spentagn said:
nice guy. Hope bikinimom sees this one.
Oh come on guys.... are my feelings THAT obvious? hehehhee
OK Freakmonster check this out. I was married for 11 years, faithfully with the ex for 13 - ALL of my adult life (yea, yea do the math). If ANY of you saw my "before kids" and "after kids" pics you would see that a person's exterior has VERY LITTLE to do with the success of a relationship. Truth is that at the age of 22 before I had a single child I LOOKED LIKE TOTAL CRAP....
Now, I will be the first to admit that MANY women let themselves go looooong before the wedding or even the event of a pregnancy and I feel for the men. I honestly do. I mean, what is up with starving yourself into a wedding dress that will not even fit by the end of the reception? (PS - mine actually, though I have not tried it on because it is boxed and perserved probably will not fit me now because my breasts have been augmented and my lats are waaaaaaaaaaaay bigger now. The waist will fit NO PROBLEM.) This just always blew my mind. Also I have seen many girls say, "I could lose this weight if he broke up with me."
SAY WHAT?!
Conversely, I have only heard ONE FEMALE complain a bit that her boyfriend had put on a lot of weight and that she was not really turned on by him.
So now, YOU TELL ME WHAT IS WRONG?
Are women only as valuable as how tight their thighs and asses are? Please, say it isn't so!
Yes, we are all aging. Some of us put a little more effort into our appearance then others do... it isn't necessarily a matter of pleasing our mates, but just personal preference.
As for me. I will be the first one to admit that I find a tight hard muscular guy extremely appealing, but that does not mean that I would give him the time of day. I demand more.
Ultimately, I can't really see myself ending up with a man who is NOT into bbing in some way, shape, or form. Only because it is such a big part of my lifestyle. I don't think a non-bber (whether competitive or recreational) would understand my diet choices and NEED to go to the gym.... but then again, I could be wrong. Anyways, I do not desire a serious commitment anytime soon so this doesn't even bear mentioning.
THE SECOND a man compliments my face or body I am COMPLETELY TURNED OFF! I have a mirror and it works just fine. I am much too old to define myself by what a man finds to be attractive. Do I care about my personal appearance? OF COURSE I DO! But I am equally comfortable whether made up and scantilly clad in club-wear or hair pulled back, ZERO MAKEUP, ratty sweats and veins bulging out of my forehead as I am straining during a deadlift.... Yes, it is all good. Those that take the time to get to know me see past my exterior and love me regardless.
Funny thing. I was dragged out by my friends the other night after work (they are about 10 years my junior) to a local club. I danced and had a good time. I was probably one of the oldest women there - but I stood out. Why? Because I was an obviously old worn divorcee trying to recapture her youth and pick up? NO - I was out with my friends and having a genuinely good time with them.... Of course, all the young girls (who were mostly twice my size or softer and flabbier than a wet noodle) were hating. Who was I to be having a great time with a handsome young man that should be asking THEM out? And the guys were like - NO WAY is she who you say she is! There is NO WAY that she is a soccermom! YUP! Soccermommy - THAT IS ME!
But I come home to my cat and an empty house when my girls are with my ex... Does it HAVE to be that way. NO - IT IS A CONSCIOUS DECISION. See, I need so much more than a hard body and a stiff dick.... I want someone who has a soul and a mind, someone that will love and support me regardless of how tight and hard my ass is or is not. If he has a hard body is just an added bonus.
Until he finds me, I will be content to live my life MY WAY - with my girls, my family and my dear friends.
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