Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below My girlfreind and I have a great relationship, never really argue about anything. We have been together for 1 1/2 years and are planning on getting married in the next year. The one problem that does arise is that she doesn't like my mother. Right now, we live in a place that me and my parent sown together, and we are planning on buying our own place next spring. When my parents come to visit my mother likes to come over to the place and clean up and straighten things. She can be pushy at times offering us advice on how to keep things clean and it can get annoying, but I've learned to ignore her over the years and just tell her to stop. My girlfreind can't handle it. It makes her miserable every time they come to visit. I had a talk with my mother and told her she needs to stop doing these things. But it has gotten to where my it seems like my girlfreind doesn't want me to have anything to do with my parents. My parents offered to help us find a place and that made her mad. I'm an only child an my mother likes to do things for me when she sees me, but it makes my girlfreind mad. Our cats have fleas so I ask my dad for some advice, being that they've had many cats over the years, and she gets an attitude. Right now my parent slive in another state, but they told me they may be moving back to where I live, they have a place here, in a few months because my dad was offered a better job. I'm almost afraid to tell my girlfriend because it's going to cause a lot of stress. and when we move into our new place she has almost me feel like my parents won't be welcome. My worst fear is that she is going to put me in a position to where I have to choose them or her. I guess she doesn't have the same amount of respect or closeness with her parents as I do mine. Has anyone ever had a situation like this? It's the only problem we have but it has the potential to be a BIG problem...
When your girlfriend does'nt like your parents
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HappyScrappy
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sounds like you should get new parents
Steroid_Virgin
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TNT
Tell her if she gave head as good as your mom does then there wouldn't be any issues with family.
In law relationships are tricky. Tell your girl that your mom is worth a gazzilion bucks and she should suck up to her if she wants any inheritance. Because if she doesn't the twinkles the 3 legged pug gets it all!
Tell her ' Step off bitch, I'm like ice baby time and me and my moms got word goin on.'
In law relationships are tricky. Tell your girl that your mom is worth a gazzilion bucks and she should suck up to her if she wants any inheritance. Because if she doesn't the twinkles the 3 legged pug gets it all!
Tell her ' Step off bitch, I'm like ice baby time and me and my moms got word goin on.'
marvelous_mark
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You seem to be in a pretty tough situation...
By experience over the years I can tell you that my dad's mother has always been very picky about anything and everything (she has a different attitude compared to most people) and often got on my mom's nerves which caused turmoil at times between my dad and mom (mom always complaining about how fed up she is with my dad's mother).
Right now I don't know what to tell you but maybe you should just keep in mind that this can lead to some problems for you across time. With you gf/wife always being in a bad mood when your mom's over... You like your girl very much but maybe the idea of distancing yourself from your mom isn't a good idea either. If you have kids then what happens? Their grandmother will want to see them but their mother will always be mad and when it happens
Just think a bit.
Is there a way of you possibly playing peacemaker with your girlfriend. Or maybe sitting down wth your mother and letting her know what the situation is with your gf...
By experience over the years I can tell you that my dad's mother has always been very picky about anything and everything (she has a different attitude compared to most people) and often got on my mom's nerves which caused turmoil at times between my dad and mom (mom always complaining about how fed up she is with my dad's mother).
Right now I don't know what to tell you but maybe you should just keep in mind that this can lead to some problems for you across time. With you gf/wife always being in a bad mood when your mom's over... You like your girl very much but maybe the idea of distancing yourself from your mom isn't a good idea either. If you have kids then what happens? Their grandmother will want to see them but their mother will always be mad and when it happens
Just think a bit.
Is there a way of you possibly playing peacemaker with your girlfriend. Or maybe sitting down wth your mother and letting her know what the situation is with your gf...
vixenbabe
Classy Skank
Face it Momma's Boy...No woman is going to take care of the son as good as mommy !
I think you and mom need to have ANOTHER sit down chat. Tell her that you love her and need her.....BUT... she needs to understand that your girlfriend is doing the best she can and that you love and respect your future wife!
Mommy needs to respect and learn to love her as well! Give it time Momma's Boy!
I think you and mom need to have ANOTHER sit down chat. Tell her that you love her and need her.....BUT... she needs to understand that your girlfriend is doing the best she can and that you love and respect your future wife!
Mommy needs to respect and learn to love her as well! Give it time Momma's Boy!
I've told my mother to stop being so pushy, and hopefully she'll make an effort, and everything is fine as long as we go and visit my parents. My girlfriend is extremely stubborn on this issue and for some reason doesn't want to work with me at all. If it comes to it, how can I tell my parents that they aren't allowed in my house. As far as I'm concerned, this is my grilfreind's problem, so she is the one that needs to make an effort to solve it. I can tell my mom numerous times not to offer us advice, but isn't that what parents are supposed to do? It's her problem and she's made it my problem and caused me the most amount of stress. I would never put her in that position and have the utmost respect for her parents and would wlecome them with open arms anytime they want to come visit. I am really resenting her for putting me in this position...
sounds like a lot of stress...i will give you my 2 cents though...
i cannot emphasize the importance of repsect. i personally think that is the most important factor in ANY relationship. if these people love you, they should at least respect your feelings and act accordingly.
family is the most important thing in the world. they have raised you well and loved you (from what you have said) and honestly that tends to be hard to find these days. you are blessed! don't ever forget what they have done for you!
if you have decided that this is the woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with. at that point she becomes family too. so she deserves the same respect as your parents.
sooo....communication becomes important in this whole respect thing...but you need to do it carefully as to not hurt anyone's feelings. explain to your gf how important your family is and what they mean to YOU. and ask her if she can try to be more understanding. also, tell your mom that you love her and to please try to repsect your home as YOUR home. you are an adult now. if you explain to all parties involved what you want and need (in a tactful way) you might have a chance! they need to respect you in the same way you respect them.
whew, good luck to ya sweetie!!!!!
i cannot emphasize the importance of repsect. i personally think that is the most important factor in ANY relationship. if these people love you, they should at least respect your feelings and act accordingly.
family is the most important thing in the world. they have raised you well and loved you (from what you have said) and honestly that tends to be hard to find these days. you are blessed! don't ever forget what they have done for you!
if you have decided that this is the woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with. at that point she becomes family too. so she deserves the same respect as your parents.
sooo....communication becomes important in this whole respect thing...but you need to do it carefully as to not hurt anyone's feelings. explain to your gf how important your family is and what they mean to YOU. and ask her if she can try to be more understanding. also, tell your mom that you love her and to please try to repsect your home as YOUR home. you are an adult now. if you explain to all parties involved what you want and need (in a tactful way) you might have a chance! they need to respect you in the same way you respect them.
whew, good luck to ya sweetie!!!!!
I have had issues with my inlaws over the years Thick but I have never said or done anything that would make my wife think they were not welcome in our home. Your girl has some issues to resolve with your parents and you are absolutley right about it being unreasonable to put you in such a position.
havoc
Shaolin Ninja
Well Slugger, your girl needs to respect your parents, your mom gives some advice here and there, so what? Tell your girl to handle it and shut her inch worm(your dick) trap. Its not like you are around your parents that much, your girl should be able to cope with this, hell, she copes with your anal leakage, nothing could be harder than that, well maybe your dick when American Idol comes on, but thats another story. I have been in your situation, I made a simple choice because it came down to it, chose my family, best move ever, not saying you have to do that, but tell your girl to suck it up(not your anal beads bro, the situation at hand), hopefully she can cope with such a light tension situation. peace, good luck C.
vixenbabe
Classy Skank
G/F Stubborn? She's not stubborn..she's selfish to ask such a thing from you.
You need a family meeting. May get ugly..but then again it may bring out some much needed understanding from all parties involved!
I'd be willing to guess that they all love you ENOUGH to make some peace!
You need a family meeting. May get ugly..but then again it may bring out some much needed understanding from all parties involved!
I'd be willing to guess that they all love you ENOUGH to make some peace!
john937
New member
I used to have the exact same problem,(or at least sounds like it) and the more I experienced it, the more I realized my wife was a controlling bitch and my parents were just being normal people.
I hope that's not your situation, but,
it may not be your mom's fault.
Nobody should tell you your parents aren't welcome in your own home. You're the only one that could rightfully say that, and I don't hear you saying anything like that.
I hope that's not your situation, but,
it may not be your mom's fault.
Nobody should tell you your parents aren't welcome in your own home. You're the only one that could rightfully say that, and I don't hear you saying anything like that.
Good advice all, thanks! I think since I will have a chat with my girlfreind tonight and tell her that I will do everything in my power to insure that my mother doesn't cross any of her private boundaries and make her feel uncomfortable in any way. At the same to token I will explain that she I need her to be more understanding in the fact that they are my parents and I'm not about to disrespect them in any way. I think I will tell her that we all need to make an effort to make the situation better. Hopefully she'll understand. and if she doesn't I tell he rtha tI'm pissed off at her because her father still pays her car insurance.
