doubt about it.
If I found out that my boyfriend of right now (4 years together and living together for 3) was cheating on me, I would do whatever it took to try and work it out between us, honestly. I would expect the same from him, including ending his affair and letting me have some time to settle things in my mind and be angry.
On the other hand, if I was in a relationship that was not strong to begin with and I did not truly love the person, I would not invest any of my time in further trying to reconcile the adultery/affair and continue the relationship.
I find it very hard to comprehend how people can be so black or white when it comes to this issue. Thinking and making decisions based upon emotions is illogical. There is ration, reason, and a myriad of other things to factor in.
bunny
What is so black and white about ending a relationship when someone cheated??? I've been through it and tired to work it out. It only resulted in more pain for me.. A person has a lot of time to "decide" what he/she is doing... It takes longer than five minutes to have sex ( well, usually).
I've been in bad relationships and managed to keep my pants on just out of respect.. and my beliefs. It's not that difficult.
Personally, if it was a long relationship- it would hurt 100X more.
I've been in bad relationships and managed to keep my pants on just out of respect.. and my beliefs. It's not that difficult.
Personally, if it was a long relationship- it would hurt 100X more.
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bunnymt
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starfish said:
True. No one is denying that is hurts so much. But what I was saying is that if I have invested so much time with someone and I truly love my partner, that I will TRY to work it out. There are no guarantees in life. Walking away is the easy way out. You are replying with your emotions because you had a terrible experience with a cheater.
People fuck up. They make mistakes. No one is perfect and even good people make errors.
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bunnymt
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I understand what you are saying as well...trust me, I totally do. I thought the same way until I was in the situation myself. I used to think that if my boyfriend ever cheated, that I would leave in a heartbeat, but I now realize that I was talking on pure emotions, not rationally. I would honestly try my hardest to work things out, like you said you did.
What a horrible situation to be in, I am sure you agree.
These things make you stronger and every experience is to be learned from, in my opinion.
Sincerely,
bunny
What a horrible situation to be in, I am sure you agree.
These things make you stronger and every experience is to be learned from, in my opinion.
Sincerely,
bunny
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