What to do when...

[NapoleanComplex]

What to do when you feel that flame going out in your relationship. I've been seeing my current gf off and on for around 4 years. I am a senior in college and she is a sophmore...so we're technically high school sweethearts. Anyway, lately I've been feeling like things are becoming more comfortable than passionate. I know I love her, and she loves me. Here's the problem...we've tried taking breaks, and they never work. We both end up miserable and get back together. I know relationships have their ups and downs, but I need some ideas to re-light the spark in this relationship.

 

[Seashell]

Hmm...maybe I'm being negative but if the spark is going out already.. what do you think it'd be like 10 years into marriage? To me, this means neither of you are with the right person...

I know your question was about re-lighting the spark, but speaking only from my personal experiences, any suggestions I gave would just be a temporary fix.

 

[gonelifting]

There is no "magic" fix. You have to see what the exact problem is, Then fix THAT problem.

Do you know what it is? Not just "lost our spark." Divide and conquer.

 

[Ashamed]

does she do anal?

 

[Wounded and Toothless]

Introduce the sexual version of modified lawn darts to the bedroom.

Hang sharpened lawn darts from the ceiling with flimsy pieces of yarn. As the headboard bangs against the wall, said lawn darts will shimmy back and forth. The possibility of her having her abdomen or spine punctured will surely rule out the "boring" label on your relationship.

Bnkuz.

 

[2Shy]

Shake up your routine. When you go out, do something different and fun. Think about where you'd take a girl for the first date.

Passion can remain, but long lasting marriages (yeah, I know, but read relationship if it doesn't scare you as much) *are* comfortable. The trick is not to become complacent, and that takes work.

Start treating each other like you're special again. Sometimes the little things you do for each other when the relationship is new go by the wayside once you know you've "landed" the fish.

IMO, if you are miserable when you go your separate ways then you are happy together.

Do you see other people when you part ways?

 

[Pikaia]

call Dr. Laura

 

[Code]

First, buy a salt lick.

Second, take a vacation to Hawaii.

If you end up not feeling the flame after the vacation, then break it off.

 

[magman1]

i know in my case, when i was apart from my girl, id always be like, well if we ever get back together, i wana do this together, this this and this...then we'd get back together and get none of that accomplished...try thinking if you were apart, what ud do to get her back...and incorporate that into everday stuff...but i agree, if its out now, it is for a reason...thank urself you realize it now

 

[tiger88]

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