Who has the most "Stuff?"

[musclemom]

I'm looking for input from people in relationships, specifically.

Now when I'm talking "MOST" I don't mean individual items. Excluding big ticket items, like cars, and mutual use items, like the kitchen or sofa, who has the most volume of stuff in your relationship? I've been married twice, and both times the husband has beaten me two to one, easily, between tools ("but I need them") toys ("but I like them") and "collectibles," ("but it will be valuable some day") my "stuff" (things like clothing, jewelery, books) has ended up trimmed down and packed into the smallest amount of space I could manage.

So fess up people, be honest, the poll is anonymous and you don't need to comment, who has the most overall STUFF in your relationship?

 

[KillahBee]

lol at already starting the undertones of "men are evil, women are innocent victims"

We should just have a huge EF menz vs EF womins brawl to the death one day. Maybe on Christmas

 

[javaguru]

lol at already starting the undertones of "men are evil, women are innocent victims"

We should just have a huge EF menz vs EF womins brawl to the death one day. Maybe on Christmas

2015???

 

[Bikini Mod]

WTF are you talking about victimization for? MM was only relaying her personal experiences and wondering if they were specific to her situation or if this was a gender-type thing, sorta like cars and video games being on the Y chromosome.

In my first marriage my ex had waaaaaaaaaaaaay more EVERYTHING as it was his world and I was only "allowed to breathe in it".

In my current marriage the only reason I have more stuff is due to

1. The last bitch walked off with/sold/gave away most of his stuff.
2. We were broke when we married and until we get to be where the lawyers' aren't our primary source of expenses he wants ME to have whatever I want.
3. He MAKES ME buy anything I see... LOL Talk about having the tables turned!

Once we get to a point where our finances/investments are a bit more secure I have no doubt that we will be a family with all sorts of stuff - equal on both ends. Actually, I think the kids will have THE MOST!

 

[vixensghost]

My husband would agree- HE DOES! Guns, classic cars, and drag racing are his "hobbies". We do not have one garage, we have several! His "stuff" has grown outta control.

Do I mind? Nope, he can have his "stuff" as long as I can get my car into ONE of the garage spaces.However, it's kinda embarrassing to leave the garage doors open...EEE GADS!

 

[Rabid_Goose]

The majority of my stuff that is absolutley mine is my computer and the desk it sits on, the Entertainment Center my Grandfather built me for the TV my Dad bought me on Christmas when my wife and I were engaged and living together. I'd keep that thing no matter what.

If you want to consider jewelery then she out numbers me by at least 30 to 1. Clothes? Well, she has two suitcases for winter clothing and summer clothing plus part of her closet because she doesn't have another suitcase. Books? I owned around 6, she packed in from her parents old house around 30 that she read during high school, to read again. Even DVD wise she beats me 5 to 1.

I've been wearing the same pair of shoes for over 2 years now, she has around 30-40 pairs. Some she has never even worn, and probably never will.

 

[captainahole]

Stuff is my middle name. I'm a firm believer of the one who dies with the most toys wins.

 

[needtogetaas]

You mean useless nick nack bullshit kicking around? ya that be my wife.

 

[AAP]

we each do in different things.

 

[Jon79]

is hating ppl a hobby?

 

[babygirl84]

I have more stuff.

my parents spoil me rotten. lol.

He has more technological stuff....... but everything else? me. I could care less about getting the latest cellphone or flatscreen or any of that crap.

I have a ridiculous shoe and handbag collection, the vintage stuff from my mommy and godmother alone is alot. lol.

But somehow he has more money then me..... oh thats right, I spend it all and I only intern while in school, I don't work. lol

I can't count money that I won't get till I'm 25 either.

 

[musclemom]

WTF are you talking about victimization for? MM was only relaying her personal experiences and wondering if they were specific to her situation or if this was a gender-type thing, sorta like cars and video games being on the Y chromosome.

YEP!!! That's it.

See, my mother, both of my mother in laws, my father, and both of my husbands have been collectors (and you don't have to have a collection to be a collector). As you can see, my experience is perfectly split. I myself am not this way. I literally can count on one hand the number of pairs of shoes I own, I own one handbag that can double as tote or overnight bag, I have four pairs of jeans, all of my makeup fits in one zip lock bag, etc.

I'm not trying to start a gender war, I thought it normal for women to be a little more "guilty" here and I was the weird one, and believed the men in my life to be aberrations.

 

[captainahole]

YEP!!! That's it.

See, my mother, both of my mother in laws, my father, and both of my husbands have been collectors (and you don't have to have a collection to be a collector). As you can see, my experience is perfectly split. I myself am not this way. I literally can count on one hand the number of pairs of shoes I own, I own one handbag that can double as tote or overnight bag, I have four pairs of jeans, all of my makeup fits in one zip lock bag, etc.

I'm not trying to start a gender war, I thought it normal for women to be a little more "guilty" here and I was the weird one, and believed the men in my life to be aberrations.

Your a low cost woman. Your an anomaly and should be proud.

 

[musclemom]

Your a low cost woman. Your an anomaly and should be proud.

Low cost, hardly just different priorities. I don't have numerous pairs of shoes, but we do have a $2,500 tempurpedic bed. I don't have a handbag collection, but the grocery bill for my husband and I, alone, averages over $130 a week because we eat almost exclusively organic. Our vitamin bill is over $150 every six weeks.

Well, I guess I am guilty of collecting something, I have 7 cats .. and THEIR food is top of the line too, at $36/16 lbs.!

Like I said, you always find a way to spend it

 

[Smurfy]

my husband is a pack rat and he has way too much shit that I try to throw away when he least expects it

 

[the_clockwork]

I'm single, so me

 

[javaguru]

my husband is a pack rat and he has way too much shit that I try to throw away when he least expects it

You better not even think about touching the skateboard wheels if you know what's good for you.....

 

[LuluDeren]

I've never been a 'stuff' person. I'm pretty frugal and the only things I have of (minimal) value are my Bealieu cameras and my '91 Blazer.

 

[puddlemonkey]

There is no way in hell a female I meet is going to have more stuff than me. I love stuff so much I consume it like food. I need new stuff on a weekly basis. I've yet to even meet a female that has more clothes than me. I probably have a good 30 shirts I've never even worn once. Hell, I don't even like shoes and I have 15-20 pairs. I live alone in a 5 bedroom house and I've filled it with all my stuff. I couldn't even move someone in if I wanted to because there is just no room.

 

[Lestat]

men usually.

because they are generally making more money

 

[musclemom]

There is no way in hell a female I meet is going to have more stuff than me. I love stuff so much I consume it like food. I need new stuff on a weekly basis. I've yet to even meet a female that has more clothes than me. I probably have a good 30 shirts I've never even worn once. Hell, I don't even like shoes and I have 15-20 pairs. I live alone in a 5 bedroom house and I've filled it with all my stuff. I couldn't even move someone in if I wanted to because there is just no room.

You're making that up!

 

[puddlemonkey]

You're making that up!

Negatory ma'am.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Hell, I got bored today so I went and spent $65 on new shit for my fish to swim in and out of.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Gonna spend $1800 next week on a new stereo/system for my car.

 

[puddlemonkey]

These are things you can do when you avoid marriage and kids.

 

[musclemom]

Negatory ma'am.

Well damn I'm speechless.

Tell me, have you ever wondered about it? Like, why do you collect, is it the purchasing or the owning? I've never understood it. My current husband is a little easier to understand, he's having trouble getting rid of things he's had for a long time, he has problem with the history attached to them, but my previous husband seemed more like you, and it was a major sticking point for us, because he was deadly serious about his stuff and to me it was a lot of clutter.

 

[puddlemonkey]

I think I get like a shopping high or something. Not really sure.

 

[puddlemonkey]

They're hiding in the castles. Camera shy I guess.

 

[puddlemonkey]

You're making that up!

Here's 14 pairs, I'm not going upstairs to get more as it's too cold. I don't heat the upstairs cause I rarely go up there.

 

[musclemom]

Here's 14 pairs, I'm not going upstairs to get more as it's too cold. I don't heat the upstairs cause I rarely go up there.

Puddle dear sir, this video was meant for you:

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8896213084482448693

 

[puddlemonkey]

Puddle dear sir, this video was meant for you:

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8896213084482448693

lol so true. Except I don't go on vacation, I can't be away from my stuff for that long.

 

[vixensghost]

men usually.

because they are generally making more money

 

[GoldenDelicious]

i have a shipping container full of my crap lol

howeverrrrrr when you count stuff like pot plants, girls start winning

 

[Longhorn85]

Men have all the cool stuff

 

[myway]

My hubby has more stuff. I never buy stuff or keep stuff. If I have not used something for over a month, I toss it out. I have lots of books and shoes.
When I do buy stuff, it's for my hubby because he LOVES stuff. Games, toys, watches, magazines. The list goes on and on. He wants tools he can't use. He wants gadgets he knows nothing about. He has guns he rarely shoots.
We are gonna need to move into a new house just to have room for more stuff.

 

[bigmann245]

My hubby has more stuff. I never buy stuff or keep stuff. If I have not used something for over a month, I toss it out. I have lots of books and shoes.
When I do buy stuff, it's for my hubby because he LOVES stuff. Games, toys, watches, magazines. The list goes on and on. He wants tools he can't use. He wants gadgets he knows nothing about. He has guns he rarely shoots.
We are gonna need to move into a new house just to have room for more stuff.

thats too funny

 

[ceo]

...but the grocery bill for my husband and I, alone, averages over $130 a week because we eat almost exclusively organic.

$130/week? for 2? and that's eating organic? WTF do you eat? That's NOTHING!!!! Shit I wish my food bill was that low! My wife doesn't eat much, but shit I can spend $800-$1000/month on food. If I really shopped well (and I usually do, coupons and sales and shit) and stopped eating out (and I don't do that too often), I might get it down to $130/wk. Oh, I generally buy good food. I shop mostly at Trader Joe's because it's close and it's good quality.

 

[Rabid_Goose]

$130/week? for 2? and that's eating organic? WTF do you eat? That's NOTHING!!!! Shit I wish my food bill was that low! My wife doesn't eat much, but shit I can spend $800-$1000/month on food. If I really shopped well (and I usually do, coupons and sales and shit) and stopped eating out (and I don't do that too often), I might get it down to $130/wk. Oh, I generally buy good food. I shop mostly at Trader Joe's because it's close and it's good quality.

Sweet Fucking Christ. My food bill is generally around 45-50 dollars a week, of course I don't have a big ass menu either. It is typically the same shit day in and day out.

The most mine has ever been was, at most, 80 bucks a week, and that was when I bulked for the first time.

 

[musclemom]

Sweet Fucking Christ. My food bill is generally around 45-50 dollars a week, of course I don't have a big ass menu either. It is typically the same shit day in and day out.

The most mine has ever been was, at most, 80 bucks a week, and that was when I bulked for the first time.

I have a pretty boring menu, too, which is why I consider my approximately $65 a head expensive. Bear in mind, we're buying very little processed foods, this is for stuff like vegetables, raw meats, yogurt, tuna, beans, rice, cheese, oats, nuts, dried fruits, milk, etc.

So I think it's pretty pricey, especially considering we're both trying to slim down instead of bulk up.

I could buy almost the same stuff in a "regular" store and be spending about $75 a week for the two of us. Shit, the last time I was in a regular grocery store I got totally lost when I ventured into the center aisles, it scared and confused me

 

[Jon79]

I have a pretty boring menu, too, which is why I consider my approximately $65 a head expensive. Bear in mind, we're buying very little processed foods, this is for stuff like vegetables, raw meats, yogurt, tuna, beans, rice, cheese, oats, nuts, dried fruits, milk, etc.

So I think it's pretty pricey, especially considering we're both trying to slim down instead of bulk up.

I could buy almost the same stuff in a "regular" store and be spending about $75 a week for the two of us. Shit, the last time I was in a regular grocery store I got totally lost when I ventured into the center aisles, it scared and confused me

hi

 

[musclemom]

hi

Good Morning

 

[BNG]

Guy's have large items they keep. Motorcycles, Jeep, tools, guns, etc. It's all stuff that you keep.
Women keep buying expensive little trinkets that they give to the Salvation Army, Homeless Shelter etc. Candles, soap, towels you can't use, decorative stuff thats only in style until she sees it somewhere else. Seasonal crap, no need to expound on this. Every weight loss pill that comes on the market, and every vitamin that could be ingested. Much of this "stuff" isn't really what can be accumulated as some has a shelf life.
So guys have "stuff" but it's long term "stuff". Women have "stuff" in a smaller maintained volume, but it's more of a fluid volume and is maintained for a long period of time, so results in greater volume over time.