Where do you consider we to be 'at'?

[confusedmushie]

I need to first start off by saying; I don't need any smart ass comments. Just wanted to see what you guy's definition would be.

I have been 'hanging' around this one girl for about 2 weeks, going on 3 weeks. We both have the mutual feeling that we both like each other and want to see where things can lead.

For the past two weeks and a half, we have seen each other just about everyday, for about 3~5 hours depending (or more). Just a few days ago, we started to make out and the more fun things you can do when two people are together.

We don't always go out nor always do anything that's totally outrageously fun. We do go out, but at the same time, we also just sit around and shoot the shit a lot. With that in mind, I still enjoy being around her and it seems the same with her.

I have actually just gotten out of a long term relationship. I am somewhat rusty on what's going on. From what she tells me, I know that she does like me, but wants to take things slow.

Where do you consider us to be?

Please let me know what you think.

Ian

 

[FISHTALES]

sounds like things are going in the right direction, just keep moving forward. keep it at a good pace

 

[vinylgroover]

It's pretty hard for anyone here to answer as we don't know what you are 'really' feeling.

But i would say that you are more than friends..........i never make out with girls who are just my friends.

She says she wants to take things slow, yet you have seen each other every day for the last 3 weeks? Doesn't sound very slow.

For me, taking things slow is seeing someone twice a week tops.

 

[confusedmushie]

sounds like things are going in the right direction, just keep moving forward. keep it at a good pace

Thank you. There are more things that goes through my mind. I am pretty unsure about what's going on, tell you all the truth. Throughout my dating career, I have never been so confused. She doesn't call me (very very little), she doesn't touch me unless I do it first, she doesn't kiss me, unless I do it first. When we do make out, she tends to be very reserved. It's killing me. One second, I think she's interested (and from what she tells me), but from her other actions, I don't really see it.

What's going on.

Ian

 

[vinylgroover]

Thank you. There are more things that goes through my mind. I am pretty unsure about what's going on, tell you all the truth. Throughout my dating career, I have never been so confused. She doesn't call me (very very little), she doesn't touch me unless I do it first, she doesn't kiss me, unless I do it first. When we do make out, she tends to be very reserved. It's killing me. One second, I think she's interested (and from what she tells me), but from her other actions, I don't really see it.

What's going on.

Ian

Why don't you back off and see what she does. How often do you call her? Try not calling her for at least a couple of days......break up the pattern and see how she reacts.

 

[confusedmushie]

It's pretty hard for anyone here to answer as we don't know what you are 'really' feeling.

But i would say that you are more than friends..........i never make out with girls who are just my friends.

She says she wants to take things slow, yet you have seen each other every day for the last 3 weeks? Doesn't sound very slow.

For me, taking things slow is seeing someone twice a week tops.

Understand where you are coming from. I know how I feel, I have no doubt in my mind how I feel. The problem is that I don't know how she feels.

Now you can see why I am so confused.

Ian

 

[confusedmushie]

Why don't you back off and see what she does. How often do you call her? Try not calling her for at least a couple of days......break up the pattern and see how she reacts.

At this point in time, it seems that I am more into her then she is into me. That's how I feel, but I am not sure if that's true or not. I am a very paranoid person, so, I don't know how true that is. I don't call her a lot. I might call her once a day. It just seems that we always make plans ahead.

As many of you know, I have put up quiet a few threads in regards to this. There are comments that are made that I tend to want to overlook, but when I think about it, it starts to make sense.

I have already made plans to back off. I guess I will just have to wait and see what happens. I guess what I don't want it to put to much time and feelings into something that I so unsure about and then have a bad rebound.

Ian

 

[grlpwrd]

You know, she could be into "The Rules," which is a book out written by 2 women who give women a set of dating rules to find love. Some of my single friends are into it, but I think it's just playing games...plus, one of the women who wrote that book got a divorce a while back.

Anyway, pursue each other if you want, but just remember that she could be using "The Rules' to get you. I voted the 3rd choice because it sounds like you all are just starting off.

Good luck!