What would you do..?

[Evil_Frisky]

K i'm battling this in my head for a few days.. haven't made a decision one way or another.

I NEED to compete... not just want to.. NEED to. Its something that I feel I have to do to close a chapter in my life.. to complete a goal and without following through I'll be terribly disappointed with myself.

I've mentioned more than once about how terribly afraid I am about walking on that stage... how I've froze up before infront of small crowds and this Show Is HUGE! The bigger one in the LA area. Not only that but I know alot of people that will be there.. ALOT.. which also adds to the pressure.

No doubts about it my ass will walk up on some stage somewhere in the next few months and show my hard work off.. but I'm stuck between doing this HUGE show which i'm deathly afraid of to the point that even thinking about it races my pulse or .... to doing a smaller show the weekend afterwards.

On one part I feel like i'm running from a fear of not only being infront of thousands but also knowing alot of people I know will be there. This other show is in another town, and It will mostly be all strangers... which I think I can focus better if I don't know but a few in the crowd.

I've brought this up tons of times and I don't want anyone thinking I'm NOT gonna compete.. because that isn't even an issue right now. My issue is ...

I'm afraid of this huge show and I know its adding to my stress levels... I ponder on this damn thing daily. Do I dab my foot in the water, get a feel for My body, my comfort level... or do I just Jump right in and take a huge plunge.

If I do and I totally screw up and freeze.. how will this effect me... Not to say that this won't happen at the smaller show. I just think its more likely with the bigger one. I want to enjoy this experience, I want to be able to walk off stage with the confidence to do this again next year and even at a higher level.

So I weigh my options. And I'm stuck! I value everyones honest opinion here... so don't sugar coat anything. If you think this is a cop out then tell me. I've talked to Sassy, Shadow, Vel, Jens, Miss, Chef and a few others about my fear of crowds and being singled out... which no matter which way I go it will happen. So should I start small and work my way up? Or should I just jump right in?

 

[nycgirl]

There is an episode of Sex in the City, where Carrie is doing a fashion show and she falls. She got her ass up and kept on walking. That is what you would do too (I doubt our Frisky would lie there and cry).

That's why I want to do a show too. The first one for me will be more of a psychological accomplishment than a physical one.

Girl, just do it!!!

 

[The Shadow]

I think you should just do a smaller show....

 

[Evil_Frisky]

There is an episode of Sex in the City, where Carrie is doing a fashion show and she falls. She got her ass up and kept on walking. That is what you would do too (I doubt our Frisky would lie there and cry).

That's why I want to do a show too. The first one for me will be more of a psychological accomplishment than a physical one.

Girl, just do it!!!

hee hee.. You know I have a dream at least 4 nights a week about this.. about me falling, freezing up.. etc.

And yes I continue on but GAWD it frightens the living bejesus out of me.

Its all psychological.. and I know it is. I've over come it before with my MA training... and I know I can do it again. I've started my meditation already. But I have to have a presence on the stage... I can't looked zoned and focused.. I have to smile and be vibrant. I don't know how to incorporate this with my meditation and focus.

EEkkkk

 

[Sassy69]

K i'm battling this in my head for a few days.. haven't made a decision one way or another.

I NEED to compete... not just want to.. NEED to. Its something that I feel I have to do to close a chapter in my life.. to complete a goal and without following through I'll be terribly disappointed with myself.

I've mentioned more than once about how terribly afraid I am about walking on that stage... how I've froze up before infront of small crowds and this Show Is HUGE! The bigger one in the LA area. Not only that but I know alot of people that will be there.. ALOT.. which also adds to the pressure.

No doubts about it my ass will walk up on some stage somewhere in the next few months and show my hard work off.. but I'm stuck between doing this HUGE show which i'm deathly afraid of to the point that even thinking about it races my pulse or .... to doing a smaller show the weekend afterwards.

On one part I feel like i'm running from a fear of not only being infront of thousands but also knowing alot of people I know will be there. This other show is in another town, and It will mostly be all strangers... which I think I can focus better if I don't know but a few in the crowd.

I've brought this up tons of times and I don't want anyone thinking I'm NOT gonna compete.. because that isn't even an issue right now. My issue is ...

I'm afraid of this huge show and I know its adding to my stress levels... I ponder on this damn thing daily. Do I dab my foot in the water, get a feel for My body, my comfort level... or do I just Jump right in and take a huge plunge.

If I do and I totally screw up and freeze.. how will this effect me... Not to say that this won't happen at the smaller show. I just think its more likely with the bigger one. I want to enjoy this experience, I want to be able to walk off stage with the confidence to do this again next year and even at a higher level.

So I weigh my options. And I'm stuck! I value everyones honest opinion here... so don't sugar coat anything. If you think this is a cop out then tell me. I've talked to Shadow, Vel, Jens, Miss, Chef and a few others about my fear of crowds and being singled out... which no matter which way I go it will happen. So should I start small and work my way up? Or should I just jump right in?

I know where you are coming from and it took 1/2 bottle of red wine at 8 am for me to not freak out on stage and I had to do the whole posing routine & all as well.

It sounds like you need a buddy to help show you the ropes at the show, i.e. how to "do" the show. If this is one of the bigger shows in the area, is it an NPC show? Call the promoter & see if they can connect you with some trainers or girls doing the show. Can they help you as far as talking about what you need to expect at the show, how to present yourself, etc. So you will have the knowledge of what to do and expect and it will just be the getting up on stage & executing that you have to do? Also if you have someone up on stage or near you who you can ask quesitons to while you getting hustled out onto stage or whatever (i.e. closer than in the audience). And also I would look at whichever show you do as your place to get your experience. Even the larger show isn't something that like, makes or breaks your career or anything. YOu have to start somewhere, so dont' worry about being the "best" on stage, but rather the best YOU can be. This is the beauty of a first show. There are MANY other show opportunities in a lifetime, so you can let yoru first show be the one you stumble thru or dont' perform or show perfectly because you have to start somewhere.

And I would personally do BOTH shows because you will miss the opportunity to get some real life feedback that you can apply to the second show, even if it is a smaller one. After all your work it would be a shame to not get that second chance to actually use what you learned and the feedback you got to give it another shot. Like I said, doign shows isn't a one time make or break thing. Its something that takes alittle practice just like everything else.

And besides, will you feel like ONE show is getting your money's worth out of that amazing suit???

 

[Sassy69]

Imagine you are getting some major "foreplay" while you are standing there! Another thing you don't want is a fake smile on stage. You are SUPPOSED to look like you are having fun up there. Make eye contact with the judges. Let them know you are there to show off your work. I know its all still a mental thing, but it is literally all about who is having fun up there. Seriously, while you are meditating, imagine how you are going to look and feel w/ that amazing suit on, the heels, the hair, the makeup, THAT BODY! Tell me you don't smile when you think about how you are going to look up there!

And the other thing is, every method of tryign to get over "stage fright", shyness, whatever, involves going out and just doing it. The thing to prove to yourself is that no, no one dies because you spoke up and took the spotlight for a minute.

For me, getting on stage was only part of it - the other major part was just being comfortable with having a handle on what exactly I was supposed to do, when, where and how at the show. That's where I'm suggesting find someone who can help give you the run down on that. I'm thinking preferably NOT a judge because I think some of them are very jaded and overly critical at the wrong times. I.e. if you talk to one 4 weeks before a show, they might tell you that you need to be much tighter or whatever, but that really isnt' constructive criticism unless they can be very specific as to things you can tweak as opposed to brushing you off as just another wannabe and not a "came out of the womb as Monica Brandt".

 

[Miss24k]

Frisky, I definiately understand. I've been ok until now, now that everything is coming together, I got my hair done and have set up all the appts, for the waxing, hair and makeup day of show, got the confirmation that I'm in the show, got the email that my suit will be ready next week. Now I'm so excited and so damn afraid and nervous all at the same time, it's hitting me, I've spent so much time, effort, and money. And alot of friends and people who are like family will be there, I can't believe I'm doing this. Hell yesterday morning I almost cried just visualizing myself on the damn stage, when I was practicing the walk. And this show is huge, thousands of people will be there. Thank gawd that there's a pre-judging where I told nobody about, the only person coming to that is my sister inlaw, not even my bf I told him no, so I don't have to worry about them being there.

Sorry about rambling on about my situation.

Basicly, I think you should do the show you set out to do, suck it up girl and just do it, do it for yourself, because I know this is something you really want to do.

 

[courtneybcca]

you want to be as comfortable as POSSIBLE!! so if you feel that the smaller show will give you a little more experience and you can get your feet wet... then do that... these comps already do a number on your mind, plus add in the low carbs etc etc... its very nerve racking I am not going to lie... but with each show you will become more comfortable being up on stage and it will get easier I PROMISE!!! so if you want to do the smaller one go for it and don't feel bad about it... there is always another show around the corner....

 

[Evil_Frisky]

I know where you are coming from and it took 1/2 bottle of red wine at 8 am for me to not freak out on stage and I had to do the whole posing routine & all as well.

It sounds like you need a buddy to help show you the ropes at the show, i.e. how to "do" the show. If this is one of the bigger shows in the area, is it an NPC show? Call the promoter & see if they can connect you with some trainers or girls doing the show. Can they help you as far as talking about what you need to expect at the show, how to present yourself, etc. So you will have the knowledge of what to do and expect and it will just be the getting up on stage & executing that you have to do? Also if you have someone up on stage or near you who you can ask quesitons to while you getting hustled out onto stage or whatever (i.e. closer than in the audience). And also I would look at whichever show you do as your place to get your experience. Even the larger show isn't something that like, makes or breaks your career or anything. YOu have to start somewhere, so dont' worry about being the "best" on stage, but rather the best YOU can be. This is the beauty of a first show. There are MANY other show opportunities in a lifetime, so you can let yoru first show be the one you stumble thru or dont' perform or show perfectly because you have to start somewhere.

And I would personally do BOTH shows because you will miss the opportunity to get some real life feedback that you can apply to the second show, even if it is a smaller one. After all your work it would be a shame to not get that second chance to actually use what you learned and the feedback you got to give it another shot. Like I said, doign shows isn't a one time make or break thing. Its something that takes alittle practice just like everything else.

And besides, will you feel like ONE show is getting your money's worth out of that amazing suit???

Gosh... that makes so much sense.

I have a video coming next week of last years show. I haven't made any final decision.. and i don't have to till the day of prejudging because they don't have a deadline. It is a NPC show and nats qualifier.

i'm gonna make a few calls and see if i can find someone in the area.

And NO.. one show isn't enough to get my moneys worth out of that suit. LOL haven't even recieved the price yet but my instincts say its gonna be mondo bucko for that baby. hee hee.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Imagine you are getting some major "foreplay" while you are standing there! Another thing you don't want is a fake smile on stage. You are SUPPOSED to look like you are having fun up there. Make eye contact with the judges. Let them know you are there to show off your work. I know its all still a mental thing, but it is literally all about who is having fun up there. Seriously, while you are meditating, imagine how you are going to look and feel w/ that amazing suit on, the heels, the hair, the makeup, THAT BODY! Tell me you don't smile when you think about how you are going to look up there!

And the other thing is, every method of tryign to get over "stage fright", shyness, whatever, involves going out and just doing it. The thing to prove to yourself is that no, no one dies because you spoke up and took the spotlight for a minute.

For me, getting on stage was only part of it - the other major part was just being comfortable with having a handle on what exactly I was supposed to do, when, where and how at the show. That's where I'm suggesting find someone who can help give you the run down on that. I'm thinking preferably NOT a judge because I think some of them are very jaded and overly critical at the wrong times. I.e. if you talk to one 4 weeks before a show, they might tell you that you need to be much tighter or whatever, but that really isnt' constructive criticism unless they can be very specific as to things you can tweak as opposed to brushing you off as just another wannabe and not a "came out of the womb as Monica Brandt".

LOL.. at the foreplay... NOW that would be interesting. hee hee.. esp being he's gonna be front and center.

I am gonna prep myself at the gym... by posing .. etc infront of the few I often train with. I need to be natural not faked out.. eek

i have a lady here that competed bb and is now gonna try to get in to do some judging for figure. I am thinking she can help me.. walk me through a few things. Its just getting intouch with her.. bah.

oh damn.. Sassy... would ya shack up with me for the few weeks prior to the show and show me the rope.. hee hee.

 

[Sassy69]

You've already done most of the training & dieting work. At this point it is really how important it is for you to validate that results and show it off. Its up to you how you want to do it. There's a lot of prep work & money that goes into a show, above and beyond the mental preparedness for it so the decision has a lot of weight. But I think you will kick yourself if you don't do it and do it all. When you are doing your first show, it is just natural to make it a huge deal in your mind and that just adds to the stress. But I really think that once you get all the toys & stuff that go w/ doing the show, you will be compelled to go out & strut your stuff. And when its all over, no matter how it turns out, you will have the people who love you around you, the photos, the EXPERIENCE! You may decide you are happy w/ the result and never want to go thru it all again. OR you may be hooked. Then every show after that will not carry near the amount of stress. Hell, every public appearance you make will not be that big a deal. The only down side I see to this whole experience is just your fear of going out there. Figure is NOT as big a deal as BB. You get all beautiful and then you go and show people.

And sweetie, you are beautiful and you REALLY NEED to show people!

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Frisky, I definiately understand. I've been ok until now, now that everything is coming together, I got my hair done and have set up all the appts, for the waxing, hair and makeup day of show, got the confirmation that I'm in the show, got the email that my suit will be ready next week. Now I'm so excited and so damn afraid and nervous all at the same time, it's hitting me, I've spent so much time, effort, and money. And alot of friends and people who are like family will be there, I can't believe I'm doing this. Hell yesterday morning I almost cried just visualizing myself on the damn stage, when I was practicing the walk. And this show is huge, thousands of people will be there. Thank gawd that there's a pre-judging where I told nobody about, the only person coming to that is my sister inlaw, not even my bf I told him no, so I don't have to worry about them being there.

Sorry about rambling on about my situation.

Basicly, I think you should do the show you set out to do, suck it up girl and just do it, do it for yourself, because I know this is something you really want to do.

You chicks are a voice of reason.. SERIOUSLY! I am a thinker.. such a damn bad thing at times. Over analize things grrrrrrrrr......

And gosh.. just reading what you are feeling right now gave me chills.. I can so relate. such a good inspiration for me... Thank you!

you want to be as comfortable as POSSIBLE!! so if you feel that the smaller show will give you a little more experience and you can get your feet wet... then do that... these comps already do a number on your mind, plus add in the low carbs etc etc... its very nerve racking I am not going to lie... but with each show you will become more comfortable being up on stage and it will get easier I PROMISE!!! so if you want to do the smaller one go for it and don't feel bad about it... there is always another show around the corner....

Thanks Court.. this is my initial way of thinking... the good thing is I don't have to make a split second decision. I'm gonna have my suits in time for the comp on the July 9th so if I decide to do it I can. I can actually sign up the day before the comp. And then if I want to do both I can.

I sometimes add too much pressure to myself.. by thinking to damn much.

Whoa,... wheres that bottle of red wine when I need it.. lol

 

[Sassy69]

BTW Frisky -- do look around for someone to talk to about this show, or any first show. People *WANT* to help you so don't be afraid to start up a conversation and get the 411.

 

[jenscats5]

Well, I don't have a lot of experience with stuff like this, but I've done a type of "show" (lingerie) once or twice where I had to be out on stage,etc -- took me 2 screwdrivers (the drink) to go out there. Once I was out there I was ok.

I like Sassy's idea of doing both shows. Like you said, you'll get to use your suit more that you're prolly gonna spend $$$ for and the experience will be helpful to you. And you're already dieted, tanned, etc for the 1st show so you've just got to show up.

I've read Elaine Goodlad has severe stage fright. Could you look up on the 'net something about her or email her & see if she has any tips??

 

[Evil_Frisky]

You've already done most of the training & dieting work. At this point it is really how important it is for you to validate that results and show it off. Its up to you how you want to do it. There's a lot of prep work & money that goes into a show, above and beyond the mental preparedness for it so the decision has a lot of weight. But I think you will kick yourself if you don't do it and do it all. When you are doing your first show, it is just natural to make it a huge deal in your mind and that just adds to the stress. But I really think that once you get all the toys & stuff that go w/ doing the show, you will be compelled to go out & strut your stuff. And when its all over, no matter how it turns out, you will have the people who love you around you, the photos, the EXPERIENCE! You may decide you are happy w/ the result and never want to go thru it all again. OR you may be hooked. Then every show after that will not carry near the amount of stress. Hell, every public appearance you make will not be that big a deal. The only down side I see to this whole experience is just your fear of going out there. Figure is NOT as big a deal as BB. You get all beautiful and then you go and show people.

And sweetie, you are beautiful and you REALLY NEED to show people!

Thank you Sassy.. my voice of reason. I know that if I walk away it will haunt me. I know that when I do I like to do big... Thats just me. I want the hardest fight I want to know I kicked ass to get to that peak.

That was my biggest struggle about going to a smaller show first.

I don't care about a trophy.. I'd love one yes.. but will it change the fact that I kicked ass for months before.. dieted trained.. and was in the best shape of my life.. NO... It won't.

Figure is my first choice because I don't have to do the posing etc.. but gosh i'd love to take that leap one day. And hopefully one day soon.

I seriously need to get out of this over thinking mode and just do it..

 

[Miss24k]

I know that if I walk away it will haunt me. I know that when I do I like to do big... Thats just me. I want the hardest fight I want to know I kicked ass to get to that peak.

Well excuse me sexy lady, but I THINK YOU JUST GOT YOUR ANSWER

So now I'm going to use Shadow's famous line..................

SHUT UP AND TRAIN

 

[*Bunny*]

Well excuse me sexy lady, but I THINK YOU JUST GOT YOUR ANSWER

So now I'm going to use Shadow's famous line..................

SHUT UP AND TRAIN

I was going to say

SHUT UP AND COMPETE

with all the Bunny love along with it ....

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Well excuse me sexy lady, but I THINK YOU JUST GOT YOUR ANSWER

So now I'm going to use Shadow's famous line..................

SHUT UP AND TRAIN

GOSH............... I U!

you and sassy.. and bunny don't realize what an inspiration you all are to me.

talk about a boot in the ass... woohoo.. get to skipping.

he hee

I have to rid this fright.. and im sure i'll have dozens of threads from here on out as to my fears and some solutions. I feel so much better when I can relate to those on my same level.

 

[*Bunny*]

I have to rid this fright.. and im sure i'll have dozens of threads from here on out as to my fears and some solutions. I feel so much better when I can relate to those on my same level.

I once read this from a lovely little lady...

"~The only way to make a dream come true is to wake up and live it~"

Use this fear and fright to drive you... we got your back hun...

You will do GREAT, don't back down Frisky

 

[Miss24k]

I once read this from a lovely little lady...

"~The only way to make a dream come true is to wake up and live it~"

Use this fear and fright to drive you... we got your back hun...

You will do GREAT, don't back down Frisky

What she said....

Frisky huney if you need to make another 1000 of these threads before it's your turn to compete, then do so, and in every one of them you will have us in there to support you, and to tell you that you can do this....BECAUSE YOU CAN, and WE BELIEVE IN YOU.

I've told you before and I'll tell you again, and again as many times as you need to hear it...YOU CAN DO THIS, and I'm here for you whenever you need me.

I U too girl

 

[Evil_Frisky]

I once read this from a lovely little lady...

"~The only way to make a dream come true is to wake up and live it~"

Use this fear and fright to drive you... we got your back hun...

You will do GREAT, don't back down Frisky

I give advice ALOT that I don't take....... damn......

hee hee

You move me bunny........ more than anything I can think of. Thank you for Our private convos. .. they have helped me so much.

 

[jenscats5]

I think you'll be fine once you're "in the moment." Then you'll be posting how much fun you had, etc etc.....

I KNOW you can do this....

 

[*Bunny*]

I give advice ALOT that I don't take....... damn......

hee hee

You move me bunny........ more than anything I can think of. Thank you for Our private convos. .. they have helped me so much.

ANYTIME...

and basically I feel the same as M24K... (twins)

I am terrified of being on a pedestal, on a stage, in the public eye... I can totally see you telling me to STFU & compete sooner than ya think...

Anything = let me know

 

[Sassy69]

Think of it this way -- you go to the gym & train don't you? You KNOW people are staring at you when your back is rippling w/ muscle but you still tune it out dont' you? Because your goal is to complete your set, stay in shape & get home to kick back. Same thing on stage. You are there to do a job of sorts, so just go do it! And like I said, your first show is YOURS to experience, not to worry about how well you do it. You HAVE to start somewhere.

My guess, you might turn into a "spotlight junkie" after that. You'll NEED to walk around in that suit & the heels EVERYWHERE you go. When people yell out "Hey Frisky!", you'll immediately throw on that winning smile and hit your front pose, preparing for "quarter turn to the right ladies".

 

[*Bunny*]

I love how she makes sense of everything right when you need it...


I Sassy

05/05

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Think of it this way -- you go to the gym & train don't you? You KNOW people are staring at you when your back is rippling w/ muscle but you still tune it out dont' you? Because your goal is to complete your set, stay in shape & get home to kick back. Same thing on stage. You are there to do a job of sorts, so just go do it! And like I said, your first show is YOURS to experience, not to worry about how well you do it. You HAVE to start somewhere.

My guess, you might turn into a "spotlight junkie" after that. You'll NEED to walk around in that suit & the heels EVERYWHERE you go. When people yell out "Hey Frisky!", you'll immediately throw on that winning smile and hit your front pose, preparing for "quarter turn to the right ladies".

lmao

I so sat here and visioned myself walking around in my heels.. and yes you are right.. when I train i get the looks.. the stares.. but its all about me. I tune it out and keep on going.

i'll package up my heels and my suit( if I have it) if not i'll bring another.. and I'll practice with yoiu guys in atlanta.

hee hee.. then i'll pick aap up off the concrete cause hes sureley NEVER seen a half naked girl.. smiling none the less...

 

[*Bunny*]

lmao

I so sat here and visioned myself walking around in my heels.. and yes you are right.. when I train i get the looks.. the stares.. but its all about me. I tune it out and keep on going.

i'll package up my heels and my suit( if I have it) if not i'll bring another.. and I'll practice with yoiu guys in atlanta.

hee hee.. then i'll pick aap up off the concrete cause hes sureley NEVER seen a half naked girl.. smiling none the less...

WOO HOO!!! ya'll can teach me how to walk and pose..... pleasssssssse ?!

 

[jenscats5]

lmao

I so sat here and visioned myself walking around in my heels.. and yes you are right.. when I train i get the looks.. the stares.. but its all about me. I tune it out and keep on going.

i'll package up my heels and my suit( if I have it) if not i'll bring another.. and I'll practice with yoiu guys in atlanta.

hee hee.. then i'll pick aap up off the concrete cause hes sureley NEVER seen a half naked girl.. smiling none the less...

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[nycgirl]

lmao

i'll package up my heels and my suit( if I have it) if not i'll bring another.. and I'll practice with yoiu guys in atlanta.

hee hee.. then i'll pick aap up off the concrete cause hes sureley NEVER seen a half naked girl.. smiling none the less...

He is going to burst that weekend. I don't think he will be able to handle it.

 

[Firecracker]

Frisky, what exactly frightens you about competing? I read the thread, but I didn't see what exactly you are afraid of?

Love ya Coon Ass, you can do it! BTW, ya'll, that's a Louisiana thang!

 

[Sassy69]

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NOW UR TALKIN!

Maybe we can borrow the stage after pre-judge...!

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Frisky, what exactly frightens you about competing? I read the thread, but I didn't see what exactly you are afraid of?

Love ya Coon Ass, you can do it! BTW, ya'll, that's a Louisiana thang!

The stage... the people and being up there. I don't do well infront of people. eekk......

 

[Firecracker]

The stage... the people and being up there. I don't do well infront of people. eekk......

Can you practice speaking in front of large groups before the show somehow? Like a presentation for work, etc? And going to the location ahead of time to see if maybe you can walk around on stage? They should be able to let you into the building just to walk around- you could even let them know why you want to walk around. Just stand there and get a feel for the entire building, seating, stage size, run around, and just get to know the stage and entire area. I think I remember you telling me where the show is, and they are SUPER nice people over there!

Ya think? But, practice being in front of large groups, talking, etc... being the center of attention.

 

[Sassy69]

Seriously, there's no other way to deal w/ that than just do it. I used to be painfully shy until I got a teaching assistant job in college & had to teach Univ. Physics to non-calculus architecture majors older than me. I'd go to class, do the class then go home & break down for a 20 min cry just from all the stress. Eventually I just got it beat out of me. Peeps accept you as you are. If they don't, fuck em.

Plus honestly, when you are on stage w/ the lights & all , you really can't see much of the audience anyway.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

I'm gonna put myself out there between then and now. I even choke up in One on One situations.. EX. doing a PT course I had to do a mock session with one of the girls.. OMG.. I thought I would hyperventilate.

I have a ton of work to do between then and now. And I know one way or another I HAVE to get up there and just do it.

I'm gonna prolly feel a little better after I go and observe your show Sassy... Be able to get more of a feel for what is expected of me.

Ok.. Like serioulsy my stomach is in KNOTs right now thinking about it.

 

[starfish]

I used to have to do shows in front of thousands of people daily. Just make sure you are prepared as possible to build confidence- I am talking about things like very comfortable shoes, outfit that fits perfectly, great hair, knowing the stage. It will HELP greatly. Then BREATHE, BREATHE. BREATHE, and work it.

 

[MrsJnuts]

Frisky, Why don't you come down up to north LA and do the show w/me on June 11!!! It is not as big as your show and it will get you ready for your show. I did 2 my first year competing and the second show was much more relaxing as I knew alittle more, not much.

Just let me know and I can get you the info about the show It would be fun to have a buddy to do the show with!!

 

[courtneybcca]

heehee this thread has gotten funny... sassy I luv ya!! another thing to do frisky is to practice or meditate your routine in your mind over and over again... visualizing your routine and posing… I know it sounds weird but I have done this since I was a child with my skating routines… Watching yourself mentally doing everything perfect helps the confidence… and will put you at ease… but also like the other ladies have said the lights up there are so bright you really don’t see anyone else… and if you can practice those mediation techniques you can actually block everyone else out…